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[–]OrzhovPalatine 9 points10 points11 points 5 years ago (22 children) | Copy Link
my anger gradually built up. It did however decrease my approach anxiety.
That anger is part of the desensitization. When you reach this point one of two things happens
you give into the anger and say fuck it and cut losses. Many Incel origin stories start here.
you convert the anger into fuel and it actually helps you have that indifference you need to succeed with women.
When I hit that point I simply took some time to recharge and my vibe actually changed cause I lowkey resented having to cold approach and stopped for a bit.
The odd thing is that resentment outwardly made me more attractive cause I just didnt feel like dealing with women at the time and when I did I had such a dismissive attitude they tried harder to get my attention.
To girls I seemed dark, brooding, mysterious and confident but to me I was just annoyed and resentful she was wasting my time.
Moment I made the connection everything became easier and there was no more anger.
[–]EP1___ 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
100% agree. After every rejection I just wanna do more approaches and try even harder to get better at it. The challenge is what I like. Easy shit = boring shit. And the adrenaline rush is like a drug. Stay optimistic!
[–]OrzhovPalatine 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Gotta stay optimistic, its attrition when you're doing cold approach
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[–]OrzhovPalatine 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
Nah that's part of 1.
I had plenty of classmates who snapped and said fuck it and went full Incel.
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[–]OrzhovPalatine 5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
My analysis is shit cause you're angry and not open to listening. I was the same way.
After you get it out of your system you're either be fine and refocus that anger or just sit on a soapbox and complain about women.
Ultimately all on you mate.
[–]cottagecorehoe 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You put that really well! Def agree w you throughout this thread.
[–]OrzhovPalatine 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
We all go through the rage. Hate to see fellow dudes let it consume them.
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[–]OrzhovPalatine 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Survival of the fittest mate, nature doesnt make mistakes.
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[–]OrzhovPalatine 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's the freshman class. Useful to beginners but ultimately you have to grow past it. Most dont graduate though
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[–]OrzhovPalatine1 point 5 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I cope quite well but thank you
[–]OrzhovPalatine 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I used say that too.
[–]OrzhovPalatine 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If that makes you feel better.
[–]BigH1239 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Bud what exactly are you mad at? The woman that rejected, or yourself? Depending on that answer we can help you. But in the mean time there’s no sense picking fights with guys on here. We’re all here to help each other and to learn.
Sometimes guys gotta vent and get the rage out of their system. All you can do is attempt to be helpful knowing they wont listen but may later when they've calmed down.
Then you just say welcome back and restart.
[–]LostWanderingWizard 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Honestly lol, when I was oblivious or didn't give a damn whatsoever were the times I (retrospectively) realized I may have caught some girls attention.
It's a shame because deep down I'm not particularly aloof.
[–]OrzhovPalatine 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah gotta be purposely bipolar almost.
The party that cares the least wins but if you've been starving for a long time it's hard for most to do.
[–]cottagecorehoe 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
They might mean desensitized as in, you become less afraid of rejection and less worried/anxious about approaching.
Sounds like it did do just that since your anxiety towards approaching has lessened (and that anxiety usually partly comes from a fear of rejection), but it's increased your anger (which is a different issue).
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[–]Disguised-Pua 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Desensitized is meant in the context of not caring what the outcome is, outcome independence. Approach anxiety could be part of that. But if you're angry you need to work on that. Are you angry with yourself or the women you approach? You can't be angry at a woman for not liking you
[–]cottagecorehoe 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I mean, it’s my opinion; doesn’t have to agree w yours and I could be right/wrong. Don’t get mad if I have a different viewpoint here/thought process. You asked for thoughts.
I think the other commenter put it better and I agree w what they said.
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