Basically there was this barmaid who liked me and she managed to find me on Facebook after I failed to get her number after asking for it while she was on shift so I didn't even expect her to get in contact with me the next day. anyway long story short we hanged a couple of times one to one and she dropped me off home after a night out together on friday. she then massaged me this at 4:00 am

"I feel like in the spirit of us being honest I am just going to throw something out there, it's probably unnecessary and might sound presumptive, but is meant in the best possible way. I really like our banter and hanging out, but I just thought I would mention that I am not looking to date anyone in any capacity for a while until I have my shit sorted. So I think what I'm saying is I would like us to keep hanging out as just friends if that works for you"

well since we only hanged out a couple of times which is no way near enough time for me to want to be friends someone and it wasn't my original intention anyway because I found her attractive and liked her personality as well so I diplomatically refused and said "Am sorry but I don't feel like committing to something that is strictly platonic" she got upset saying that I don't value her unless there is a chance for sex so I said "we have only hanged out a few of times and it's too early to talk about friendship or romance but when you feel differently about yourself you can contact me again but am not committing to a friendship since it's too early" and It's been left like that since, so did I do the right thing in saying no to her offer of friendship and allowing her the chance to come back if she changes her mind which am not waiting for. I just feel bad lol