Did i miss the train?

Foreverseeking47 · 2025-01-20T13:48:22+00:00

I really want to chime kn because this is sad to think that way at 17.

Brother, I am no expert at all but what I do know is that, while valid to normal to have in a world where everyone compares themselves to others, your thoughts are absolutely ridiculous and won't get you anywhere.

I don't know the statistics but I think it is the norm for men to be virgins right after high school. MANY MANY MANY men were virgins after high school and went on absolute tears with women in their lives after that. Whether that starts at 17 or 25 or never is up to you.

You have asolutely no reason at 17 to have fomo about sex and women. I am 29 and just starting to get it and make tangible progress even if I had a couple lf experiences in the past, the best is yet to come; that is even more the case for you.

You have so many opportunities ahead and your whole life ahead of you. High school is nothing and most people don't start to experiment with sex and relationships until they get out of it.

I would highly recommend starting a meditation practice, lifting weights and reading books (fiction and non-fiction). Those are the 3 things that will never harm you (as long as you train with good technique) and only help you. If you need to help to get started if you don't do any of those, feel free to ask.

Take the time to know yourself and what you want and give yourself some grace; be patient. You have to get to the point where you value yourself so much that anything that happens outside of you is nothing compared to the peace that you want to protect. But know that, if you put your mind right and move forward, you will absolutely get what you want in the end and those thoughts that you have right now will seem ridiculous and comical to the future you.

One last thing, you have to accept that those thoughts that you have are there but that they are not you, nor are they yours. You think you need to be somewhere you aren't based on what you internalized from the data you gathered in the past coming from what society told you. It is all bullshit and you don't need to be anywhere else but where you are right now. The first step is to accept where you are --> the thoughts, emotions and beliefs you have as well as the situation you find yourself in. Only once you reach that state of acceptance will you stop alienating yourself from your experience and be able to change it as you want.

Also, any advice that don't point you towards your own realization of what you need to do is bad advice.

Always remember, the truth is inside you.

All the best.

DaygameCode · 2025-01-20T14:35:13+00:00

Lol. You are 17 years old, and you think you missed the train? 😂

The vast majority of people live their sexual lives to the fullest between 18 to 30s.

And yes a lot of people go to university as virgins, but those who are virgins aren’t usually gonna say it out loud or admit it. Because they are embarrassed and think they will be shamed.

You are also in high school and you need to be aware that in high school a lot of kids brag about shit they don’t actually have just to look cool and get the (fake) respect of others. Many of those who brag about sleeping with so many girls in high school, and who accuse others of being virgins, looking down on them, are probably virgins themselves too.

You wouldn’t think so because they seem so confident bragging about how much sex they have and shaming others for not having that much sex, but trust me it’s all a facade, it’s a lie, the more they that the more they are probably bullshitting just to look “cool”.

Your worth as a person is not defined by how many girls you sleep with, and even if people pretend to respect those who get many girls to have sex with them, trust me when i say that their respect is fake as fuck, they don’t really care about those people, they aren’t true friends. They just wanna be part of the fake cool group where everybody secretly hates each other.

You are too young probably to understand how fake people in high school are, but one day you will.

Remarkable_Fan6001 · 2025-01-21T10:12:37+00:00

Nah, you good.

refreshingface · 2025-01-20T14:44:48+00:00

You should watch this video, it’s a little over a minute long: https://youtu.be/8pRUcrTxCfM?si=w4Ojk14XVKZCfsVj

That aside, no, you aren’t missing out. The way our mind works is that once you get a girlfriend (and it can be ANY age), you don’t think about the past and your brain only focuses on the current moment.

Intelligent-Roll-763 · 2025-01-22T19:24:23+00:00

Listen mate.

You're still VERY young and you have all your life ahead of you .

You are going to college so you will have all the opportunities to explore your sexuality there . You have your best years ahead of you, believe me .

Another thing is your mindset. You might have your flaws and whatnot ,but you have VALUE as an individual because there is only ONE YOU. There are not two people that have your looks , genetics , experiences, skills and beliefs. And thus , you deserve to be heard and understood. No matter what a random girl thinks. Remember that .

Title	Did i miss the train?
Author	Current_Evidence1519
Upvotes	0
Comments	5
Date	January 20, 2025 1:22 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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