Did she have BPD?

Carnnibal · 2019-10-07T08:08:47+00:00

Tricky to attempt a diagnosis on the basis of such limited info and even more dangerous to be asking for one from unqualified redditors and not psychologists! Either way, it doesnot sound like she is normal for sure. I recently had to deal with something similar so I did a lot of research and reading on my own to make sense of what was going on. So, in my opinion (which please take with a grain of salt as I am not a trained professional) it might be BPD or that she's somewhere in the ASPD or the covert NPD spectrum. Avoid-avoid-avoid for your own sake, she doesn't care for your feelings and never will (because it is physically impossible to her having no empathy). She is only motivated by getting power over people and not by love. I wish you good luck.

TheDizee · 2019-10-07T15:53:32+00:00

sounds like borderline personality disorder to me, i would avoid her. not worth the time, effort and risk of your mental health itself being messed with

axe122 · 2019-10-07T11:17:18+00:00

I don’t know about any mental illness but without knowing it you were probly coming across weak and needy towards her. When you agreed to be her friend was the worst thing you could’ve done.i her what she told you is confusing but never pay attention to what a woman says only what they do cuz 90%of them don’t actually know what they are attracted to.

Honestly I know you don’t feel this way but it’s probly better that you lost her cuz if she dumped you for someone else after 3 months Nd cake back you would have a lot of trouble trusting her even if you’d became boyfriend girlfriend. Titles including Marriage mean nothing to many women and to many men.to a lot titles mean nothing. If your a guy who doesn’t get a ton of hot girls you’ll appreciate it much much more and most likely won’t cheat cuz your content.

Men who get a lot of women easily and women who get a lot of men are always open to or looking for a better deal or something new because they never had to work for the attention of men and or women they don’t value it as much as you or I may. The trick is to get and keep her chasing.she won’t dump you if she’s chasing you. The key is to make them work for your time and attention.

Don’t confuse this with playing games like if she texts you she’s looking for your attention and you can give it to her but once you have the next date set there is no reason to text with her it just makes her bored of you and will chase her away. That’s what happens when a man chases a woman we chase them away. They have to be the one to chase or at the very least nobody chases(I had one relationship like that for a while that worked out fine, I ended it cuz there were certain things I wasn’t feeling but now I’m an equal chooser not hoping to be chosen.) so I’m saying that if nobody chases it can work in my experience, she can chase is ideal cuz your totally in the power seat so it’s much easier to remain confident about your relationship when you know where you stand. Women can chase men and unless weve always got beautiful women super easily we won’t get scared off but at no point can a man chase a woman she will get turned off and lose respect.

Chasing can be super subtle too you might not be blowing up her phone all day long but you really don’t wanna send any texts with her unless she texts first or you legit have something to say. She will enjoy spending time with you more and want to see you if she has fun with you and you’ll only really give her your time when she looks for it or wants to see you in person. She’ll wanna see you in person and will think about you all the time cuz she’s not used to guys acting like this around her.

Title	Did she have BPD?
Author	Throwaway156266
Upvotes	1
Comments	3
Date	October 7, 2019 7:43 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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