Dinner date chemistry

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-07-16T22:51:17+00:00

Asking basic questions is the worst way you can go about sparking attraction. It's utterly boring and shows your lack of fun.

Remember once and for all. Dates are not a job interview. DATES ARE ABOUT HAVING FUN. That means teasing her, making fun of her, accusing her of being a total nerd for knowing some niche fact, playfully poking at her shoulder, laughing and overall being carefree, filterless, touchy and flirty.

Read a book like Make women chase you by Justin Rigley. It will tell you how to have fun flirty conversations.

norwegiandoggo · 2026-07-16T19:54:48+00:00

Why do you think the issue is "chemistry on the first date?" It could be so many other things.

First try to identify the issue properly, before you go down the wrong rabbithole. Let's go through what you do on these dates, and after. Tell us how these dates go? What do you do? What do you talk about?

One thing that is totally normal is that after the first date, the woman will sit and wait for you to ask her out on another date. If you don't do that, then expect her interest to decrease. This is just one example of what could be going wrong. There could be 1000s of other things, but without more context it's impossible to tell.

I will still answer the post title though:

How to develop chemistry on a date:

Chemistry is when you like each other. It's not more complicated than that.

For her to like you: Become an attractive guy in as many ways as possible, and have some luck in that she finds you attractive. Because women have different tastes.
For you to like her: Go out with women that you like the personality of, as well as her looks. And hope that you have good match in terms of values, goals, and way of communicating in person. If you meet online, video chatting before going out is a good way to screen out bad matches early.

unReasonable_Waiter · 2026-07-17T07:03:02+00:00

First of all dont do dinner dates.

Coffee/dessert dates are better.

Better still do something where you can move your body. Park walk. Museum walk.

Focus on having fun.

Dont try to impress. Be self-amused.

Just dump the whole frame of trying to prove something, or trying to tick her on-paper boxes.

Have fun. Guide the conversation towars sex. If you feel desire be open about it.

Particular-World-817 · 2026-07-16T20:10:40+00:00

let her feel those butterflies—just don’t stare at her boobs more than her eyes, trust me 😉 (s឴឵឴឵឴឵n឴឵឴឵឴឵α឴឵឴឵឴឵p឴឵឴឵឴឵: rubyoicruz).

Title	Dinner date chemistry
Author	Yogurt-5234
Upvotes	3
Comments	7
Date	July 16, 2026 7:46 PM UTC (3 weeks ago)
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