Hey guys, I'm having a really bad time...I'm not enjoying this much anymore as I used to and I feel completely drained, emotionally, physically, and mentally after being in the field for sometime. I'm not sure what I should do, I cannot quit doing this....as I will be without a woman forever...but I just wanted to talk to fellow people who are into pickup.

I love people, I'm charming, I love talking to people, I am extremely socially extroverted. I enjoy the occasional chat but now I feel like I'm just wasting my time with people like are just succubuses.

Here's my problem: I'm looking for an LTR or girlfriend, I'm very selective and I've been looking. I am not looking to sleep with a woman outside a relationship, I am not interested. I'm only attracted to a small percentage of woman but I approach a lot anyway, it keeps an abundance mentality but all it keeps confirming for me is how little percentage of women I am attracted to...it's very rare... Problem is every time I meet a woman that's my type, she invests, so I allow myself to invest, then she bails and it doesn't work out and I feel burnt. I have the abundance mentality of there are a lot of women I can sleep which is nice with but there aren't a lot I like to be a gf. Most of the women I approach are not "casual" hookup type girls by their very nature, so it all works out.

I've been practicing pickup for a while and I've become quiet good at doing the whole approach, locking in a date, setting up a date, getting the number from start to finish, going on dates. all that.

but it's become extremely mentally and emotionally draining recently.

Here's my approach.

I feel like you have to be genuine to get genuineness back, and this reciprocal exchange is the source of intimacy. Every person carries a different character, and when you show your character unobscured and unrefracted, then other people will see the human part of you and will be more inclined to reveal their own nature as well. I put myself, my genuine character. I feel like I'm doing this, showing my character, giving value, and I'm feeling like I'm being just drained by all these people who are just sucking me up for their own ego boosts, enjoying my company and chat, and leaving.

I am not attracted to a lot of women but I approach them anyway. On the rare chance that I DO find a woman I am attracted to I approach her immediately. Often they're very interested, texting me back, sometimes going on dates but it always leads no where. The women often get me invested then just dip, no answer, no reason, just nothing. I've analyzed my game, asked a fellow friend in pickup, even had him watch me while I approach and mentioned everything I've said..and there's no reason I can see. It's getting down on me after this last girl. Please don't tell me women can subconsciously/magically sense some X or Y thing or trait and give me this as the rationalization.

I go through the trouble of approaching, talking to them and them agreeing to a date, setting shit up and they flake or they go on dates but it goes no where. It's wasting my time, draining me and I just wish women would say whether they're interested in not in the first 5 minutes. I honestly would be extremely happy as it would save me the time and effort of doing this in a round about way.

I have girls give IOIs up the ass, ask ME on a date while we're talking, then flake and start ignoring me. This has been happening a lot recently and I'm getting burned. I feel like what's happening is my approach gives a girl a shot of heroin, putting her on cloud nine that a confident man thinks highly of her, but like all drugs, it wears off. A couple of hours, or days later, she realizes that as cool as you seemed to be in the interaction that stroked her ego, she's not going to schedule one night in the week to hang out with you for various reasons(she doesn't feel like it, she's too lazy, she hasn't had a relationship in a while, she's not "ready"). She realizes she would have to be close to desperate to say yes.

Here are the facts, most approaches will be not lead to fruitful results, making it a complete industrial like numbers game, except it's a game where you have to provide the value initially to get anything in return. This is because most women are in a serious relationship, have fuck buddies, are in a bad mood from PMS, are homosexual, or are experiencing a herpes flare-up that makes them suicidal. Only 40% of girls at any point are even open to talking to a guy, and a percentage of those would rather eat molten hot lead than go out with you on a date. If you were the last man on earth, they still wouldn’t fuck you, and there’s no game in the world that could change such a firm decision.

A week ago I met a girl I approached that I REALLY liked, she was very enthusiastic, I got her number. I didn't over text. I met her the next day and chatted for about 40 minutes, I kino'd was comfortable, and the convo was great and flowed well, I qualified her and did everything right. she also asked me to hang out, I told her when we're meeting, what we're doing, etc and she agreed. The date comes and she flakes(her reason sounded honest), she agrees to reschedule then we talk, 2 days pass and she just suddenly ignores me, it's been like a week now.

I wish I at least had a reason, or knew what the fuck was going on.

I'm starting to doubt myself, my skills, I keep asking myself, "Is there something wrong with me?" It's starting to get to me. Maybe these people are humoring me, maybe I'm just ugly as fuck to all these people. I am of normal build, I go to the gym, I dress very well, and I groom myself really well and I'm tall. Maybe a lot of these women are going, "Wow this guy is confident and charming, but I'm just not that attracted to his face"

I just feel like I have to expend so much energy on this even though I NEVER go out of my way during the day.

For example,

  • there's a tough emotional to being in a cold selling like sales push. Some guys will deny that this exists, but once you step off the internet and into real life you have to deal with this

  • The time taken to arrange dates, chat with women, get numbers, text them to meet up, having to deal with flaking and other bs.

-The emotional energy and time expended.

-There are loads of variables. While some of it is dependent on your vibe, body language etc. That's completely not the case. In the end it's all down to the woman. It's all because of her mood, and him catching her at the right time when she was up for talking/going on a date etc.

-A lot of daygame is based upon luck. Right time, right place, right guy, right girl. Finding that right combination can be like finding a needle in a haystack, especially when you have only a small pool of women to pick from like me.(I attend a very small college)

Getting a lay is so much easier than this, all the cards are on the table and everyone knows what's going on and what's happening.

if you think of yourself as a business, as I sometimes do, the return on investment in game simply too low. Sure, you can close easily some business here and there, but most of the time, you're throwing abundant quantities of your most precious commodities (time, money, emotional energy, and motivation) into a volatile market filled with competition, tire-kicking customers, and unfair business practices.

But it doesn't matter...I feel like there's no other option.