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[–]norwegiandoggo 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes it matters a little bit, but what's the point of focusing on it when you can't change your ethnicity. Blaming your ethnicity for lack of success is not valid, since it plays a rather small role in attraction overal. It's possible for people with any ehtinicity to master this stuff
[–]STD_Tyler 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Of course it matters. Racial preference is something proven by science. There are those girls who are into your race and those who aren't.
https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/faculty-research/working-papers/racial-preferences-mate-selection-evidence-speed-dating-experiment
https://www.jstor.org/stable/4626190?seq=1
[–]Rus3ll[S] 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Its funny how some people here say
Oh just be yourself
Be confident
Just approach
Usally they are white dudes who have no idea what its like
Smh
[–]STD_Tyler 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Be confident and just approach still holds true, but for some people they have to approach "more" than those who have it easy...
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What advice should they take? What advice would you give to a POC who is asking these kinds of questions?
[–]Moderatorrecyclablebanthas[M,🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The funny thing is, the grass is always greener and people who lack social skills to pick up on girls, no matter their color, often say other people with different skin color have it "easier."
White people often complain that girls they're after go for black dudes because they're hung and have mad game.
Before I went to this sub, I had no idea that there were socially awkward POCs who thought white people have it easier.
Everyone has their hurdles. You can choose to accept this or deny it and make things harder for yourself by framing this as if the problem is something you can't change.
[–]earsurgery9 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
The official line is 'no' (in the same way we pretend looks don't matter etc)
BUt in truth, of course it plays a role. Some girls aren't gonna be into white boys. Or black guys. Or ugly guys. Whatever. And no amount of negs or cold reads or self amusement etc (game) is gonna make her change her mind lol.
Numbers game, bro.
Get out there and open and there will very likely be some hot girls who are into you, for whom your ethnicity isn't an issue
[–]Rus3ll[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Its a numbers game bro
Wrong
One nigga could go on a few dates and get sex from all od them
Other nigga could go on 20 dates and not even get a kiss
Not a numbers game bro
[–]earsurgery9 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
if he's getting dates, then attraction isn't the problem lol
[–]Rus3ll[S] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro it was an example
[–]kalz44 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah. Dating outside your race is tougher. Not impossible but tougher. I think you knew that.
[–]quinnmcd[M] [score hidden] 5 years ago stickied comment (0 children) | Copy Link
This post/comment has been removed because it violates Rule #5: The topic is too broad, has been covered a lot already, or involves the assumption overly limited by race, age, physical limitations/appearance, and/or other inborn external qualities.
Put in some reading & work before asking questions that have been addressed, like: * How do I approach? * How do I get a number? * How do I talk to girls at college? * How/When do I kiss a girl? * Does this really work?
As for the last one, it is an answered question. There have been many posts on physical limitations over the years, including this one. No need to re-ask it.
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