Hope everyone have been enjoying my post. here to point out another common mistake i see guys make on the forums. many guys are asking "How do I tell her i like you?" or "How do i tell her i want to be more than friends?". now please listen to me clearly

you should NEVER EXPLICITLY state these things only IMPLICITLY. also when guys understand this concept they may get a little better at flirting. when you explicitly state something then you are directly telling the girl how you feel. honesty is always key but its about execution. explicitly stating things can make the girl feel pressured and anxious. this can lead to her believing that she is in the middle of an ultimatum. this also gives all the "power" to her and you are not longer a "participant in the dance". your feelings of affection towards her must be "implicit" meaning that you don't directly state it, but your actions and words imply it. this has the benefit of not making her nervous by being too aggressive. this also gives her the opportunity to "think and ponder" what your intentions are and what you meant by your words and actions. all of this pondering is a good thing because your running laps in her mind and it will help her build "affection" towards you. now obviously there are guys that can take advantage of this manipulate this principle but be nice with the way you use this. i am going to post an example of what i mean by implicit vs explicit

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one guys asked "do I need to make sure to tell her that our second meet up is a date and my response is this

" girls are not idiots. she can already tell if its a date or not a date. you explicitly stating that its a date will make you look "needy" and seem as if you are trying to "force" a certain frame. if it bothers you that much you can tell her its a date but do not to it explicitly do it implicitly by making a joke and saying. " your lucky i usually dont go on second dates so quickly after the first one". "

here is a response to a guy that wanted to make a confession.

" the confession will ruin everything and only works in hollywood movies. this is because you shoudnt "explicitly" tell her that you have feelings for her. you should "implicitly " tell her and let her fill in the gaps. next time you guys go out in a social setting say/do implicit things such as a scenario where your ordering at a restaurant and you say to the waiter. "me and my girlfriend have never been to this restaurant, what do you recommend". (obviously do this in a funny and non-creepy way). or next time you guys have the same opinion of something you can say ." as much as i hate to admit it, we might actually be soulmates" . again this all sounds cheesy but its about the execution and how you "perform it". explicitly coming out and professing your love for her will only put pressure and anxiety on her and it most likely will ruin your relationship with her all around "

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good luck guys. keep up the good work and i hope this was helpful