Fat Dude!

helderss · 2016-07-04T12:40:45+00:00

Improving yourself for you should always be your number one priority, not because it will make it easier to talk to girls, but because it will make you feel better about yourself, and that truly will make it easier to talk to other people.

I have worked out and got fit because of girls before, and when my previous needy mind set got rejected by a girl whom i got super attached to dumped me, i let myself go, because my self worth was tied to how other people saw me, and clearly even tho my appearance was better, in the end it made no difference, because i was the same inside.

Now certain people are not phased by their appearance so their weight doesn't impact them, and they can still pull ( i have a friend of mine who is straight out obese, and has slept with at least 4x More women than i have)

At your weight you'd see results very easily with a bit of commitment, all it would take is for you to get started.

JustThatRegularDude · 2016-07-04T09:18:40+00:00

The question on how to love yourself isn't something that anyone can answer, it has to be you. Find your passions and find your love OF life, what makes you happy, are you happy? What needs changing? The sooner you accept the way you are the more confident you will be within your own skin; Which leads me to my next point, expand your horizons, free dating apps, tinder, crap like that just give it a go, be yourself and don't bullshit about things, don't talk down about yourself, confidence is key. Give it a try.

I apologise if this was a terrible answer, first post on reddit ever.

depredador93 · 2016-07-04T12:20:31+00:00

Well, what things that you really want to do where you think your weight is an impediment? Do those. Once you realise that it is not a problem and it does not condition you to do anything, you just won't care at all. It just comes down to exposing yourself to your fears, force yourself to do those things you're afraid of.

I suppose you want to date girls. Good news, no one cares about your weight, if you don't. So go approach as much as you want, anyone you want. With the thousands and thousands of examples you have out there where overweight dudes date skinny women, there should be no doubts. If they can do it, you can aswell.

Keep eating healthy and working out. Me personally, I hate the gym, it gets boring real quick for me, so I recommend practicing a sport, anything you want.

enjoyit7 · 2016-07-05T13:28:21+00:00

From someone in the same situation, try to understand that you not accepting yourself is in your mind. For what ever reason you do not want to be fat and you're working on it. Be real with your self and set goals, for me the biggest thing is MFP simply because losing weight is CICO. As long as you're eating right the weight will fall off week by week don't over think it. To answer your question, keep going out, work on your fashion and approach. You might get rejected, so what it's a part of the game.

Title	Fat Dude!
Author	SecretBop
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	July 4, 2016 8:08 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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