First date and problems arised

yabai · 2021-06-01T13:45:10+00:00

Sounds like a managing expectations issue. You established a tone while communicating and then in person expected something different while she kept it business as usual.

It’s good that you communicated and got on the same page. You won’t know what she’s really like until getting to know her better. It’s good that she listened to and respected your point of view after you brought it up.

As for it feeling slow now, she might have felt judged and now is second guessing how she says things. The ball is in your court, so just decide on how you want to proceed with her.

FarComplaint2974 · 2021-06-01T10:05:32+00:00

Feels to me like she was maybe nervous and possibly socially awkward.

If it happens again run, but for now I'd give her the benifit of doubt

Nobraindog · 2021-06-01T10:01:42+00:00

I have a female friend just like this. She’s a well respected lawyer and brilliant in many aspects of her life (I had a massive crush on her), but she speaks just like this. Would call me stupid and a wanker etc. I know her well and I know she’s just joking and that’s how she communicates with her closest people, but It’s a massive turn off for me. I don’t speak like this and I don’t want to be with a partner who does. It’s a small thing but i believe that the people you are with represent you and I don’t want to be associated with such behaviour. I mean it’s funny to an extend but before everything else it comes down to the respect you have for the other person. You can’t respect someone who you call a ‘stupid fuck’, can you?

Faginator9000 · 2021-06-01T14:44:14+00:00

Dude wtf. Unironically, this is the exact type of humour that I use every day. I think you are being too sensitive. So in that case, a gentleman like me would say, kill yourself :). I hope you got that AS A JOKE and understood, that I meant that totally in a sarcastic way. Nvm. , keep on hustlin', go to another date and if you can't keep up with her, leave her, as there is lots of fish in the sea.

Sea-Temperature-5893 · 2021-06-01T09:50:59+00:00

if it were me, she would be facing a long stay at the hospital after the very first "stupid fuck". she's an asshole. call it off and move on.

Anne__Frank · 2021-06-01T17:59:45+00:00

Yeah I'd ghost you too. If you're this fragile, don't make jokes like that with people you hardly know then expect something completely different when you meet in a different setting. At least she was consistent, you changed out of nowhere because you have some strange expectations and ego that varies.

Title	First date and problems arised
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Upvotes	13
Comments	22
Date	June 1, 2021 9:45 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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