First Date

wei53 · 2020-02-07T09:03:54+00:00

Yeah, buddy...

First, I wouldn't go for dinner on a first date. Might be too long and puts too much pressure.

Second, yes, it may have been awkward, but don't say shit like the fool thing. Doesn't help, you're just undermining yourself. Showing vulnerability it's okay sometimes, but not like that, not after a "awkward" first date. If it wasn't that good of a date, just ignore that part, act as normal as possible.

Third, don't ask how did you do. You're just qualifying yourself, trying hard. After the date, continue conversation for a day or so, take a day or two off texting, unless she is the one initiating. Then ask her out again.

Fourth, start reading some stuff on this sub, at least. Plenty of work ahead. Good luck.

nullsci · 2020-02-07T09:12:58+00:00

I'm gonna be honest, asking her how you did kinda made me cringe. Not that it's necessarily a bad thing to do, but it just doesn't feel right -- sorta like you're looking for validation in how you acted. But that's not really important. Regardless, she didn't say "no" to you for a possible 2nd date so that's a good sign. In my opinion, I think you should give it some time and just ask if she wants to go on a 2nd date. Although the chances of her saying yes isn't 100%, it's also not 0%.

There isn't that many signs to talk about since you didn't exactly give many details. If she didn't act like she wanted to leave, engaged with you and just went along then that should be fine, although caution should be taken since not all possible signs are a result of wanting to stay or leave.

nevada05 · 2020-02-07T07:58:51+00:00

She didn’t say no did she? She said you did great. Take the hint. Don’t over do it here. She isn’t showing you her cards yet. Women often don’t. Your next text to her should be during the day and have it be something you saw that reminded you of her. Something that relates to something she told you about her at dinner would be a good move.

quinnmcd · 2020-02-07T12:43:47+00:00

This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different:

A field report explains a lesson learned or demonstrates a Seduction concept.
If the point of this post is asking how to get that specific girl, it belongs in AskSeddit.

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Title	First Date
Author	rob22usmc
Upvotes	6
Comments	4
Date	February 7, 2020 7:46 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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