Hi seddit Im sorry for the length of this but as my first post I really didn't want to leave anything out.

Quick bio - I'm 27, never really dated before, I was kind of scrawny with big ugly glasses and of course the first in my age group to start growing copious amounts of thick dark facial and body hair in school and just before graduating got into a 5 yr long relationship with someone who ended it by cheating on me with my best friend, lots. Our entire relationship was toxic but I didn't know any better at the time. All of this left me feeling kinda worthless for years. I went from that pretty much right into another LTR and didn't get much learning in the short time I had between the two. Im great with girls when I know them but I've had a hard time approaching girls that I'm not already close to or introduced to. I quit drinking for two years after my son was born because I was into some bad shit with bad people and finally hit my breaking point where I decided I needed to be a better man. I've spent that time cutting toxic people out of my life, save for a few that I can't seem to let go of, and generally trying to become a better person. I've been lurking seddit for almost a year now and slowly putting lessons into play.

My goals are not just to get laid, but more to being able to approach and meet new people and being a person that's worth getting to know. As I've matured I know that I'm good looking now (still have a hard time saying that),  and when I'm on beat I have some serious swagger. People love me, I'm intelligent and really awesome to be around once I'm comfortable with you. I've been hit on constantly throughout the years and either don't notice or choose to ignore it I guess. My biggest concern is that I live in a smaller town and I fear that fucking up approaches will get blabbed about all over town, but lets see if seddit can help finish making me the man I know I could be.

Went out sat night with a couple buds. Started off with a few beer and some food. Went to the strippers for a bit to play pool and warm up a bit before heading to the bar. One friend bailed but another joined us. So I'm now at the bar 'with' two friends awesome time, ran into alot of old friends, chattin and playin with some girls but I either knew most of these girls or wouldn't have taken them home anyways so it was just good fun. Outside smoking, both my friends there and a few more that I knew, just blew off a random after some light flirting when this girl (an 8 or a 9 wearing this super sexy black dress that stuck to her body in all the right places) walks out the door, sees me, blows off two good looking guys trying to catch her attention and walks right up to me never breaking eye contact says hi tells me its her bday and asks for a smoke. I oblige wish her a happy bday and go for a hug and she proceeds to call me out by name. I'm shocked a bit and she can see it so she clarifies by telling me where she  knows me from, (I used to own a delivery company that had the work from a restaurant she worked at about two years ago). Says im hot and she always got excited when I came in to pick up orders. Says that the other girls used to come get her so she could talk to me and that they all kinda had crushes on me and repeats that I'm really hot like 3 more times.  (This is where it clicks and I recognize her now and I'm also flabbergasted at how hard she came at me and side tracted by my buddies shitting their pants behind her watching this whole thing go down). I laugh and take her hand and tell her I recognize her but I don't remember her name, she gives it (call her alice for this post) . I smile and while lightly kino with her hand tell her its great to see her again and that I thought she was pretty hot too. She likes the touch doesn't pull away but didn't hear me so I repeat that I thought she was hot too.  She lets go of my hand asks for a lighter, and and says sorry I'm just being honest. I couldnt think of anything to say so i just occupied myself with finding the lighter. As I'm giving her the lighter she jokes and asks if i'd smoke it for her too I respond with a no but i'd gladly smoke with her. I start to back into the street trying to pull her away from the group a bit and she rubs her arms saying she is cold and asks if she could wear my hoody. I take it off and she reaches for it but I pull it away and gesture for her to slip into it while I hold it for her. As she does I kino both hands from her shoulders down her arms to make sure the front was straight (stayed respectfully away from breasts this early in public with lots of eyes on us) and with my left hand I pull her back into me by her hip. She leans into me for a second before turning to face me again and this is where everything starts to pile up on me.

Before I can re engage convo one of the two guys she originally cold shouldered to talk to me gets her to halfway turn around to respond to a question he asked and my buddy walks up and literally pulls me a few feet away from her. Two things happened here, she completely turns away from me and engages this random who I think she did know from somewhere, and my buddy proceeds to loudly proclaim that "if I play my cards right I'm taking her home tonight and that's why him and the other buddy moved away " (now I've watched him screw up approaches for other friends and know that he doesn't help at all so I start trying to brush him off and quiet him down) he gets louder and tells me I'm fucking it up, I tell him to fuck off and I'm trying to get back but he keeps yelling shit that I know she can over hear. Tells me to just walk over and cut between her and this other guy. (I might be wrong for not doing it but I didn't want to be an asshole and i didn't want to end up in a fight either) . I needed my smokes so I reached into the hoody she was still wearing and intentionally put pressure against her body. She didn't resist or pull away. I did it again looking for my phone in the other pocket and this time the guy she was talking to tries to get confrontational with me and says I shouldn't be reaching into her pockets. I said my hoody, my pockets and she really doesn't seem to mind. This pissed him off but I ignored and started up a convo with a girl standing nearby that I knew. (With my buddy still yackin about how I'm fuckin it all up) finished my smoke and decided I really needed a drink and to just change the situation. As I walk by her I touch her arm and hand gesture for drinks as i back away from her and motion for her to follow me. She looked right at me and started to follow and then stopped when the other guy stepped in to block her under the pretense of butting his smoke out. The doorway started to fill up as everyone was suddenly wanting to go inside, he was actively trying to keep her away from me and she took the hoody off and handed it to me awkwardly through the crowd. I could tell she was debating whether to stay or come with me and I suddenly felt really awkward so I latched onto my buddies as they were goin in and walked away from her, drug them to the bar for drinks planning to reopen later.

Ill chop most details out of the rest of the night but suffice it to say that the opportunity never presented itself again, couldn't find her when I wanted to chickened out when I could have. Bar was less than an hour from closing I got drunker, ran into her once when I cut through a line at the main bar, but I just pinched her ass as I walked past (total douchebag move I know however she did smile when I looked back before walking outside for another smoke) and then next thing I know the bar was closing and she was gone. I know she didn't go home with the other guy because he was still around giving my the stink eye and puffing himself up like he was gonna start a fight and the girl she was there with was gone as well so I'm assuming they left together. It didn't totally ruin my night I still had fun with people I knew there and to be honest that's all I really wanted from her. Sex would have been nice but I'm more regretful of the missed opportunity to play that interaction out.

Lessons I learned : 1) I'm more attractive and fun than I give myself credit for and that conversation really drove that home for me. 2) My good buddy is toxic to my game and I need to learn how to work around that. 3) I really need to stop being in my head and just live in the moment.

Seddit, I give you fresh meat and ask for your pointers and critique. I apologize for any formatting issues but this is posted from my phone and I beg leniency from the hivemind. I've found her on FB and I know she works at a new restaurant. I'm hesitant to FB her because I keep my account pretty private and with less than 60 friends of whom are all my closest friends family id hate to have to explain not adding her. But I'm hesitant aboit trying to run into her at her work too because, well, its her work. I know she's single now and she has a child that appears to be about 2. What do seddit?

Also as a final note, I'm in an open relationship. If its this hard just trying to re open her how the hell is it gonna go when I slip in the fact that I have a gf.