[ First Solo Game Night Report ]

Needhelpsos · 2018-12-09T13:57:14+00:00

The only true fundamental failure in pickup is to not approach. There was a very encouraging post recently about this, which described how once you have approached, you have already moved beyond failure. Perhaps you can find it in the subreddit.

That being said, don’t beat yourself up. The worst thing to ever do when you’re trying to improve in anything is to feel guilt or shame. You need to acknowledge that you failed because you didn’t approach, but the next step is to feel determined (by your failure) to improve. There is no benefit in feeling shame, and besides, there’s no reason to feel shame either because we all get nervous.

Also, remember that most men need to warm up when they go out to game, so don’t be disheartened when your first few pulls don’t work, they’re just important to get your blood flowing so to speak.

You need to be willing to:

Approach

AND

Persevere after rejection

Best of luck my friend!

machiavelli949 · 2018-12-09T22:24:31+00:00

Hey mate,

I decided to comment because l am in your situation and we have a lot of similarties. I've also only slept with 3 girls and i am 24. I dont look bad, but l am not a supermodel. I dress well and always look groomed. I fix my beard everyday and get a haircut every week. I dress according to fashion and the way l like.

I've tried to solo 2-3 nights. First time l went out was at a bar. It was bad. I felt how unusual it was to be by myself, but l kept going through the night. I ordered drinks and stood by a corner with my phone, like you. I then decided to always move, and in a slow pace and tried to get eye contact with everyone and smiled. Eventually I tried to talk to one guy who also happened to be by himself. We chatted a bit then l excused myself. Now I felt better. But still i had the approach anxiety. I could not bare myself to even try to women. So I talked to another guy (maybe I am gay? haha). I asked him if he is by himself and he was. It made me feel better because now I knew it wasnt weird for me to be outside. He told me how he picks up women, and much of his game was based on keeping eye contact with women then approach them. He approached once but l was at a distance so l didnt hear anything. But he didnt get rejected or dissed the l always imgine it happening.

The next week l went to the same bar, did my same spiel (having a drink in my hand and walking around and not speaking to anbody), but this time l decided to go to a club afterwards. I did the exact same thing. When l went hope l felt sad, really sad. I was very close to crying. I didnt because people could see me, but l felt like a failure at that moment.

I've read all books on pick up, l've watched everything on youtube. I know game inside and out. In fact, l could teach it. I know all the fundamentals and everything. But l cant approach. I cant seem to get past this problem. I've tried so hard, but it's a really big barrier. The only thing that could help me is if l see someone in my situation do the approach. Then l might be able to do it. In my mind girls are tired of being hit on and so for me l always think that women will get sick of me when l approach them, because they will know my intentions. Even if l try with an indirect opener, it feels like they know what i am after. Its hard man. I will keep going out, but l have been doing it for 2 nights (never daygame) and l cant get past approach anxiety.

Title	[ First Solo Game Night Report ]
Author	chocolategary
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	December 9, 2018 11:34 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/a4kcxa/first_solo_game_night_report/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/first-solo-game-night-report.1458315 https://theredarchive.com/post/1458315

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