For fucks sake I'm cursed

Bricemck · 2017-11-07T20:33:38+00:00

First things first.

You have a very low opinion of yourself and that's just silly. You haven't kissed a girl? So what? I had kissed two girls at 16 and I was such a bad kisser that they dumped me on the spot. It's not about a number, it's about the quality of the interactions and what you learn along the way.

You are treating the kiss (or getting laid) as the goal. Your goal needs to be self improvement. A kiss can be a marker of improvement, but it's not your goal.

So you say you are a decent athlete & student. Is your "Goal" in Basketball to score a basket? No that's only one aspect of the game, your goal is to win, and if you help get that win by being a tall MOFO who blocks shots, then that's your path to success. Same with academics. The "A+" is just a sub goal. Your ultimate goal is to have a base education that will help you excel later in life. You can get easy As by taking blow off classes, but that's not going to help you.

So you need to figure out your True Goal with this question. Don't waste our time with rambling nonsense.

Are you trying to attract any girl?
Are you trying to bed 5 girls before college?
Are you trying to attract a specific girl?
Are you trying to experience what a relationship is and what it will mean for your future?

When I was your age, the last item on the list was my true goal, but I worked towards goal #1. I got very good at getting dates, being the life of the party, keeping girl's interest. But it got me a lot of quick, disposable relationships leading ultimately to a failed marriage.

This is because I was using "being in a relationship" as my goal, as opposed to "Creating a lasting relationship".

Decide what you want, no wrong answers, I can only tell you where I went wrong.

savvyxxl · 2017-11-07T20:35:19+00:00

Sometimes you just have to go for it. I hungout with a lady a couple weeks ago that was giving suuuuuper fucking confusing signals that easily i could have read wrong but i went in for a small kiss and gauged her reaction. Nothing bad is going to happen to you theres literally nothing to fear. If youre have a good time with a girl and you get even the slightest romantic moment go for a kiss, a small one and go at a medium speed you dont want to come in too quick but dont want to slow creep in on her like they do on tv. Basically the speed at which you would kiss your mom on the cheek except kiss this girl on the lips and see how she reacts and go from there.

braintrejo · 2017-11-07T21:01:50+00:00

You're tall, you have a great body, you have facial hair, you have a big social circle, you're smart, you take care of your hygiene. All good things to have.

Now comes the important question: do you have game? Because without it, you will meet not so much girls in your life. Doesn't matter how awesome you claim to be, you need to take action. Approach a girl and talk to her. Show her you like her. Touch her. Tease her. Escalate. You're the man, so you hunt.

test_tickles · 2017-11-07T21:05:03+00:00

When I was 17 I was still building tree forts.

WannaChangeMyLife4ev · 2017-11-07T21:31:37+00:00

First, you're basing results on superficial standards man, so it's kinda of difficult to find what kind of thing you're not doing, you gotta search your solution beyond that, maybe it's subtle or even very easy to correct.

To kiss the girl, you can smoothly bring her face near yours and be aware if she is okay with it, if she is not okay, stop it. I know this can be difficult, but as soon you start, most of time will flow... Like approach anxiety. And as you did it, you'll feel like you never had some kind of that anxiety or stifleness.

Let me know your thoughts, comment below and if it was hepful for you upvote. Good luck

Zoidberg22 · 2017-11-08T02:47:28+00:00

Come back in 10 years if it's still the same

Title	For fucks sake I'm cursed
Author	Asteiak27
Upvotes	0
Comments	22
Date	November 7, 2017 8:11 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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