Met this japanese woman on Tuesday night at a coffee shop near my house in Seoul Korea. About 20 minutes into the interaction i knew it was on -- I asked her a Korean question(we're both studying korean) and she was very compliant with my kino escalation while we talked, letting me keep my hand on her back, even letting me hold her close in the cafe. I setup a solid d2 with her to rock climb, setting up the time, the meeting point and seeding the idea.

Thursday night was the D2. It didn't start off great -- It had been 48 hours and when I first met her at our meeting location she had closed body language which made me feel weird about taking her hand like i was planning on. We walked to the climbing gym separate from each other, her following me while i kinoed her occasionally. Rock climbing turned out to be awesome. I have social proof at my climbing gym because the owner really likes me, and i know a lot of the people there so people were saying hello to me, smiling and talking with me etc. While climbing I get a lot of excuses to kino her, and she kinos me too, grabbing my arms(i work out a bit) to grab my attention. She was naturally good at it since she did gymnastics in Japan, and she really enjoyed rock climbing.

Interesting thing: On the way back from the gym she asks me if i do "pickup". I don't really answer the question but I tease her back and say "i think you are trying to pick me up"

We left and got chocolate milk(Chocolate milk is the best post-workout recovery drink because of its' ideal sugar to protein ratio) and I took her to a bar in our neighborhood(sinchon). I had seeded drinking with her the D1 so this was the most natural bounce. We went in, I sat next to her and although there were language issues, we built a little comfort talking about things we liked. I mention motorcycles and she seems to really like that I'm have these "dangerous" hobbies so I talk about it a bit but its tough to elaborate in korean. One awkward moment comes up where she asked me what books i liked. i asked her what she liked and she answered - Dale carnegie and 7 habits, which are career books. I teased her about it(i prefer girls who read real books etc.). She doesn't like novels or movies, which not only makes it harder for me to bounce her to seduction, but is actually kind of a turn off. She does like sports/exercise though, which is cool.

Anyways the convo is ok but difficult since korean is neither of our first languages. I decide to just go for it. I'm already holding her, and now i start stroking her neck, and when our faces are close i peck her on the cheek(this is the first kiss). no resistance. a minute later i go for the real kiss -- i can tell she likes me taking charge and doing it but puts up light resistance and doesn't kiss back.

I say "you are a really bad kisser" she says "because you're not my boyfriend" I'm not quite sure what this means and i really want to kiss her so i tried to say "How does one become your boyfriend?". She didnt understand this so i said in simpler korean "What are you looking for in a boyfriend?". She says "Someone smart!" i say "I'm smart!" Silence. I realize i fucked up so i try to recover with"Sort of smart." laughter! I caveman it again and she is more compliant but still doing some shitty kissing. For some reason i put my hand on her chest -- she immediately shuts down and says "I'm going home" and takes the bill.

On the way home she is trying to look like she knows where shes going but she really doesn't so i lead her a bit. Since she shut down, I'm freezing her out physically by not touching her and maintaining a distance.

We're standing at a traffic light, and i decide to go in. I hold her close and kiss her, she lets me do everything and she kisses better, but still half assedly. As we get closer to her house I occasional pull her in and kiss her, than push her way. She gradually starts to really kiss me back. She asks me how many girlfriends i have, i say 100, and she says one in america, one in korea, etc. We're making out on the street(it's dark now so it's ok).

I've been trying to seed a "DVD Room"(seduction location) the whole night, but she doesn't seem to be into them. We were already close to her house so it was hard to seed going to my house and I feel like the mood isn't right. We make out for a while but I end up sending her home with a goodbye spank on her nice butt.

Follow up Text game

Before the D2 i sent basically no texts since we had already setup the D2 logistics. I think this was the right thing to do.

After the D2 I sent the text the same night: You were OK at kissing. She replied "OK? I Was GOOD!"

The next morning i sent an AFC text for some stupid reason: " Thinking about your lips." She replied 8 hours later "What are you talking about? Anyways.. my arms are SORE from climbing"

I haven't replied to that at all.. Trying to figure out how to setup the D3 over text and what kind of D3 to setup

Thoughts

It was on physically from the start -- she likes me and i like her. the date was really mostly about me not fucking up, but i couldn't figure out the logistics for a bounce to a seduction location.

Good

  • Once i got rolling i had no issues kino escalating.

  • I could tell when she was putting up token resistance and real resistance(rare but it happened twice that night). Token resistance -- pushed on. Real resistance, freeze out, de-escalate one step and start over.

  • Confident. Didn't second guess myself

Bad

  • Very hard to communicate with her to build comfort and joke around. I need to study my korean better and learn some japanese.

  • Could have kino escalated faster.

  • She doesn't like movies! I couldn't figure out how to bounce to seduction(my house, motel, or dvd room) without the "movie" crutch.

  • When she wouldn't kiss me "Because you're not my boyfriend" I said"What are you looking for in a boyfriend?" and basically was qualifying myself to her. I feel like that was not the right frame.

Advice needed I want to setup a d3 soon. I need to figure out an activity good for a woman i can't talk a lot with. and I really need to seed a bounce to seduction.

TLDR Went on a D2 with a cute japanese woman in Korea. Our common language is korean. The D2 went ok -- K-close but couldn't do the seduction bounce. Advice needed on how to setup D3 and how to handle text game.