Met this international (bad at english) girl at the college cafeteria, approached her and introduced myself. It was a 2 set, but I did this set wrong since I put more attention on the one I was interested in. This still lead to number close on both girls, but I built rapport with the one I wasn't interested in through text first.

Ended up texting the 2nd (main/the one im interested in) girl second, no response in 24h. Texted the friend to tell her to get back to me, and she did. So I ended up using texts for logistics with the main one and attmpted to set up a date with her. Her cell died halfway through the day so I got no response. Ended up going to cafeteria and saw her there by coincidence with her friend. Luckily I saw one of my friends nearby, and talked to him first before I talked to both of them with my drink.

Got to know each other better (her friend and main girl) and then set up the first date (or date 1.5 since I spent a decent hour chatting them up at the caf). Escalated kino a tiny bit and ended the date with a hug.

Date 1.5 comes, and I ended up spending time in the library while she's chilling with her friends. (I know, how disrespectful). We end up leaving after an hour to the caf to grab a coffee, which I agreed to pay for her (those were her terms ..jokingly if she were to go on a date with me, stated on the conincidental meetup). As we walk out of the library, I put my arm around her shoulder and she flicks it off immediately. I take it as nothing. She also doesn't want the coffee (she doesn't want to get fat) I ask her do you want any other drink, she says no. I didn't end up buy treating her to anything.. great. We chat for a long time there and she tells me she's conservative when we bring up the topic of hugging/touching (because I wanted to lead to the topic how she flung my hand off when I placed it around her shoulder - Yes i know i should have ignored it but my ego didn't).

End up switching scenes to some sitting area outside. Get to know each other more. As the date ends, I take her to this area where I say we're going to meet up for date 2. As we're walking there, we see a couple walking buy arm in arm. I told her jokingly, hey you should do that. And she's like no im conservative. She kept asking for my age and I told her I'd tell her if we walked arm in arm (I think this was childish on mypart). (Also, I found out she's older than me, by almost 2 years, and I thought I was older by 2 years. What can I do to slowly reveal my age because I know she wants to date older guys). The date ends, and I didn't hug-close or anything. Primarly because she kept asking me these things that I couldn't tell her because it wasn't who I was. She wanted a clean person with no criminal history or drug history (even though im completely sober and clean now) and also the age. Like I couldn't tell her any of that stuff.

Here's my reasoning, because I couldn't open up, I couldn't be intimate and I coudln't validate her/rewrd her. Leading to her not being able or feeling confortable to even hug close me at the end of date 1.5

I'd like to hear everyone's insight on this, particular on how I can further escalate kino, and slowly reveal my age? The past I can keep a secret and never let it leak since I don't do drugs anymore, and I don't get drunk or drink, and I also don't do any criminal activities anymore.