Advice in bold

— We went to a coffee shop that i spent some time picking out myself, and then to a spot in a parking lot where i was able to escalate. I’m in New England, so it’s quite cold here. My objective when looking for a coffee shop was to look for one that would allow me to sit next to her to easily initiate kino. I lucked out and found one close to her house. In this exact situation, i wanted a spot that had this type of seating indoors. If it were the summer, you’d wanna get a spot that has outdoor seating.

— I wanted to have sex. The logistics were super skewed out of my favor, as her parents were home and mine were, also. Car sex is reportedly terrible, so i ruled it out. The only chance i had was at the spot in a parking lot she brought me

— Initially, i really led the conversation and realized i would have to do so until a certain level of comfort was established, which got her to ultimately talk more and feel comfortable enough to open up (sometimes about heavy and crazy topics that i didn’t expect to touch upon). Throughout the ENTIRE date, my confidence did not falter once. It was absolutely on-point. Keep your confidence levels high and never let them drop, exposing vulnerability. At the coffee shop, i initiated light kino, using playful, light touches on the upper arm with the back of my hand and also touching her forearm with my hand when negging or before beginning to tell a relevant story. I negged her a LOT the whole time, but in amounts that were appropriate and never over-the-top. When we left the coffee shop, she commented that she hated crossing the street, so i jokingly offered to hold her hand, which was the perfect escalation of kino. I was gonna hold her hand in the car, but the situation presented itself so i took advantage.

— We went to the spot, and by then, I’d already established a lot of comfort, so i just went and kissed her. It went super well and i didn’t encounter any resistance. I repeatedly kissed her throughout the night, and I also occasionally held back before actually touching lips and kissing to see if she would kiss first, which she did multiple times. She allowed my hand to go really high up her thigh, so there was a chance i could’ve gone further, but i hesitated, and that probably was the only thing i did wrong. Escalate until she says no explicitly and/or does not allow you to do said action. I did this wrong, but realized it looking back. After k-closing and making out for a bit, she had to be home by a certain time, so i brought her home, holding the inside of her thigh and occasionally holding her hand as we drove back. Ended the night with another kiss she went in for.

— Since i was confident the whole time, everything i said and did came off in a great way. I didn’t care about what i said but said it confidently and playfully. She herself admitted that i was very confident. The big thing i got out of this interaction was to not be afraid to escalate. Assume interest and escalation will be easy. Stop when she makes it obvious that she does NOT want to go further. This is super important. Had i escalated a bit more, i may have been able to have sex. Even though it would have been in a car, it would’ve been an even greater way to close.

Edit: messed up the bolding of advice.