Hi guys, this is my first FR. I've found out about the PUA scene a few months ago and I'm starting to read/practice it. I've done a lot of "sarging around" years before although not at the "almost professional" level PUA is nowadays. But I do remember purposefully opening sets and getting rejected 10 times in the same night almost 15 years ago, and getting much better after that. I find I succeed often, but my success is not consistent, and it's more tied to some situations, so I'm trying to get to the next level.

I was travelling for work in the South of France last week and stayed for the weekend, alone. Saturday after lunch I went for a walk in the park alone, and decided to start talking to people. Couple of short interactions in, I start talking to a girl about the shortest path to exit the park (just natural, not forced at all), and end up walking together and introducing each other. Turns out she is also alone for the weekend between work weeks traveling. I'd say she's an HB6 or HB7.

We have a nice chill conversation, keep walking after leaving the park, fun, I tease, she responds great, etc... half an hour in I tell her "let's go have a coffe at that terrace" and she comes. More fun convo, sharing music & pics, annecdotes, etc... mutually interesting, fun, enjoyable. I've done this naturally fine for years, it's easy for me to foster conversation and get on well with strangers, find interesting points, etc... after all the PUA material I've read lately I am more teasing than normally and I am more conscious about doing kino escalation. We decide to meet for dinner and exchange numbers. Max kino is two kisses in the cheeks for the introductions (customary here), some teasing high-fives, touching hands/shoulders. The conversation is not sexual. Neither it is interview mode, although there is quite a bit of this, given circumstances. You need to get material for the teasing from somewhere!

During the coffee in the terrace (beachside), we go to the waterside and I take of my shoes and socks to get in the water. I push her to, but she doesn't.

She says she's going for a nap, I go running and buying some clothes. I text her 2-3 hours later for dinner. "Wake up! 9pm at XStreet & YStreet." My logistics are limited (don't know the town) but I've scouted the area. I have also located a couple of bars in the morning (as I was planning to go out alone in any case), and have some info about clubs.

We meet for dinner at the given place. I've gone 10min early to locate a restaurant in the area. I find one which looks nice and where we can seet in angle to each other rather than opposite. We have dinner, enjoyable, fun conversation and start finding she hardly drinks. She offers to pay the dinner, but I pay for dinner and say the drinks are on her.

We go to a bar with live music, order drinks, I push her to have something because she isn't much into it. We are sitting in a nice lively place, next to each other, quite a bit of kino, have a couple of drinks. When I think everything is fine, I look her in the eye and go for the k-. She pulls back last moment and says "I can't, I have a bf!". I go "argh". And things go downhill from there. I ask for more info and she tells me she actually broke up 5 days ago. Double argh! Then why can't you kiss me? I ask her how long they had been, it turns out it's only 5 months. I keep teasing her, doing some kino, approaching again... at more than one moment it seems like she is about to let go, but she still holds it. I say "kiss me", tc.tc... I "You want to kiss me" she: "I can't" I: "Why?" she just moves back.

This stage in she is doing this kind of shit-tests "you can kiss any other girl", etc... which I just ignore.

She says it is late and she has to go as she is waking up early the day after.

I then go into damage-control mode, tell her "Ok, since you are leaving, you first have to come with me to some place dancing and help me meet fun people before you leave". I'd rather have her as a wing than going out alone. She answers "You guys can go out alone, and you are so sociable you can easily meet people and other girls". Variations on this repeated times. I end up understanding she is really going to leave after all. Still it seems like I am not that far from a k-close, but it never happens.

So I end up getting a bit upset, as I would have set things up differently if I had known this, and it took her so long to tell me she had a bf, etc... also I'm pissed that she left the bf a few days ago, so it's not really an obstacle. Anyway, I understand different people work differently, and some people need time. But I'm pissed anyway. I try to be polite about it, but it's noticeable I'm upset. I only walk her a couple of blocks to where I met her, not to her hotel. I end up feeling a bit bad about not staying nice & chill, but hey.

So after this, I decide to go out solo. It's 1am or so. I go back to the same bar (concert), have a beer and don't talk to anyone (not in the mood really). Then I go to another bar and speak to an american guy, bars are getting dead, and he recommends some club nearby. I get to the club, with the indications of two gorgeous girls I meet in the way (but I don't game them).

I stay about 2-3hrs in the club. I am not anxious about being alone, unlike the few previous solo sarges, and actually try talking to several sets, mostly girls-only or mixed-with-one-guy-who-seems-gay. Not successful at all. I think being alone at a club where it's obvious you are alone (because everyone else is in groups) is an instant DLV. Even if I do ok-ish approaches, no success. Short conversations is the only thing. I think it seems creepy or needy. The language barrier was problem here too anyway (my French is usable but mediocre), but I know this is not the main problem here.

End up going to the hotel alone drunk, but just fine, better than after the HB dropped me earlier, and happy about being better with being alone at a club.

Conclusion #1: when going out solo, I realize I need to build social proof soon in the bar/club, even if it's just with other guys. It may be easier with guys, especially if you are travelling, and I can instantly use that to dispell the DLV of being alone.

Conclusion #2: I spent a lot of time with one HB, which, don't get me wrong, was fun and enjoyable, but I may have found other more amenable company, or I may have known the outcome from the start and would have set things up for her to be my wingwoman and have a fun night. Maybe this would have even got her more interested.

So, I need your advice here, mainly with regards to the HB story (I'm mostly ok with the club thing and will work on it, although any suggestion is good). What would you have done differently? Why do you think no close was possible? Would you have tried something in the afternoon "instant-date" before committing to dinner? Would you have asked whether she had a bf? (I didn't ask about a bf, as I didn't want to make her worry about that). What do you think of the approach/progression? What do you think of the reactions?

And of course: Thanks SEDDIT!! This is an incredible resource, not only for pick-up, but for personal improvement.

EDIT: Forgot the las part of the story. Sunday I text her "sorry was a bit rude, shouldn't have. was fun. my full name is "xxx yyy" add me fb. have a great trip!". She responded a few hours later "no prob, sorry if i mislead you into something. was fun. will stay in touch tc tc". It is a fun and interesting good friend to hang out with if i go to her city, and i get to know her social circle / etc... which will/could be interesting and probably more material. i'm sure she'd react to me hitting on other girls around her, but it's not that important anyway. The important part is your feedback how to drive future situations similar to the one above into better outcomes.

EDIT2: Hey I'd like to hear your thoughts! I wasn't going to comment, but to get started, I think the problems were: (1) not sexualizing the conversation somewhat earlier (since it's abroad and everything will happen in one day), (2) not making her "earn it", I have the hunch that this is the reason why they go "you can kiss any other girl". I also think I should ask about a possible bf soon, there is no possible negative side-effect. I'll fieldtest these in the future and post here.

BTW, I had asked about solo game here:

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/gh275/dae_feel_weird_going_to_clubsbars_solo/

The 2nd part of the night was definitely a way to start getting over that solo anxiety. Not successful, but I'm definitely learning for future cases!