I'll keep this brief because I'm still seething with frustration and embarrassment. I've heard this happens from time to time so I figured it would be helpful to share the experience. This was the first time it happened to me.

I showed up at a coffee shop for a Tinder date (I've been going on way too many of these recently) and ran into my best friend's mom. She was meeting with an employee there to buy an iPod that was listed on Craigslist. I caught up with her for a while during my wait for my date. When my date showed up I said, "Ah, there she is now." I got up from the couch I was sitting on and hugged/greeted my date, a cute 5'9" dancer. I introduced my friend's mom as my own mother. "Hey Dancer, meet my mother. She came out to meet you," I said, motioned towards my friend's mom. My friend's mom blushed and laughed, my date looked super creeped out and asked if I was serious. I laughed out loud and said I was kidding, that she was a friend's mom and I randomly ran into her. We all laughed it off. Self-amusement...and social proof.

In a nut shell, our entire conversation consisted of Dancer's career and education path, which was domestic abuse work. All she talked about was past drug problems, abusive relationships, and feminism. All that is cool in moderation and I was interested in touching on it briefly to get to know her, but no matter how hard I tried prying her off those subjects to something more light and positive, she steered the conversation back to it. It was really boring me. I kept up with the conversation and we shared a lot of opinions though. After about an hour and a half sex came up and she was implying rather strongly that she'd fuck me, like, whenever. Cool.

I took my time but eventually I decided to pull her back to my place. The lack of chemistry between us was astounding but she was really pretty so I figured why not. We drove to my house and I put on music for a bit and a movie shortly after.

Ten minutes into the movie my tongue was in her mouth and clothes were coming off. She was undressing herself and pushing things along quicker than I was. I thought she was very physically attractive but emotionally I was very neutral towards her; she wasn't provoking much of a sexual response from me.

I went down on her for a while and got her off, which was cool, then I tried getting myself aroused but was only staying hard for a minute or two at a time, off and on. Not a good sign. She gave me head for a couple minutes to get me hard, then I put on a condom and slid in. I went soft after a few seconds.

Inside I knew there just wasn't any fire for this chick. I posted a field report yesterday detailing the f-close of a new girl so I wasn't particularly horny today and the chemistry with this girl was minimal at best. High quality problems, I know.

We slowed down a little bit and she went down on me for a few minutes to try moving things along. It worked and I put on a new condom and was back inside her pumping away for a few minutes before I slipped out, completely soft again. I was not interested in continuing.

I don't need to say it, but it was an awkward drive back to her car. I feel like shit right now.