Hi seddit, i came across you guys by pure chance, and instantly fell in love. I have just started actively trying to seduce women more aggressively. In the past i have had some luck with the ladies but not nearly as much as i would like to. So after lurking for a couple days buying some reading material off amazon i felt confident enough to go out and start approaching. I head to my local mall, slim pickings, i practice eye contact with everyone i pass trying to identify the color of their eyes and also practicing my smile. I go into sears see a cute girl, she seems busy but i tell my self "no excuses!", and walk up to her. I tap her on her forearm and say "do you know where the men's department is?" making eye contact and smiling. "yeah its upstairs" she says and turns back to what she's doing. I'm at loss as to what to do and walk away. I think what i could have done better was maybe build some attraction first by browsing near her and try to make eye contact and smile, and probably a better opener with something funny to catch her attention. The mall is dead so i head to my college and go to the library. See a HB7 at the counter and walk up to her and say "I'm not exactly sure how to use the catalog would you be able to help me find a book?" she helps me and i joke around and i think i touched her shoulder while she was helping me. she goes back to her desk and i go check out my book. feeling like a idiot for not trying to close her somehow i walk up to her desk and say "thanks for all your help earlier you are gorgeous and i'd love to take you out some time" she replies "sorry I'm married" and flashes a ring on her finger. I say "oh sorry" and walk away no big deal. i approached one more girl HB6 it went like this. see her walking on campus i smile at her she smiles back so i decide to make a more direct approach "Hi you are really cute and I'd love to take you out some time." She blushes her brains out and laughs and says "I'm so sorry i have a boyfriend" i try and say something along the lines of "good he can make us cookies while we go out on adventures" but totally am nervous as hell and jumble my words up she says again "i would love to but i have a boyfriend" we shake hands and part ways. Well seddit that's it. Just in the couple days I've been lurking i feel much more confident and don't have nearly as much approach anxiety. I would love some exercises to help with approaching and opening. thanks seddit