I've been struggling to put into action the things I learn in seddit. I feel since discovering here, I've become more tactile and better inter-personally, but still lacking in some areas, most obviously in cold approaches. Whether its day game or night game, I haven't been able to just get out of my head and talk to people. This FR was somewhat of an achievement for me then, although it'll lead to nothing, but I'll get to that later.

So I'm going from college to a crash-course in what I'm studying with a friend of mine. The course is a short flight away, about 90 minutes from take-off to touch-down, and we're leaving on the Friday. So we're some of the last people on the plane and we notice we're not sitting anywhere near each other.As I'm finding my seat I cop this girl sitting beside a guy and an empty seat, and it dawns on me that its my seat. I sit down, and presume she's with him. Just before the flight takes off, she turns to me in the aisle seat and asks "could you put this up there for me?", doesn't make it clear that she's talking about her jacket, and I'm sitting there waiting for a bag or something. She realizes the confusion, giggles a little and I remember to always assume attraction. But in my head, she's with the other guy, so I oblige her and don't say much after, besides, I've got stuff to study in the ride over.

I keep to myself, do my study, listen to some music, and catch up on some sleep. I wake, and gotta piss, but the trolley's in the way, so I'm sitting there waiting for it to pass, and I'm paying attention to the other 2 out of the corner of my eye. I realise, they're not talking to each other and that I haven't seen them interact the whole time.

I get back from the bathroom, then, and decide "fuck it", turn to her, and say "So what are you doing in ......". She turns to me, I see her smirk, and I'm thinking happy days. Turns out she's an actress she's going for an audition to a school, and also we know a few people from my childhood, but I haven't talked to them in years. I joke with her about getting up an performing in front of the plane, which she laughs at. We talk til the plane lands, and I get my stuff an leave.

I'm waiting, just inside the building for my mate, and as I'm thinking why the hell didn't I ask for her number she passes me. So I go and ask for it and she tells me to text her. "Finally!", I think

Fast forward 2 days, and its Sunday. I've text her asking how it went, and there's a bit back an forth. I usually take between an hour and a day to reply to texts, just because this week, I'm in 8-5.30 plus coursework, so I don't have too much free time.

After about 3/4 texts, she jokes that she performed on the flight back, and bets that I was jealous. I mention she should put on a whole performance just for me, expecting something like "Haha that's a bit optimistic", which I'd then ask her out for a drink instead. Instead I get nothing back.

2 days later I send her a text calling out her for not replying, and she replies instantly, confused. I play it off an hour later as a mate had my phone and ask her what she's up to. After the next reply, I ask her out again and still have nothing back now a day later.

What I learned

If you realise that girl you've been sitting next to for an hour is single, just start talking to her. The time where you were sitting there means jack shit.

Girls love being hit on. The reaction I got by simple asking what she's doing over the weekend was worth it alone.

Even if you #close, that doesn't mean shit. This girl was into me physically, got on well with me, didn't hesitate giving me her number, replied instantly to my first few texts, and flaked. I shouldn't have texted at all, especially since my text game isn't great. I should have ignored her request to text her, just called her sunday/monday and asked her out.

As far as I'm concerned, she's a goner, but if there is something staring me blatantly in the face that I'm missing, let me know.