Went out last night to a patio pub. I prefer these over dance clubs because you can hear and talk over music, and I'm short so I don't have a good success rate on dance floors. step 1: go to a place where you have a chance

Did a pre-drink with some close friends. Only had 2 beers, so that I can be coherent and not get stupid frat boy wasted. They are meeting up with some girls from their intramural flag football team (ages 25-30) and invited me. The girls were freaking gorgeous, and I've never met them before. Basic intro, buddy of mine introduces me to the group, I shake hands and have a short convo with all, guys and girls alike.

I take a seat at the table, and the girl I thought was cute is across from me. I noticed she was deep in her drinks already. I can't quite remember exact shit we said in our convos, but we started talknig about her jewelry. She's got some expensive shit, I'm talking like $2-3k+, or so she claims. But I mentioned they were cool, and I pulled out my phone and looked up the brand and we kinda window shopped on my phone.

Doing something interactive together makes it easier to flirt

I was teasing her, calling her high maintenance and shit, and she was just giggling, rubbing my forearm, and I was touching her arms to. Keep in mind I'm across from her which kinda sucked to escalate kino with.

I wasn't talking to her strictly for the entire night, at the table we all switched convos around with different people. There was another guy there who is on their team who was flirting with her HEAVILY as well, and she seemed to be super in to it. She ended up sitting in between him and myself. At one point, she started tickling me, rubbing my abdomen and back repeatedly. I just messed with her, told her she is a very "abusive" person, in a very playful tone, not being serious of course. She starts laughing and pushes her head right in to my shoulder and I wrap my arm around her and tickle her to and we do this for a few minutes back and forth. But the other guy who was heavily flirting with her "steps in" to take her attention back by physically pulling her to him and basically doing the same shit. i didn't fight it, as I don't really know how to assert myself in that situation without coming as a total horny douchebag that wants the girl. Funny thing is, the entire group of people were laughing at him and because apparently he has a girlfriend! That actually made me laugh to though.

The other guy left to go to the washroom and the girl turns back to me. A drink tipped over on the table and spilled a tiny bit on her and I and she tells me she's wet. since she's beside me, I touched her thighs and rubbed them and we got in to a convo about eating out pussy. Now, I'm actually a little experienced on that, I love eating pussy. She's Bi and says that a girl does it way better. I didn't bother trying to say anything clever in retort to that. I just moved the topic of sex to something more I like, about dominant/sub roles. We got talking about being dom/sub roles. I asked her if she was a ropes kinda gal, or a chains (ie. hand cuffs and shit). she likes the latter. I like ropes better lol. but here's where I get stumped. I have no fucking clue where to take the convo here. I'm a pretty good conversationalist but I dropped the ball here because I started thinking about what to say next, rather than simply listening to her. Plus I think I wasn't being as smooth as before because it was the first time I actively pushed a conversation to being sexual, succeeded, and had to keep it going haha. So she probably sensed my nervousness.

It's easy to make the convo sexual once you see the opening. Literally just ask or say something sexual and look at her, be confident. She'll respond.

However, this only really happened as the other guy left. I don't know how to "fight", in a socially-acceptable way to keep the girl's attention from other guys hitting on her. So that's where I guess I need your guy's feedback mostly. I mean, she's clearly more in to the other guy at this point, but who knows, maybe if I tried harder earlier it would have gone a different way.

Feel free to rate/advise on the FR post itself as I'd like to improve that to, ultimately to help all of us out here.