[FR] Language exchanges

FR_TLDR · 2011-03-03T20:30:34+00:00

Tl;DR: Run game at language exchanges at bars, but can't escalate, and too scared to close. Am I coming off as a creep?

ThrowawayPUA · 2011-03-03T16:57:35+00:00

Yeah, I'm well familiar with language exchange, my school set up Japanese Language Hour for us students to chat with the exchange students. I went for 4 years, and after I graduated, my teachers asked me to keep coming and help out. No problem, my pleasure, and I needed the practice. Hell, I still need some practice, maybe I should check it out and see where they're currently meeting.

I found that a lot of the exchange students who are English majors are women. These are not the type of students who will be doctors and lawyers (I see them coming in through different exchange programs). Most of these women are majoring in "English Vacation," they're using a year overseas exchange study to get some conversational skills so when they return and eventually get a job, they will be the "English Speaker" in the office. But mostly, for them, it's a vacation, all they have to do is go to a couple of classes and that "pays" for the rest of their leisure time. Watch for the occasional serious student, I've seen a couple exchange students who were serious at studies and ended up transferring and completing their degree at our school instead of going back to their homeland school.

Anyway.. to the practicalities.. Remember these girls are in a foreign land and nervous about what they are getting into. But that's why they're here, they wanted those experiences. Make them non-threatening but adventurous. I'll give you an example. A lot of the exchange students I met were architecture students. I would take 2 or 3 girls on a tour, show them the local highlights, starting with my childhood home, a locally famous Victorian home. They'd all coo, "gingerbread house!" (they must know some Western fairy tales!) and then I'd take them through town, showing some modern buildings by an AIA Prize winner. Then up to a cliff overlooking the river, where they can see a panorama of the best architecture, laid out as a city plan. And then down the hill, to a city park, where we can chill and relax under the trees for a while. Let's have some tea (thermos of green tea thoughtfully prepared before I left).

Works like a charm. Normally I think this would create more comfort than attraction, but these girls are seeing the things they came here to see, they're in awe, in a high state. I could easily move on to seduce them, once I'm associated with the excitement I gave them on the tour.

But this is more "social circle game," you're going to see these women over and over in the language exchange, you can take it a bit slower since you'll get plenty more chances. The next time I saw the girls I showed around town, we talked about our tour, if they had questions or wanted to see other things. Plenty of opportunity to isolate one for a conversation. And it might take a few meetings to get enough comfort for further seduction. And remember, being seduced by an American might be one of the reasons they became an exchange student. Alas, a lot of these girls have stereotypes about Americans too, and will go for weird guys for weird reasons.

So anyway, keep at it, remember this is a "long game" and figure it will take at least 2 or 3 weeks to develop any individual relationships out of the group. And that their group is relatively close-knit (exchange students tend to group together for support from their national compatriots) so it's harder to isolate.

Good luck, this is a fairly good social opportunity, if you work it right.

Title	[FR] Language exchanges
Author	reggieband
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	March 3, 2011 4:22 PM UTC (15 years ago)
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