Long post, but wanted to put as much relevant details, some insight would be much appreciated.

I originally wasn't planning on going to the Meetup since I was tired from the week. I went anyways because I want to improve myself socially. Turns out to be a good idea.

I instantly notice a regular who goes to every singles meetup. She forgets my name even though I remember hers, but it's social proof, so I pretend to care. She then disappears in a crowd, good riddance. I make small talk with everyone I meet and I'm very open with a strong tone. Since this was a new members meetup, there were fresh faces. I also took opportunity to chat with people next to me at the bar. One was a black girl hanging out with a group of asian girls. I introduce myself to them. Language barrier however. They soon leave right after.

I notice one girl who comes up. She seems a bit shy. I opened up and noticed right away she was looking at me differently than the other girls. She kept eye contact and I got a different vibe. Between small talk, I told her she had beautiful eyes. Seemed like the right thing to say. After more small talk, she excused herself to the bathroom. After she left, a couple (bf/gf) that I met previously in another meetup came in. We talked like we were best of friends. When she came back, I introduced them. Social proof. The guy even winged for me. Yesss.

She only had one drink but we exchanged numbers since she was new to the area and literally has nobody to hang with. I offered to give her a tour of the city.

When she left, I kept chatting with the people around me, hearing crazy stories. They brought me to another bar that had a night dance. It was packed. I'm less of a night gaming type, but I decided to dance anyways. I spotted an older asian girl who locked eyes with me. She started to touch me right away to get my attention and ask questions like what my name is, etc. I kept dancing a bit closer, held her by the waist, ended up grinding behind her which she seemed to enjoy. She turned around and I went in for a makeout while she was staring in my eyes. She pulled away, we danced more then madeout again. Soon after, she started getting distant and not looking towards me anymore. Her friends pulled her away. Twice. I took the hint that she was done with me and by this time I was getting tired so I drove home. I have yet to figure out how the dancing game works. If I dance by myself, no girl comes up to me. I always have to initiate eye contact, which rarely happens.

I texted the first girl, saying I had a great time seeing her. She texted back with enthusiasm. The morning after, I simply said "morning, sunshine", she texted almost immediately back. I offered to follow up on the SF tour, she counter-offered with brunch nearby her. With mimosas. Strange, was this a hint? She didn't know of a place, but I did. I always assume I have to decide where and when to go. I got there early, picked a table, and waited for her. She arrived 30 mins late, but texted me ahead of time so I knew I wasn't going to be stood up. I said, "you owe me a mimosa" though via text.

When she arrived, we got to know each other a bit more. Not much kino due to the table separating us. She paid for her drink and we walked out. My mind went blank on what to do next. She had nothing else planned and I never been on an extended first date before. I said we should go bowling cause I haven't played in a while. She agreed to this. I took her hand while we were walking and she was receptive. Walked to her car and first kiss. I texted her the address of the bowling alley.

She arrived on time, but I was early again and reserved a lane. I won the first game, she won the second one. It was pretty competitive but fun! We negged each other and even made a bet. I told her if I won, I get a kiss, if she won, I'd buy her a drink. When I won, she kissed quickly and I said that was a bad kiss to her. She went back in for a longer kiss, borderline makeout, and I said better. I made sure to apply kino to emphasize points between frames. Time ran out before our 3rd game. The hour went by so fast.

I figured I keep it going by offering her to chill at my place. She was hesitant. I still need work on this for proper F-close. My pad isn't well suited and wasn't clean at the time anyways. I walked her to her car again, final kiss and now back at home writing this post. We'll see where it goes from here. She might message me with plans to join her later. If not, I add it to my "no second date" pile. Come to think of it, unless this counts, I've never had a second date in my life.

edit: She wants me to pick her up to go to a bar tonight. Second date confirmed. More chances for kino and F-close at her place. edit 2 (Follow up): I pick her up, find out she lives with her grandmother, we get really drunk bar hopping. She pays her drinks, I pay mine. I take opportunities to hand hold, apply more kino, and makeout. She says she's uncomfortable making out in public so I stop. I have a taxi take her home since I'm unable to drive and feel sick. I vomit and pass out until 5am. Lesson learned, never do that again. She texts saying she had a great time.