Hello Seddit,

After a year of dating and self improvement, I was finally able to do proper kino/physical escalation with the last girl I met this week and had my first F-close on the second date in my life! Thanks to all the awesome posts here and valuable information from my friends! :)

A little context: I am in my early thirties and haven't been in a relationship for several years. I've had three relationships in my life. Every time these happened I had to have several dates before I'd actually move on to physical escalation and sex, and I had to have some kind of validation from the girl before moving things forward.

I need your help here because I want to move things forward with her; while I am very confident about things, I feel like I'm into uncharted territory so I don't want to make a stupid mistake. I'm really interested in this girl and I think she is too even though I had to lead every single step. She seems to be a bit shy and she told me it has been a while since she's been in a relationship.

So the second date was this Friday, after eating at a restaurant, I invited her over to my place to watch a movie. We didn't really watch the movie, we kept talking instead and I escalated things when I saw she was ready for something more; we had sex together. Then she said she had to leave because it was really late; I told she could simply sleep over. Before she could find another reason to leave, I kissed her and then things moved forward to my bed and we had sex again. After that it was really late, so she decided to stay instead. We slept close together and she kept cuddling me all night. Then we had sex again in the morning. She really seemed to enjoy the night spent with me as she was smiling all the time and couldn't stop holding me tight. I offered her to make breakfast but she said she wasn't hungry. As she was leaving I told her I wanted to see her again this Sunday, but she said she had something planned with a friend and wanted to sleep early because she lacked some sleep after our two dates, but that we were definitely going to stay in touch.

So my next move was to send her a text in the afternoon: "So who made the best massage, mine or your massage therapist? ;)" Her appointment was with a therapist and she told me during the night that I was really good at massaging, so I thought this was a nice way to let her know I'm still thinking about her and make her remind our awesome night together. Mind that I'm keeping the text game as short as possible, I'm only texting her to plan dates, nothing else.

So she responded this morning with: "Nobody can rivalize with a professional :P"

Seddit, what should I do next to keep this going to a third date in the perspective of having a serious relationship? She seems to be the kind of girl that a man has to lead every step of the way or she'll just shy away and nothing will happen. I've been looking for past threads and there's not a lot of info on that specific issue.

Thanks :)