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Feminism is just as bad as the red pill stopped taking you seriously there. Your comment makes it obvious that you have no idea what feminism even is. Just lots of strawman arguments and bad faith.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/20 03:19 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/bdlomn/anyone_notice_that_people_consider_us_right_wing/ekzosfm Discussing you is not worth it though Look, I am someone who needs the strongest argument to be convinced. I used to be a feminist and spent years debating with the manosphere before I joined them. I used to defend libertarianism, and after years of defending it, I am no longer a libertarian. You are either intellectually dishonest, do not think critically, have no idea how evidence works …
/r/ExRedPill08/02/20 01:29 AM
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Isn´t that the video title of some far right white Christian nationalist?
/r/ExRedPill08/02/20 01:24 AM
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And that´s why radical feminists aren´t feminists after all. Anti sex, body shaming, masculinity shaming, trans hating, man hating. You are no TERF, you are a FART. A feminism appropriating reactionary transphobe. You do the bidding of conservatives and the alt right. you post in FDS for fucks sake.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/20 01:23 AM
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Seems like a smooth talker. Tricks are here referred to as "Outer Game", if he is following the corny old books it could be something like Neil Strauß or the Mystery Method. For every ounce of wisdom there is a pound of useless stuff. He probably push pulled you aka teasing, maybe even negging. Just the right amount of cockiness and humor. You calling him out (referred to as shit testing) broke his frame. That´s the gamey analysis. In the end it´s all about being your best self and just shhoitng…
/r/seduction05/02/20 11:44 PM
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Maybe because he does not hit on you, is married (= abundance mentality) and thus is flirty and confident by default.
/r/seduction05/02/20 11:01 PM
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Yeah, there is lots of dumb BS floating around. Using chad unironically? C´mon. Ig you have any question, you can either ask me, go to r/askseddit or r/fPUA. The best advice: ask your crush out. Simple as that.
/r/seduction05/02/20 10:47 PM
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Mark Manson is a wholesome dude and this sub is sex positive, I don´t know what you are on about, incels have no place here even if they litter this sub with negativity. I´m pretty sure this dude is no magician, so no tricks. Why would you care? Say yes if he is your crush. Stay away if he is manipulative/abusive. I like your username, but if your attitude here bleeds over into the real world, then there is your answer to your lack of success, there is also r/fPUA but that´s probably female ince…
/r/seduction05/02/20 10:15 PM
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RSD is also lots of fakes and early cuts before they get blown off. They make it look like they pull, but they often don´t.
/r/seduction05/02/20 10:08 PM
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Models by Mark Manson, it is a foundation of this subs advice in the sidebar
/r/seduction05/02/20 09:43 PM
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Lmao you are pretty lazy. He even has a blog or you can read the whole sidebar. If you won´t even read advice, what are you doing here?
/r/seduction05/02/20 09:41 PM
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Bad vibe here. Bucket of crabs all around. Just like nattyorjuice and fitness30plus. Looking for any shitty excuse why they won´t approach. It is not your wrists guys, it´s your attitude.
/r/seduction02/02/20 10:05 PM
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As much as he is referring to bitches I assume he means dogs
/r/ExRedPill02/02/20 11:02 AM
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Has there been a thorough philosophical analysis of TRP I like the digs hbomberguy makes in his videos about PUAs and gamergate guys. It is in its core a critique of the effects patriarchy/toxic masculinity and the economic pressures of capitalism has on men in the system. But instead of furthering equality, welfare and community they become regressive reactionaries. Many people talking about the manosphere do it, really. But not explicitly in a video.
/r/ExRedPill02/02/20 11:01 AM
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Beginning of the Rules: The primary focus of Seddit (r/seduction) is the study of human seduction. Mainly, how to integrate specific seduction and self-improvement techniques into our long-term personalities and how to succeed at forming successful romantic relationships. While the discussions within Seddit focus primarily on the male seduction of females, most techniques and information referenced may be flexibly utilized in all types of relationships. Male --> female will be assumed in example…
/r/seduction31/01/20 11:58 PM
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r/fPUA
/r/seduction31/01/20 11:46 PM
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Guys, does anyone read the sidebar? there is r/fPUA after all
/r/seduction31/01/20 11:45 PM
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There is r/fPUA/ (linked it the sidebar on old reddit). But most of the advice still applies. Be positive to be around, be confident, groom and dress well, hit the gym, go outside. Approach guys or make them approach you.
/r/seduction31/01/20 11:43 PM
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Add Shaun to that list, as well as Three Arrows and Vaush (and some of those). Dating wise, David Wygant, James Marshall, Mark Manson (really like his books and blog), Nick Sparks seem non toxic to me ETA: It just shows how polarized the scene is when guys with wholesome advice speak at the same event as Stefan "her precious white eggs" Molyneux.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/20 11:41 PM
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Staunch feminists recommend him, he´s sex positive, anti slut shaming and laughs about hypergamy/rp claims. He was never bad, he just got clearer in his distance to TRP stuff. Like even Seddit is pretty good over all, just that it does not weed out misogynists in any way- I even listen to some hardcore PUAs sometime and reframe it to relate more to the real worls.
/r/ExRedPill29/01/20 11:36 PM
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"here, let me spray a big load of this funky stuff up your nose. Now, where did I stop? Ah, yeah, hi I´, Nevermindever"
/r/seduction27/01/20 12:36 PM
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I think we are mostly in agreement, because I don´t have anything to say against this. On the other hand, that was my point. Imo reading a book or two (especially Models), and everything is said about "inner game". But applying it is hard so everyone comes up with strategies and formulas to follow that are marketable and the simple pill us humans love. It´s like exercise and a healthy diet vs all the pharmacist has to offer. The "easy" way out is drugs. All PUA/Dating coaches however they call t…
/r/seduction22/01/20 11:12 PM
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I wager those are two different problems to tackle. One is the area of sex negativity of any kind which makes you insecure and feel weird about your desires and engaging. On the other side there is just the "what the heck am I supposed to do" of not being a natural and just never learning it organically. Both issues influence each other and for that we reason the sub links to threads about Inner game (insecurity- how to become confident/vulnerable/interesting) and Outer game (how to convey these…
/r/seduction22/01/20 10:07 PM
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That´s what I said. "Just be yourself" works if you´re confident, secure in yourself etc. If you aren´t you learn mechanically how to be confident, therefore inventing terms like Frame Control, and follow all those little algorithms of Inner and Outer Game until it bleeds over and you just kinda know how to be confident, you have no hangups about flirting and so on. The epitome of this idea is the BS advertisement of "1 weird trick" or cheatcode for "mind control" and sex. Thus your point is the…
/r/seduction22/01/20 09:58 PM
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I concur with your point, but it´s also the crux of the matter. Isn´t that the whole idea of this sub? Devising complex game rules to algorithm ourselves into being confident and vulnerable because otherwise we´re just psyching us out?
/r/seduction22/01/20 09:39 PM
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Screenreader. Also, legally blind does not necessarily mean 0 vision.
/r/seduction12/01/20 05:12 PM
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No I´m German, but I´m interested in martial arts and also got in touch with Brazilian culture trough my ex girlfriend. Just replace strength with energy and you might become a dance god. And you really have some plans, much fun and success!
/r/seduction03/08/15 07:25 PM
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You´re pretty open and busy I see. My defintion of (real) friendship is close to yours, I think English speaking people use this word very generously while other cultures (e.g. Germans) have a more strict defintion of it. But getting at least some good acquaintances or "kinda friends" would be a good goal I think. Did you try Capoeira? It´s dancing and brutal :) and I don´t think that it is true that practicing jiu-jitsu hinders you dancing. Judo for example has a very similar move set of some s…
/r/seduction03/08/15 06:44 PM
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That´s a lot of text and I feel like you didn´t even fully answer my question.. So you are more or less dealing with the "not having any friends thing". If you two can live with each other and nobody else, then fine. But for most people that sooner or later leads to needines, being clingy and thus tension in the relationship. Personally, I think you really should put as much effort into broadening your circle(s) of friends as you do put into getting 3somes or even prioritze it. But that´s just m…
/r/seduction03/08/15 04:19 PM
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To clarify, we NEVER WENT TO A CLUB BEFORE, neither we have a lot of friends (she has none, actually. But that's a old grudge, and another history entirelly), nor are we comfortable with social skills as dancing, talking to strangers, going out or anything else you deem common for a 23 year old to do. You two might want to deal with this before pursuing 3somes. How did you get any at all, how did you find friends before? It´s not healthy to have no friends at all and it won´t help you reaching y…
/r/seduction02/08/15 08:18 PM
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"Nerdy" is so overused. Do you want girls with a brain and an own opinion or is your definition of nerdy watching tons of anime and gaming? Are you even really into them or just rationalizing it so you don´t need any other than nerdy hobbies? Nerdy hairstyle is never a compliment, mostly it means looks bad. Those "nerdy" girls don´t (necessarily) want a guy who looks nerdy or is a nerd. By getting out of your comfort zone and trying new stuff and talking to new people, you´ll broaden your horizo…
/r/seduction02/08/15 07:25 PM
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r/highseddit. Focus on Inner Game. You were used to being a popular guy in middle school but being the same version of you doesn´t grant you success now. So you have to tweak yourself, see where you can improve and take some risks.
/r/seduction02/08/15 06:54 PM
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Reading tipp: "Conquer your campus" just google it.
/r/seduction02/08/15 06:18 PM
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Read the sidebar, then read "Models" from Mark Manson. For youtube videos, watch the RSD guys and videos from the 21st Convention e.g. Nick Sparks. You dpn´t necessarily need some coaches, they mostly just force you to approach, because most guys need to do that.
/r/seduction02/08/15 05:47 PM
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Sorry if this book question was asked before. Too often. You will get the best answers by searching for your question in seddit. Common recommendations: Models, How to win friends and influence people, No More Mr Niceguy.
/r/seduction30/07/15 07:13 PM
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"Wanna pet my dog?" - "Sorry, I don´t do pets" Suffical topics in additon would be non-controversial news. You can talk about travelling, food, childhood experiences, almost anything that comes to your mind.
/r/seduction30/07/15 06:50 PM
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r/highseddit. What are you doing in clubs with 16? That´s not the best place to approach for someone your age, very small target group if you don´t look older. Attraction building is already handled very well in this sub. What does "innocent" mean? Timid? Looking young? Behaving a little awkaward? And what do you give hints about?
/r/seduction30/07/15 06:45 PM
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It´s not how it looks CIA, leave us alone. OP, r/highseddit is for you.
/r/seduction30/07/15 06:38 PM
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r/sex
/r/seduction30/07/15 06:18 PM
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Sidebar and r/highseddit if you didn´t know it yet. You´re young. Stay fit, be social, live your life, women aren´t everything.
/r/seduction29/07/15 07:32 PM
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Check out r/highseddit.
/r/seduction29/07/15 06:02 PM
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As many as possible. Give yourself a low limit you have to reach and everything surpassing e.g. 10 approaches a day is great.
/r/seduction29/07/15 06:01 PM
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Well, might have read over the 2nd date thing. Kino her, make her talk, make a connection (there are ways to manage this). If you get any kind of positive vibe, kiss her. Fortune favors the bold.
/r/seduction29/07/15 05:16 PM
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Why closing her eyes? She will do that by herself if you kiss her. if you want something to build up to the moment, here some suggestions: triangle gaze: She is talking, you look in her right eye, then her left eye and then at her mouth. Then look in her eyes again, come closer, kiss she is talking, you say "you really have to remember that place" she "why?" you: [...] kiss "don´t get scared!" "why?" kiss That´s what I could get out of my head right now. If you go in for the kiss with confidence…
/r/seduction29/07/15 05:14 PM
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Text her a bit, but never too long, don´t become her pen pal. Keep it positive, if she is starting with something negative, leave the convo in a friendly way. Things you could text her: News/songs about that singer, any other things in common, funny things happening to you, cool stuff you´re doing (just be careful to not make it a humble brag).
/r/seduction29/07/15 05:08 PM
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Meet more women. And this particular woman. Just do not do not anything at all (double negative; do something). Chat her up, invite her to do something, see how it goes. Don´t tell her how you feel about her, show her (not through gifts or that crap), have a good time with her, kino and stuff and embrace what ever happens, because you did something and there´s no "what if".
/r/seduction29/07/15 04:57 PM
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You don´t have to drink to party. However, we can´t tell you what to do. What is most important for you? Getting women? The startup? Your friends? There´s no wrong and right, you have to live you life, it´s your decision. If you have the possibilites to move closer to a more active city and keep the rest as it is, do it if you want to. You also can start approaching where you are. You don´t really know if there aren´t any women. Personally, I would place career close to success with women, or ev…
/r/seduction29/07/15 04:53 PM
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If you have time, read the sidebar. But for the quick fix, you can easily do some kino/touch at this date. When you show her something, touch her shoulder to direct her, gently guide her to things you wanna show her and so on. Many women don´t like first kisses or in general showing affection in public, so if you feel the moment is right and you feel alone, go for it. Intense eye contact, slowly going for the kiss. If she rejects you, just brush it off. If you don´t care about it, you seem confi…
/r/seduction29/07/15 04:42 PM
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Yeah, the sidebar on the right. Read it all at best. And look at r/highseddit.
/r/seduction29/07/15 04:30 PM
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If you want a female view on this, ask r/fPUA, it´s the female seddit.
/r/seduction29/07/15 04:01 PM
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Kind of wrong sub, ask r/selfimprovement for help. Not sure if r/fPUA covers this for women. In general, it´s all about confidence, Inner Game and so on. So feeling good about ine self, putting her out in the open, feeling sexy, having experience with social situations yaddah yaddah. Public speaking might really help a lot. Or she could try "social freedom exercises" (James Marshall if I´m right) and meditate.
/r/seduction28/07/15 08:10 PM
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This might be kind of the problem. You´re already feeling the pain of breaking up even though it didn´t happen yet. Try to end it on good terms and don´t fuck it up in the last moment. Use it as leverage. You´re working on yourself, there are already women interested in you, you won´t have problems in uni if you stay dedicated.
/r/seduction28/07/15 07:38 PM
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This is called conversation threading and active listening IIRC.
/r/seduction28/07/15 07:35 PM
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Specific not generic. Non-needy. Outcome-independent. Confident. Sincere. Because you want to. You kind of ask a right question in a wrong way. You seem insecure, self-conscious and maybe uncomfortable about complimenting her. Read the top posts in seddit about relationships, the sidebar stuff is also good for people in relationships and for overall social intelligence. Look at the life hack guide in the sidebar.
/r/seduction28/07/15 07:32 PM
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Your life is getting destroyed by a girl. I don´t say that you have to break up wit her, but if you follow this path, she definitely will break up with you, especially because of the incoming LDR. So, consider yourself single, with the difference that you aren´t. Maybe one or both of you is subconsciously sabotaging the relationship to make it end. However, she will only stay for the guy she fell for, not the lazy anxious version you are right now. You will find tons of reasons why you can´t sta…
/r/seduction28/07/15 07:23 PM
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at the end of a first date No last minute kisses. There is only one rule for the first kiss on a date: don´t do it at the end ot the date. Even kissing too early is good, because if you are unfazed by her turning away, you seem super confident and it raises your chances of success for a next try.
/r/seduction28/07/15 07:17 PM
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Why are you asking?
/r/seduction28/07/15 06:07 PM
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You and I are not alike, so don´t think anything about my progress. I had fairly good sucess after a couple of months and now are not intermediate yet, I still have to lose some weight, go to doctors appointments, are focusing more on my education and have to organize my free time. And it doens´t cost much. Eating healthy can be cheaper than eating junk food and fast food (at least in Europe). r/bodyweightfitness is free, if you go to clubs you shouldn´t drink much or at all. Nice clothes don´t …
/r/seduction28/07/15 04:10 PM
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Well, in many religions the "word of god" had lots of stuff from important people added (popes, religious savants etc.) and so you could argue that you should only follow the core teaching from the bible/quran and then there´s the question how to interpret. If I recall correctly, a burka is never mentioned in the quran and Jesus wasn´t born at christmas (they just took the date of the Saturnalia) and so on. Chastity is more or less stated, but if you sin you can say that you regret it and god wi…
/r/seduction28/07/15 04:04 PM
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Well you´ve already been on a date. Any kind of inside joke or personal thing you recall? Text her something witty/funny or something teasing her in a playful manner, just make it positive. I don´t know. If you teased her for her long nails "just broke a fingernail, immediately had to think about you" (I hope you get the idea I want to get through to you) or just text her something funny/positive what happened to you or you heard about. Then "I´m doing this in two days at 7 pm, come join me" and…
/r/seduction27/07/15 08:37 PM
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Ah, I guess it´s just the Schwaben being weird again. Hmm, well you have to watch body language, smile, eye contact, your voice tonality, the way you walk to her, the distance you keep between you two and so on. You probably lost that set when she walked away. Also, your follow up was quite weak, you could have teased her about walking away or stuff. Chances are she just wasn´t used to being talked to by random men, but you really lost your frame. Learn from it. And German women aren´t at all on…
/r/seduction27/07/15 08:02 PM
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Would you like to meet another time? Would is not that good because it suggests that she maybe doesn´t want to, but you should be in the mindset that she absolutely loves to meet you. another time is weak. You have to be direct and concrete. One or two possible times to meet up. Day, time and place/activity have to be stated. Also sweet girl, and loving to be around is little much. And you texted a few days without dating again, you probably just lost the spark while texting. And hey, at least s…
/r/seduction27/07/15 07:16 PM
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This is not a problem you have with German women, but with women in general. Where are you from and in which area are you now? And you give not enough details. "Girl freaked out after I gave her an honest and not threatening compliment on her bag" doesn´t make much sense. There either has to be been something else or your frame is totally odd and you just made it creepy by approaching in a bad way. Don´t take the "creepy" to serious, you can easily fix it, but more info is needed.
/r/seduction27/07/15 07:09 PM
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The pope is not approving of it, but who cares? Jews probably have the most sex positive beliefs. But people nowadays mostly don´t care about "staying pure". Only very religious girls would wait until marriage and often even they will sooner or later just do it. FYI I´m Catholic, but not really (hardly at all) religious.
/r/seduction27/07/15 03:47 PM
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Not worthy of love and happiness? Red flag, huge red flag here. Are you depressed or have any other kind of personal/psychological problem? You really need to deal with it. Get fit, groom well, wear fitting clothes.Eat and sleep well. Pursue your hobbies/dreams, work on your career. Meet with friends, talk to strangers. If you want to, do some charity. Help in an animal shelter, clean streets, donate blood or whatever.
/r/seduction27/07/15 03:43 PM
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If you absolutely hate your job, you might consider making a change, small or big. But it seems that you just rationalize your lack of success with or drive for approaching with your job. You earn lots of good money, that´s good. You have a life besides your job, what do you want to have more? You have hobbies and friends, just approach and don´t care about if your job is interesting or not.
/r/seduction27/07/15 03:33 PM
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Communication might really be the most important thing. If you do so, tell him you support him with getting another job and put it into action, even if it is just getting paper and stuff for applying. You can improve his diet. You´re doing it already, so he could easily join. Eating healthy has lots of benefits just like having more energy, as you sure know. And him being a computer guy doesn´t excuse that he isn´t doing anything with you. If you have to, agree to one or two days a week where yo…
/r/seduction27/07/15 02:12 PM
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Many PUA talk about the pain period: months or even a few years of almost exclusively rejection and maybe some small successes, then at some moment it will change and you have enough experience to become successful. Each time you do have success you should analyse why it went well and how to do it again. There´s the "fact" that 97% of people won´t follow up on self-improvment because they don´t dare or truly don´t want it. If you enjoy doing the things you´re doing right now, that´s great. Stay …
/r/seduction27/07/15 01:58 PM
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If you care to bother, crosspost this to r/fPUA, it´s seddit for women.
/r/seduction26/07/15 08:48 PM
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No offense but your story seems not very believable. You made natural game a thing, stole guys from their bootcamp instructors and fast forward ten years you are morbidly obese, have a part time job and a (solid?) business and are an indie film producer and have lots of friends? What happened? Just lose weight, the rest seems fine.
/r/seduction26/07/15 08:29 PM
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Ask him.
/r/seduction26/07/15 08:13 PM
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Well apart from telling us about you being nervous and having no success on dates, there is no info, so we only can give generic advice. In general, do what makes you happy and then women should come along, because women should only be the icing on the cake and not a main goal in your life.
/r/seduction26/07/15 07:52 PM
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Read the sidebar, goofy guy.
/r/seduction26/07/15 09:13 AM
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Read the sidebar, you should have an epiphany.
/r/seduction26/07/15 08:33 AM
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Search "how to kino" in seddit, read/watch the top posts. Especially the first 2 or 3 are very good. Read the "touch everyone" post in seddit.
/r/seduction26/07/15 08:23 AM
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Not finding IOIs is just your excuse to not appraoch. Truth is, women often don´t see you until you get their attention, how should they give you IOIs? Also, you want to believe that you´re an ugly minority guy and so you only see evicence that this is the truth and all positive stuff hapening to you is simply overlooked. IOIs are overrated, appraoch nonetheless. And I don´t believe that you´re confident if you talk about yourself in that way. You can stop being less attractive. Get fit, eat hea…
/r/seduction26/07/15 07:28 AM
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You´re young, fit and going to college. Read "Conquer your campus". Go out. All your issues have been tackled so often already, read the sidebar. JUST.DO.IT
/r/seduction26/07/15 07:20 AM
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I´m just making broad assumptions because you didn´t give that much details about the whole process.
/r/seduction26/07/15 06:54 AM
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You either didn´t read the sidebar, neither my suggested ressources or are trolling hard.
/r/seduction26/07/15 06:23 AM
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Don´t take it personal. It seems that you made yourself too available and seemed needy and that turned her off. Learn from it and you still can be friends with her.
/r/seduction26/07/15 06:22 AM
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Then I tried texting her to hang out and she either didn't respond or said she had to study for finals Does this mean you texted her multiple times with her not reciprocating/answering always? You sound very needy and this seems like a case of oneitis. Chat with her at the party and game her, but she can´t be the only woman in you head, you have to approach more.
/r/seduction25/07/15 09:05 PM
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You´ve made some good points, but the app thing is not for everyone. And: An hour in, go for the kiss. No hard rules for the kiss. Don´t do it at the end is the only real rule to apply.
/r/seduction25/07/15 08:24 PM
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Who left you out of your TRP cage? Drop that DHV shit and this sex offender approach. From the 14 women you aprroached, the one who stayed is probably the worst option to date if she puts up with that crap. If you can do this stuff and be confident, an honest approach and showing vulnerability will also be possible for you. Read the sidebar and Mark Mason´s "Models" and/or is his blog.
/r/seduction25/07/15 08:20 PM
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that guy You really have to learn to not give a fuck about what others think about you.
/r/seduction25/07/15 07:46 PM
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Yeah, kinda, I guess. This question seems to be asked because ouf your insecurities, deal with them, don´t rationalize them.
/r/seduction25/07/15 05:52 PM
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Think about it that way: Back at the good ol´days, when clubs haven´t been a thing, shopping malls were the place to meet people. Malls simulate a whole village, there is any kind of shop, so everybody can go there. Some women, especially younger ones, have "shopping" as a hobby and go alone or with female friends to just browse clothes and stuff. The would really love being approached becuase that might be the most interesting thing in their day. Don´t talk with the girsl too long. Approach, st…
/r/seduction25/07/15 04:57 PM
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Not necessarily a golddiger, but maybe just used to get spoiled by guys as their means of providing value. Go on cheap first dates, a coffee/drink is so much better than having dinner anyway, and screen for red flags. I wouldn´t like to date this kind of woman expecting chivalry and stuff.
/r/seduction25/07/15 04:36 PM
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Some women are attracted to the "Bad Boys". Some just love the idea of making a man follow the right path, repairing damaged goods. Those women mostly aren´t the type of women you get happy with in the long run because they have their own issues. Maybe it´s just showing vulnerability that makes you attractive/interesting and talking about personal stuff. Do what you feel want to do.
/r/seduction25/07/15 03:44 PM
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Dude, Mark Manson. His book "Models", his blog. You have a career and if you have a true desire to improve, you will accomplish it. You might think about dealing with your depression.
/r/seduction25/07/15 03:37 PM
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/r/fPUA is the place you have to ask this question. As far as male advice goes I would tackle this: no friends Do stuff you like and get social. Not just school, get out of your comfort zone, meet new people, be confident, smile.
/r/seduction25/07/15 03:33 PM
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Something RSD Tyler once said: "Fuck her and make her say that she loves you. Then after she said it, say it too. Then, after you´ve both finished, show that you were serious. No you told each other that you´re in love." I think there´s some truth in it. Just be open and direct, like always in seduction. It´s just showing vulnerability once again.
/r/seduction25/07/15 03:05 PM
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Total bullshit. You can approach anywhere. Ignore the guys you say can´t do something just because they failed.
/r/seduction25/07/15 02:40 PM
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Yes. Play it by ear. Some say the truth, some might test you, some just don´t have the guts to openly reject you. Just don´t give a fuck
/r/seduction25/07/15 12:16 PM
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Very mature.. I have in no way the right to judge you, but this might be the best reason to get into pick up, thus might not give you most success.
/r/seduction24/07/15 11:02 PM
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Thumbs up for sober game and IDGAF attitude. Maybe start lighter. Open them with "how´s your night going", make an observation or just say hi. If possible, start with eye contact and Kino in the moment you talk to them. Then, after you´re in, you can dance. Lots of people need a few drinks and some time to fully arrive in the club and have fun, be careless, etc. So if you arrive early, use that time to just warm up. Talk with everyone who´s there. If it gets crowded, you already know half of the…
/r/seduction24/07/15 10:53 PM
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Just read it in the comments a few days ago, it wasn´t much more than I told you. Bunch of guys throwing in some money for a flat, using it as a place to pull girls and to hang out.
/r/seduction24/07/15 10:48 PM
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Second hand experience: Don´t do it. My opinion: It´s not sustainable, it´s putting way too much effort, it has more harm than benefit.
/r/seduction23/07/15 08:25 PM
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Why not just party with college students without lying to them? But if you´re into traveling, you might regeret not taking a trip way more than this college identity plan. If you want to study, study.
/r/seduction23/07/15 08:23 PM
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Even though there is a shit test paranoia going on, this is a textbook example of a shit test. It comes up a few times in the sidebar. Agree and amplify or make her do a small favor in return are good things to do, just don´t get upset.
/r/seduction23/07/15 07:34 PM
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she broke up with me a handful of times, but never anything serious. Dude. Been together for about 8 months college 2 hours away from each other Dude. she doesn't treat me too well Dude! Maybe you genuinely love her, but maybe it´s just fear of being alone. Please, break up. Do yourself and her a favor. Go out, improve yourself. Use this situation as leverage.
/r/seduction23/07/15 07:30 PM
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What are you reading into his non-attraction to black women? Skin color, hair color, height, big or small boobs, butt. That´s just a preference. If he was born with it or aquired it doesn´t matter, you can´t just change that. He´s not judging their personal qualities, he´s just not physically attracted. There´s a huge difference between not being attracted and being judgemental. And you´re right, a successful approach makes the girl feel better. And yourself. OP could have success with his tacti…
/r/seduction23/07/15 07:24 PM
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I don´t know any other books, but maybe watch RSD Tyler on youtube? He´s always talking about outcome independence, confidence and such. I really can recommend watching the 21 Convention videos. Nick Sparks, James Marshall, Sasha Daygame, Jared Psych Laurence, DJ Fuji and more. So many good guys and so many (long) videos. I listen to them as podcasts sometimes if they don´t feature displays of kino etc. You don´t have to agree with everything, but it made me think a lot and helps improving.
/r/seduction23/07/15 07:15 PM
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stop caring. Pickup is really something that you cant really get good results at till your 21, and truthfully till youre 25. This sub in a nutshell. You probably still have room to improve, as everyone has, but you´re on the best way if you analyse why you have success now and how you can keep it up abd get even better.
/r/seduction23/07/15 07:10 PM
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Worth reading: "How to conquer your campus" and the top posts about college on seddit. Yeah, you´re worrying too much, listen to the other guys.
/r/seduction23/07/15 07:00 PM
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What kind of advice is going on here? Pickup is really something that you cant really get good results at till your 21, and truthfully till youre 25. Bull.Fucking.Shit. Wherever you look, this sub, friends, my own experiences, that´s just plain wrong. The earlier you start, the better. You´re 18, so your target group is somewhere around 14-18 (here the age of consent is 14, don´t know about you). Don´t overtly game 14 year olds, but it´s not like people stay virgins until they´re 20, they probab…
/r/seduction23/07/15 06:59 PM
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I also wanted to link you this, really helpful. Keep in mind that you life in the apartment, so make it personal. Something on the walls and stuff to decorate your flat. You don´t have to overdo it or get a record collection just because someone said it. If you want it for music purposes, a well structured set of playlists is good if you don´t like records. Just be yourself. And you need a women friendly bathroom.
/r/seduction23/07/15 06:47 PM
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Asked my sister Women are not the go-to gender if you want to get better with women. Sure, there are men that don´t know shit about women and women who give great advice, but use it with caution. As /u/aHomonym said, just be an talkative and social guy in general and talk to everyone. An exercise could be to high five the first person you make eye contact with when you enter the venue. Be a social butterfly and connect some single people into a new group. If you go to the same bars often, befrie…
/r/seduction23/07/15 06:10 PM
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Europe. I can´t talk about every country, in many countries people get intrigued when you say you´re a foreigner. It gives you lots of stuff to talk about. Thinks your cultures have in common, differences, "shocks", what you love here and what you miss in the US and so on. About passions: (Almost) Every passion and hobby is good, just be confident about it and don´t get mad about any negative or teasing comments. For a good first impression: Grooming, fitting clothes, good posture, eye contact, …
/r/seduction23/07/15 06:05 PM
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"Text is only for logistics" is the common advice. But times change and texting is now the thing to do, people don´t like calling etc. because that´s frightening. However, I´d still wouldn´t text too much. Even though texting is fine, there are lots of reasons to abstain from it: It lacks voice tonality, gestures, mimic, body language You hardly can build attraction with text It´s unpersonal You become too available You risk becoming an emotional tampon You don´t have stuff left to talk about in…
/r/seduction23/07/15 05:59 PM
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You´re not too old and you´re not alone. There might be differences in demographics so that you don´t see others, but you never are the only one.
/r/seduction23/07/15 03:57 PM
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Dating at work: Only if you don´t leave a huge mess. I'm a bit shy There´s no reason to be shy, do something against it. If there´s absolutely no way to talk to her in person, then use facebook. If you have 5 minutes at work, do it in person. "How do I ask her out?" You don´t ask for a date. "Do want to date me" just sounds ridiculous. "Hey girl from work I/me and some friends am/are doing this interesting activity at this place and this time. Come along." Either she says yes, no or has no time …
/r/seduction22/07/15 07:56 PM
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Don´t ask if she has a boyfriend. Never. If she is interested, she doesn´t have one. If she´s not interested, she has one. If she has a boyfriend, remember that you´re outcome independent and shake it of. Maybe make a joke (That´s no problem, I´m not jealous) and just wish her a good day. Or befriend her. If you can´t walk away, just keep on talking like nothing happened (because nothing important happened) and befriend her. If she has a boyfriend and will date you, that´s dangerous and morally …
/r/seduction22/07/15 07:01 PM
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Car in a secluded space can work quite well, because some women find it to be "exciting". I once read about a guy who rented an apartment with his actively dating friends. They shared the rent, used it for pulling, hanging out. Pretty cool idea, but not very useful for everybody. And living with your parents, so what? Search "living with parents" here, good input. As long as your parents aren´t against you dating and so on, you should easily manage it to take girls home. RSD Julien said in his s…
/r/seduction22/07/15 06:44 PM
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Get in front of them, run if you have to (nothing is creepy as long as you don´t think it´s creepy) and open them. But chances are they´re busy, so really just be outcome independent.
/r/seduction22/07/15 06:34 PM
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I don´t know those books. Models (Mark Manson) and "How to win friends and influence people" work very good for human interaction in general.
/r/seduction22/07/15 06:33 PM
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Read the sidebar. Start talking with everyone. Don´t care about success or failure. You´re young and look good, so you´re already a little better off then lots of other guys. Don´t expect it to be easy, but put in some months of work and honest effort and there will be results.
/r/seduction22/07/15 05:02 PM
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Good lesson, but what has this to do with sunk cost? Ah yeah: HB11 (that's right, off the scale hotness) Don´t do that. First, you have to step up on a ladder to put this girl on a pedestal, second, what you are describing is more like your personal 9 or 10. I don´t like throwing around with these numbers, but they exist for some reason.
/r/seduction21/07/15 08:35 PM
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It´s impossible to give you an answer with this amount of info. Reasons for a low sex drive: he has a low sex drive stress, anxiety too much porn/masturbation bad diet overweight, lack of exercise lack of testosterone lack of sleep depression disease and so on. Has it always been this way? Did he/you change much emotionally and physically? Any major events or stuff like that? There´s /r/sex and /r/deadbedrooms for input. But let me have a take on it. over 5 years Maybe it´s just too much routine…
/r/seduction21/07/15 08:18 PM
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/r/highseddit Malls, parks, the streets. Just basic daygame. Join clubs you like. Just everywhere.
/r/seduction21/07/15 04:39 PM
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People at work are paid to be nice to you. And they could feel pressured to at least give you a number so you don´t get angry and complain about them. With this in mind, flirting doesn´t hurt. After all, it´s more ore less just friendly talking and they probably will enjoy it. If you then feel like asking for a number, do it, just don´t make them feel pressured.
/r/seduction21/07/15 04:37 PM
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Pretty late but do you know /r/fPUA?
/r/seduction19/07/15 02:22 PM
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I remember you from/r/amiugly. It´s always the same guys who don´t want to realise it´s not their looks, their attitude is their problem. You, this blackloner guy and some other notorious users all have the same problem: your coping strategy. Some guys blame women, because they all are shallow bitches, for their lack of success. Some might just say they have too high standards and no girl can pass it. Some like you blame your looks. Truth is, looks do matter. But they don´t matter that much as y…
/r/seduction16/07/15 06:25 PM
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Music or me
/r/seduction15/07/15 05:08 PM
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It´s here. Maybe a relevant read: "How to conquer your campus". Just google it.
/r/seduction15/07/15 03:15 PM
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Look at the sidebar, you might find a lair. Post it as a single post. Search at /r/R4R for some guys. Much fun aproaching.
/r/seduction14/07/15 08:39 PM
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Don´t go for (long) hand holding in public, just avoid those typical "couple things". And be honest. Don´t lie. You don´t have to be absolutely direct with it, but make sure there´s no hope for a more serious thing.
/r/seduction14/07/15 08:38 PM
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Say hi to everyone you make eye contact with. It´s a) a good exercise against AA and b) makes you talk to people. Eye contact, smile and say "hi". Done
/r/seduction14/07/15 08:35 PM
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There´s even a subreddit for it. Read about text game in seddit.
/r/seduction12/07/15 06:23 AM
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Judging from your description, if you have a decent personality, you´re really a catch. Get some entitlement and be confident about your cool life. I can only offer you general advice, but depending on the kind of music, groupies should be kind of easy to attain, I guess. Of course, this might be totally a stereotype. "Observe" the others of your band how they behave and maybe you can apply that too.
/r/seduction11/07/15 01:37 PM
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The RSD guys always talk about "leverage". The worse you start off, the better you become in the process because you either give up or push the limits further than some guy who´s pretty comfortable being average. And Tyler really was a fat chump, there are a few pcicks of him, so after all they seem to be trustworthy with this. And it´s not too far off. There are many guys (and women) who are terribly insecure and can´t talk to strangers, don´t dare calling strangers and so on. And, after all, i…
/r/seduction11/07/15 01:31 PM
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How about this cologne guide?
/r/seduction09/07/15 04:46 PM
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I´d say as long as it isn´t bad for your health to go out, go out. Just don´t take yourself too seriously and signal that you don´t mind the crutches. If people recognize it´s no big deal for you, it´s no big deal for them. Apart from that, if you can´t go out: read, watch videos.
/r/seduction09/07/15 08:16 AM
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someone you're already in a relationship with I can´t see any problem her. Just text. For NSFW picks, first ask if they are appreciated or if the person doesn´t like them.
/r/seduction09/07/15 08:10 AM
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/r/highseddit
/r/seduction09/07/15 08:08 AM
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Look at the sidebar guide "Lifehacks". Don´t be cheap. If it´s comfy, everyone likes to stay in bed. I´m just rearranging my bedroom, so I´m also thinking about setting it up.
/r/seduction08/07/15 07:45 AM
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Talk to yourself aloud if you´re alone and have time to kill, e.g. driving your car.
/r/seduction08/07/15 07:43 AM
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The crowd won´t remember you or your face, regardless of what happens. You´ll never meet them again.
/r/seduction08/07/15 07:41 AM
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Kino, eye fucking, teasing.
/r/seduction08/07/15 07:12 AM
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You know how that feels.
/r/seduction08/07/15 06:57 AM
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Just be yourself man. Read the sidebar. It comes all down to: Grooming, emotional health, happiness from within, confidence, showing vulnerability and active listening. And kino.
/r/seduction08/07/15 06:54 AM
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Like a typical man the only emotion I seem to feel is frustration. That´s sexist! No really, being a man doesn´t mean to be emotionally dead. It even helps to feel emotions with emotional connections. You and her, talk about: family passions, dreams and goals hobbies (stupid) fears you have/had as a child something embarassing and funny that happened to you
/r/seduction07/07/15 07:08 PM
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It´s visible in the eyes, your face is tense and smiling seems forced and unnatural. How to fix: accept that you are far from ugly and get some confidence.
/r/seduction07/07/15 11:20 AM
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If you get rejected, you didn´t fail. Rejection isn´t about you. If the woman is in a bad mood, in a hurry, in a relationship or whatever, you can´t influence this. Maybe you´re just not her type. Rejection really isn´t about you and it isn´t failure.
/r/seduction07/07/15 08:35 AM
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I am not someone that can approach random girls That´s just in your head. they might call police or security Won´t happen. If you think it will happen, start running as an exercise so you´re faster than the security ;) think that I am worst weirdo You´ll never meet them again, who cares if that happens.
/r/seduction07/07/15 07:02 AM
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Women are way less into looks than men. Be confident and fun to be around and you´ll have success. I´m speaking from experience.
/r/seduction07/07/15 06:05 AM
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Now you know how hot girls feel. Pretty interesting introspective.
/r/seduction07/07/15 06:03 AM
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Getting rejected is not failure.
/r/seduction07/07/15 05:59 AM
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It´s getting ridiculous dude.
/r/seduction07/07/15 05:56 AM
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Then get some fucking help and don´t post on reddit every day. Every post drives you deeper in "these toxic thoughts". You seem to have a serious problem with your looks and can´t accept that they don´t matter that much. You´re not overweight, not deformed, you´re tall. You just need fucking confidence. In your photos, your lack of confidence is visible. GET HELP! Or just start believing that you aren´t ugly. IF you think you´re too skinny, work out. More muscles mean more testosterone and you c…
/r/seduction07/07/15 05:52 AM
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You don´t know whatsapp? Wow, I´m surprised.
/r/seduction06/07/15 09:12 PM
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You want to live in a sitcom? Proximity might make it easier to set up plans, but with whats app groups you don´t have that problem. And if you don´t live too far away, no problem either. You want to live in a house full of bachelors? I really don´t know a word for this, especially not in English, but there might be "bachelor flats" "non college frat houses" or I don´t know what. Aren´t you just romantizing the living situation in a dorm because you didn´t have to put much effort into meeting ne…
/r/seduction06/07/15 08:16 PM
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In my book, there´s a difference between the guy who is friendly to and talks to everyone and the predateresque guy only running after hot women. Just like I said one sentence later in my reply, you should talk with everyone, that way it´s way more natural to approach women in the gym and they don´t raise the guard and you´ve got the benefit of the doubt.
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:53 PM
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I don´t know your area. And it depends on what you and she like. Try to not be too repetitive. Hiking/Cycling somewhere nearby and having a picknick is cool. Search for "date ideas" on /r/dating_advie there a plenty of free/cheap things. I like coffee, so meeting for a coffee and having a walk afterwards and being spontaneous is fine. Maybe a competition. Everybody has a budget of 5$, who can find the most hilarious deco thing in 15 minutes. There´s so much you can do. If she´s competitive, spic…
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:27 PM
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Even if they are wearing headphones, gym isn´t forbidden land. Just don´t be the creepy guy hitting on all the women. Be friendly and social in general. Talk with guys too, maybe ask them for critique on your form. Help the newbies. Talk with the employes. If people donßt want to be bothered, the´ll either tell you or give you some cues. You can pick up in church. You just have to adjust your approach. Work is difficult but not impossible, but I personally think it´s risky, especially if you som…
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:19 PM
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First, this question is specific for one girl so it belongs to /r/askseddit. kino play has been practically nothing You have to implement it into your habits, kino everyone. cut out the compliments An honest compliment is fine, but too much and you seem needy/invested. beach Playful kino. A compliment on her bikini body (if she has one), best accompanied by kino. hibachi dinner and go kayaking Many guys here don´t like dinner dates, especially as first date ideas. Expensive, high investment, not…
/r/seduction06/07/15 05:09 PM
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I know a few guys who party hard. They got laid pretty often on parties and such at the age of 15 and keep getting laid.
/r/seduction06/07/15 04:41 PM
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Because you are more invested in hot women because you put them on a pedestal. This means you´re still insecure and need to work on your confidence.
/r/seduction06/07/15 04:39 PM
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Unsufficient info here. How much did you kino, how far did you escalate? Showering her with compliments without sexual escalation has no use for you. I´d escalate and see how it goes. If she doesn´t want commitment, you still can have a casual thing if you want that. Or she´ll change her opinion, people can do this quite fast. Don´t take things slow, be as direct and escalate as far as possible.
/r/seduction06/07/15 04:34 PM
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Create your own club? Volunteering? You´re more or less doing everything possible, try to put yourself out there as much as possible. Daygaming and cold approaching might be the next best try.
/r/seduction06/07/15 04:25 PM
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Should I just ask her what was wrong the next time I speak to her I wouldn´t talk about it as long as she doesn´t mention it. Try escalating again, this time not with "May I undo your bra, m´lady?" but just kino escalate and do it. As long as there´s no "no" or no physical resistance, you´re doing it right. Be more assertive, more dominant and less insecure.
/r/seduction06/07/15 04:12 PM
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Stop masturbating. of course you don't feel complete without a girl on your side. Not true. Don´t expect anyone but you (and your mom) to make you happy. Having makes life not good, only (even) better. If you don´t want a gf, you don´t need one. It´s good to have passions, goals and dreams. Pursue them. For now, try abstaining from porn and masturbating (e.g Mark Manson recommends getting off once every two weeks, it´s not all about NoFap) and see if there´s more motivation. I get more motivated…
/r/seduction06/07/15 04:05 PM
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What appeals to you guys about playing romantic relationships like a game This is in no way the reason why I´m here. It´s about improving yourself, being the best version of myself and just leading an active social live. Lots of people have no problem with socialising. But many guys have trouble reading body languages, lack experience, aren´t confident, feel introverted and are just plain clueless. After reading the sidebar, I realized why I had success or lack thereof with women and now that I …
/r/seduction06/07/15 03:53 PM
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live in a big house with a bunch of other similar aged guys Haha.. Jokes aside, you´re looking for a roommate? Meeting single guys might work best in night clubs or clubs for activites. Or the YMCA or the Navy. Just the general advice on how to meet people.
/r/seduction06/07/15 02:56 PM
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Losing your virginity is really not that big of a deal. Apart from that, live the life you want to live. You don´t need any special advice. There were people like you before and they did it, so you are also capable of it. Stop excuses and overthinking, start living.
/r/seduction06/07/15 02:19 PM
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/r/askseddit. Short: Be attractive. Approach. Have Date. Fuck her.
/r/seduction05/07/15 07:55 PM
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If you escalate right you don´t have to say "date" to make clear a meetup is not just a "let´s be friends" thing. Touch/Kino, sexual frame all that. And asking her out implies interest. You have to polarize for results.
/r/seduction05/07/15 07:20 PM
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Approach Anxiety is very common, every suffers from it and everybody has to deal with it. Fix your teeth for your health, investing in yourself is never wrong. You don´t have to approach to find a wife eventually. So many AFCs or Betas or normal dudes without game - however you will call them, they all got some women. Through their social circle and luck. But are they happy and have the best wife possible? Mostly not. It isn´t easy, progress will stagnate something, but "DO.IT!!!"
/r/seduction05/07/15 07:16 PM
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I can´t really give you any recommendations for RSD stuff, there are lots of videos on Inner Game. 21st Convention videos (mostly) Liam McRae (Inner Game, Escalation): This and this. James Marshall (Inner Game): This and this. Sasha Daygame (Daygame, Direct): This and this. Nick Sparks: A really good public speaker, if you have that much time, watch all of the long videos, the best is "How to hold conversation like a man" The 21st Convention is a great souce for videos. There are lots of other v…
/r/seduction04/07/15 09:12 PM
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Booze seems to give you liquid courage. Alcohol lowers your inhibitions, so you have to work on your sober Inner Game. If you´re drunk you don´t care about how others perceive you and just want to have a good time. This is also possible sober. Getting out of your head and being in the moment can for example be achieved by meditation. It´s possible but also hard work.
/r/seduction04/07/15 06:07 AM
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Search here. There are a few good books on the topic. You should either find something recommended in seddit or amazon. I can´t recall any titles though..
/r/seduction04/07/15 05:53 AM
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/r/highseddit/ might be the place to look for, it´s seddit for highschool.
/r/seduction04/07/15 05:48 AM
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approaching? random strangers? are you insane? are people actually doing that? and say what? and why? dafuqs your excuse to interrupt what other people are doing and just get in their way? You are still full of limiting beliefs. You just have to do it. Watch the first two videos. You just have to do it. Talking with strangers is perfectly normal, how do you think people meet each others? Even friends have once been strangers.
/r/seduction03/07/15 07:07 AM
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Nobody cares about your lack of skills with kissing/sex. Really, just do it and enjoy the process. If you happen to get with an experienced woman, you might even ask her "tell me how to fuck you right". Don´t be ashamed of a lack of experience.
/r/seduction03/07/15 06:24 AM
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It´s not always bad to look openly at boobs/ass, but you have to flirt and escalate first.
/r/seduction02/07/15 07:09 PM
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Usually guys find it hard to talk with women. What´s your problem with guys? Do you fear competition or are afraid to be judged? Ignore it, it happens seldom, who cares. Is it something sexual, like being closeted or negative childhood experiences (no offense)? I find it hard to give advice because I never had problems talking with other guys, so think about the roots of this problem. Maybe just start gaming them too and believe you are good with people, both men and women.
/r/seduction02/07/15 08:16 AM
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I DO tend to stare at women Don´t stare. they often have a very stern look on their face. Either because you stared at them and they are unsettled or it´s just a resting bitch face. at 6'3" I stand out a bit, so I'm not sure if they look at me like that because I'm very physically unappealing All small guys would kill to be that tall. Own it. or for another reason Rejection is never about you, there are 1000 reasons. Should I just ASSUME that they find me attractive Yes. or not lie to myself and…
/r/seduction02/07/15 08:11 AM
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You signaled disinterest in the conversation by giving one line answers. Just elaborate on your answer and ask her some questions and a conversation will start. You need to listen actively and learn how to thread conversations.
/r/seduction02/07/15 07:23 AM
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"How are you? Let´s grab a drink and catch up. XY Bar on Thursday/whatever evening."
/r/seduction02/07/15 07:17 AM
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Don´t judge them for drinking/taking drugs, it´s that easy. If you think you´re better than them because you´re clean, fine, but don´t show it. It´s their personal decision. Don´t look at them like they were worthless. Go with the flow, have fun with them. Nobody is perfect and I also judge people. (Heavy) drug use for example is a deal breaker. But you have to be open-minded and be willing to get to know the person before you finally can decide how you think/feel about that person. That doesn´t…
/r/seduction02/07/15 06:26 AM
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I guess you´re a rookie and you didn´t read the sidebar. Do it asap. For now, a few basics. Eye contact: always Smile: Smiling is good. Smirks are good. If a woman smiles at you, smile back and assume it is an approach invitation. Keep eye contact. Approaching (groups/anyone): Approach them. Say hi, how are you doing, how are the kids. Start with small talk and be interested in others. Kino. Problem of being a jerk: Don´t only talk to women, talk with everyone, then you´re just a social person.
/r/seduction01/07/15 07:33 PM
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Your Inner Game is very weak. As bad as you describe yourself, it can´t be. I skimmed your first post, you already had lots of accomplishments. Did you read the sidebar? "Models"? Might be very important for you. You´re not too old for going out and going out alone is no shame either. And it´s not creepy to approach as long as you´re well groomed and believe it´s not creepy. How do people meet each other? They have to talk to each other. Even friends have once been strangers. For meeting people,…
/r/seduction01/07/15 06:48 PM
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Link in the FR. Hone your social skills. Reading a few books doesn´t hurt, apply what´s possible/makes sense.
/r/seduction01/07/15 12:38 PM
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What guy would make a 15 hour trip for a date with a woman you don´t really want to date? It´s not even a lie if you say you to are too far away. Making this trip is incredible needy. Lesson learned: Being less invested than her often makes women attracted. If you happen to be closer in the near future keep the iron hot, but otherwise just say that you don´t mind texting with her (if you do want to keep contact) but the distance makes it impossible to date.
/r/seduction01/07/15 10:36 AM
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Half assed question, half assed answer.
/r/seduction01/07/15 10:30 AM
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You could have explained it further. I´m sure there are already some FRs. Have good time, go for the music and not pick up. Be social and go with the flow. Think of your logistics.
/r/seduction30/06/15 08:55 PM
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I´d defintitely meet with her. If she´s exclusive and you don´t want to interfere, totally ok. Get a new female friend.
/r/seduction30/06/15 08:25 PM
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Already lots of good advice here. Just keep in mind to be not judgemental. If others want to drink, fine, let them do it. Don´t lecture them or make excuses why you don´t drink. As long as you can be as high energy as the drunk people, you´re fine.
/r/seduction30/06/15 08:23 PM
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You might be interested in reading "Conquer your campus".
/r/seduction30/06/15 08:20 PM
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Use the search function.
/r/seduction30/06/15 08:02 PM
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I mean there is attraction so what else do you need [...] What do you do next A close. #, kiss, whatever. Stay in contact and date. Without asking her out you´ll never know how she feels about you. I am quite a noob Read the sidebar.
/r/seduction30/06/15 08:02 PM
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Don´t put too much weight into things your ex said after you broke up. As a general relationship advice: Communication is king. "I love talking with you until we fall asleep, but sometimes, if I don´t feel like it, I just have to be for myself when I´m not in a talkative mood. This doesen´t mean that I don´t want to have contact with you but I need time for myself once in a while". How can I prove to girls that I'm going to put forth the effort to be with her without her walking all over me? Act…
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:56 PM
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Humble brags have shown to be a huge disqualifier in social interactions. Just mention casually what you´re doing. If they want to hear more they´ll ask about it.
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:48 PM
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Bad news buddy, skin contact or kissing is enough for a lot of things. Then look at the Pearl Index for the different means of birth control. Always use a condom, take a shower after, avoid oral when in doubt, learn to identify diseases and get yourself checked regularly or if you think you might have catched something. Most infections only need some antibiotics or even less as treatment and especially HIV is not that likely to catch as a heterosexual. Just take care.
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:36 PM
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Maybe he talks about the band? I´m getting a pretty negative vibe from you. If this is just your interent alter ego, whatever, if you are like this in real life, you need a more positive mindset. Did you read Models? How do you think pick up is a crutch? In a nutshell you´re justifying your lack of action taking by surrendering to things you can´t change. What is "too old"? Men reach their prime at around 35, appearance-wise. Dancing keeps you fit, keep soing it man. You already had success and …
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:19 PM
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Depression? Are ypu stressed out, had big changes in your daily life? Is your diet and sleep schedule in check? Do you have any diseases? Are you exercising and having hobbies? MAybe you´re just too eager to pick up, but think about your current lifestyle and eventually visit a doctor if nothing else helps.
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:11 PM
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Approaching a group: "Hey you guys seem to have fun, had to hello". Done. Don´t make excuses.
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:07 PM
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Just make those baby steps every newbie has to make. Eventually you´ll pick up momentum and will be back in your old state.
/r/seduction30/06/15 06:00 PM
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If you think you didn´t make enough eye contact, you definitely didn´t make enough eye contact. You don´t have to be high energy. Accept the state you´re in and roll with it. RSD Tyler is very good with Inner Game and state control, you might also chekc out some 21st Convention Videos (Sasha Daygame PUA, James Marshall or how their names are). Keep doing approaches.
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:54 PM
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If you´re afraid that you might suffer from depression I urge you to talk with a doctor. There´s nothing to be ashamed of and often youj don´t even need to do a lot to feel much better.
/r/seduction30/06/15 05:14 PM
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I believe in the basics as Dopamin, keeping away from porn and motivation to approach. "Superpowers"? Well.. Edit: He deleted his account and asked it again: http://redd.it/3bjbzo. Interested to see your answer if you give one.
/r/seduction29/06/15 10:36 PM
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Unbreakable or lots of humble bragging. You don´t seem that modest in my opinion. You say you´re good looking, well off and educated. You have things you´re passionate about. Some guys tell theirselves they are a catch to fake confidence til they make it. You don´t have to tell this yourself, you just have to accept it. On a kitchen psychology level, you might suffer from "imposter syndrome" (hope it´s spelled right). You don´t seem to have any reasons for self-doubt. Did you try meditation? Bec…
/r/seduction29/06/15 08:48 PM
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/r/sex. There´s plenty of good advice advice already, also very good instructions. There´s no shame in being shy or not liking dirty talk. But confidence means also to challenge your comfort zone and step out of it. Maybe you love doing it and are missing out big. Only do what you´re comfortable with, especially regarding sex. More important than talking dirty is talking about what you and your partner like, want to try and how to improve the experience for everyone. Before, while and after havi…
/r/seduction29/06/15 08:32 PM
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This is like the first world problem of AA. If you really don´t feel like it, don´t do it. Going into a conversation with "I´m rude to my family" won´t bring you far. Of course you still can be social, but it´s really not the typical approach anxiety. Just make up for it with approaching and closing harder the next time you can do it.
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:39 PM
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Approach them. I´m borrowing a quote: Realise that the pain of wondering `What if´is 100 times bigger than the pain of rejection. So you didn´t approach, you should have. Over is over, do it next time.
/r/seduction29/06/15 06:34 PM
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Maybe /r/NoFap? It´w quite motivating to have to find a woman to get off and not just do it yourself. Many authors and PUAs, e.g. Mark Manson, give advice like "only masturbate once every two weeks and if you do it, not to porn, but relaxed in bed/bathtub with as little imagination as possible". Apart from that, eye contact, proximity. Maybe watch this. Innuendos, a sexy grin and so on.
/r/seduction29/06/15 06:29 PM
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Problem #1: If one or both of you are under the age of consent, it would be illegal to give you any tipps how to get anything but a kiss (I assume). Problem #2: Holding hands? Did you two even hit puberty? Solution: Get confident. Hold hand. There are guides for kissing.
/r/seduction29/06/15 05:38 PM
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Will you ever meet her again? And do you really believe this would work, not thinking about the distance? Just tell her it won´t work out because of the long distance (and because she´s emotionally unstable [except you gamed her so hard to make her crazy]) and you don´t want to steal her time. Then just don´t initiate conversation again and don´t reciproce too much and it will just end.
/r/seduction28/06/15 08:24 PM
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People are too lazy to go search stuff, even if it´s in the sidebar. teasing, touching etc.) also seem rather boring. What is fun for you? You can´t collect souls while getting with girls. If you hate socialising you´ll project that and it won´t work anyway. If you´re uncomfortable being touched, sex and relationships seem to be rather uncomfortable for you. And if you can´t stand getting teased, you have other stuff to worry about than approaching.
/r/seduction28/06/15 08:19 PM
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Why not just ask her in person? Because, you probably have balls and can do it.
/r/seduction28/06/15 08:11 PM
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If she says "No" then you back off. But if she says "No", then she´s just playful and you gor for it.
/r/seduction28/06/15 08:08 PM
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Are you totally against monogamy or only think it´s ok when you choose to get into a monogamous relationship?
/r/seduction28/06/15 07:21 PM
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You forgot the lesbians in your equation I think. Do you know /r/writingprompts? The article works as a blogpost, but what kind of book do you want to write? I´m not sure if I would read this as a book or what your unique selling point is.
/r/seduction28/06/15 06:27 PM
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not that picky - not overweight, college education, white, and at least somewhat attractive Well race and education is kind of a big filter in my opinion. On the other hand, not being overweight already narrows it down to a third of the female population.
/r/seduction28/06/15 06:15 PM
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Read the first few at least and watch this video. The faster you can escalate the better, in general you mostly start near zero or at least some steps behind at a new date even if you had sex. Work environment: Be discrete. Accidental touch and "professional kino" (arms, shoulders..). Don´t let others watch (social reputation). Don´t shit where you eat, but many guys dip their pens in company ink. If you want to try a longer thing with her, better idea than just a ONS. Lots of couples meet at wo…
/r/seduction28/06/15 05:47 PM
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Would it be legal to close?
/r/seduction28/06/15 02:26 PM
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You have any hobbies? Join a club. Maybe volunteer. Especially if you live in a bigger city just go to parks, cafes, book stores, what you like and daygame. Do stuff with your friends, maybe host your own parties/events and make your friends invite new people. There´s plenty to do.
/r/seduction28/06/15 10:04 AM
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It´s only weird if you make it weird. Research conversation in this sub, there´s already plenty of advice.
/r/seduction28/06/15 09:51 AM
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I'm not THAT much of a loser. I have known her for over a year. We've talked about deep issues. She's talked to me about her past issues and addiction recovery. I know her flaws and good points, and I still love her. Excuses man. Do you love her or just the idea of being with her? What did you two experience together? Sex, obstacles you overcame together, fights, trips, quality time together? Probably all of them nope. Living with a woman other then you relatives alone can pretty fast end this "…
/r/seduction28/06/15 08:27 AM
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It´s you again. Why are you getting so crazy about your appearence? Avoid Tinder, amiugly and so on for a month, work on your self esteem and realise you´re a perfectly normal looking dude.
/r/seduction28/06/15 08:03 AM
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Or use /r/R4R. Just kidding, if I could choose between watching movies at home or clubbing, I´d watch some movies. But you don´t meet many people that way, so outside we go.
/r/seduction28/06/15 08:00 AM
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Maybe she doesn´t give IOIs to guys who she thinks are gay? Don´t wait for IOIs, assume attraction and escalate as far as possible. Don´t expect too much, you Nice Guy friendzoned yourself probably too much already.
/r/seduction27/06/15 10:38 AM
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Smile. High five the first person you see that smiles when you make eye contact. Realise everything´s possible.
/r/seduction27/06/15 09:00 AM
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Even though reading material is not a cure all and taking action is most important. But my recommendations are: the sidebar some top posts search for "how to kiss", "how to dance" there are great guides on reddit "How to win friends and influence people" "Models" for your situation: "Conquer your campus" If you don´t want to spend money on the books, torrent them and buy them if you liked them (I think that´s the fairest approach). Don´t feel bad about yourself, most of us started without any cl…
/r/seduction27/06/15 08:55 AM
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Search "text game" in seddit and browse /r/dating_advice for cool date ideas; read some top posts and the sidebar.
/r/seduction27/06/15 06:50 AM
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Music or me. Strike up a conversation with her.
/r/seduction26/06/15 07:43 AM
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Maybe edit this into your post to prevent misunderstandings.
/r/seduction26/06/15 07:28 AM
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/r/sex, /r/askwomen (be careful)
/r/seduction25/06/15 07:26 PM
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Once you go black, you never go back. You can´t change your skincolor (you really can´t, Michael), so own it. There are some black dudes who get laid just because they´re black. Some don´t get laid because they´re black. In the end it doesn´t matter (much) if you connect with the girl. I´m white, mostly (only) know white people and therefore picture myself usually with white women but I´m not opposed to any race. Just be aware of any negative stereotypes and try to avoid them. Asians are usually…
/r/seduction25/06/15 07:26 PM
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Instant reward/gratification is a general human trait. What is the most attractive male trait? Confidence.
/r/seduction25/06/15 07:19 PM
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You might just care to explain or say please, you know dude? Nobody cares about you. The most important person in everyone´s life are they themselves. Why should people laugh about you if you groom yourself, wear decent clothes and do nothing ridiculous? It´s not highschool anymore and even in highschool it doesn´t happen too much. People just don´t care.
/r/seduction25/06/15 05:32 PM
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World doesn´t revolve around you. Who? What?
/r/seduction25/06/15 05:03 PM
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Invite her to activities with multiple people and game her as usual but avoid most/all sexual tension.
/r/seduction25/06/15 04:45 PM
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What´s the problem? Do you really think you will get there and will marry her? Maybe she started dating with 22, maybe she´s younger. Maybe she just says "No" or you can´t connect with her. Take every chance of socialising and gather reference experience, always escalate as far as possible.
/r/seduction25/06/15 09:55 AM
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Yes.
/r/seduction25/06/15 08:56 AM
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I wait for IOIs before approaching any girl Don´t you think there are socially awkaward women? Not every women knows how to flirt, attract you, invite you to come over. Or they just don´t even recognize you. Others will be charmed by confidence even though they wouldn´t have gone for your looks. But, I kinda feel awkward and little weird to approach girls that are by themselves and when 15 - 20 people are watching you. Don´t feel awkward. You´ll probably never meet those people again, why bother…
/r/seduction24/06/15 07:59 PM
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Links to quality videos/posts are appreciated, as mentioned in the guidelines.
/r/seduction24/06/15 07:49 PM
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I´m taking a wild guesses here. Maybe you´re more introverted than extroverted and need to "recharge". Maybe your diet became worse changed and/or you lack some micronutrition. Maybe you just have a kind of oneitis. It could be an organic issue. Maybe even some kind of depression due to hormonical imbalances. /r/NoFap could be a start for you, then try to eliminate one factor after another. Eat healthy, do sports. Force yourself to do social stuff. Never decline a social activitie. You might wan…
/r/seduction24/06/15 06:38 PM
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Did you read "Models"? Don´t apply any method by hard. You have to be yourself, so get tips and apply what suits your style. There are 7s who think they are 10s and 10s that feel like a 6. And if every girl is a 9 or 10 in an avenue, the 9.6 feels like a 6 and the 9.7 like a 7. After all, just assume they are women and human beings and treat everybody the same.
/r/seduction24/06/15 06:32 PM
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Good that you take the advice to your heart. I was very harsh with you, but your mindset is right now is very toxic for you and your surrounding. However, I have seen that girls who work ( or at least part time jobs ) have sense of what to talk or not , when and where to go and how to behave to office parties and around friends and stuff like that. I don´t get this point. Do you think club girls are all unemployed or bratty or lower-class prolly? How do occupation and manners correlate? Just cur…
/r/seduction23/06/15 09:04 PM
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This sub is about getting the woman. And as gaming her never stops, you can use it for keeping the woman. There are few but good posts about relationships. This post in particular is quite off-topic though.
/r/seduction23/06/15 08:20 PM
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Go with the vibe. To each their own. But I think there´s some truth in the principle that you always have to be (slightly) less invested than her.
/r/seduction23/06/15 08:16 PM
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/r/datingadvice? What kind of unforgettable? Events, activities, sex? If your guy likes blowjobs, they are always appreciated.
/r/seduction23/06/15 08:07 PM
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The intent isn´t needy, how you word it can make it needy. "I´m free Thursday and Friday, wanna do activity?" is better. "I´m going to some place on Thursday, come join me" is very assertive. It all has the same message "Let´s meet" but has very different frames.
/r/seduction23/06/15 08:05 PM
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If you think you can trust her it shouldn´t bother you. Are you getting jealous if people look at her in a bikini? You already confronted her about it, but you could talk with her about it with an "anti neg", I mean a "backhanded criticism": "You really look good, it makes me almost uncomfortable how all those guys see your pictures and want to be with you". But after all, you have to accept it or find a new girlfriend.
/r/seduction23/06/15 08:01 PM
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Being an attractive man probably is the same for a gay guy. But I guess being in decent shape in a bigger community should grant you wuite easy game.
/r/seduction23/06/15 07:43 PM
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Hey man, you got reference experience and a kiss, that´s great. don´t know about your experiences til this point but you made it once, you can make it happen again with another girl. There's no way I should have been able to pull this girl from her 2% body fat (for real), 19 year old, prospect wall street exec, with a brand new car, and a pretty on point sense of style boyfriend That´s a self-limiting belief (in genereal, this case was really more that luck favors the bold). chubby, pot smoking,…
/r/seduction23/06/15 07:32 PM
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There are very cheap pills with moderate side effects for you hair. I don´t know about the stuff but it´s just something which is sold usually very expensive but in another pill it´s very cheap, can´t remember it. malehairadvice or askmen might give you an answer. But the hair shouldn´t really be a problem, just own your flaws. There are 5´4 Asian dudes who are pick up instructors (DJ Fuji) nad you say you have it hard? Get rid of the loser mindset, become your best self and work with it because…
/r/seduction23/06/15 07:26 PM
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my hairline He thinks you´re getting bald. Or he thinks bald guys are badass.
/r/seduction23/06/15 07:19 PM
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Excuses. You´re lean and complain. If you were fat, you would complain about that. Sure, change yourself but you can be successful right now. very friendly personality Nice Guy doormat? Or just kind and nice to everyone while still having a backbone? All in all you believe you´re unattractive and that´s your problem. You´re better of than lots of guys, make the most of it. Wear fitting clothes, confidence is by far the most attractive trait of a man. Nobody hates you. Find evidence that lanky du…
/r/seduction23/06/15 07:17 PM
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Did you ask /r/sex or /r/fPUA? Most important is to communicate with your partner. Talk about your fantasies. Dirty talk and light to hard spanking is an obvious but important thing in my opinion. "SportSheets Under the bed restraints" recommended in this sub for tieing hands to the bed and stuff. Hitachi Magic Wand (for obvious reasons). Your boyfriend might read "She comes first". You both could try to become great with oral. Maybe try edging together (think it´s called Karezza) or while givin…
/r/seduction23/06/15 07:11 PM
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Online dating doesn´t mean anything. Are you grooming yourself well? It´s actually quite difficult to be repulsive, what is your issue? Your post is full of self limiting beliefs and excuses.
/r/seduction23/06/15 06:53 PM
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Tell this to yourself, believe it, live in your mother´s basement until you die alone and sad. You don´t have to do this right from the start, but you have to do something. Read the sidebar, practice the stuff in babysteps.
/r/seduction23/06/15 06:44 PM
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Really appreciate your contribution but this ADD writing style is very hard to read and the "tl;dr" has almost as much information as your whole post and it´s not really new advice. Practice writing if you like it and you´ll sure make some quality posts in the future. Edit: OP, don´t get discouraged. I might come off a little too strong and harsh. My concerns are mostly your style of writing funny and lighthearted which blows the article up and probably doesn´t help to express your ideas. I like…
/r/seduction23/06/15 06:35 PM
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Well, maybe you get another try. Better a stupid kiss tahn none at all. It´s only awkward if you make it awkward. But this kind of information is important to give in the beginning so everybody can assess the situation right.
/r/seduction23/06/15 06:24 PM
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Forget everything you think to know about women and dating. Shouldn´t be too much anyway. So here you are, without any knowledge. Therefore, you read the sidebar. Back? Great. Starting to approach people, there´s no shame in making baby steps. Don´t think it´s creepy to talk with people. It´s more likely that you´re perceived as a creep right now. If you take care of yourself and behave confident, it´s fine. Take this example: Betty waits for her bus. It will arrive in 20 minutes, so she sits do…
/r/seduction23/06/15 05:41 PM
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I can´t see any problem here. The name shouldn´t be an issue at all. Except you think your mom´s name is ridiculous.
/r/seduction23/06/15 04:58 PM
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Don´t be a bitch. Haha. You might watch this video about sexual escalation. Do you know the "How to kino" videos? Search for it in the search field, it´s the on the top. Detailed info about your FR: We went to the bar, it was just us there so the bartender was basically hanging out with us, didn't feel appropriate to do at the time, I don't feel like I bitched out in this instance If the vibe was right in that moment, it would have worked. Quite alone and a kiss is a kiss. "Drag her into a corne…
/r/seduction23/06/15 04:57 PM
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If you like her, date her. As always, don´t become too attached (oneitis) or needy. Try to meet/date other women as long as you´re not exclusive, it´s the best way to have an abundance mindset.
/r/seduction23/06/15 04:36 PM
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Sure, it´s different. But why not gaming at gym/yoga classes and in addition gaming at night, too? You just increase the probability of success. Numbers game and so on. The likelihood of wasting time/money with a drunk skank is higher at a bar/club. I think that´s a bad mindset. You never waste time talking with people and sharpening your social skills. You shouldn´t waste money on women because a general rule is to not buy them drinks at all. Everyone buys girls drinks, why not do something dif…
/r/seduction23/06/15 04:29 PM
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To all I´m gonna write: It´s not personal, so no offense. First, due to your writing style I have a feeling that you´re not a native speaker. Are you by any chance an Indian guy living in the US? So, getting it on: Don´t you think you have quite high standards and are very picky and judgemental? Let´s see what you have going for you: You had 3 or 4 dates. That´s great. Some women like you enough to date you. Numbers are given away in order to be polite, but no woman will endure meeting you for a…
/r/seduction23/06/15 04:18 PM
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Experience is king. Apart from taking action, read the sidebar. I like "Models". Try getting a rough idea of what seduction is and immediately apply it. You might meet your next girlfriend on your first day out. Maybe you´ll need 6 months for the first kiss. However, self-improvement and the experiences gained along the way are worth it no matter what.
/r/seduction23/06/15 03:48 PM
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Sidebar. Read it. Then immediately take action. Make a healthy change in your lifestyle. In my opinion "Models" is almost anything you need to know about Inner Game and the sidebar really adds to it. Read the top posts. Once again, take action. If you have a friend who wants to improve his life too, get him into the boat. Start being social from now on. Knowledge is valuable, but action is king. What are your sticking points and your biggest problems right now? Think about it detailed and make p…
/r/seduction23/06/15 03:45 PM
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Do whatever you like. But I don´t really believe in general quality differences. Who knows, maybe the cute reserved girl in the library partys hard in clubs. Hot yoga girls might like clubbing and dancing. I´d say be open to get to know the person you´re dealing with before framing them with stereotpyes.
/r/seduction23/06/15 03:40 PM
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Why can´t you go clubbing anymore? Just go out sober!
/r/seduction23/06/15 03:00 PM
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Good topic, but your conclusions are quite off. In your first "case" you gave her a necklace and other gifts just becuase you talked to her a few times? You drive her around and supplicate because she drunkenly kissed you once? and now you´re all over her and she doesn´t reciprocate? That´s totally "Nice Guy" behavior, welcome to the "Friend Zone". Case 2: You talk with her, probably flirted with her, made the conversation sexual and you were clear in your intentions. That´s how it works. If peo…
/r/seduction23/06/15 02:57 PM
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Depends. The better the pulic transports and logistics are around your place, the own place. So in bigger cities I´d definitely go for my own place if I don´t need a car.
/r/seduction23/06/15 10:48 AM
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RSD Julien mentioned, that he in the beginning just always tried bathrooms in clubs. Then he started scheduling his dates to close in public restrooms and parcs. I guess you have to be creative or take them to their place.
/r/seduction22/06/15 07:55 PM
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Yes. Look at DJ Fuji for example. He´s an pick up instructor and he´s short and asian. But he worked on himself and made it.
/r/seduction22/06/15 07:23 PM
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Search motherfucker, do you use it? Watch at least the first 2 links. Just start physicality in the second you approach, you´re a touchy feely guy and if you do it from the start it´s perfectly normal.
/r/seduction22/06/15 07:13 PM
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Just keep dating and don´t get needy because of oneitis. You should still be approaching and dating other girls to have a good abundance mindset. Don´t talk about getting in a relationship. Just open up and make her open up gradually, e.g. while pillow talk. Do slightly more datey meet ups. Like dinner, best cooking for/with her, movie dates. Mix it up with active stuff like biking or picknicks if you like that. Don´t be too available, have a live besides her. Best case you click very well and s…
/r/seduction22/06/15 06:58 PM
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I dont understand how a girl like her would ever pay attention to a piece of shit like me, lol. My problem is I don't know what to do next. Ask her out? With this attitude you gonna end up in your mother´s basement, alone and depressed. If you don´t even have enough balls to tell a girl you think she´s cute, how will you date her? this is probably the only chance I'll ever have and I don't want to screw it If you are so outcome dependent ypu will definitely screw it up, unless this girls is some…
/r/seduction20/06/15 01:39 PM
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Try to write like an adult and have less sex with men. Edit: We need more info or nobody can help you.
/r/seduction20/06/15 01:28 PM
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Read the sidebar, read "Conquer your campus", go out.
/r/seduction20/06/15 01:24 PM
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If possible, always ask for nu,bers with a purpose. Getting numbers is one thing but soon enough you realise that they don´t mean shit. It would be best to make her already agree to meet up when she gives you her number. "Wanna play basketball/ grab a coffee/some ice cream tomorrow/on day X" or stuff like that when asking for the number makes them way more solid.
/r/seduction20/06/15 01:23 PM
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Sex is in fact pretty awkward and ridiculous. But it is for everyone. Most people are overthinking their first time. And if you´re afraid you don´t last long enough, learn how to use your hands and mouth. Go search things in /r/sex or read something like "She comes first". It´s not like in porn and you won´t be judged.
/r/seduction20/06/15 11:29 AM
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6/10, slim, Dcup, hourglass body, dark hair It´s really true, someone´s 9 is another man´s 6. But don´t feel bad about your decision. You did what you wanted to do, even though a nigth of NSA fun wouldn´t have hurt in my opinion. I gueass now you know you it feels if you flirt with someone needy. I´d say don´t be a dick to her, I´d reply like "I think you´re attractive but I really don´t look for relationships right now and didn´t want to sleep with you and make you feel used".
/r/seduction20/06/15 11:24 AM
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Watch these videos and read the sidebar/top-post kino guides on seddit.
/r/seduction20/06/15 11:14 AM
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Read the sidebar and be aware that you will suck in the beginning and baby-steps of improving is still progress. Take care of yourself. I really like the stuff of the RSD guys, espacially Tyler/Owen because he´s a lot about Inner Game and it motivates me to improve.
/r/seduction20/06/15 11:12 AM
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I have the idea that it is really difficult to be social without drinking alcohol. You say it, the idea. It´s just a self-limiting belief. Do you know RSD Tyler? He does all this shit sober and he also has some videos where he talks about that. Most people daygame sober. Just don´t be a dick about not drinking. I have some friends who don´t drink. Some of them more or less despise if we others drink, they kill some fun. The others even encourage us to drink more and can be as loose sober as othe…
/r/seduction20/06/15 10:04 AM
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You don´t need drugs for game. Many PUAs don´t do any drugs, including tobacco and alcohol. But if you don´t like parties aka socialising, it will be really hard. How do you plan to meet people and have fun with them? You can try introvert daygame, but it seems like you just want to have an excuse why you´re not doing anything right now. Don´t you like people?
/r/seduction20/06/15 08:52 AM
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Watching some stand-up comedians will teach you how to time and deliver jokes and how you can make stuff funny. Read the wikipedia about Jokes. Reading in general improves your arsenal of resources for jokes. Even stuff like pen and paper (e.g. Dungeons and Dragons) can train you to think faster about creative things. Occupy your mind, try finding links between words which aren´t obvious, there are lots of books and videos out there for improving humor.
/r/seduction19/06/15 05:11 PM
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Yeah, give the book a shot. And read the few lenghty posts about realtionships here. Basically, you never stop gaming her. Just game everyone, everytime (to a certain extent).
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:59 PM
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Keep in touch with friends and hobbies. Stay the person your partner has fallen for. Just have a life beside her and give each other some space, even if you are very close and like to be with one another. A little distance like one or two activities per week without your SO probably will make the relationship even better. Don´t smother one another.
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:54 PM
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/r/fPUA
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:49 PM
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Somewhere in the sidebar (I guess) I´ve read something about that. That guy left his girl to get a drink, saw that another man was clearly flirting with his girlfriend and after he got back with a drink he just stood behind the woman, put his hand gently at her waist and just smiled and talked with the guy. Super confident because it was subtle and he stayed very calm and positive.
/r/seduction17/06/15 08:46 PM
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Dude, fat confident and funny guys get laid all the time. And you gotta approach anyone at best. Why don´t you just beleive that results can be seen already and get a sense of entitlement for hot women? You´re working on yourself, never stop improving. Lots of guys (RSD, Good Looking Loser etc.) hsvr covered this stuff and prove that looks don´t matter (they do help to a certain degree though). Just keep going and practice approaching. Because once you´re fit and in shape, there will be another …
/r/seduction17/06/15 08:39 PM
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I am not and can not be someone like pickup artist. This is the truth. Sorry, but let's face it. I do coding all day and you can imagine all seriousness it creates. [...] I am sorry but I don't think I will ever have that courage. Girl might freak out since I am totally foreign or might call Polizei. Don´t wory. Until the German police arrives in SF you´ll be long gone. But jokes aside, these are all just self-limiting believes. Age, race, occupation, looks. Those are just excuses. I saw few vid…
/r/seduction17/06/15 08:34 PM
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/r/skincareaddiction
/r/seduction17/06/15 08:26 PM
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"We´re not having sex" "Ok, we won´t do anything you´re not comfortable with." Then escalate one step back and two ahead. If there is a real, not playful, "No" or physical resistance, immediately back off, address it and, if given, reascalate.
/r/seduction16/06/15 08:43 PM
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You know that a general tipp here is to be passionate about the stuff you do, don´t you? And being an entrepeneur doing something you like is pretty neat. Just talk about it confidently and not too long if she´s not too interested. Say that you´re not video-gaming 24/7 and have other interests, I don´t see any problems here.
/r/seduction15/06/15 09:37 PM
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in my case, time actually is important Are you going to die or join the military? There aren´t really any reasons that make time a factor. Much more, the less dependent you are on the outcome, the more likely it´s going to happen. And for being a miserable, depressed, lonely and fat loser, getting girls is not the solution. Not saying that you´re any of that, but you have to get everything else in order for the most success with women. And you have to practice. A lot.
/r/seduction15/06/15 08:28 PM
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Always assume attraction dude. And just because you escalated with her in the club doesn´t mean you can´t make another date happen. The shy girl next door kinda girlfriend material is also very likely to go clubbing. You go there to meet people. Always be escalating, she will stop you if it´s too much, then just act as if nothing happened and try later.
/r/seduction13/06/15 08:18 PM
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Why didn´t you make a move if she gave you IOI´s? That´s just a stange kind of rationalizing. And you can be genuinely kind and nice and not be a Nice GuyTM don´t think in Alpha Male stuff too much. Now you just can hope that she´s still interested and meet her asap and make a date. Express interest, kino etc.
/r/seduction13/06/15 08:03 PM
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Step 1: Mentors Step 2: Tandem Partners. I think they have that sort of thing on nofap, just guys working on themselves and always keeping in touch so you have pressure to keep to work up. Like wingmen, but not present. Also, there´s e.g. /r/R4R and lairs to find some cool guys to go out with. Edit: Also, if you ask here and you get a wuality answer, others don´t have to ask if they search properly.
/r/seduction09/06/15 07:30 PM
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I recommend "Conquer your campus". Just google it, you should find this book easily. Might have some interesting points for you.
/r/seduction08/06/15 10:59 AM
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Here ya go. Edit: And this. Search for kino escalation.
/r/seduction07/06/15 08:49 PM
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Looks don´t matter, but they help. If you really truly believe you´re 8/10 then you should be bale to pull some girls. "Inner Game" is your problem. Crawl through the sidebar, read "Models" by Mark Manson or "How to win friends & Influence People" and find your true confidence in hobbies and yourself.
/r/seduction07/06/15 09:25 AM
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Don´t be a dick about it. Just make yourself a little bit rare to not appear needy. And flirting is not giving you girlfriends, make a move.
/r/seduction07/06/15 09:20 AM
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You groom yourself and dress yourself well because you respect yourself. You take care of yourself for- who would guess it- yourself. You look good because it´s how you want to look. As long as your clothing is fitting you don´t have to think about that much in general. There are no goes but you wear what you like.
/r/seduction07/06/15 09:17 AM
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Really, don´t believe askwomen. Don´t believe askmen. The demographics are far from being representative. Often it is enough, but just as you shouldn´t take dating advice from women, you also shouldn´t take askwomen too seriously.
/r/seduction06/06/15 02:23 PM
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That´s the common understanding. /r/askmen or /r/askwomen because those questions have been asked so often already.
/r/seduction06/06/15 07:41 AM
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If you make eye contact, how are you behind them? Anyway, my shot is: walk up to them until you´re besides them, give them a light touch on the shoulder and say hi.
/r/seduction05/06/15 10:08 PM
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Okay, maybe I can help. If you "put the pussy on the pedestal", it´s bad. You treat her like she is above you. Thats´bad, obviously. You fear to lose her if you tease her and don´t dare to be challenging and a leader. If you go out to get laid, you gonna have a bad time. You´re anxious to get laid and every minor mistake makes you more and more uneased. You don´t have a mindset of abundance, you´re not outcome independent. If you fail or get rejected, you will lose the will to pursue women. If y…
/r/seduction05/06/15 06:59 PM
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I'm awesome man in his prime If this is your true inner belief, you shouldn´t have issues with Inner Game. Give yourself a reality check. Mind to tell about your usual approach of getting women and socializing? Anyway, you really seem too outcome dependent.
/r/seduction05/06/15 04:53 PM
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How to Hold Conversation Like a Man Nick Sparks
/r/seduction04/06/15 03:06 PM
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Nice trivia with Albert Ellis. Hey, at least I'm trying Hell yeah, you do. And keep trying. Also, you won´t be judged here, this is a place for selfimprovement, support and mutual growth. Keep us updated.
/r/seduction04/06/15 01:17 PM
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But if you do all this stuff for her, she should learn how to please you most, too.
/r/seduction04/06/15 12:55 PM
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In the first few of this series of 10 short videos it is explained how you can shake hands with women in a "seductive" way. For friends, I ususally know how comfortable they are with body contact. Most of them get a handshake and we pull each other into a short hug. Some guys hate it, they get a pat on the shoulders. Women get hugs. Some of them like high fives. Do what you feel like. If you´re partying there´s more energy than on the street so "more intimate" greetings like hugs feel more natur…
/r/seduction04/06/15 12:37 PM
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Congrats on your huge balls, you´re approaching like a champ. I don´t think you need any help with that. Inspiring to see what guys can do as long as they are confident. For the two girls you´re really interested in: Go for it. If you have enough time to date both, do it. As long as you´re not exclusive it´s no problem. And maybe one of them isn´t that much into you, then you´re happy that you also dated the other one. Don´t burn bridges. Still date other girls if you feel like it. Get some ONS …
/r/seduction04/06/15 12:29 PM
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Don´t entertain them. Treat them like you treat your buddies. Read "How to win friends & influcence people".
/r/seduction04/06/15 10:31 AM
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Somewhere in these videos he says that if you squeeze the hand of a woman and she squeezes back, it´s on. Either take small things like that or just kino escalate and see if she´s okay with it or not.
/r/seduction04/06/15 10:27 AM
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Do you know these videos on kino? Might be what you need. I think your lines are pretty good, even though you seem like you are in your head a lot. The absence of Kino was probably your problem. This usually NEVER happens to me on dates Well, she was interested in what you were saying. Also, you tried to talk calm and as you´re always doing this, while your enthusiasm could be felt. That´s good.
/r/seduction04/06/15 10:09 AM
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About the car thing. Cars can really heat up in the sun. In summer it´s up to 80° C (176° F). That´s risky. The others are fine, no sunlight and so on, that´s good. Edit: look in /r/sex for further input if you want to.
/r/seduction03/06/15 10:35 PM
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One problem can be nails. For condom use and fingering it is very important to keep them short. Then storage. Carrying it just in your briefcase? Long exposure to bodyheat and the constant bending makes the latex weak. If you put it only for the night out in your briefcase and use you should be fine. Consider a business card holder, you can fit condoms in there and they won´t be bent anymore. Apart from that, only bad luck like a mistake in the factory could lead to pregnancy then. And there are…
/r/seduction03/06/15 10:02 PM
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You have Approach Anxiety. The solution is exposure therapy. Put yourself out there and approach women. Be outcome independent and be confident. Find reasons to be confident, stand proud and tall or fake it ´till you make it.
/r/seduction03/06/15 09:55 PM
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Yeah wait for her to initiate kino. It would be best to let her approach you as well.. Seriously, go in for kino the second you approach. Establish an atmosphere where this is completely ok to touch. The advice was maybe to "go two steps forward, one backward" and let her sometimes touch you. But take the initiative.
/r/seduction03/06/15 09:53 PM
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Well, read the sidebar for the full package. asian girl who probably is too short for me Only if you believe so. Those other women seemed to show interest in you. You haven´t given that much detail, it´s hurt to spot the problem. now I get up at 6 am because of worrying Get more outcome independent. If you show needynes with women they lose attraction. Browse /r/selfimprovement and work on your Inner Game. Work out, meditate and get your nutrition right in order too feel well. Incorporate confid…
/r/seduction03/06/15 09:46 PM
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You can even aproach girls with earphones. Don´t look for IOIs, assume attraction and approach every woman you find attractive.
/r/seduction03/06/15 08:24 PM
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Text game is mostly not a good idea, because flirting is heavily based on body language and so on and almost not speaking. Keep it very rare, because otherwise you might seem needy. Keep the iron hot but whole conversations are way too much i think.
/r/seduction03/06/15 07:05 PM
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This question belongs more to /r/askseddit. It is too specific for here. Keep in mind next time.
/r/seduction03/06/15 07:04 PM
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Dude I get really negative vibes from your replies. argue ; people that piss me off Get a positive mindset. If you think you don´t like people, people will sense it. Read "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. It´s a classic read and it might be exactly what you need for your attitude. If you don´t have (m)any friends, get some. Seduction is mostly about self improvement and general happiness. Be happy wiht yourself and be a nice and fun guy to be around.
/r/seduction03/06/15 06:18 PM
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How young is young? Search "RSD Tyler Infield" and look at it.
/r/seduction03/06/15 05:40 PM
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I wouldn´t break the frame. Why reward a flake with a more personal way of communication? If you´re talking too much via phone you might run out of stuff to talk about at your date. If you are ususally calling women and it works, then do it. I´d just text her in 2 days "Hope your computer is working again. I made some time at __ let´s meet then for __". Just my 2 cents
/r/seduction03/06/15 04:34 PM
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Alpha females are often referred to as "Queen Bee". But if they are a stereoptypical Queen Bee just for their looks, they´ll have a hard time in the working world where their qualities are no real qualitites and they behave like always but get treated with much less respect and compliments. Can irritate some girls (anecdotal evidence).
/r/seduction03/06/15 04:20 PM
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Reschedule. She gives a valid explanation why she has no time and even gave you a date to reschedule (next week- vague but more than a oneliner). Now you have to set up the date (be active), answer something like "No problem, good luck with your computer. I´ll text you for the date/ Let´s meet at ..." and if you meet tease her for flaking, either with "apple fangirl" or something like "hey swot, finally got out".
/r/seduction03/06/15 04:15 PM
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Embrace it. RSD Tyler is over 30, balding and doing really good. Maybe shave your head and be bald. The absence of hair doesn´t lead to an absence of women.
/r/seduction03/06/15 04:07 PM
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Evolutionary psychology is fun to read, but one shouldn´t take it too seriously. I think AA stems mostly from an inborn scepticism towards strangers and that every child is strongly advised to keep away from the strangers. Evolution, especially how mating happens nowadays and natural selection is more or less switched off, won´t change AA.
/r/seduction03/06/15 04:04 PM
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Remember to touch everyone. Try to do a little more kino, shoulders and arms are very safe to touch natural during conversations. Keep approaching!
/r/seduction03/06/15 02:38 PM
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There are no ultimate 100% success openers, but there are bad ones. "Excuse me" is a bad one. Don´t say sorry, there´s nothing to be sorry about saying that girls look good. In the first approach, you shouldn´t have asked for permission to sit down. Just say hello and sit down while you´re talking to her. Don´t neg.
/r/seduction03/06/15 02:02 PM
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Good FR. Keep us updated!
/r/seduction03/06/15 01:41 PM
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I'm a bodybuilder He has muscles.
/r/seduction03/06/15 01:40 PM
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Don't be a pussy, seal the deal Good conclusion. How much kino did you do before you went to your place? Don't be scared, I'm going to kiss you now. Might have been better. If you feel like you have to "prepare" her for kissing, try the triangle gaze (left eye, right eye, lips, face then kiss) or "You should remember this place" She: "Why?" You: kiss Having fun is way more important than a good line. And feel good about yourself, you almost got with a HB9.
/r/seduction03/06/15 01:34 PM
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Aim for the sky kid. Stay in shape, read, acquire some useful skills, learn how to reapir stuff, it will help in your life. Keep studying and aim for a great career. Stay social, don´t let failure make you doubt yourself. And don´t forget, drugs are bad, mkay.
/r/seduction03/06/15 01:00 PM
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Check /r/selfimprovement for threads about free online courses for anything. Get yourself some skills. Wherever you go establish yourself as a chatty guy who´s fun to be around. If you chat up some people a few time at your gym for example it´s totally acceptable to invite them to do something. Training together or just ask something like "I´ve got time the next few days, any cool stuff to do?". Just invite them to grab a drink and watch sports, play games, watch movies or go clubbing together. …
/r/seduction03/06/15 12:53 PM
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Dance classes has already been mentioned. Sports clubs which are more for the fun than the competition are great. Don´t matter if team sports or solo stuff. Martial Arts are really cool and it´s quite easy to make friends there. If you´re open to anything, just try anything. Cooking classes, volunteering, look in your area for advertised clubs, check e.g. meetup.com for groups in your area.
/r/seduction03/06/15 12:46 PM
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I did not want to approach her I don't have AA Oh yes, you have. Nothing bad about it, everyone has it. This girl wanted you to approach, she made it easy. Still you didn´t talk to her. That´s AA. Become outcome independent. Don´t be afraid of rejection. It happens. Probably more than you like. But you only will have success if you use every opportunity to approach.
/r/seduction03/06/15 12:42 PM
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The odds of pregnanacy are higher than you might think. Perfect use failure is 2%. Perfect use. Regular use: 1 out of 6. For STDs. Check regularly, because skin contact is enough for some diseases.. Oral is also not riskless. Read about it, learn to spot some diseases and good luck with everythink.
/r/seduction03/06/15 12:28 PM
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First of all, you´re not that bad of. You have experience with women, just a dry spell. I never had girlfriend or relationship You don´t need women to be happy. You´re happy and go out and share that happiness with some qualoty women. Don´t feel bad about being single just because society tells you to get into one. What can I do to not come off as horny and desperate Is horny really that bad? Expressing your sexuality shamelessly is a good thing. Like the triangle gaze. If you lokk at her lips i…
/r/seduction02/06/15 09:17 PM
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To each their own but I understand why lots of people here think face to face is better than wasting stuff you could talk about via messaging.
/r/seduction02/06/15 08:56 PM
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Ask here My advice: Talk with guy. Drop some IOS´s and don´t hope that dudes get your hints, being direct helps a lot. I'm not really looking into anything sexual and I don't think that's the reason for anything since the culture I'm surrounded isn't actively seeking for sex most of the time. Are you not interested in it or aren´t you allowed? What is this culture? Being vague doesn´t help.
/r/seduction02/06/15 08:54 PM
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If you have to talk about sex to create a social frame, you´re doing bad. Intense eye contact, kino, proximity and confidence let you talk about almost anything. And it´s your goal to make her talk for the most part anyway. Avoid controversial topics and stuff like clop for small talk and you´re good. You can talk about programming as long as you sell it passionate, don´t overthink things. Online/Texting is only for logistics, so don´t worry about that.
/r/seduction02/06/15 08:38 PM
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Probably they are just actively networking? Haha. Just open them and invite them to coffee, there´s no bad negative outcome to this.
/r/seduction02/06/15 08:34 PM
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Search for "(casual) kino" on Youtube. I don´t have any videos about casual kino in mind right now.. you might check RSD Tyler or Nick Sparks (not the one who directed "The Notebook").
/r/seduction01/06/15 10:55 PM
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A pretty great amount of autists or people with Asperger´s seem to have the spontaneity problem. You´re not alone. But it´s important as it won´t always be the same situation and you have to be fast reacting to shit tests. FRs help you thinking about it, some people just write them for themselves, like a sort of progress log, it´s a good habit I guess. Maybe try exercising spontaneity? Impro comedy/clubs maybe, associating random words together. Playing trough scenarios in your head? Just keep w…
/r/seduction01/06/15 10:00 PM
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Body language is very important and one of the easiest things to improve. It´s a big part, but by far not everything. And it´s not "verbal vs. body language" it´s "verbal vs. non-verbal" communication. Eye contact, posture, smiling, voice alltogether provide more info than what you say.
/r/seduction01/06/15 09:40 PM
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If you´re working together closely it can become complicated. If you´re just after NSA sex and she´s also it probably will be a little easier. If it becomes more serious, think about how the aftermath of your break ups usually is? Hard feelings or neutral coexistence? In either way, don´t show affection at work. And if she seems willing to hang out with you, why don´t you just ask her out? But talk about the desired level of the relationship before anything too intimate happens.
/r/seduction01/06/15 09:34 PM
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You really handled the rejection well! Keep this mindset.
/r/seduction01/06/15 09:28 PM
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Listening ins´t bad. Become an active listener and provide value! Look in /r/selfimprovement for some sites with free courses to almost anything. Try out woodworking, mixing music, reading, drawing, sports. Get into lifting maybe? You have to read tons about nutrition, training, rest, technique; lots of fun biology stuff. Maybe you get into psychology (e.g. hypnosis or cold reading)? Interesting and useful for flirting. Look at meetup.com or /r/R4R for like-minded people. Maybe there´s an archer…
/r/seduction01/06/15 09:25 PM
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Good point. Yeah, being delusional is bad. But like many of the guys at /r/amiugly just believe they are bad even though they already are quite decent. They need a positive outlook most.
/r/seduction01/06/15 08:54 PM
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Fake it till you make it? You´re mostly right, that´s the best way to achieve more confidence or be always up to stuff. But people always say you have to get rid of your self-limting believes because they are sort of self-fullfilling prophecies. Say and think it often enough and it sticks in your head. opt to lead a lifestyle where you aren't looking for 'quick fixes' (because there are very few of those) for specific situations, instead be always ready Definitely. One of the core values here. A…
/r/seduction01/06/15 08:27 PM
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Just copy and paste my comment from somewhere: Touch everyone. If your mother, sisters, aunts etc. available kino them (non-sexually of course, elbow and arms, hugs). Kino guys too. Make it natural. Touch for emphasis. If you´re laughing, touch her arm. Lead her around with your hand on her lower back. Push-pull and if you tease her make a quick hug and an exaggerated "sooo sorry". Literally push pull her: She "insulted" you or has doesn´t like what you like "I hate you" gentle push pull her to …
/r/seduction01/06/15 06:45 PM
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Probably. Dude if you want to ask small questions, /r/askseddit. If you just want validation: You acted kinda cool (I guess from your two sentences) and she gave you her number, which is more than no number. Text her, keep texting short and set up a date asap.
/r/seduction01/06/15 06:36 PM
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Touch everyone. If your mother, sisters, aunts etc. available kino them (non-sexually of course, elbow and arms, hugs). Kino guys too. Make it natural. Touch for emphasis. If you´re laughing, touch her arm. Lead her around with your hand on her lower back. Push-pull and if you tease her make a quick hug and an exaggerated "sooo sorry". Literally push pull her: She "insulted" you or has doesn´t like what you like "I hate you" gentle push pull her to you again "I can´t be mad at you for long." Hig…
/r/seduction01/06/15 06:33 PM
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Exercises I talked about. Sports, especially lifting, running and so on give you an endorphine and testosterone boost. And being fit is important. Just do some push ups and jump around to your favorite upbeat music. I need to gain more confidence That´s your problem. Get you Inner Game in check. The best way of losing approach anxiety is approaching. llusion Of Transparency. You are no open book. For exercises related to confidence.. well, fake it till you make it. Smile and make eye contact wit…
/r/seduction01/06/15 06:16 PM
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Dude, I saw you before. Is your Asperger´s giving you some body dismorphia? You´re average looking. Hit the gym if it makes you feel better, but your style is also good. Is there anything I can do? Realize that you´re not ugly and get some help dealing with it.
/r/seduction01/06/15 04:21 PM
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Read some FRs, do a few exercises. Look at yourself in the mirror and realize how great you are. Say it out loud: "I´m a great dude and gonna have lots of fun going out". Getting girls is not the main goal, just enjoy yourself. That separates you from the crowd.
/r/seduction01/06/15 04:11 PM
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You don´t have to. It´s totally up to you. Maybe read about it.I never paid for sex, but I would be morally ok with it. And it´s not really defeat, some guys say it really was a good experience. I´m not trying to sell you anything, but I like being open-minded about anything.
/r/seduction01/06/15 03:40 PM
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Good points, interesting links. But it seems you mixed the formatting. It´s [text](url), hope it helped.
/r/seduction01/06/15 03:13 PM
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This is a harder one [...] it is a stretch Just as an example of sexual innuendo. As childish as it is, it helps to become comfortbable with talking about sexual things. And just "don´t give a fuck". Everybody knows about sex. As longs as you aren´t too graphic around kids, it´s not bad too say things like that. And /u/BecauseShame it is a controversial topic, but if you´re morally ok with paying for sex (and if it is fully legal where you live), doing it for the fist time really takes away lots…
/r/seduction01/06/15 03:10 PM
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In addition to /r/nofap (which really helps because after some time you have the most sexual aura imaginable) go read about that question on /r/sex. You´re not alone. If you are afraid you can´t pleasure, read some tips. Learn to go down, fingering, the pillow under her hips, dirty talk, proper foreplay. Do what you think sounds good but don´t be too much in your head and don´t just tick off a list. Like for seduction, routines and techniques are great, but enjoying doing the thing is most impor…
/r/seduction01/06/15 02:58 PM
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Or you keep studying for a great career. I don´t really like this image of the beast. It seems more like over the top confidence which annoys people because "stealing girls" and such doesn´t make you fun to be around. It feels a little bit like trolling anyway. Subreddits: * /r/malefashionadvice * /r/fitness * /r/malehairadvice Give yourself a reality check. How is your body language, your eye contact, your kino? Read one or two books and always go out and do stuff for real. Best way of approach…
/r/seduction01/06/15 02:47 PM
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Nowhere. There is no "ultimate opener" which makes her instantly like you. The best opener is good bodylanguage, a smile and "Hi".
/r/seduction01/06/15 01:53 PM
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whereas many tips from "pro PUAs" feel like fast ways to become jerks/clowns. As far as being a clown, you just do what you like to do. Sure, get out of your comfort zone, but be yourself after all. And being funny or ridicilous is not that bad as long as you have the right frame and don´t take yourself too seriously. The essentials of Seddit are also about improving yourself, being happy and then sharing this happiness with others. Also "leave her better then you fond her" is probably the bigge…
/r/seduction01/06/15 01:46 PM
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All the respect for approaching! But your converations seem a little scripted, like you have a certain routine of ticking off one line after the other. Allow yourself more freedom and you will become better by trying more often. Don´t get your hopes up with girl 2. The conversation doesn´t seem longer than 5 minutes and that´s probably not enough to build enough attraction to prevent flakes (yet). Don´t worry about the train, you at least wanted to be active. If you don´t want to game on the tra…
/r/seduction01/06/15 01:08 PM
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As in "How to win friends & Influence people", giving sincere appreciation to others and being interested in them makes people like you. Stand straight, be calm, smile and make eye contact. Give compliment. Keep talking because you don´t care how the other person reacts to it. Be vulnerable and don´t care about what happens. That´s considered "alpha".
/r/seduction31/05/15 03:07 PM
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Mark Manson. It´s recommended here quite often. ETA: Compliments mustn´t be limited to looks. "You´re doing a great job", "Good achievement", "That really was a nice story" etc. are all great, too!
/r/seduction31/05/15 02:37 PM
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Don´t feel miserable. You´re pretty self aware and try to understand what your problems are and look for help and even accept the help offered and think about it. That´s great! You are 100000 times better than anybody on r/foreveralone. I´m a pessimist and often have to force myself to be in a good mood and also a lot in my head. But that can be a good thing. You had a conversation. You fucked up? Yeah, whatever. Then just think about why you fucked up. Change that. What was good about the conve…
/r/seduction31/05/15 12:00 AM
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She would think: "Why has he asked me something so specific? Why does he care? Oh, he wants to pick me up. :/" Let them think it. Once again: You really have to give no fuck. I guess your biggest problems become quite clear: You rationalize why you shouldn´t approach. After all, even if valid, excuses are excuses and don´t get you anywhere. Why should you be creepy? Smile, be confident, be sincere. If they don´t like you, just say bye and go. They still got some friendly appreciation of looks an…
/r/seduction30/05/15 11:24 PM
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How old are you and where are you from (PM me if you don´t like to post it openly or don´t answer it at all.)? See, I don´t say ADHD is not a problem or so, but don´t let it keep you from practicing. After all, it´s more an excuse than anything else. And if you´re talking, listening actively and such, your mind won´t get bored. Just don´t overthink what you will say and so on, it has to be natural after all anyway. On a further note, you´re probably pretty smart. Women like smart guys. You can r…
/r/seduction30/05/15 10:34 PM
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Being rational doesn´t mean you can´t "get out of your head". What do you mean with rational exactly? Anyways, just don´t overthink things. Believe in yourself. How is your most used word. You´ve read all the stuff. You have to apply it. If you say you know what outcome independence is then you know how to achieve it. You need the "I don´t give a fuck" attitude. You had no success with that woman? You don´t give a fuck, you got experience. You had success with the next woman? You don´t give a fu…
/r/seduction30/05/15 09:28 PM
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You said you´ve read the sidebar? Re-read the parts about Inner Game. Outcome independent means that you truly don´t care what happens. You talk to a stranger and screw up? Who cares, you´ll never meet them again, you´ve learned something and there is an abundance of other women to talk to. People care mostly about themselves. And as long as you´re well groomed and smile and go to a woman and just honestly say "I´ve seen you and just had to talk to you because you´re cute" the worst thing outcom…
/r/seduction30/05/15 08:19 PM
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Well you say you aren´t boring. Then be confident that you can easily talk to people. Just realize that everything you talk about with passion is good. And just ask open questions and be an active listener, let others talk. How do you overcome it? Inner game stuff.. Try exposure therapy and talk to people. If it is severe, you might need help, but you don´t seem like it. It is a fact that people don´t perceive you as nervous as you feel: spotlight effect and illusion of transparency. Just be out…
/r/seduction30/05/15 07:32 PM
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Her: "...Are you serious?" You: "Yeah, we´ll play it real quick" If you think you´re boring, stop being boring. Read books, watch shows, get a little into news and politics, be able to discuss some mainstream stuff as a conversational starter. As sort of a homework: Try to screen people. Go out and when you´re walking around look at strangers and think about at least 3 things you could say to them: Do they have great/colorful hair? Do you like their suit/dress? Do they have some headphones? Comm…
/r/seduction30/05/15 03:27 PM
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I personally think the "half your age + 7" rule for the lowest age is a good rule of thumb. But in reality it depends and the older you get it becomes less important. Just don´t use anybody and age is not the problem.
/r/seduction28/05/15 09:52 AM
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I still say it, especially in public. Yeah, I guess they won´t have to deal with sexual transmitted infections. Or sex in genereal :D
/r/seduction27/05/15 11:31 PM
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Unprotected PIV intercourse is not the only way to get a STI ETA: Skin to skin contact is already enough for a lot of nasty stuff. STD´s can also be transmitted via BJ or going down. "Precum" can possibly make a woman pregnant, you´re not really "clear" of sperm unless you last ejaculation was 24h ago and you peed some times from then to now. So, as long as you both aren´t certain that you both are healthy and other forms of contraception are used: ALWAYS use a condom.
/r/seduction27/05/15 12:46 PM
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It´s easier for humans to bond while sharing an extreme experience due to adrenaline und mutual vulnerability of what is happening, hence Brothers in Arms and such. A good thing to establish an emotional connection is that you and her talk about: A (maybe funny) fear you have/had as a kid An embarassing moment (not too embarassing of course, something light-hearted and funny, probably from your days as a kid or teen) Talk about the relationship to your parents A dream or life goal many more
/r/seduction27/05/15 12:21 PM
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Just treat every person the same way. There are now cute girls, attractive girls, ugly girls, cool guys, or creepy guys anymore. They are just people. Chances are that some of the girls you´re not attracted to could be super cool and great friends. And you don´t fall in love with women the first second you see them, you have to date people to see if they are worth it or not. Don´t burn bridges and give it a shot. If you "don´t feel it", be honest. It takes balls to say "I really enjoyed the date…
/r/seduction25/05/15 06:13 PM
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Women are sneaky. They can check you out more discretly. Also many are more reserved when doing it, because of slut-shaming and so on. Further, not all women are good at flirting, many aren´t using IOS´s conciously or at all. That´s why you just assume attraction and talk to women, if they have no interest, they´ll tell you or you´ll see it yourself. So the conclusion is: It means nothing. Just approach.
/r/seduction19/05/15 04:57 PM
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Don´t try too hard to be funny, but the ability to make and deliver jokes and laugh genuinly is clearly a sign of confidence. And for the edit stuff: Edit: typos or Edit: rephrasing and you´re fine, but don´t overdo it because comments to your original post might seem of-topic.
/r/seduction18/05/15 04:31 PM
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Clubs for hobbies. Mall. The street. Parks, bus stops. Literally anywhere where you like to go within the day (even libraries can work), just enjoy yourself.
/r/seduction18/05/15 04:27 PM
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PUA = Pick Up Artist. What you´re looking for is kino (=touching) and if you talked a bit and established rapport, make some jokes or sexual innuendos. Questions like "what is your best/weirdest/etc. with sex?", "do you really think Japanese porn is so weird compared to US porn?" But you have to be really confident to say such stuff and should only do it after building rapport.
/r/seduction18/05/15 04:16 PM
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I think we´re not getting each other. I said that grabbing boobs is not a good conversation starter and that you have to escalate apropriate to the situation.
/r/seduction18/05/15 03:58 PM
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For example, there´s the spotlight effect and illusion of transparency. Short: 1) People don´t always stare at you when you walk around or enter rooms, most won´t even care and the others don´t bother much. 2) You assume that people can read your emotions and thoughts. Wrong. If you feel really nervous, lots of people don´t perceive you as (so strongly) nervous. People won´t recognize your nervous. Don´t give a fuck wha they might think.
/r/seduction18/05/15 03:53 PM
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For example, there´s the spotlight effect and illusion of transparency. Short: 1) People don´t always stare at you when you walk around or enter rooms, most won´t even care and the others don´t bother much. 2) You assume that people can read your emotions and thoughts. Wrong. If you feel really nervous, lots of people don´t perceive you as (so strongly) nervous. People won´t recognize your nervous. Don´t give a fuck wha they might think.
/r/seduction18/05/15 03:53 PM
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It´s just a standard of society that girls usually don´t approach. They have their own kind of anxiety of appearing too needy if they ever approached some guys.
/r/seduction18/05/15 03:43 PM
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Well that´s what the kino ladder says, don´t start with grabbing boobs, make sensible and appropiate body contact.
/r/seduction18/05/15 03:40 PM
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Just the usual, groom well, smell nice, smile etc. Being Indian could also be just sort of a conversation starter, joking about cultural differences and the German image of India. Other than that, treat women like human beings and approach.
/r/seduction15/05/15 08:54 AM
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Escalate properly, read some dating advice, maybe check out /r/dating_advice and go through to sidebar and read what you´re interested about. And for text game, keep it simple and to a minimum.
/r/seduction15/05/15 08:50 AM
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This and this might help. Check the sidebar, maybe /r/r4r helps you.
/r/seduction15/05/15 08:43 AM
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You are showing her that you can be a normal person around her as well as a romantic interest. Isn´t that what negs are all about? And correct me if I´m wrong, but instead of of saying to my mom you have good skin for someone who smokes i said you know for someone who has smoked for 40 years, you do have good skin that both are more or less the same sentences, you just changed word orders. Edit: formatting
/r/seduction15/05/15 08:38 AM
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No whiteknighting, but don´t refer to sexually active women as "sluts". Women are humans just like men and both have the right to and do enjoy sex. Also don´t view women only as sort of a prize you win. Your attitude won´t help your game. I'm getting burned out and kind of turned off by her because I dont know if she is actively sleeping with other dudes. I haven't asked because I dont want her to think I care Either you care and take things in a more "datey" direction and then talk about being …
/r/seduction14/05/15 04:38 PM
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If it´s work related: Don´t shit where you eat. Otherwise: Compliment her dress if you really think she looks over the top fabulous. If there´s a certain event/cause for the party, talk about that. If there´s a speech or something interesting happening, you have it. Or say "Hi" as partys tend to be events where people talk to each others quite naturally. Keep in mind that it might not be socially accepted to flirt (heavily) at this exact party for whatever reason. Just do what you´re always doin…
/r/seduction14/05/15 04:24 PM
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People say don´t judge a book by its cover. But you certainly should judge it by its author´s spelling and grammar..
/r/seduction14/05/15 04:17 PM
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Seddit, I'm an Asian guy and Asian guys - do you find it harder than white guys to pick up chicks? . As already stated, get rid of your self limiting beliefs.
/r/seduction12/05/15 09:57 PM
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Well, personally at least, I can´t imagine doing that. You´re having sex with a woman whilst guided from a female voice coming out of a speaker. Sounds like it kills the mood completely and it might seem that you are so incredibly bad with sex that you need real time instructions. Can´t imagine that. Blindfolding can be very sensual, so no problem with "sexy blindfolding". And if the routine is good it sure wouldn´t hurt to get some new ideas out of it- but i would do it alone. Or maybe if I wer…
/r/seduction10/05/15 04:55 PM
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The idea sounds horrible to me and i can´t imagine random women to react like that in conversations..
/r/seduction10/05/15 11:11 AM
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Feeling redundant, but read the sidebar. /r/mansformation maybe. Just read the sidebar or use the search function.
/r/seduction09/05/15 10:26 AM
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There are a few tips on relationships in the sidebar as well. Basically keep seducing, push-pull, give and take. Maybe look at /r/mansformation or /r/dating_advice and /r/relationships or sexxit for further input. Edit: Formating
/r/seduction09/05/15 10:22 AM
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I´m not the biggest fan of clubs either, but you can learn how to dance http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/cd47m/how_can_i_learn_the_mating_ritual_of_club_dancing/ and just search for "dance" or so in seddit. Further, if you think you don´t add value, you actually don´t. Focus on your Inner Game. Enjoy yourself and others will be more likely to enjoy you too. Again, as for dancing, don´t give a fuck and do what you want, that´s confidence. And if you really don´t enjoy going to clubs, th…
/r/seduction07/05/15 08:47 PM
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Well, i figure i have to stop lurking (and avoid typos btw). Glad i could help somehow. Even though i kind of understand the other comments. Just keep in mind that the whole "seduction stuff" is really helping you to become more sociable in general. And seduction never stops, you have to keep up seducing even in LTRs. The sidebar is very legitimate advice for almost all interactions with people. But many people here want to be able to seduce women in general. Which is completely ok, so no hard f…
/r/seduction02/05/15 05:51 PM
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So.. your problem is you don´t want to ask a girl out "within 3 seconds" because you don´t know her? How do you usually get to know people? Right, talking with them. How do you state general interest in a woman while talking to her? Kino. And as a rule of thumb, you kino everyone. Hot chicks, your male best friends, even your grandmother! Everyone. So while talking to her, kino her. Use some qualifiers while talking to her. And if you don´t wanna F-Close (what you definitely could, you charming …
/r/seduction02/05/15 12:32 PM
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First advice: Read the sidebar if you haven´t yet, there´s a lot of interesting and helpful stuff. I´ll just tell you what others said about questions like that before. Make a big introduction, be funny, be the center of attention. Just be fun, talk with all of them, not just the girl you like. Just be in there for the convo like you would take with your friends. Tease your "target" and then just do what you usually do when hitting in women.
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