Background: Been on seddit for over a year. Read a lot (every time I take a poop haha), day gamed solo and with others a fair amount with a 25% number close rate. Most numbers were horribly flaking, and almost none lead to a meet up, none of those felt like a date. I blamed it on text-game, the real problem is building attraction before the #close. This is what I still need work on.

Back story: Know this chick from improv (started half a year ago), we only talked a bit at first, about a week ago we met each other at a performance in the city which we were both performing at. We hit it off that night, our personalities really match. She already had my number so the next day she texted me. I was on the edge about gaming her because going out with fellow improvisers is said to be a bad idea, but screw it since she ended up asking me out. -she was obviously interested

I got a sore throat/stuffy nose a day before, and hoped it would get better the day of, but it didn't. I asked seddit what to do on the date, they said go, and right before you can kiss her say, "I'd so kiss you, but I can't." So I ended up going, never got to say I was sick, but did get lots of chances to kiss her and get close, make her blush, etc.

I'll post some samples of the texting if requested. I felt it was my strongest, though it's probably because she was interested.

The Date;Dinner: I walk to the door, she comes out. (No hug, didn't seem natural because she was already walking to my car) I don't open the car door for her since it's not on the way to my side (I normally would). We get in, I have tunes playing already to set a good mood, and my gps is set already for a restaurant. -being prepared

We start talking about the restaurant, concert, and jokes we had through text, etc. We get to the restaurant and I tell the waitress table for 2. I lead her into the table area, and show her to a table with 4 seats. -leading to show dominance, ya know

She sits first, then I sit beside her. -setting up for easy kino, conversation

We start looking at the menu, it is an Ethiopian restaurant which makes and easy conversation. We are both still wondering what to get, the waitress comes and asks what we want, I ask what she recommends for first timers. She recommends a meat plate for me and veg for my date, I tell the waitress I'll have the meat, she'll have the veg. -more leading, also showing you aren't afraid to get social

We continue talking, food comes, talking, a bit of eating, time for the bill. I pull out my wallet, she pulls out hers, I offer to pay for all, she declines, we pay separate, all is good. -paying for everything was the plan, but if she wants to pay, halleluiah!

The Date; In between dinner and the concert: We have lots of time to kill so say we're going for a walk. We are come to an intersection with a flashing red hand, I grab her hand and run across with her. We continue holding hands after we cross. We are walking by a park, I say let's walk through, she talks about being scared of swings, I say let's go on them. -leading, kino, spontaneity

We are swinging, I get off, and pretend I'm about to push her above my head, she says no and to stay in front. I get in front of her and get really close, this is the first time I could have kissed her. -teasing, tension

I tell her we should keep exploring, grab her hand, we are walking behind some houses, she says she's scared, I pull her close jokingly. We are crossing another road, I run with her across again. We get in the car and soon are outside the concert. -leading, kino, spontaneity, adventurous

The Date; The Concert: We get inside the concert area. Barely anyone there, sit down at table. I see she has a ring, asking her about touching her hands. I keep finding reasons to touch her hands, like showing a cool handshake, comparing hand sizes, comparing hand temperature etc. Eventually we touch foreheads, heads, hands to faces comparing our body warmth, staring at each other, blah blah blah. I could have kissed her numerous times. The closest was when I brushed her hair back and held my hand on her cheek. I would get really close then pull away. I never got to use a line suggested on here which was, "I would so kiss you, but I can't (I'm sick)." -finding reasons to touch, all seemed so natural, then excalating

Eventually one of the door ladies told us the band wasn't going to start for another hour and a half! So we left for another walk. -continue to change locations, keep it intersting

The Date; Another Walk: I lead her to a random parking lot to sit on some concrete things. We talk, getting close to each others faces again. At one point we get into the way people walk, and how you can tell where some it from in the city by there walk. I tell her to show me here walk, she refuses. There's a dude behind us in another parking lot doing security for some movie trailers, I ask him what movie etc. We get up to walk I pause and look at her walking up and down. We end walking to her step-moms house, my date goes in the backyard and starts moving stuff to mess with her step-mom. I was confused, but acted chill, even when her step-mom opened the door and said she was sick and to go away haha. -I remained comfortable during the odd situation, don't let her throw you off!

We end up walking all the way down to a random mall, hold hands some times, other times walking shoulder to shoulder. Andddd we finally get back to the concert.

The Date; The Concert for Real: We get in, sit down, more kino with hands, face, back. Band starts. In between songs we say quick things to each other about the band, jokes and what not. By the time the third song ends, I tell her to slide her seat over and come closer. She does and is now leaning against me, with my arm around her. -there was no smooth way to get my arm around her, all I had to to was tell her to come closer

We continue banter between songs, her head resting on my should/chest on me sometimes, other times look up at me. I could have kissed her anytime here. Eventually more people are moving in front of us standing. So i ask her if she wants to move, she says yes, we stand up to get a better view. We stand head bobbing/ vibing to the music for the rest of the time, I don't bother getting my arm around her. -don't always look for excuses to touch her, it's okay to be apart sometimes

She says she has to be home in 45 minutes, I say okay. -don't make a big deal out of things

2nd band ends, I say I'm starving and eventually we end up leaving so I can eat and she can go home. She seemed totally find with leaving early haha. -I don't care, I was dang hungry, and she had to leave soon anyways...

We get back to the car, we stop off to get food, I take her home. She invites me in, for a hug haha, her dad is on the couch right there. We hug (I would have said the kiss line, but here dad was there), she holds on long. I also would have suggested another meet up, but her dad is there, and she said she'd see me next week and improv so no bigs. I peace out, and it's done.

Conclusion: Everything went well. I was sick so I wasn't able to kiss her, but I got to kino so much, kissing her wouldn't've been a problem. We were both trying to get each other to qualify, I didn't mind since I was giving joke answers most of the time. I started making sexual jokes, innuendos half way through, this really help set a good tone, get it in her head that I was sexual. -At one point after I was saying a lot of sexual things, she said she won't put out, I told her get her mind out of the gutter!

I spoke my mind, wasn't afraid to say if I thought what she was doing was hot, dumb, weird, etc. -ex. she was speaking some french, I told her that was hot

Lots of eye contact, kino, laughing, sexual topics, leading, and personal talk. Night went great.

Thanks for reading, hope it was a good read, this took over an hour easy to write out. Pointers, feedback, comments, critiques, are encouraged. I'll put another FR out when I kiss her.