I've read a lot of guys having problems with getting responses from girls on online dating sites. Guys think its all about the picture, or the description or what you say in the message...ITS NOT...It's about them ALL. I've recently started experimenting with OKCupid. I've started to get great success getting girls to message me back so I thought I'd share some Tips and a Sample FR of my messages with one of the girls.

  1. Everything counts, Your profile, Your picture, The subject of your message and the content.

  2. Make sure you are giving girls reasons to qualify themselves in your discriptions. Say stuff like "I only want a classy girl that holds herself well...Im sick and tired of slutty girls." Or "I'm really into being healthy and self improvement....if you smoke weed or cant go a day without a cigarette you might as well stop reading"

After implemented some of these changes I started getting a lot better response rate.

I'll give a sample of one of my conversations with an HB7. I read her profile and noticed that she loved baseball and the Yankees

Subject: New York Yankees...

Me: I don't like baseball and never have, only going to live games. But, you do like dogs, so I guess you're cool.

Her: What? How can you not like America's pastime? Haha.

Me: When I'm at home and my roomates put ona game, I almost start to fall asleep! Its almost the same as watching golf to me. "30 mins of exciting action jam packed into 3 hours of play!" Ok now that i've bashed you're favorite sport, I give you permission to pick something of mine and bash it...

Her: Haha okay. The Great Gatsby is a horrible book and I believe that my dog is better than your dog.

Me: Yeah it's so sad that Gatsby Dies but luckily I'm not obsessed with it... You're gunna have to give me reasons to why your dog is so much better.

Her: Well she's cute, lovable, and loyal. She's hyper and out of control...and spoiled. Plus she likes to cuddle, which is her best quality in my opinion. Lastly, she is named after a vampire, which is awesome. :)

That's it for now. I did a good job of engaging her and hooking her. I'll post a followup about any future success after I do some work on her.

Feel free to comment and critique...