Ok, before I get started lemme me give you a little background so you know where I stood. Met this girl (solid 9) about a 2 weeks ago. She's my friends coworker and came over for a kickback at our house. Great time, we got along great, picked up so IOI and kino all night. Walked her to her car, got her number and kissed her. Texted her, small talk and invited her over to my house for a party the next week. Great time and good vibes all around. Walked her to her car, kissed her (lips) and told her hopefully i'll see her soon.

Fast forward a bit. Texted her for 2 days and no more than 48 hours, called her to set up a date. She agreed and we decided to go out for coffee.

Coffee works because there's no pressure to make it seem like a date. Think of it as two friends hanging out getting to know each other.

Let me break it down as simple as possible for everyone to understand and perhaps take my advice.

As we were paying, she took out her wallet and I told her "It's fine. Today me, tomorrow you" (Subtle hint for a 2nd date)

Decided to drink coffee and eat outside. (Cold weather good excuse to be close)

Thinks to talk about on a first date: Music

Family (siblings, parents, where they're from etc.)

Who they were in high school, who they are now.

College goals and aspirations

Things on their bucket list.

Places to travel

Sports

Shows

Movies

Work

Religion (Not a good thing to talk about, but we had similiar backgrounds so the convo was fitting)

The list goes on, just keep the conversation flowing. DONT OVERTHINK, you're just having a conversation!

The entire time I was trying to get a good read on what was going on. Picked up a few signs IOI. Being mirrored: (I drank, she drank, leaning in during convos, playing with her hair, etc) If you see this, you're doing great! Also, when talking to them, look them in the opposite eye, seems to escalate the sexual tension in the air. The time flew by, and we ended up talking for 3 hours! Walked her to her car and gave her a kiss good night! All in all a great night. Lesson to be learned: Don't be a pussy! If you see IOI, go for the kiss. When you hug her, if you notice a slight delay after the hug. GO FOR THE KISS!!!! You have nothing to lose. Carpe Diem people! Better to know what happened that ponder about it in your head only to hate yourself later.