Like many others on here I have been an frequent reader of Seddit. However, I think it's time to submit a FR of a girl I approached and dated for roughly 2 weeks. This is not a recent approach but I think it needs to be documented because I am fairly proud that it happened, but the more interestingly, I didn't know I was day gaming or using any gaming techniques at the time. Pre-seddit.

Firstly, background. I am a British Born Chinese guy and studying Computer Science. Pre-University I had one girlfriend and treated her like a goddess. We ended in the first year and I fell into a boozing and junk food routine and hoping I'll meet a new girl through my social circle or in a night club. Basically lying to myself - 'Just be single for a bit and have fun!' By the time I started my Placement Year (internship) I was massively over-weight and 2 sexless years at university. Basically I was your typical nerd, computer gaming, drinks too many pints Chinese guy. Not a good image! One day I decided to buy some running shoes and get myself into shape, mainly because I wanted to feel good about myself when I looked in the mirror. Now, fast-forward 6 months, I have an athletic body and done several triathlons and marathons. Also, I had a fresh start to my final university year.

[FR].

I was sitting in the university library, typing up programming code. It was a square table with a guy to my right listening to music. Then a girl walks in [HB8.5], I look up and we exchange smiles. I'm thinking 'Wow, she is cute and looks Chinese but not' (turns out she is half Chinese/half Italian). And believe me that is a rare mix. Luckily, she sits down to my left, starts studying and AA kicks in and the 3 second rule is shot down.

Some time passes and I'm finished what I've done and start packing. At this point HB8.5 is listening to music and very occupied but I thought I'll just make a comment and expect nothing more. I use the day and time as an advantage, I approach her with this opening - "It's Saturday night, so don't stay too late!". She smiles, takes out her head phones and says "I won't stay that late, don't worry!" At this point I could have ejected and ran away but there was a warm IOI and extend the conversation to "What you are you studying" and "Where are you living". At University, it is easy to keep the conversation flowing and this is the point she tells me "I'm actually half Chinese and half Italian". I respond with "Wow, that's pretty hot" (teasing I think), don't why I said that but she smiled and laughed.

She then starts packing away her things, so the time constraint and 'close' had to be done soon but I knew she lived near me, so I say "Let's walk home together" and we do. I do more Kino and tease her on the way till she has to turn down a different street and then I make my close and get her number and set up a date for Sunday night. I don't if was the correct thing to do but she didn't flake on me, so I must have built up enough attraction and kino.

After the date we ended with a kiss and our 2 week dating begins. Unfortunately, we didn't connect and there was no point pushing something and so I decided to end it. However, looking back I wasn't disappointed about the whole thing, I was more happy about how much I've changed and how I managed to get a HB8.5.

What I've learned from this set/experience - Before you approach women, you've got to feel good about yourself inside and outside. Be confident in yourself first and then you can be confident towards others. Your life needs to be solid.

  • Never be afraid to open with someone who you think is out of your league. I've realised that this is BS.

  • No need for fancy openers, use the situation to your advantage and open with that. It was Saturday and she in the library, ill use that.

  • Be bold, confident and smile! Tease her, touch her and be don't scared to say what you think about her but not too much. Enough to make her smile but she also needs to qualify herself to you.

  • Take the lead, I stated we SHOULD walk home together instead of "Do you want to walk home together".

  • Ask for her number and say we should meet up for a drink or coffee. I went for a drink in a quiet bar because the setting was dark and there where couches to sit on, side by side. This meant I could carry out Kino and flirting.

  • Lastly, go with the flow of the conversation, I basically think "right need to build up a pace and flow of the topics and answers she's giving, ask 'soft' questions and start to get into a mutual subject" Oh and challenge her, I remember saying to her "Are you really half chinese/italian?"

I can't think of any more but I'm no means an expert, I did all this before I knew about the game, I relating everything I learnt this past month on Seddit to this set.

Anyway, after we stopped dating I met a girl in a club which then went onto be my girlfriend and then we broke up after graduation! Winning at life! Hence why I'm wanting to get back into daygame.

TL;DR - Got my life sorted out first, fresh start at university, opened with a half chinese/italian chick, 2 weeks of kissing and dating, learnt a lot for my next set/approach who became to be my girlfriend but we broke up :(

I apologies for the mistakes, I've wrote this on my phone, I will re-edit.