Initial Notes:

  • I met this girl on OKCupid. I'm really not a fan of the online dating scene, for various reasons, but sometimes it's the only means of communicating with women I have.

  • This girl in particular, HB8, came off with an "alpha" mentality in her online profile. I can go into detail as to how I got her to respond and how I got her number, if requested. But for this FR it's not important.

  • The FR is from about 30 minutes ago. So I'm still slightly inebriated. But that's ok. Just means text will be flowing more freely.

Date #1 Cliffs
We met at a wine bar and split a bottle. Great conversation and she's as cute as a button. Little kino due to seating logistics, unfortunately. Surprisingly, I got a long hug and basic kiss at the end of this date. Not a bad outcome without any trickery at hand.

Onto Date #2...
So I'll be honest - I'm really liking this girl. Her personality is fantastic and her looks are right up my alley. It's very difficult to remain outcome independent with her, but I am doing my best.

It's been a full week since our last date and she played the busy card on me the last time I attempted to arrange a meeting. So today I found out I have tomorrow off and attempted to arrange a date with that information at hand.

  • Me: "Just found out I have tomorrow off and Friday evening entirely to myself. What's your schedule look like?"

She's busy at this point in time but hints she should have some free time later in the evening. It's not a commitment of time on her part and yet she has me hooked pretty hard. I let her know that I'm busy myself until the early evening but should be free later on as well.

Note: I re-arranged my schedule to make this evening open, just in the event that she happened to get back to me wanting to hang out. Not textbook seduction/TRP at all and I'm a bit ashamed. Sometimes it's hard to overcome the feelings that attraction brings upon you until you look back in hindsight.

I get a text back later in the evening and she's ready to get together. I suggest a local micro-brewery that she mentioned wanting to go to on date #1. She accepts.

We meet out front, hug, and head inside. There are lots of cool beers to choose from and we begin to drink and conversate. At this point we're standing side-by-side at the bar so my ability to kino is much better than on date # 1. I make sure to touch her arm and use upper back touching to bring her in closer to me.

We bounce from topic to topic and things are going decently well. However, I'm starting to feel that vanilla topics like school and sports (which she likes) aren't building attraction but rather the friendship between us. And I want to bone this girl.

  • Me: "So what's the one thing you can think of, right now, that you want to do before you die?"

This gets the conversation more interesting. Instead of normal, canned responses I'm starting to sense emotion and intrigue from her. I mention that there are too many people who talk about all the things they WANT to do, but never actually take action and do them. She begins to ramble along the same vein. I put my hand on her side and pull her in...

  • Me: "So you're saying that if I wanted to kiss you, I should?"
  • Her: "Yes."

...and so I did. And I make sure to pull away after the second or third meeting of our lips. So far so good.

At this point the alcohol is starting to affect me and the conversation continues to flow. I get flashbacks of other FR's on spacing out the kissing to build attraction and decide to pull her back in for another kiss. I can already feel she's not having it as soon as I begin to pull her in, and she mercifully offers me the top of her head. Whoah there, nelly. Let's not blow this.

I back off and try not to lose my cool. I continue the conversation as if nothing happened. And the vanilla banter is still getting me nowhere. However, the personal and thought provoking questions are visibly increasing her attraction.

I tell her about the Goth/Industrial club from my last FR and ask her about the venues she goes to normally. She talks about how she goes out with a group of 5-6 guys and wings for them and generally doesn't get approached. But when she does, it's a trainwreck.

Buzzed wr_erase starts to talk about his own club experiences after HB8 inquires about the kind of girls I meet when I'm out...

  • Me: "You know, every girl I meet is nearly identical. They all have the same boring, mundane interests and I never really feel a true connection with them. The conversation just doesn't flow. I could easily find a sleezy girl to sleep with but I really don't feel it's worth my time. You're different. You have your shit together and can bust my balls just as well as I can bust your ovaries. I like you."
  • Her: Leans in close, hugs my arm, head on shoulder "Thank you..."

I put my hand on her lower back and hold her close to me, gently running my hand from side to side along the top of her butt. This lasts for a good minute or so and not a word is spoken between us; we're just enjoying the closeness and warmth of eachother and its quite nice.

We finish our beers and I walk her out to her car. I lace my fingers with hers on the way there. After we reach her car we start with a kiss. I pull away to give her a tight meaningful hug and then finish with a few more kisses. Date over.

tl;dr: 2nd date with HB8 that I met online. Feeling remnants of my former AFC-self and nearly wreck myself. Manage to save the date and finish with another solid K-Close.