Big club in central London, Saturday night. It's very busy. I'm there with one wing, another turns up later.

It's just gone 10pm. I've been in the club just over an hour an had one drink, haven't approached any sets yet. My wing's just decided to go to the cloakroom to check in his coat, so I'm alone on the downstairs dance floor.

It's fairly full. A group of 4 girls start dancing to my left. HBSpanish can move her body well. I want to open but it doesn't feel right. I'm not in a great mood today so I know this approach is going to go really badly, but I also know I need to do it any way all the whole night will be a write off.

I make the mistake off approaching her from behind rather than circling around and approaching from the front / side. I grab her wrist and go to pull her to me. It's such a lame pull that I don't have the momentum to pull her all the way around. I have to re-grab and pull again. Not good. I finally get her facing me, then I forget that I either need to be verbally speaking to her or dancing, so we're just stood there in silence facing each other.

She gives me a weird 'What?' look. She starts to turn back to her friends. I know it's over but feel like I should make more of an effort. I lean into her, and my voice is very rapport seeking, "Are you spanish?". She shakes her head. The set is over.

Horrible, but it means the next set will be better. My wing returns and we go upstairs to get a drink. As we're propping up the bar I'm eyeing up what looks like a birthday party in the booth opposite us as my wing chats to a set at the bar.

Amongst the party is a brunette with huge tits. I like her the most out of all of them. She's standing near the booth, sort of in the corner. Looking at her my read is that she's nervous, a shy type. I'd like her to have a couple more drinks to relax before I'd open her ideally. There's another girl dressed in red. I have her tagged as the birthday girl. She's giving me the eye a lot. She flits around between sitting at the booth, standing dancing, and standing at the bar. I'm fairly sure she wants to be opened by me.

I never opened her. It was a combination of AA, plus also the fact that it was still too early in the night. They still had a food platter at their table and were ordering champagne. I get sets like this fairly often. I feel like they would be receptive but it's the wrong time / situation to take the set all the way to a close. I think I need to open these, swap names and stick in their mind then tell them I'll see them later and reopen when the time is right.

My wing an I chat for a while then hit the upstairs dance floor. At about 11pm my wing motions towards a set the other side of the dancefloor. A brunette HB8 is dancing and smiling and seems to be looking in our direction. For some reason I get no AA and go straight over and start dancing with her. She seems OK with that so I move her to one side and start with some chat.

I do the whole where are you from / why are you out tonight thing but mixed in with statements and mild teasing. I go for the k close within 2 minutes. She pulls away, only letting me have a peck on the lips. It turns out it's her birthday and she introduces me to her room mate, and her room mate seems to like me. Cool.

Her friend leaves us alone. We banter a bit, I do some push pull. She tells me she likes the way I know what I want and I go for it, says she has met too many men who don't go for what they want directly. I agree that I'm like that and kiss close her.

I want to get full isolation with her. I tell her I'm taking her to get a drink. I tell her friends I'm just borrowing her to get her a drink and I'll bring her back to them later. All the girls are like, "Aww that's sweet, he's a gentleman".

I take her to the downstairs bar for a drink. We go to the restaurant (quiet) area to drink. I don't ask her to come home with me yet because I don't think she will leave her friends so early in the night since it's her birthday party (it's only 11:30 at this point). Thoughts on playing it this way? I ask her what she's doing later and she says sleeping. For some reason I give up on the idea of an SNL at this stage because of that, which is stupid. I think it has more to do with her being hotter than the other girls I've pulled this year, meaning I don't want to push it. My main regret here is I didn't timebridge when number closing.

I build comfort talking about her job, and we talk about relationships. I shut up and listen a lot, looking at her blankly as she talks. This makes her qualify without me even saying anything. People do this when you just stare at them when they talk because you are giving them no feedback on what you're thinking about what they're saying (like you would if you were nodding in agreement), so they feel the need to justify themselves so they start to qualify.

She asks me the same interview questions about myself multiple times. She's a little drunk.

We kiss more and a try putting my hand up her skirt to rub her clit. She lets me for a moment then stops me. I tell her, "This is how you make me feel" as I put my hand in her hardon. She laughs and pushes me away. I eye fuck her for a while whilst refusing to let her kiss me, just to build tension. I number close her, and ring her to check the number (always do this).

A couple of her friends find us and sit with us. They are talking about what their other friends are up to. I'm cut out of the conversation so eject. I tell her I want to find my friends, I'll see her later in the night or if I don't I'll call her. This shows non neediness and stops the interaction fizzling out.

I go off and look for my wings (I've had a text saying a second wing has arrived). I can't find them so I dance downstairs for a while. After about 30 minutes I head upstairs but still can't see them. I see my HB on the dancefloor and she looks at me expectantly. I smiled back but walked off. I was going to go downstairs again, but then I realized two things:

  1. It could take ages to find my wings

  2. If I don't go over to her now she might see it as me blowing her off, could lead to a flake to save her ego

For these to reason I turn around and go back to her. This basically plays out like a false takeaway, and from talking to her later it worked like one too: she was sad when I walked off, but then really happy when I came back. Good emotional spike.

She's in a circle dancing with her friends. When I reopen she loves it and is all over me. We break away from the group to dance / makeout on our own. She starts not letting me kiss her. This could be a bit of s shit test, as this would worry most guys. They'd want to know why she won't kiss them anymore. I don't comment. She tries to push me around the dancefloor a lot. I stand firm and just look at her. Her attraction for me grows and she starts rubbing my arms, chest and face. This shows she has accepted me in her mind as a future sexual partner.

About 30 minutes go by and it's just before 1 am. Her friend shows up and we all chat. My girl says she wants to go and get some food and invites me. I tell her it depends what food, I'm fussy. In the end I agree to go with her.

We leave the club and her friend rounds up all her other friends. About 6 of us head for food. No one likes the idea of McDonalds so I suggest we go to china town for chinese. We go there and eat in a restaurant. I crash a bit now we're in a more subdued environment and am starting to sober up, so I don't say much.

We leave the restaurant, and we're chatting about what food we like as we stroll through china town. She asks me where I'm going and I tell her home. She asks me to come home with her. I think about it for a while then agree, she lives fairly close to me anyway.

We get on the nightbus with all her friends. At this point she tells me she shares a room with another girl. This means sex logistics are bad and I should invite her to my flat, but for some reason I don't. She keeps hinting that it's going to be a tight squeeze at her place. At the time I thought she was getting some ASD about inviting me back. I now realize this was her hinting for me to invite her back to mine.

Eventually she asks if it wouldn't be better to go to my flat instead, and I say it would be. Whoops. I was a bit slow on this. We jump of the bus and taxi to mine. We have sex straight away without there being any LMR.

Thinking back I think my poor end game (not working hard for the extraction back to my flat and letting her handle this) was because I quite liked her personality and found her more physically attractive than most girls I fuck. I think I got anxious about messing things up because of this. This is bad, you can't rely on the girl to handle the extraction phase. If I don't tighten this part of my game up I'll end up losing a lot of lays at the end. Like many PUAs have said, the people who get the most lays aren't always the best at game, they're the guys who have OK game but push the hardest for the close.