It's been a while since my first FR! I've been out in the field fairly constantly and will try get more posted. I wanted to post about this weekend as I wanted to get some feedback on something I've been trying out.

A couple of weeks ago I was with a group of friends, and one of them had brought a very tall blonde HB9 friend.

When we hit the bar, I sit next to the HB9 and start getting to know her, sarting to run some light kino I and she responds to it straight away and we start to hit it off, a lot of IOIs and kino escalation from her. After an hour or so she asks me to buy her a drink to which I say no, and this gets a laugh from her and a comment about her expecting me to say that. She gets herself a drink and brings me one back without me asking :) Later in the evening, I agree to get her a drink, and returned with a glass of water.

She brings up that she is having a flat warming party in 2 weeks, and insisted I come along. I teased her about having to clean out my sock drawer that night and left with giving her a maybe. At some point during the night an inside joke about her wearing terrible shoes and a stereotype race joke about me is created.

Fast forward to Thursday, and I receive a Facebook chat from her asking if I was coming along. I tell her I will, and enquire about bringing some people. She says ok, and asks who, to which I joke about bringing hooker, midgets and donkeys. We joke about this for a little while, even making pretend plans to adopt a donkey with her promising to have it done by the party as long as I name it.

On Fri, I meet my two friends who said they would come along, but naturally outgoing AFCs, one in a relationship and one married. I had invited two close girl friends, but they flaked at last minute :( We arrive at the party, and the HB9 is immediately friendly, throwing her arms around me as I step in the door. I move myself beside her to face the door and my friends while putting my arm around her waist and her doing the same. I introduce her to my friends while keeping my hand on the her back while she gives my friends hugs.

We join the main party in the living room, and there are about 4-5 HB8-9s, and a few HB6-7s. There is also a weird dynamic to the room. The HB9 and her flatmate, HB8, don't really get along, and there was clearly a divide in groups.

The HB9's group contained a HB8 (cute pixie blonde, HB9s BFF) and my friend who introduced us (who is also HB8s sister) (HB6), her boyfriend and a 3 AFCs. The AFCs where clearly friendszoned by the HB9 and HB8. I introduce myself to everyone, and get immediate IOIs from the HB8 (I don't recall a single conversation during the night when I wasn't holding her hand).

The party picks up a bit, I interact with the HB9s group at first, getting to feel for where everyone stands. The HB9 and HB8 are touchy feely when they are together, touching the flirting with the AFCs and my friends. The poor AFCs looked tortured! I gave a little push back when they tried to pull, usually teasing them about spilling my drinks, etc.

When I had properly gotten to know her friends, I decided to meet her flat mate (we hadn't been introduced) by introducing myself to everyone.

I don't know about anyone else but I am absolutely terrible at remembering names, they just go straight away, so I decided to play on it. There is a L shaped group of people (mixture of HBs and AFCs) sitting together, so I approach a two set sitting at the end, and introduce myself asking if they stayed here, and then moved onto the next few people and did the same, at this point I'm now at the inside corner of the L shape. I use this to my advantage to introduce myself to the people on the left, and bringing up the fact I'm terrible with names. I engage the get the first two set to join the conversation by telling the current set I couldn't even remember their name. At this point the remaining people of the group, lead by a HB8, joined the conversation. We all joke about forgetting peoples names when you first meet them, and I steer the conversation to who everyone knows, and they ask me who I know, to which I joke about not knowing anyone and gate crashing it.

For the rest of the evening I had most of the HBs from that group engaging me to remind me of their name, or to ask if I remembered it yet. I was able to initiate and escalate kino fairly easily during these interactions as I teased them about not remembering their name. A friendly punch in the arm from them can become a hug and hand hold fairly quickly :)

The HB9s BFF initiates a conversation with me about how funny and cocky getting the HB9 a glass of water when she had asked for a drink, all the while making heavy eye contact and holding my hand. We chat for awhile until a large group of guys arrive, all large rugby guys, I never really interact with them so I can't make a call on them being AFCs or AMOGs. When the HB9s BFF sees them, she informs me that the HB9 is seeing one of them! This was news to me, but I ignored it and changed the subject.

As the party went on, I made a point of not approaching the HB9, and chatting to everyone else, I also drop some hints about hitting a club later to the HB9s group. By this point, I had a good rapport with all the HBs present so I made sure to always be talking to at least 2-3 at a time, with plenty of joking, kinoing and IOIs. During this time, the HB9 was always made a point of walking past me, and touching me in some way. I generally ignored her, or playfully shooed her away. I see her flirting with the group of rugby guys, but there is still heavy eye contact my way.

I really hit it off with a brunette HB8 and isolate her. We chat for about 20mins before the HB9 comes up to me, asking if she should change before we go to the club as she split a little wine. I say sure, why not and she vanishes. I try continue the conversation with the HB8 but I'm interrupted by the group of rugby guys leaving, during which tow of them made a point of shaking my hand and calling me amazing!

The HB9 quickly reappears, and boy did she change! She changed from a modest pink dress to a skin tight black one, with a very low neckline and plenty of cleavage!

At this point, its myself, the HB9, her HB8 BFF, my HB6 friend and her boyfriend and some other guy, who I have no clue was. We leave and head to a club.

When we hit the club, the HB8 grabs my arm and drags me to the bar while the HB9 heads to the cloak room. She buys me a drink and we chat a little at the bar, a lot of IOIs from her as usual. The HB9 returns, grabs my hand and moves me away from the HB8 a little. She looks me in the eye and says "barkingmajor, someone spilt their drink all over my boobs, and now they're sticky, feel them" and pushes them against my chest. I smiled and reply "well I better take you to mine, throw you in the bath and clean you up." She giggles, grabs my hand and leads me out the club.

Take Always

I think the name forgetting game worked well. I used it to introduce a set of 3 that arrived late to build instant rapport and social proof. An introduction went like:

Walk up to someone that knows me "Hey, this is..." indicated the new people, they would introduce themselves and then I would introduce the person I'm already supposed to know with "And this is...". It would usually result in me being teased or receiving light punches, etc. After the first introduction, I had two of the three set on each arm, one of which giving strong IOIs and eye contact.

I have a FR for the night after where I use it in a club with the same results.

I #-closed just about every girl there, some of which had genuine boyfriends at the party, and none of which I asked for. Abundance Mentality in action.

I don't think I handled the group of rugby players as well as I could have. To be honest, they intimated me (it didn't help that one of my friends said I was bust now) and I decided to not engage with them directly, and instead tried to give the impression to the HB9 that I didn't care she had a group of guys around her. I think it worked, but I think it might have been down to there being no strong AMOGs in their group.

One weird thing I've been noticing recently is an increase in compliments from guys. Some about what I'm wearing, some about my game or just a sudden "man, your amazing!". The last think I expected when the group of rugby guys left was some of them doing it!

I managed to be loud enough and engage enough people to break the two group dynamic, it really helped make me create very strong social proof and be as Alpha as a could.