FR #1

Ok it's St. Patrick's Day so my friend and I decided to go to a local bar we frequent to practice game and approaching girls. I have been reading a lot of seddit and started lurking less than a week ago, so I have been trying to be active and applying everything I read/watch asap. My first FR I went to a bar alone and only managed to talk to guys so this time I was going to talk to girls for sure.

Goal: I watched one of Tyler Durden's vids on youtube and he mentioned setting a goal for a night like: approach and talk to 12 girls. I felt like this was a lot for my second time out so I cut in in half to 6. TALK TO 6 GIRLS WAS MY PERSONAL GOAL.

My friend and I got to the bar and I told him from the beginning we have to talk to everyone we see to try and get into state and warm up so that this would be easy. He agreed but he has oneitis right now and said he was not going to really try hitting on girls. I was pissed at him for this, but whatever. We walk up to the bar and there are a ton of people smoking outside and I just start throwing handshakes meeting people and trying to get into the grove. I talked to everyone outside which included 1 random guy, 2 women who went outside to smoke who I only had intentions to say "hi" to because they were "older" (late 20's or early 30's if I had to guess), I think I may have made a small joke before walking towards the door. When we got to the door the bouncer came out who I knew and I greeted him and he had a girl with him also who I said Hi and I walked in. Now technically that was 3 girls, but I didn't count them as I didn't decide on 6 girls till I was inside the bar and after I had talked to my first which is when I began my running total. Anyways we walked into the bar and greeted a giant man and a woman he was with and then went to the bar where I saw a guy I knew and introduced myself to all his friends. Then I got my drink.

So standing with my 2 friends now and my drink I start scanning the bar and we all see this HB9 and start talking about her, although she is with 2 guys. She is sitting in a position that would be easy to navigate to and talk to her alone though so I start trying to muster the courage to go at her. Literally as I am about to do that her friend drags her to the bathroom or back to the dancefloor, I can't remember. She was one of the hottest girls in the bar and I thought it would be good to start with her because I knew I would fail (pretty sure she had a bf) and it would make the "pain" much easier in comparison, but anyways I missed my chance.

I then saw 2 HB7's dancing alone on the dancefloor next to this rail so I said "fuck it" and started walking up to them. The 1 girl's back was turned to me and I tapped her shoulder, said "Hi, are you enjoying yourself?" and she said "Yes" and spun away. Instant eject from her. I didn't know what to do so I just stood there as my friend joined me. (Girl 1 down this is when I decided on 6 for the night)We both started talking and I said "I don't care I tried." and we started talking bout what to do next. Then a HB10 MILF with big fake tits walked off the dance floor and had to pass us to go anywhere so I stopped her and shook her hand "Told her my name, asked if she was having a good night, if she had been here before?" Then I ran out of things to say, I looked down at her tits, and my mind went blank. I let her go after she told me she needed to go to the bathroom. (Girl 2)

We decided to go talk to another guy we knew who was camped at the bar. The idea was go talk with someone we know, get back into state (after clearly being insta-rejected and mesmerized by giant tits) and then make a move from there. We talked a bit and at the end of the bar were 2 HB6's. It took me a loooooooooong time to be able to talk to them. They were conversing and playing with their phones and I just feel like an asshole interrupting someone but after about 10 minutes of just staring in their direction I said "fuck it" and placed myself between them and just said "HI I am Dcgreen." There was a blonde and a brunette. The blonder was responsive and playful, but the brunette wanted me to leave immediately. I said something along the lines of "Excuse me I was trying to show my friend something on my phone and that is more exciting than you, can you leave' just mimicking her and trying to embarrass her. Then I started talking to the blonde who wasn't really into me but she was playful enough to talk and was laughing every time I would neg her friend about her phone. I talked with them for about 3-4 minutes and then decided to leave them alone when their disinterest got really high and they eventually started talking to each other more than they were acknowledging me. I said "have a nice night and left" (Girls 3 and 4)

After this was a lot of downtime of doing nothing. A lot of going in and outside to not look lame while standing in the corner of the bar. While outside though my friend and I talked a while with a new guy who we met and that was fun. He had a good time talking to us and we even caught some more chat time with him later in the night. We decided to go back inside and see what else we could do.

So went back to the bar I ordered drink #2 and we saw an HB8 and HB9 at the bar who I really wanted to talk to. Friend said he knew one of them from highschool so I tried to convince him to open but he said "I dont even remember her name/know her that well" well fuck me that was useless. Eventually I hesitated too long and they got surrounded by their girlfriends and some other guys and I didn't make a move. Then there were 2 HB4s and an HB6 standing next to us who I was thinking about opening so I could talk to HB6 but I decided against it because they were having a fun time and again I felt weird just throwing myself into their good time.

We moved to a different spot in the bar and I saw a HB8 sitting alone and went to talk to her. Her friend came off the dance floor and said "Excuse me what are you doing?" I tried to pull an alpha response and said "I am just talking to your friend for a bit, can you go back on the dance floor and give us a second?" I felt pretty boss saying that, I was like I definitely have this girl she was really nice too when I went to talk to her. the friend then responded "excuse me this is my fiance" oh shit lesbians of course lol. I had no reason to disbelieve them and even told them I thought it was hot and they were a good looking couple. Then I made them show me the engagement rings just to make sure, and sure enough they matched and everything. Fiance went back on the dance floor and I talked to HB8 about their relationship and how long they had been engaged etc before leaving her alone, she was super nice though. (Girl 5)

Now we were back in the corner trying to figure out what to do again. I didn't lose much momentum from getting rejected because I approached every girl with the mindset "just talk to them, you aren't trying to fuck them, and if you sense that they are into you go with it" so I was cool with being 0/5 but I had a lot of idle time because it was hard to spot girls I thought were in a position to be approached. I need to trick my brain into thinking it isn't rude to interrupt someones conversation to introduce yourself, or am I right thinking that? Anyways I had to pee so I went to the bathroom.

While standing in line I saw HB6 from before standing alone at the bar digging in her purse so I just turned and walked up to her. She was nice to me and I was being pretty fluid with what I was saying but then it just turned into verbal diarrhea as I started saying anything and everything to her. She said she was confused with my intent and I told her "I am just trying to learn to talk to girls" she still looked confused and said "I am gonna go with my friends (who were leaving) and I might see you later in the evening." No big deal to me I just wanted to talk to her, I then got back in line and took my piss. (Girl 6)

My friend was getting pissed at life and so we decided to leave (it had been about 2.5 hours) and he dropped me back off at home.

Conclusion: I met my goal of talking to 6 girls. Not going to lie I really had no idea what to say past "nice to meet you" "hows your st patricks day going" with most of the girls. If they were decently responsive then I could work off things they said but this only happened 3 times. I practiced a little bit of kino with some of the girls. After handshaking I was usually able to get to a point where I could touch their shoulder or put a hand on their back albeit only briefly. I didn't approach any girls with intent, I felt confident but I really had no experience to back it so I just wanted to get used to the feeling of getting turned away. I also did a bad job of maintaining eye contact, keeping my posture straight, and having something creative to say other than, "hi my name is." I also can not dance, but I feel like if I tried going a few more times I could eventually get comfortable with it, I ended up mimicking some of the people on the dancefloor as a joke but noticed how easy it is to just kind of move your body to whatever shitty song is playing and it would probably pass as fine. The point of that sentence was not having access to the dance floor limited a good amount of the girls that were at the place.

Ok so here is my biggest problem I think, or I feel it is the most looming. I feel really out of place/intimidated in the bar. There is so much competition with guys that know how to do this and if I see one of them go towards any of the girls that I was eyeing, I immediately back off. I do know know how to compete with other PUAs. I also get really hung up on the interrupting people to introduce myself, I feel selfish and like an asshole.