A while back I promised to write this. I decided to actually do it now that I had a few minutes. Enough of the intro.

Friendzone

The friendzone is a confusing place. Reasons you are in it:

  1. You want to be in it because you have a lot of women wanting you and just need some female friends that aren't always trying to get in your bed.

  2. You aren't interesting enough to actually get her to like you.

  3. You and the girl just aren't compatible in a relationship but do great in a friendship. This can be very true if you already tried a relationship together.

  4. You are interesting enough but she has issues that disallow her from committing to a relationship.

Breakdown of those numbers:

Let's start by saying that most people are extremely familiar with #2 and that the rest of them aren't too bad.

You want to be in it because you have a lot of women wanting you and just need some female friends that aren't always trying to get in your bed.

When you have a full life of activities, work, play, and an abundance of women trying to get you locked into a relationship you tend to want some women around that aren't going to want to fuck you and actually treat you as a friend. This is something similar to what a woman feels with hoards of men trying to always bang her and not being true friends to her. At this point you can choose who you want to date if any of them fit your standards. I want to stress the word "can". Standards are important to have.

You aren't interesting enough to actually get her to like you.

This is the one everyone wants to know about. We have had some incredibly good posts about this stuff lately. I want to reference one of them. How I un-friend zoned myself

In this post it shows that he is clearly an entertaining fellow and that she was interested. The problem was he friend zone himself. Everyone that is friendzoned in the way #2 is, has done it to themselves.

He tells about how he ended up agreeing to be her friend and spent a ton of time with her and didn't pursue other women. It took his friend to point it out. At that point the game was on.

getting out of the friendzone you put yourself in

He decided to treat her as a friend. Pay attention to that. He treated her like a friend. She had wanted that. He then pursued other women when she was around and when she wasn't around. He stopped spending a ton of time with her and treated her like one of the guys.

She didn't like this at all and decided he was very attractive and wanted what he was giving to those other women. She wanted him and she had let him go. She didn't like that. She ended up getting busy with him and it worked out. He still casually sees other women as well as that woman in the story.

If you don't have a committed relationship you must date!

Now onto the other reasons. You have to be interesting. If you are not interesting and witty and confident in who you are, you will not get a girl to want you. (Unless they are all jacked up with serious issues.) If you want the daddy issue girl then sure, go for it, but you won't have a good time in the end.

You need three things:

  • Wit
  • Confidence in yourself and your actions
  • Be exciting and passionate. They go together.

If you have those three things you can pretty much always get a girl. Not every woman, but definitely a lot of them.

You and the girl just aren't compatible in a relationship but do great in a friendship. This can be very true if you already tried a relationship together.

Sometimes you just aren't compatible to be anything more than a friend. There are many women I can be friends with but their personal values, future goals, etc. do not align with me enough to every be able to be with them. If you are going to be in a committed relationship then it should be someone you see a future with at that current time. Otherwise, it should be casual and more like fuck buddies. If you don't have relationship standards, you are going to have a bad time.

You are interesting enough but she has issues that disallow her from committing to a relationship.

This situation occurred in that guys story posted above. The thing is, you can't change peoples’ minds. People have to change their own mind by what they perceive. It is a roundabout way of things but never think you should manipulate people that way. Just live your life and if they come around because of it, then great. If not, you will have a good time with other people. Don't fret about someone not doing what you want. You can't change them. You can only change how you react to the world. Be awesome and don't try to outwit or out logic someone in order to gain favor or change their mind of if they want to be with you or not.

I don't always give a fuck, but...

Sexzone

The sexzone is similar to the friendzone in that compatibility and standards come into play.

Sure you like fucking but is it someone you can actually have a family with and not want to push out a window on a regular basis?

Sometimes you are good enough friends or hell not even friends and just wanna bang. You have fucking in common. FWB or even just fuck buddies.

  • FWB - you are friends that also fuck when you fancy a snog
  • Fuck Buddies - you don't really like each others company but you enjoy banging your genitals together an awful lot.

It is good to know what you want. Be confident in what you want. Don't be a dick about it but just be reasonable.

Sometimes a woman will want to fuck but won't want to hang out with you. Don't worry about it. If you both feel the same way then great. If not, then do what you want, but do not push it. Pushing anything more than the other person wants after they voiced their opinion will only hinder your life and piss you off and them as well.

Sometimes people enjoy being friends that also fuck. This is just very similar to the friends only subject above whereas it is about standards and compatibility. Don't worry so much about it. Have a good time with it if you both are into the same thing.

Don't push for a relationship if the other person doesn't want it. Also don't go all beta on the other person and be their sad little puppy and not live your life. Truth is, they are going to live their life and in turn you won't have a good time. Know what you want and do that.

Conclusion: Just have a good time and don't fret so much. You can't change peoples’ minds with logic. People must make their own minds up. You can be any variable you want. You might as well be a kick ass variable and not worry about what they are going to think of you while you are being awesome. Everyone has their own reasons and own logic and their own past and experiences. These things drive a person and you cannot and should not try to meddle in that. If you do, you will have a bad time and get nowhere except a place of sadness and misery.

Stay awesome my friends.

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  2. [Wit & Teasing] (http://redd.it/vd4u3)