Breaking out of your own shell and personal insecurities is what’s going to allow women to immediately experience your confidence. Initially, women are more socially intelligent than men so they have a strong intuition as to judge if you are a potential suitor for them or not; meaning you can try to fake confidence all you want, but they’ll notice it sooner or later.

Breaking out of your shell:

  • Don’t have any pre-existing assumptions about women’s perception of you
  • Practice talking to girls in low risk environments (VR chat, video chatrooms or even videogames)
  • Gradually increase your conversational skills (Look for my guide How To Conversate like a GigaChad)

Verbal game and fun flirting:

  • Become clever with banter and wittiness by hanging out with friends you find funny and contribute to their jokes. Or study comedians you find funny/relatable and try to emulate them without copying them verbatim.
  • Learning to dance is always a good way to be fun and flirty, it also becomes socially acceptable to get physical. Latin dance classes or Hip Hop dance classes are both good to attend and you don’t even need to get really good, just good enough where you have rhythm and know how to dance with a girl.
  • Reading both verbal and non-verbal cues to know when to physically escalate with women. This requires being a good listener and being attentive. Pay attention to her facial expressions, her body language and tonality. Is she giving you any signs? Such as good eye contact, smiling, spending a lot of time with you, etc.

Things to keep in mind:

  • Stay away from self deprecating humor
  • Don’t let your mind (self doubt, disbelief, hesitation) overcome your actions (approaching), let your actions overcome your mind.
  • If you’re insecure about your image then you can always work on things within your control (fashion, physique, finance, hygiene, grooming)

Most importantly if you find yourself going into a negative downward spiral, have a way to immediately interrupt that thought process. For me personally when I started my journey the moment I had a negative downward spiral, I would immediately approach a girl; because while I’m in the moment talking to the girl, my focus becomes the interaction itself instead of my negative thoughts. It’s like the old saying “focus on the solution not the problem”.

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