Field Rapport 15/11/2018 - 20/11/2018

Highlights of different first time opens and also a bit of background knowledge

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Just a quick introduction to this series. I am an average chode (beta male) like most of you when you started off. I chased a girl that friend-zoned me for 4 years and only had sex twice. Not only did I chase her for 4 years but I chased her during my University years which if I knew about game I would have been a stud by now. I am 24 now, have a full time job and continuing my studies part time. I did not know game existed until July 2018 which I fell in love with the idea immediately. I joined the Global Alpha Males group Ciaran and Joe started and also a local Pick up community. I was a keyboard ninja up until now, helping other men with the knowledge I acquired through watching endless YouTube videos and also reading books but rarely practicing it my self. I met two great wings Yogi and Liam in the same week as I went on a sabbatical from alcohol and smoking. They also don't drink or rarely does so which helped me a lot. Now I can actually say I am a chode that is willing to change. This series is dedicated to the shit I went through to change my chodey self into an Alpha. I am not there yet but you better believe I will be.

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Enough about me and lets move on to talking about me and game. My first ever set I opened was really beautiful and if I had to say, the lord blessed me with this set. See this girl was short, blond, slender and had the brightest red lipstick. Her name was Carli. Now you can ask my friend Yogi, he knows me by now. Once I get into a set which is flaming hot to me, I start getting nervous. I turn into a lawn mower spitting out as much stories and as fast as possible. Carli and I had a great convo. We shared the same passion for marvel movies as well as general knowledge. Needless to say nothing came from this as I choded out and went to the bathroom the moment I felt the conversation is going down hill. She is going to George the same time I am so I might walk into her there and then I will re-open the set. 

Since this field rapport is stretched over a few days I am just going to pick out highlights of what I can remember. After my first set everything else was stellar. The set I opened afterwards was on the phone, I know now how to handle a set on their phone and would attempt to get them off their phones next time. What do I have to lose at the end of the day ? The next set was crying when I approached so I left as well. My friend then approached two sets of which one stuck around and the girl was not really interested in my conversation. This was about it for the first day. 

Most days started off stellar, we would approach but nothing would really happen. I still could not approach on my own, my friends had to point out a set for me to walk up to. If I was on my own and a set walked towards me, I would ignore them and continue walking. I was a chode but at least a chode that wanted to make a change. We eventually left for Summit, a high end pub which allows shorts, yes I am talking about Yogi and Liam. There was a set and we 3 had this little routine where Liam would open and ask for an opinion. "My friend is in  a long term relationship, he has a choice to move to greener pastures (better job) but she can't. Does he leave or does he stay with the girl." I would keep Yogi (the friend in a long term relationship) company while Liam does his bit. Eventually Liam would ask Yogi how long his relationship has been going on for and so he pulls us two into the set. Only it was a two set so I was left out, which is fine because that is how winging works (They would do the same for me). I decided to walk around and find sets. There was only one set left. I ignored them, thinking "dam they are hot let me see if I can't find girls uglier then them"  there was none. 

I went and opened my first set without any of my friends pushing me to open them and it was the hot set I ignored. It is definitely the hardest set I have done to date as they were Leboneze, they spoke little english, as well the music was loud. They came over to train here in South Africa for somethign and they are sticking around for a month. I joked and teased with my target saying she seems to dangerous for me and then started talking to her friend. Eventually I ran out of things to say (I know "what you say does not matter" but I am nervous, OK? Leave me alone). I excused my self and saw Yogi standing aside, I told him about the set and we re-approached. Eventually Liam joined in. Liam went in for the number close but I intervened, soon after I realize what I was doing and gave her back to Liam. I thought Laim got the number and he thought I took it. It is one set that was lost but many to come

Now present day (20th) it was just me and Yogi that went out to the mall across from my work as well as Monte Casino. At the mall nothing much really happen. Yogi pushed me to open a business women, which I had a ton of excuses to not do so but did it anyway. Nothing much happened and the set left fairly quickly. Afterwards I thought it would be fun to go through a slide that leads into a toy store. A random girl, and yes she is definitely legal I am guessing a model because she said that she does promotion work, slid down afterwards. I thought it would be Yogi but the man is to much of a professional (By the way Yogi if you are reading this. Stop thinking your to old for this shit. Its the little things in life). I did my routine and got hit with the "I have a boyfriend line" now if it is early conversation I treat it as a rejection otherwise as a shit test. I told her to take it as a compliment, we walked back up and I dropped her off with her friends and left. That was about it for the mall. 

We moved to Monte Casino and I opened this really gorgeous red head which of course gave me a truck load of anxiety. I even at one point said "Dam I don't know what to say" haha what a chode. Yogi eventually jumped in to show me the ropes and he did. He picked this girl apart, dress, hair color, and then lastly her ear rings. The ear rings had rocks in and Yogi starts talking about energies in rocks, which of course she knew about and lit up like a fucking Christmas tree. This man was like the mentalist. Afterwards I ran and approached and Asian girl, she got a bit spooked by Yogi but it was a misunderstanding. I still got her number and as I was about to save it my phone died. 

Ended my routine with a 2 set but nothing much happen there as well. 

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3 Positives

I actually started taking action

Rejection does not get to me

Gaming is so much fun

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3 Negatives

There is still a lot of sets I pass up

My friends most of the time has to push me into opening

I statter and say stupid shit when I open due to being nervous. 

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What I learned

It is really not that bad to open. All my opens were very friendly or they even rejected me in a friendly matter. I made it much worse in my head then what it actually is. 

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I am going to do more field rapports and give my progress. The idea is to show guys how normal it is to have anxiety and be a chode and how I moved from that point to a hero.