TL;DR: I can get good initial interactions and solid numbers, but I find myself fumbling on dates and "giving up" during the date. For dates I don't fumble, I struggle building attraction.

Hi seddit, 25M, I broke up a LTR a few months ago and started meeting girls again.

Over these last months I approached some girls at parties and in the street, but not too much.

I went on dates with 3 different girls.

The first one was a big obvious fumble. I was too nervous, didn't escalate, etc. At the half of the date, I found that I had "given up" and was just hanging out with a girl I could see as a friend.

I hadn't started reading about seduction, this fumble is what led me to do it.

The second one went well, and I went on two other dates with her. We kissed, but because of logistics, I couldn't take her to my place without it seeming too pushy. But I don't feel too attracted to her.

The third one was with a girl that I really vibed with, and that's very attractive. On the date, I discovered she's a very interesting person, got her shit together in terms of her career, etc. Overall, someone I'd love to be in a relationship with.

And I did so fucking well on this date. Flirted well, laughed a lot, we kissed at the end, and I went home feeling like the shit. I had to meet my friends later that day so I didn't even consider pulling.

Two weeks go by with very concise texting, and I went on another date with her.

On this one, I started well, flirted, had fun. But at one point I felt attraction going down, started to get into my own head, and I dished out some canned line that I immediately could tell was tone deaf.

After that point I was way more in my own head. Still made jokes, still had a fun conversation until we had to part ways, but 0 flirting, and I also had "given up" after that point and was just going through the motions.

We didn't text each other yet, but I'm pretty sure we're done.

I probably know the longer-term solution for this, which is to work on myself.

But I'd love to hear your thoughts about ways I can motivate myself to not "give up" during dates, and ways I can recenter myself. I feel like I lose attraction when I fuck up and when things don't go as smoothly.

I can't help but feel bad for fumbling with this girl I started to care about, and for even caring about her so quickly in the first place.