Gaming with "good form"

WIA20XX · 2018-09-11T21:44:09+00:00

The checklist is as long as you want to make it.

The more you do it, the more the big stuff gets internalized and you focus on smaller things.

Did you even approach? That's the first big one.

Did you do the walk up properly?

Did you make eye contact?

Did you speak slowly?

Etc.

Then as you get the mechanics down, you ask yourself, was I listening or just waiting for my chance to talk?

When I spoke, was I seeking common ground or to polarize the girl?

You can keep going down the rabbit hole of refinement.

hunterpua · 2018-09-11T20:23:31+00:00

When it comes to game, good form is having no form.

The thing about working out is that it's very concrete. You come in with a game plan and try to follow that game plan to the letter. You have a set number or sets, a set number of reps, a set amount of weight to lift, etc. And your body really only works one way, there are clear positions that you can put it in where under load or stress make you at risk for injury and there are clear positions that you can put it in where it can handle high loads and stress and still have you come out in one piece.

Game is more like a fight, not in the confrontational or violent nature of it, more like its free flowing nature because like a fight, you'll never know for sure what will happen until it happens. Yes, you will still have a general plan but you need to be fluid enough to seamlessly shift and change as the behaviors of the person or people you interact with shift and change. A person not behaving according to plan is the norm when it comes to social interactions so you need to have the fluidity to adapt on the fly.

You already got it right. Good form is being present but its also fully experiencing the interaction and the dynamic between the two of you.

Many people dread being in their head but the solution is actually very easy, move your focus out to the world and onto the social bubbles you create with the people you interact with. When you're this "out of your head" it will be very easy to notice the smallest facial expressions, ticks, variations in speech patterns, and specific details they reveal about themselves behind the words they say and if you have enough knowledge, experience, or both, you will be able to respond appropriately.

Make no mistake, you can probably get the bench press to 70 or 80% of its ideal form within your first week of training because though there is a level of skill development, its just not that hard to do. Tuck your shoulder blades into your pockets, stick your chest out, try to bend the bar with your hands, keep your feet planted firmly on the ground, lower and raise in a controlled manner and you're good to go. With social interactions, there is a lot more nuance and variation. There are templates of what you're supposed to do and good ones work really damn well but there is still a massive gray zone that only gets filled up with unique colors every single time you interact with someone. So don't try to force someone to follow a plan you have laid out to the letter, instead get to the point where you're able to adjust to each individual and make it work with them to the best of your ability.

thevialator · 2018-09-11T20:27:08+00:00

The most critical part you have down. ABC always be closing. Also gauge the attraction. I’m sure you know what to look for (eye contact, touch, etc.). Girls decide in the first five minutes whether they are going to sleep with you or not. Keep the convo to at least that length and gauge her interest. If she’s interested don’t drop the game. She may go cold to test your resolve. If you know she’s interested, don’t drop the hunt.

Title	Gaming with "good form"
Author	mynameiswut
Upvotes	17
Comments	3
Date	September 11, 2018 7:33 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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