Get anxious whenever thinking about game or knowing I'm going to have to use it

SinSlayer · 2012-05-25T07:42:01+00:00

Stop thinking of it as game, and start looking at it as a tweek in your personality. Do it everyday, especially when you're NOT trying to hit on a woman. Do it enough and it becomes natural.

2012-05-25T07:51:45+00:00

Take this with a grain of salt. I used to be in the same boat as you; I read that 'pickup artist' book and everything, I thought having game would get me girls. The truth is, many of the guidelines that mentality gives you will just come naturally if you forget about trying to have game.

If you're thinking about "game" while you're trying to talk to girls, it will be obvious that you're either a) not actually paying attention to who they are or b) trying way too hard.

I would guess that your problem is not that you don't have the looks or personality to meet and interest girls, but that you're thinking too hard about how you should talk and act around them. At the risk of being cliche: "just be yourself." Knowing your own strengths and weaknesses, using them to your advantage, and remembering to use patience in finding a good girl will definitely get you places (hopefully in pants.)

"Game" is exactly what it's called; a game for dudes to play in their own head to distract themselves from rejection anxiety. When you come to terms with the fact that rejection happens all the time, that it really isn't that bad, and that you feel way more confident when you can just laugh it off, the apprehension will start to fade away.

tl;dr: stop playing games in your own head, start playing games with girls whose personal opinions shouldn't matter to you.

4FF41R · 2012-05-25T13:31:48+00:00

Sure you can look at "the game" as a series of tools geared toward getting ...... seduction of women.

BUT I have a different frame of mind, that is shared by some of the people in here as well, the seduction community is about becoming better person all around, so that people will have a better experience of you, and you in return will have a better experience of life. Attracting women is only a byproduct.
I know it's a long-ish process, sure one can start by getting some action, but that gets old after a few years, and once you have actually mastered your own persona, once you are truly a fully integrated male, then.... the quest for the truly interesting female, the one who matches and complements your personality, the fully integrated female.... well, that is a quest akin to Mission Impossible. In a perfect world, women would have a seduction community just like this one, but unfortunately all the literature and writing about women and dating and life is.... really really silly, just take a look at the best sellers books geared toward women, or the cover of women magazines like Style, Cosmo etc.... CRAP.

I do believe that the core of the entire game/pua/seduction community is an amazing tool to become an amazing person.

Title	Get anxious whenever thinking about game or knowing I'm going to have to use it
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Date	May 25, 2012 7:32 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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