TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

SinSlayer Archive

View 6 posts and 861 comments by SinSlayer on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
55

Calm
/r/seduction10/01/26 09:52 PM
11

The only thing a woman values more than a man's resources is a man's attention.
/r/seduction14/09/25 03:44 PM
1

Oddly enough, I don't really have any pics of myself on I'm IG
/r/seduction23/07/25 08:53 PM
3

Perhaps 🤷🏾‍♂️ If I'm being honest, there have been multiple situations where a mom suggested I date her daughter, including a young woman who was 19 (I was in my early 30s) and her mother was all for it. She said "She needs a mature man and I think you'd be really good for her." They also were regulars at the restaurant I worked for.
/r/seduction23/07/25 08:46 PM
3

I was a restaurant server and they were a 3top: Mom and two daughters. Greeted them, ask about drinks, and mom started winging her daughter to me while the daughter just eye fucked me, asking if I were single and my age and if I found her daughter attractive. By the end of the meal, the mom had written down the daughters number and gave it to me. I dated her for a few months and it was lovely.
/r/seduction23/07/25 07:16 PM
2

Well, LA is packed with beautiful women. I'd suggest Venice Beach, Griffith Park Observatory, Santa Monica Pier and the 3rd Street Promanade as good places to just walk around and enjoy the eye candy.
/r/seduction06/07/22 10:10 PM
2

Where will you be staying?
/r/seduction06/07/22 10:05 PM
10

When I worked as a bartender, I would flirt and chat up the girls and at some point, I'd put a pen and paper in front of them and say "Technically, I'm not allowed to ask guests for their phone number... but if you just so happen to write it on this napkin..."
/r/seduction03/07/22 09:17 PM
13

Being non-chalant with women works because it elicits two strong emotions: Curiosity and Insecurity. Most attractive women go through their day constantly being approached, hit on, and chased after. Enter the man that just doesn't care... It makes her wonder... why? Why doesn't he chase after me like all the others? Reminds me of the old addage "The mouse unchased becomes curious about the cat."
/r/seduction27/04/22 07:28 PM
3

What leads you to believe that you come off as a guy who's looking for commitment?
/r/seduction31/03/22 08:34 PM
2

Ages... relevant and important information...
/r/seduction24/03/22 01:36 AM
1

I get that, but my point is still valid. Again, If I go out with five women, four are dtf and the fifth isn't, I'm not doing anything wrong. There just wasn't a connection there and that's ok. I'm not going to try and figure out how to go 5 for 5, I'm going to focus in what I did with those four that lead to success. As for getting better in general, my best advice is just that; focus on what worked, not what didnt. Improve on the skills that lead to success.
/r/seduction12/03/22 07:36 PM
1

OP suggested that he's had success in the past doing what he's been doing. If that's the case, then why get hung up on the handful of women whatever hes been doing didnt work on? If I tell a joke to 100ppl and 99 laugh, I'm not going to worry about making that 100th person laugh. Not everyone responds the same to everything. Focus on what works, learn to improve where you can and dont sweat the small stuff.
/r/seduction12/03/22 05:50 PM
8

Not every woman you date will feel a sexual connection. And that's okay. Learn to accept it.
/r/seduction12/03/22 04:31 PM
1

The point of the conversation is to gage a connection or "spark". The only thing you have during the initial approach is a sense of attraction. Your goal should be to confirm a mutual attraction and make her WANT more of it. The interest you show is via flirting and escalation.
/r/seduction14/02/22 06:48 PM
1

I'm really enjoying talking to you, but I have to go soon. Would you like to exchange contact info and pick this up later?
/r/seduction14/02/22 06:41 PM
1

Because of the deciding factor. I prefer (enter ethnicity), but I'm open to dating (ethnicity) = preference. I'm ONLY willing to date (ethnicity), or I refuse to date (ethnicity) = discrimination. Its discrimination because of the deciding factor... race. I prefer short vs tall or fat vs skinny can also be discrimination, if you're unwilling to date them based solely on that. I prefer not to date overweight women. But if she's pretty, wears it well, and has a great personality, we can at least h…
/r/seduction07/07/21 01:04 AM
1

Yeah... you're completely right. I mean, those eyes right? What's up with those? And that nose? Like... seriously? Why does your nose look like that? And don't even get me started on the hair? What the fuck??? But really... what turns me off the most... isn't even the color of their skin. I mean... that's part of it... but really... its just the way the are, you know what I mean? Like... they just... ugh!
/r/seduction07/07/21 12:23 AM
1

100%. There are women who will look the other way because of there cough cough preference. There are women who will look twice because of the same. Finding someone who just sees you is tough. Just make sure you are able to just see them.
/r/seduction06/07/21 08:27 PM
3

Listen, I understand the point you're trying to make, but please allow my to offer the other side: If someone came to me and I was single and available, and said "I have the perfect woman for you! She's intelligent, successful, athletic, a gamer, loves anime and all things sci-fi, doesnt have kids, is bi-sexual, kind, loving, kinky, and loyal af... I showed her your picture and she thinks your hot as hell and wants to meet you!" "What race is she?" First... lets stop right there... The fact that…
/r/seduction06/07/21 08:24 PM
0

Sigh... Both are discriminatory. If I, as a black man, say I only date black women, am I not discriminating against every other ethnicity? People seem to think that there is no racial bias or discrimination regarding race and dating, and try to smooth it over by calling it preference, but its not. If they ONLY reason your are willing or unwilling to date someone is there ethnicty, thats clearly discrimination. Do you have the right to date whomever you choose? Absolutely! But dont try to sugar c…
/r/seduction06/07/21 07:49 PM
1

Okay; 43yo AA male here; born and raised in LA but have lived and traveled throughout the US, and while Ive never been to Canada, I cant imagine its much different there: Race matters to some people. They may label it "preference", but its still discrimination (and it goes both ways). My wife is a 6ft blonde haired blue eyed goddess, and I met her in Georgia. Ive had white women who wouldn't date me because of my race and white women who wanted to date me because of it. The most important thing …
/r/seduction06/07/21 06:55 PM
3

Where do you live?
/r/seduction06/07/21 06:11 PM
5

Hey. This is Sinslayer. It was great meeting you and I'm looking forward to getting to know you. Enjoy the rest of your day.
/r/seduction06/05/21 07:03 PM
6

Confidence = I have faith and trust in myself/ability. Arrogance = I have MORE faith and trust in myself/ability than you. Be confident, but dont think you're better than others.
/r/seduction31/03/21 04:33 PM
2

So thats mistake number one. By asking if shes free for the day, you're putting her in the spot and in the spotlight. Instead, decide how you want to spend the day and ask her to join you. This puts the focus on the activity instead if her involvement being the focal point. Mistake number two is not putting in the effort to get to know her and build a rapport before asking them to "hang out". If someone random hit me up out the blue and was like "Hey... wanna hang out?", 9/10 the answer would be…
/r/seduction12/11/20 12:53 AM
1

When you say "hang out", what do you mean?
/r/seduction12/11/20 12:38 AM
1

Stop asking her to meet. Find out what shes into. Find the thing you both enjoy. Make plans to go do that thing. Invite her to join you.
/r/seduction12/11/19 07:51 PM
2

Gently stroke her hair, look from her eyes, to her lips and back to her eyes. Gently pull her towards you. If she doesnt resist or stop you, kiss her.
/r/seduction20/08/19 02:10 AM
1

Are you saying you've never had success with women?
/r/seduction11/08/19 02:35 AM
9

Yoga
/r/seduction23/05/19 05:01 PM
1

"I enjoyed meeting you and Im looking forward to getting to know you better. When is the best time to text/call?" She'll tell you when to text.
/r/seduction21/05/19 02:21 AM
2

Approach. Engage. Chat. Excuse yourself after a decent period of time. Go to the bathroom. Get a drink. Hang out with other guest. Then return to her. Rinse. Repeat.
/r/seduction18/05/19 01:57 AM
1

Yo-yo technique.
/r/seduction18/05/19 01:15 AM
4

I hate texting as well, but the sad truth, especially with millennials, is that texting is a big part of game.
/r/seduction17/05/19 04:34 AM
1

Both. Always be yourself, but always try to escalate the attraction and affection.
/r/seduction16/05/19 06:21 PM
1

"Hi." There are two crucial things you need to understand about "openers"; 1) Its NEVER what you say, its HOW you say it. 2) If a woman is interested in you, you can say almost anything and as long as your delivery is on point, she will respond.
/r/seduction16/05/19 03:39 PM
1

No. Maintain and escalate the attraction constantly and at every opportunity... but tell her "Lets just be friends". IME, 99% of the time I tell an attractive woman (who I know is into me) that we are just going to be friends, she throws herself at me.
/r/seduction16/05/19 03:24 PM
1

Friendzone her
/r/seduction16/05/19 03:20 PM
1

Dance towards her. If shes feeling you, she'll dance with you. Spin her around and get closer.
/r/seduction05/05/19 06:24 PM
5

How do you open them with men? The bottom line is stop gender gapping. Don't think of it as talking to men v women... you're talking to people. Just because one has tits and a vag doesn't mean the conversation has to change.
/r/seduction18/04/19 08:39 PM
1

Why dont you talk about those things with women?
/r/seduction18/04/19 08:35 PM
5

Imagine she's a guy.
/r/seduction08/04/19 04:45 PM
8

So you talked about the prom, going together, matching outfits, what time to get there, etc?
/r/seduction07/04/19 11:24 PM
10

How much communication did you have with her in between you asking her a month ago and last night's event?
/r/seduction07/04/19 11:17 PM
1

Yes
/r/seduction27/03/19 07:58 PM
2

So why not call and have a real conversation?
/r/seduction26/03/19 07:37 PM
4

Just because the date is in the distance, it doesn't mean you shouldn't be actively communicating. I'll give you an example: it's Tuesday. I hit up a girl and ask if she wants to join me for a ride on my motorcycle up the coast and get some lunch/drinks this Saturday. She agrees. It's a date. Do you think I shouldn't maintain contact with her in the meantime? I'm still going to hit her up and get to know her in the meantime. The date is time for us to get to know one another in person and see if…
/r/seduction26/03/19 06:47 PM
4

True progression in seduction should look something like this: Daily improvements on ME: Style, physique, personal experience, financial stability, lifestyle. Communication with others: Overcoming AA, maintaining a conversation, closing, text/phone game, reading and understanding body language. The psychological aspects: Understanding a person's thought process, emotional responses, triggers (both positive and negative), an commonalities. Intimacy: Not just physical, but building mental and emot…
/r/seduction26/03/19 06:06 PM
11

So you want to be like the people who only complain about their relationships?
/r/seduction25/03/19 02:18 PM
2

Neither of those should be a goal. When it comes to your style, you only considerations should be comfort and self-esteem.
/r/seduction10/03/19 09:54 PM
2

I had the same problem; I'm North of 200 and nearly every relationship I had ended because I wasn't down for anything serious or committed. This continued well into my 30s. Meeting a woman who was open to exploring the swinger lifestyle was life changing! Now, I'm engaged to an amazing woman and we go out and have sex with other sexy couples (or unicorns) whenever we want. I'd highly recommend finding a woman who's open to that lifestyle. We've met some amazing couples who are really happy and a…
/r/seduction20/02/19 01:50 AM
6

Try light BDSM
/r/seduction09/02/19 06:26 PM
1

I've been approached a lot in my life. Some women are just bolder than others.
/r/seduction06/02/19 02:51 PM
2

Negging is "Wow. You look great... except for that top." Push/Pull is We're close now, but I'm going to go stand over there, and when I get over there, I'm gonna call you to me and you're going to come.
/r/seduction06/02/19 02:23 AM
3

How do you dress? How tall are you? What's your build? How are you visually marketing yourself?
/r/seduction22/01/19 01:23 AM
1

Sounds like a good plan. A few things I would advise: Don't focus on the hook-up. Focus on the intimacy. Don't try to get her to have sex with you. Make her WANT to have sex with you. Kiss her as soon as you see her. Doesn't have to be deep or passionate. But kiss her and say "I've been wanting to do that since you ordered your (whatever coffee she ordered)." Relax and have fun.
/r/seduction21/01/19 06:45 PM
18

Approach the group as a whole and engage with them all. Introduce yourself and take a moment to address each of them individually. Try to isolate target, flirt a bit, and then ask if she'd like to grab a drink with you at the bar.
/r/seduction30/12/18 07:57 PM
1

Why do you want to?
/r/seduction18/12/18 10:45 PM
1

First, I firmly believe the 1-10scale is dated and extremely antiquated; your question being one of the main reasons: What exactly qualifies a person to be a 10/10? What are the subtle variances that would escalate someone from a 8 or 9 to a solid 10? And who do we consider a baseline 5? How unattractive does one need to be to be considered a 1 or a 2? Are we taking Elephant man or burn victim? And is it specifically just based on physical appearance with no account for personality, or can an 8 …
/r/seduction25/11/18 04:47 PM
4

Yeah... don't say all that. Just tell her you find her attractive and you'd like to get to know her better and ask if she'd like to grab a drink or two with you.
/r/seduction13/11/18 06:27 PM
8

This is complete nonsense.
/r/seduction11/11/18 01:51 AM
11

"Excuse me. My name is Sinslayer. What's yours? HB10? Hello HB10. It's nice to meet you. (offer firm handshake). HB10, (saying her name three times helps you remember it.) I'd like to ask you a question; in today's political climate, specifically the #metoo and feminst movement, if a man was interested in getting to know you, possible romantically, and he strongly resemblem me... how would you want him to approach you?"
/r/seduction04/11/18 12:42 AM
1

Preaching to the choir, bro.
/r/seduction16/10/18 07:55 PM
5

Honestly, I don't even notice shit tests anymore. I'm so done with trying to prove me value or worth to a woman. I am who I am. I want what I want. I love how I love. Either you want to be a part of it or you don't.
/r/seduction16/10/18 05:14 PM
2

Avoid bringing up sex so soon.
/r/seduction05/10/18 06:04 PM
2

My bucketlist includes; Taking a Kendo class Talking salsa lessons Learning to play the game of thrones theme on sax Taking a motorcycle road trip from LA to San Francisco for the weekend Writing another novel Camping in Yosemite A weekend trip to the Grand Canyon (also on my bike) To name a few.
/r/seduction05/10/18 04:20 AM
1

How can you say you're perfectly happy if you have an emotional crash everytime your stable empties?
/r/seduction04/10/18 09:37 PM
1

Who said anything about it bringing women to you? This is something you do for you. Women come and go... make sure you're happy with you when you're the only person in the room.
/r/seduction04/10/18 05:08 PM
7

Spend some time with you. Go to the gym. Go watch a movie. Go to a museum. Read a book. Go to a nice bar and have your favorite drink. You're crushed because now it's just you and you don't like it when it's just you. There will be times in your life when you're going to be alone. And it's okay. Take that time to enjoy being with the most important person in your universe.... you.
/r/seduction04/10/18 04:32 AM
2

There are a few things I would suggest: First, there's nothing wrong with dating more than one person at a time... as long as you're honest about. Now, I'm not suggesting you text each of them and say "Just fyi, you're not the only girl I'm dating", but if they ask, simple respond with "Do you feel we are at a point to discuss exclusivity?" If she says "Yes?", sit her down, ask her why, ask her what exclusivity means to hear. And if you want to be exclusive, do it. If you don't, tell her you're …
/r/seduction04/10/18 02:38 AM
11

The first question is how old are you. Your age is going to play a role in how most people will respond. I can offer a few general tips: First and foremost, you MUST learn to overcome you approach anxiety. We are entering a point in history where women are becoming more assertive and taking responsibility for their romantic life. If you say that the men that do approach you aren't your type, then you have to start APPROACHING the men that are. Otherwise, you'll be back here in a couples weeks as…
/r/seduction02/10/18 07:29 PM
0

Post a pic
/r/seduction28/09/18 05:41 PM
2

At the risk of setting of a troll trap... Why do you feel this way?
/r/seduction26/09/18 03:56 PM
2

Well, while I don't want to suggest you did something "wrong", your description of the events don't mention any for of intimacy or physical connection besides you touching her thigh. Did you hold hands? Hug? Kiss? Or at the very least make the attempt? What I see happen with a lot of men who try to be the "white knight" on a first date is that they avoid getting physical/intimate with a woman and inadvertently friendzone themselves because they didn't escalate physically or intimately. I'm not s…
/r/seduction26/09/18 02:50 PM
1

Where's the escalation? Where's the intimacy?
/r/seduction26/09/18 02:00 PM
1

Get really close. Look them in the eyes, and caress the side of their face while staring longingly at their lips and softly "I have something I want to ask you... would you like some gum?"
/r/seduction26/09/18 12:01 AM
3

Move on.
/r/seduction24/09/18 12:54 AM
7

So? Who cares? You know what you did and didn't do. Do you really need the rest of the world to know? And how does telling everyone benefit you? How does it make you look like anything other than a jealous jilted lover who's just being vindictive and spiteful? Pick your battles, bro. She's not worth the time or effort.
/r/seduction23/09/18 05:42 PM
6

And why would you be a petty little bitch about it? She didn't fuck herself. You knew exactly what her situation was. You knew exactly what you were doing. And you knew exactly how it was likely to end. Man up. Let the situation be what it is. And just move on with your life. No need to piss gasoline on a dying fire.
/r/seduction23/09/18 05:36 PM
11

Ignore her. Why spend any more time on someone who choose someone else? Hell, why spend any time on someone who you KNOW is a liar and a cheater? There's billions of women out there. Go find one with less drama.
/r/seduction23/09/18 05:23 PM
7

The "lady" made her choice. Move on. Things are only going to get more convoluted if you continue to peruse her.
/r/seduction23/09/18 05:15 PM
5

No. Just general advice. Those three things are the most impactful to your level of attraction, and the three things you can change the fastest. Fitness is also on the list, but not a deciding factor as a lot of "big" people can be attractive. Your hairstyle, facial hair, etc can all be adjusted with grooming. Your style is an eye catcher, for better or for worse, and your attitude it the crown jewel. Changing these three things are going to have the biggest affect on your level of attractivenes…
/r/seduction23/09/18 03:13 PM
6

Grooming Style Attitude
/r/seduction23/09/18 03:06 PM
2

So I started typing out the post, and that shit got mad long, so I'm going to try to condense it for you... You are the brand. You are the product you're trying to "sell" to the women you're approaching. When I ask "How strong is your brand", I'm asking about your life and lifestyle: Does it all reflect the best version of you possible? What do your clothes say about you? What does your hair and grooming practices say about you? What's your financial situation like? What about your living situat…
/r/seduction21/09/18 09:08 PM
1

About to submit a post on r/seduction. I link you when I'm done.
/r/seduction21/09/18 08:10 PM
0

Oh... young padiwan... much to learn you... you still have...
/r/seduction21/09/18 07:40 PM
1

How's your brand?
/r/seduction21/09/18 07:30 PM
0

You had sex with your little brother???
/r/seduction18/09/18 03:18 PM
1

No problem
/r/seduction17/09/18 06:07 PM
3

Why not? If all you do is go get her, take her back to your place, fuck, and then take her home... who wouldn't get bored with that? You'd have to have some amazing dick for that to be the only thing on the menu and have repeat business. Stop treating her like a sex toy and start treating her like a person and she'll both appreciate and respect you for it, as well as want to spend more time with you.
/r/seduction17/09/18 06:02 PM
12

1) Improve your sex game. If a woman is leaving you 100% satiated, odds are she'll be back for more. 2) Get out the house. Even when the sex is amazing, a woman will get tired of "Come over, fuck, rinse, repeat". Go see a movie, have lunch, take a walk in the park, go for a hike. If a woman feels like there's nothing more to your interaction than sex, it'll get old quick, especially if that's all you do. 3) Just chill. Everytime a woman walks through your door, it doesn't mean is time to fuck. O…
/r/seduction17/09/18 05:55 PM
1

Reading your post was tough. A lot of grammatical errors. It made me think English wasn't your first language. Not trying to be a grammer-nazi, but I was imagining a girl reading a text from you with similar difficulty.
/r/seduction16/09/18 11:27 PM
2

Is English your primary language?
/r/seduction16/09/18 11:18 PM
2

Grow the hair out and style it back. Let the beard fill in but keep it neat and tight.
/r/seduction16/09/18 01:17 AM
6

Give yourself some time. 5yrs is a long time and that relationship needs to be mourned. Focus on you and doing things you like and enjoy, and don't make a point of interacting with women until you're truly ready.
/r/seduction14/09/18 12:49 AM
3

Depends on what happens after she takes my hat. If she sits down and starts a convo, flow with it. If she disappears into a crowd and starts dancing, she's got about five seconds to bring me my hat back.
/r/seduction13/09/18 08:00 PM
2

Basically, I'm saying that when you lack what's considered traditional attractiveness, you have to make yourself more appealing via your style. You have to gear up and showcase your dress style to make up for what you may lack physically.
/r/seduction10/09/18 07:02 PM
15

On the plus side, you seem to have nice skin. Get rid of the stubble on the sides of your face. It makes you look unclean. You have very full lips. I'd suggest framing them with a goatee if you can grow one. You have a larger than average forehead; a really close cut may bring less attention to it. That or growing it out and maybe trying for dreads. You said your short... You have a solid build; get in the gym and cut as much body fat as you can handle and start getting some muscle definition. O…
/r/seduction10/09/18 05:03 PM
11

Make a Bucketlist of 52 items. Do one every week.
/r/seduction09/09/18 05:55 PM
4

You're letting them dictate the sexual terms. You're allowing their withholding of sex to bother you. Let me ask you this: how do you think these women would react if you ha e ZERO fucks about having sex with them? How do you think they would look at you if they said "Hey... I need you to wait for sex." And instead of getting bothered, you responded with "What makes you think I want to have sex with you?" A huge mistake most men make is putting the sexual aspect of a relationship on such a high …
/r/seduction07/09/18 06:37 AM
6

You care too much about the sex.
/r/seduction07/09/18 06:00 AM
1

How old are you? Where do you live? Do you have a job/car? Do you live alone?
/r/seduction02/09/18 11:48 PM
1

What kind of dating techniques are you looking for?
/r/seduction02/09/18 11:43 PM
2

Be open and honest about your views on marriage v commitment. They are not the same.
/r/seduction02/09/18 10:25 PM
1

Prioritize
/r/seduction02/09/18 06:17 PM
1

Sit down opposite her. Take out a piece of folded paper from your pocket. Unfold it. "Okay. Number 56 on the bucketlist: Start a conversation with a beautiful woman." Look at her. "Hi. I'm Sinslayer."
/r/seduction28/07/18 03:42 PM
3

Success with women is success with people. A huge problem I have with most of the advice given on this sub is female specific and in my opinion, that's where most newbs go wrong. They are target focused instead of looking at the bigger picture. The man that is most successful with women is a man that takes time to build himself, love himself, understand himself, and learns how to articulate that with the people around him confidently and without being pretentious or arrogant. Once you've constru…
/r/seduction27/07/18 05:06 PM
1

Depends on who I'm talking to.
/r/seduction27/07/18 01:27 AM
2

I just turned 40. What works extremely well for me was finding someone who shared my views on sexual (non)monogamy, having a secure relationship with her, and then joining the swinging lifestyle. I have the best of both worlds; a wonderful partner to share my life with, and still being able to enjoy going out, meeting, and having amazing sex with other women without it destroying my relationship.
/r/seduction16/07/18 01:46 PM
12

There is so much wrong here...
/r/seduction11/07/18 03:05 PM
3

She touches you.
/r/seduction10/07/18 04:35 PM
1

What's your schedule like for Sunday?
/r/seduction30/05/18 11:59 PM
1

You should start #-closing.
/r/seduction29/05/18 01:03 AM
2

What address should I provided?
/r/seduction17/05/18 07:06 AM
4

A cold approach (especially daygame) is really tricky. Most women are either A: Totally unprepared for it mentally, or B: Really used to getting hit on all the time. The best advice I can offer is to make the interaction less about the outcome and more about the individual. IMO, the single greatest mistake newbies make is turning approach into a numbers game. They tell themselves "Im going to open five times today!". While this may help overcome AA, it makes the approach as a whole less genuine.…
/r/seduction06/02/18 12:02 AM
1

Just keep doing what you're doing until it becomes second nature.
/r/seduction04/02/18 08:24 PM
1

I was going to offer some sage advice, but you saying a woman is slutty for doing the EXACT SAME THING AS YOU really pissed me off.
/r/seduction31/01/18 06:51 AM
4

Yes and No: Here's what you need to understand about PUA techniques: they are a guideline for living your life without fear of rejection when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex. But, they are not a standard of behavior or a solve all for your situation.
/r/seduction24/01/18 04:02 PM
1

That is horrible! It's the equivalent to trying to sell someone something by first showing them a far superior model and then offering them something else.
/r/seduction08/01/18 10:22 PM
3

I've pulled this off, but only at a swingers party. Most social interactions outside venues like that require some verbal interaction.
/r/seduction08/12/17 05:38 PM
5

For a female, getting wet is a physical/biological reaction to sexual stimuli, but doesn't necessarily translate to an actual desire for sex. Think of it like "Morning wood"; sure, physically your ready for sex, but it doesn't mean your actually horny or want sex. For many women, the desire for sex comes from a mental and emotional place. If a woman tells you she needs more stimulation, it's because while her body may be ready, her mind isn't... yet.
/r/seduction08/12/17 03:19 PM
2

By being happy and confident with yourself. There's a world of difference between being alone and being lonely. The first and most valuable and important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. When you're lonely and miserable with your life, women (people) can tell. It's in the way you walk, talk, carry yourself, everything. The opposite is just as true. If you feel like you have a hole in your life, no amount of pussy will ever fill it. No amount of external love will fill it. It's a…
/r/seduction04/12/17 11:21 PM
1

By just being you and enjoying the moment without worrying about the outcome. There are two things you have to consider when talking to a woman: The first is the fact your talking to a person, not a walking pair of tits and a vagina. A person. Someone with drama and bullshit and hopes and dreams and ambitions... same as you. She doesn't exist just for sex or to fulfill your sexual desires or fantasy. So instead of being concerned about anything physical or emotional, just deal with the person fi…
/r/seduction04/12/17 10:57 PM
4

Adding to u/Imjustso comment, maintaining interest is like writing a good story: show, don't tell. If I go out with a girl and ramble on about how awesome and exciting my life is, it'll come off as pretentious and arrogant. But if I let her experience it for herself gradually, she gets drawn in and attracted more because she's excited about what's to come. A few other tips: Don't be afraid to be intimate. I'm not saying turn every first date into a make out session, but if she's out with you, th…
/r/seduction04/12/17 08:15 PM
10

Well, there's a laundry list of tips and advice I can offer, but my Number 1 trick for landing a gaggle of pussy: When I meet a girl and start getting intimate or romantically involve, I always have the same attitude: I DON'T CARE IF WE FUCK OR NOT! It's the cheetah in the wild scenario. A hungry cheetah in the wild stalking a heard of gazelle will always get the same result: They run. A cheetah just lazily strolling across the plains to have a drink at the watering hole... A few may back away c…
/r/seduction04/12/17 08:00 PM
6

For most men, the leading cause of AA is focusing on the outcome. The close is never the goal. The approach is always the goal. Once you approach a girl, there are a dozen things that will affect your close, so just focus on the approach. Just walk up and say "Hi. I'm WhiteLightning. How are you?" That's it. Don't focus on anything but that part. After a few times, your AA will vanish completely.
/r/seduction04/12/17 05:31 PM
5

Approach anxiety comes from a fear of the outcome. Realise the close isn't the goal. The approach is the goal. There are a dozen things that will affect the close, but only one that will affect the approach, and that's you. Make the approach and don't worry about the outcome.
/r/seduction21/11/17 05:19 PM
2

You forgot Master Level.
/r/seduction06/10/17 04:02 PM
10

Sounds like she didn't enjoy it enough to repeat. My foolproof plan for knowing if a woman enjoyed sex with you: She wants more sex with you.
/r/seduction03/10/17 01:23 AM
7

Yea. All the time.
/r/seduction26/09/17 05:19 PM
4

Whoever initiated the date.
/r/seduction21/09/17 03:19 AM
1

When you say "start to finish", what do you consider the finish?
/r/seduction21/09/17 01:52 AM
3

Try asking neutral questions: What was the last movie you saw? Whats the first song on your favorite playlist? What shows do you binge watch? The in between is getting to know what the like and dont without diving into the why.
/r/seduction21/09/17 01:18 AM
35

Dating rules: (Note: this is my own personal dating formula. It works for me 100%. Ymmv) Never ask a woman out. Ask her to join you for something instead. And even if she doesn't, do what you said you were gonna do. The first date is all about finding out if there is chemistry/connection between the two of you. Don't over think it or plan something extravagant. Personally, I always try to make the first date something physical: pool, gun range, bowling, mini golf, go karts, indoor rock climbing,…
/r/seduction21/09/17 01:16 AM
11

It's never what you say. It's always how you say it.
/r/seduction21/09/17 12:55 AM
0

Dates or secci tymes?
/r/seduction20/09/17 11:53 PM
4

There are three things that will make a woman instantly attracted to you: Looks. Money. And the ability to make her laugh.
/r/seduction20/09/17 11:20 PM
6

Everything but dates and secci tyme.
/r/seduction20/09/17 11:15 PM
134

Comedy is invaluable in PUA. Don't ever lose it. Don't focus on learning how to talk to women; learn how to talk to people. I can have a conversation with a five year old as easily as a 65year old, and as easily as a 28yo HB10. They're just people. Remember the art of conversation is a simple formula: Ask. Empathise. Express. Repeat. Ask a question. Empathise on the answer, usually offering your own personal experience. Express interest or disinterest in the answer. Ask another question. Don't f…
/r/seduction20/09/17 11:03 PM
-1

You'd be surprised. People hear what they want to hear.
/r/seduction20/09/17 10:53 PM
-4

Hell yes!
/r/seduction20/09/17 10:46 PM
1

Initial encounters are more about banter and rapport, IMO. Avoid getting deep until a later, more intimate conversation.
/r/seduction20/09/17 10:09 PM
6

"You like my watch? Yeah it's pretty cool. There is one major problem with it, though." "What's that?" "It doesn't have your number in it yet."
/r/seduction20/09/17 10:05 PM
13

While kissing/nibbling her neck, I whisper "Are you as turned on right now as I am." (The answer is always "yes"). "Prove it. Touch your pussy for me and show me how wet it is."
/r/seduction20/09/17 09:49 PM
1

So whats an average day for you?
/r/seduction19/09/17 09:58 PM
1

Call her
/r/seduction19/09/17 08:02 PM
15

Here are some specifics that may help: 1) Stop focusing on trying to fuck hot girls. You sound shallow and desperate. 2) When you see a woman you find attractive, make eye contact and smile. If she smiles back, approach. 3) When you approach, ask her name and give her a firm handshake when you say hers. Repeat her name three times. "Hey. What's your name? Kelly. Well Kelly, it's nice to meet you. Kelly, Im Sinslayer." 4) If you compliment her, compliment something specific and NON-PHYSICAL. If s…
/r/seduction16/09/17 11:44 PM
7

1) While I wouldn't say nightclubs are an ideal place for pick-up, I would admit that the nightlife is made for people meeting people. That said, meeting women is a simple matter of approaching the one you are interested in regardless of the location or time of day. Just keep in mind that women (and men) spend a lot of time presenting themselves for these events often in hopes of meeting someone and sometimes just for the attention. 2) Never drink and drive. And the legality of hooking up with a…
/r/seduction16/09/17 11:31 PM
1

So what are your interactions like?
/r/seduction07/09/17 03:48 PM
1

I would say something about the disconnect between electronic social interaction and actual human interaction in the millennial generation, but I'll simply offer you two points: Like I said before: most people establish a stronger mental/emotional connection to what they hear over what they read. There are subtle voice tone and inflection changes that effect the mind differently. A text msg is read the same way, regardless of the sender, subject, or phrase. We all have an internal voice we use t…
/r/seduction07/09/17 03:13 PM
2

Personally, I always say a phone a 30min phone conversations trumps 100 text exchanges. When I meet a woman online. I msg to a number exchange, then after one or two exchanges, I call. Think about how many text exchanges you have a day. How many of them really stand out? Now think about the phone conversations you have. Most people retain auditory information better than read information. Plus, with the right voice tone, you can really stimulate someone bt speaking with them. Call and make a con…
/r/seduction07/09/17 02:47 PM
3

You're not taking enough time to get them mentally/emotionally invested in seeing you. Why should she spend time with you instead of one of the other 10 guys that she swipped for? What have you done since making a match that made her WANT to spend time with you? Have you called her an had an actual conversation? Have she called/text you? Have you had any kind of chemistry or connection beside the initial "LIKE" swipe? Take time to communicate with her and get to know her before the "Hey... wanna…
/r/seduction07/09/17 02:32 PM
3

Remember the most important thing: It's never what you say... It's ALWAYS how you say it.
/r/seduction22/08/17 09:23 PM
2

What are you doing in these initial hang out sessions?
/r/seduction08/08/17 06:59 AM
0

So, basically a shorter version of what I said.
/r/seduction03/08/17 08:33 PM
1

I would love to hear how you would respond...
/r/seduction03/08/17 07:23 PM
10

"I agree and understand completely, but in my experience, the best way to get to know someone is to look them in the eye while you talk. A person can pretend to be someone they're not on the web. Besides, Im not asking you to netflix and chill, lol. I just want to have a drink and pick your brain. But take your time. No rush."
/r/seduction03/08/17 04:44 PM
7

It varies depending on schedule(s), buy I try not to let more than a week pass in between dates. Ive had all three dates take place inside 72hrs and Ive had it take almost a month. The most important thing to remember even if you cant schedule another date right away, maintain contact and continue to escalate via phone/text. I try to get a woman to a point where I'm a part of her daily life; talking/texting me is something she expects and anticipated daily. I also continue to ask questions and b…
/r/seduction23/07/17 03:40 PM
73

I dont ask women out. I invite them to join me for an activity/event/outting. I usually do some digging into their interests before I invite them to something. That said, I do have a pretty structured way of doing things. For the first date, I like to do something that involves physical movement; indoor rock climbing, archery range, go-karts, kayaking, etc., immediately followed by drinks of some sort or an impromtu lunch/dinner. The second date is usually the opposite of the first; something le…
/r/seduction23/07/17 12:03 AM
2

Practice. Thats really the only good way to correct the behavior. Sit alone in a room and just practice slowing your pace. Try teading aloud slowly, and pretend you're reading to small children.
/r/seduction20/07/17 09:47 PM
12

When I was 18, I hooked up with a 40yo. I meet her at a Laundromat and flirted a bit. We exchanged numbers and wound up in a hotel room a few nights later.
/r/seduction14/07/17 06:24 PM
4

Had a similar situation once. A girl I slept with got butthurt when she found out I was also screwing another coworker. She talked some shit. When it was brought to my attention, my response was "Once I cum in a bitches mouth, what comes out of it no longer interests me."
/r/seduction12/07/17 11:33 PM
4

It might.
/r/seduction11/07/17 03:46 PM
4

Treat her like a person and not an object.
/r/seduction11/07/17 03:32 PM
4

Not 100% accurate. A better statement would be "Women want to be wanted by the men they want."
/r/seduction08/07/17 03:53 PM
2

You should be communicating with her daily anyway. I'd just send something quick like "Looking forward to seeing you later."
/r/seduction08/07/17 03:51 PM
-16

So, you want quick and concise advice without any subtext or explination? Okay. What else would you like?
/r/seduction03/07/17 10:34 PM
-1

The game? What I sometimes do with a girl I'm texting, in an attempt to get to know her better (as well as capture her attention), is a multiple choice game where I'll send her four images, be it fashion, travel, cars, activities, jewelry, etc., with "A, B, C, or D?" and let her respond. IME, this is 100% effective for captivating her as it gives her both a visual and mental stimulation, not to mention its something most men don't do. It's fun and easy and a good way to past the time as well as …
/r/seduction26/06/17 04:35 PM
-4

Hey cutie. Hows work? Wanna play a game?
/r/seduction26/06/17 04:17 PM
1

After the second msg, I would have responded with "Sorry... I can't type with one hand. ;)"
/r/seduction22/06/17 05:01 AM
1

Three strike rule
/r/seduction22/06/17 04:57 AM
2

Yes and yes. I make all kinds of flirtatious comments and statements... but that's as far as I let it go. I have a co-worker that bluntly told me she wanted to sleep with me, but I politely declined.
/r/seduction22/06/17 03:42 AM
9

While Im a huge proponent for teasing women, I advise against doing a "kiss pull away", at least initially, as it can often times have the opposite effect. That said, two of my favorite things that almost always spike a womens desire. 1) Friendzone her. Seriously. Every time Ive told a woman that we were just going to be friends, she's thrown herself at me. Every. Single. Time. 2) The Not Tonight- If the end of the first date is getting pretty steamy and erotic, I'll tell her "Not tonight. Let's…
/r/seduction22/06/17 01:28 AM
5

39M - My current GF and I have been together for nearly six years. I NEVER stop flirting with other women. But I also never escalate with other women (unless my gf and I decide we want an extra set of hands for the evening). The thing about seduction you have to realize is there shouldn't be an "off" switch. Instead, it becomes focused on one individual instead of many. You should never stop actively seducing your partner. But to answer your question, the point of no return is when you sit down …
/r/seduction22/06/17 01:17 AM
3

Being comfortable with yourself means being able to look at yourself in the mirror and say "I like me. I love me. Flaws and all. Im not perfect. I'll change what I can and accept what I can't. Im a work in progress and everyday Ill make an effort to be a better man than I was yesterday, but Im okay with the man I am today. And that man doesn't need your validation. He doesn't need you to like him or approve of him, or hell, even be attracted to him. But you will not disrespect him. You don't kno…
/r/seduction20/06/17 11:00 PM
4

But that's not really all there is to it. Think of meeting women and dating like fishing. Where do you go to catch fish. What kind of lures work best? How do I catch a particular type of fish? Once I got a fish on the hook, how do I reel it in without breaking the line? Once I have it in the boat, what do I do? How do you bone a fish? How do you cook it to get the best flavor? This is the heart of r/seduction. Its answering those questions, offering the best advice, and garnering experience. Jus…
/r/seduction18/06/17 03:28 AM
1

Here's what you need to understand about r/seduction: A lot of (people) have a hard time dealing with, interacting with, and understanding the opposite sex. Those of us with experience try to offer advice and insight. But people are people. There isn't one thing or method that works for every situation. The basic foundation of PUA is learning how to overcome your fear and anxiety, getting out there, and learning and growing from your own experiences. Does it work? Yes and no. What works with one…
/r/seduction18/06/17 02:38 AM
1

Walk me through your process. Once you get a match and msg, what happens next?
/r/seduction18/06/17 02:33 AM
1

Again, depends on the product/service. For $20, it better be an amazing video or something.
/r/seduction16/06/17 05:45 PM
1

$50 is a lot for a video series and you can bet your ass it'll be pirated like crazy. Id suggest releasing the videos free and looking into ad hosting once you reach a certain number of subscribers.
/r/seduction16/06/17 05:38 PM
3

Imo, it comes down to three things: How much time was invested before it became a LTR, and the duration of the LTR, and the distance. If we were together for a few years and have to be apart for a few months, totally worth it. If we have only been together for few months, and have to be a part for longer than we've been together, not so much. The kicker is the distance. Are we talking a few hours drive or a few hours flight? Those are the things Im really going to consider before investing in a …
/r/seduction16/06/17 04:50 AM
1

Oreo method
/r/seduction16/06/17 02:25 AM
1

Maybe you should stop looking at sex as the finishline. When I approach a woman, sure I want to see her naked, but more importantly, I want to see what kind of person she is. If I approach a girl, date, and dont sleep with her, it's not because I "failed", it's because there wasn't a connection. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Some people just dont click.
/r/seduction16/06/17 02:24 AM
2

No. I make mine crystal clear though.
/r/seduction16/06/17 02:18 AM
8

I also have self inflicted scars. When asked about them, I usually answer one of two ways; "Yeah... That was a crazy party!" Or (jokingly) "Cocaine is a hellava drug." I don't go into detail until the relationship has progressed to that level of emotional disclosure.
/r/seduction16/06/17 02:16 AM
1

If you are in college, meeting girls should be cake assuming you're not afraid to talk to them. And you make friends with them the same way you make friends with guys; find someone with common interest/goals and spend time doing/talking about them. As for making one your gf: Once you find one your romantically interested in, escalate things past the platonic level and become intimate. After awhile, and if the romance and attraction continues to grow, ask her to be exclusive and volia... Girlfrie…
/r/seduction15/06/17 04:46 AM
1

Who gives a shit. Every batter strikes out. But you will ALWAYS strike out if you never swing the bat. Swing away my friend.
/r/seduction15/06/17 04:30 AM
3

Hooking up with a co-worker is only a bad idea if one or both of you are not mature enough to keep your relationship outside the workplace. That said, just approach and escalate as normal.
/r/seduction15/06/17 04:29 AM
1

This is way too general a question. How old are you? Where do you live? Are you in school. Do you have any friends currently? (Male or female)
/r/seduction15/06/17 04:27 AM
2

You can changebyour dating profile (location) to the city you'll be traveling to. Include dates and say that your looking for a tourguide or someone to show you the local spots.
/r/seduction14/06/17 07:14 PM
20

Humor is an amazing seduction tool. The ability to make a woman laugh is invaluable. Dont ever lose it. That said, try focusing less on "performing" and more on interacting. Imagine its a tennis match. Hit the ball to her, conversationaly, and let her hit it back. Take the spotlight off yourself and put it on her more.
/r/seduction14/06/17 12:17 AM
2

Call her and ask her out.
/r/seduction13/06/17 08:22 PM
2

I think most people get into relationships and become complacent and stop putting in effort. This is a mistake. Im not saying you have to make every night date night, but you should always assume there are ten people in line to take your place in the relationship and continue to actively seduce your mate even after you're in the committed ltr stages.
/r/seduction11/06/17 03:27 PM
9

"What ever it took to get them is what it'll take to keep them."
/r/seduction11/06/17 01:27 AM
3

I really enjoy talking to you. Would love to do so face to face. When are you free for drinks?
/r/seduction11/06/17 01:18 AM
4

"There's something wrong with my reciept." Server/cashier - "What's the problem?" "It doesn't have your phone number on it."
/r/seduction11/06/17 01:14 AM
1

How would you get an abundance of anything? Start with one and add more.
/r/seduction10/06/17 06:13 PM
3

If they are comfortable sleeping over, just make sure they are comfortable. Dont go out of your way to make it "game night" or something. A person spending the night just want A. Sex or B. Just to spend time with you and do the things you enjoy doing. They are trying to get a look at your world. Doing things you dont normally do will either come off as trying to hard or set a unrealistic standard. Just do what you normally do, but do it with them.
/r/seduction07/06/17 06:04 AM
1

Meaning when its just the two of you, but not i intimately. Like when your just sitting around watching GoT. Treat her like shes your best friend in the world.
/r/seduction07/06/17 05:58 AM
6

I've had nothing but positive results, typically a good laugh and the "OMG! You are terrible." Followed by the touch on the arm. The best was: Me: "That looks amazing. Can I taste it?" Her: "Absolutely." Me: "Oh... I wasn't talking about your food." Her: "Neither was I."
/r/seduction07/06/17 12:21 AM
11

Not nearly as much as "Sir."
/r/seduction06/06/17 09:35 PM
2

Most innuendos are situation/context sensative. If she's eating something, I'll say "That looks delicious. Can I taste it?" "Sure." "Oh... You're talking about your food. I was talking about something else."
/r/seduction06/06/17 09:05 PM
2

Here's the thing you need to understand: Flirting is VERY subjective. You can say "Hello" to someone and they might think you are flirting with them. I'm a natural flirt. I flirt (subconsciously) with almost everyone. But when I flirt with intent, I switch gears an make indirect and often times sexual innuendos. Just be yourself, smile, tease, and have fun.
/r/seduction06/06/17 04:36 PM
2

Finding the right balance varies from woman to woman, but here are some guidelines; Never compliment anything physical below the neck before you're intimate. She KNOWS she has amazing breast/ass/legs/whatever. And she's heard it a million times. Instead compliment her hair, or her wardrobe. That's something she created for today. Women don't appreciate any act or gifts of affection until after she's emotionally invested. Doing things to try to make her smile/happy too early will come off as need…
/r/seduction06/06/17 03:24 PM
3

Imagine you are a beautiful woman. Every day, and everywhere you go, men hit on you. They compliment you. They tell you how attractive you are and ask you out. And then they pander to you in hopes of fulfilling what ever romantic or sexual fantasy they have in their heads. And this has been happening for years. Years. While as men we would think that this type of attention would be amazing, women loom at it as annoying and bothersome. So when a man comes along that (acts) like he couldnt care le…
/r/seduction05/06/17 02:02 AM
4

When I first meet a woman, I offer a handshake. When I #-close, I always offer a hug. Our level of communication between are initial meeting and our 1st date will determine how I greet her when I finally see her. If we talked all the time and the conversations got erotic/explicit, then I'm going for a kiss, but generally, I'm going for a hug at the very least.
/r/seduction01/06/17 07:25 PM
2

Who asks that on tinder?
/r/seduction20/05/17 04:54 PM
1

Both. There's no need to get invested, and there's no need to get defensive. Just focus on the convo and see how it all plays out.
/r/seduction18/05/17 10:42 PM
2

Your challenges are two fold: 1) You're putting WAAAAAAY too much pressure on yourself. Im not sure where the mindset started, but making a focus to approach X-amount of women in any set time frame is rediculous. Yes, you should approach women with a frequency to become comfrotable with approaching, but forcing yourself to approach one a day is ludicrous. You should approach if and when you have the desire to approach. Otherwise, you're forcing yourself into an uncomfortable situation for no rea…
/r/seduction17/05/17 09:26 PM
9

Ever hear the old fish tale about the one that got away? A uncommonly large, powerful, majestic fish out in some lake off the beaten path. Anglers from far and wide come try to tame and capture the creature only to fail. And with every attempt, the legend of the fish grows and grows. Most men make the mistake of being the fisherman. Thats what it means to be a giver. They give time, tricks, tools, money, effort, energy. Some without ever getting close to that which they seek. The fish is the tak…
/r/seduction09/05/17 03:59 AM
1

Constantly.
/r/seduction09/05/17 12:54 AM
1

What stage of the relationship are you in romantically?
/r/seduction09/05/17 12:49 AM
1

Texting is for short exchanges and don't have any emotional connotation. If you want to get to know a girl, call her and have a real conversation.
/r/seduction09/05/17 12:47 AM
1

What happend with your last approach?
/r/seduction09/05/17 12:46 AM
1

Explain which part?
/r/seduction09/05/17 12:45 AM
3

Okay, here's my simple, but effective three date guide that 100% ends with sex and emotions: First Date: Let's be honest; first dates are interviews. You're seeing if there's a spark, searching for similar interest, looking to see if you're compatible. And that's where most people go wrong. What I prefer is approaching the date one of two ways: Either we're just two friends hanging out or we're already a couple. The fact is, if she's out with you, she's attracted to you. You just need to fuel th…
/r/seduction09/05/17 12:23 AM
3

Hands down the best piece of advice I could ever offer is understand the difference, and the power, in giving, not receiving.
/r/seduction08/05/17 11:51 PM
1

Okay, everyone who is saying looks dont matter is feeding you bullshit. Looks matter to women! And while most womeb aren't as visual as men, there needs to be some form of physical attraction there for thing's to escalate. That said, and in answer to your question, for women, its generally a total package kinda thing; face, hair, body, clothes, shoes... they absorb it all. And while each woman has varying degrees of what they find attractive, these are the common threads I've found in my experie…
/r/seduction06/05/17 10:02 PM
2

No. What I mean is someone who will sing your praises and get everyone talking about you. I started working at a call center with about 400 employees, 80% of which were female. Instead of trying to find ones to seduce, I befriended a plain jane kinda girl and we'd hang out during lunch and sometimes after work. I was super nice to her and we had fun hanging out. But I always kept things 100% platonic. And, just as I guessed, she told anyone who would listen how awesome and funny and sexy I was, …
/r/seduction04/05/17 06:06 PM
2

You need a spokesperson.
/r/seduction04/05/17 05:59 PM
3

Wasnt being sarcastic. I was going to suggest the student directory, but no last name.
/r/seduction03/05/17 11:42 PM
2

First and Last name?
/r/seduction03/05/17 11:30 PM
3

Just approach
/r/seduction02/05/17 12:46 AM
3

Confidence comes from two places: 1) The willingness to try and the acceptance that failure is part of the process. 2) The external acknowledgement of accomplishment. Take shooting a freethrow. The first time you try, you'll be nervous and inexperienced. But after a few hundred attempts and success, you'll be more comfortable with taking the shot. The second part is how your ability to shoot freethrows is recieved by those around you. Even if you shoot 100% from the line, if everytime you steppe…
/r/seduction01/05/17 11:29 PM
8

Dont go to the movies on first dates. Dont say "I love you!" On the first date. Dont try to win a persons affection with gifts. Dont try to "convince" someone how awesome you are. Dont pander. Be true to yourself. And never... EVER... put the pussy on a pedestal!
/r/seduction25/04/17 02:36 AM
1

Definately A. I teach PUA and one of the first things I try to instill in newbs is to stop thinking in terms of Guys and Girls and just think People.
/r/seduction23/04/17 10:09 PM
1

Master-debating?
/r/seduction09/04/17 08:47 PM
1

Depends on the situation/setting, but usually teasing, kino, joking about how we're already in a relationship, etc.
/r/seduction09/04/17 06:56 PM
1

Sorry. My msg was for OP, not you.
/r/seduction08/04/17 12:36 AM
1

What the actual hell are you taling about? Here's all you need to understand about being successful with women: Women are attracted to men who illicit strong emotions from them. It doesn't require a six figure salary. It doesnt require a penthouse loft or trips to Turks and Caicos. It requires a confident man whos able to give her the seven MAKES! As far as success in life, you don't need connection or a uncle who manages a fortune 500, or a brother-in-law that can get your foot in the door. You…
/r/seduction07/04/17 03:45 PM
6

This is completely false. As someone well past 30, let me dispel many if your ideas: It's actually EASIER for men over 30 to be playboys as 1) They have a lot more experience dealing with women, 2) The (presumably) have structured a lifestyle condusive to having many women in their lives, i.e. a career, a home of their own, reliable transportation, etc. And 3) Women over 30 are more receptive to meeting and spending time with a man as women tend to reach their sexual peak in the mid to late 30s …
/r/seduction07/04/17 02:19 AM
1

Three strike rule
/r/seduction26/03/17 05:54 PM
1

A clear case of "A Curious Mouse"; There's a seduction mantra that goes "the mouse unchased becomes curious about the cat." Basically, when you don't chase after a girl, she often times desires you more because of it. While your were going through your grief phase, I'm pretty sure you cut off contact for a bit. This gave her time to "miss" you and desire you and your company more.
/r/seduction15/03/17 09:42 PM
10

Lucky for you... you meet the height requirement to ride this. Its not how tall you are that matters... its how deep. Is it true that short girls are better in bed? Prove it! I used to date a girl your height... I was nuts over her. Finally, someone I can teabag with hurting my legs! We're about two dates from making my midget fantasy a reality! SPINNER!
/r/seduction15/03/17 08:16 PM
14

I hate when I have to explain a pun... She's the small package. You're the good thing that cums inside her...
/r/seduction15/03/17 05:01 PM
14

Good things come in small packages. Lucky for you, Im a good thing.
/r/seduction15/03/17 04:37 PM
2

Again, avoiding flakes is all about how much effort you invest prior to the date. So lets say you meet a girl at a mall. You stop her, chat her up, kino a bit, and number close. Well, you still have some work to do before the date, regardless of if it's a meet-up for coffee or dinner at a five star. Call, text, maintain contact and build on the repport you established when you met. Now, and the most important part, is a this: initially, a person will spend time with you based on one of two thing…
/r/seduction11/03/17 02:37 AM
5

The key to reducing flakes is getting the target emotionally invested prior to the date. Now, there are several ways to go about this, but they all require time and effort. It's relatively easy to stop a girl, flirt, and number close, but more often than not, she'll forget who you are by the time she reaches her destination. The rule I go by is a simple one: the more time I spent with her prior to the close, the less likely she is to flake.
/r/seduction11/03/17 02:06 AM
1

Theres a new guide in the works scheduled for launch around Vday called "Knights of Seduction". From what I've seen, it has some really good comprehensive material. Wait for that...
/r/seduction15/01/17 10:40 PM
2

I think it all depends on your lifestyle, desires, and ultimate goals. Some people just like sex and enjoy having new experiences with new people. Some people want a trophy case.
/r/seduction24/12/16 06:19 PM
1

Flirting is to attraction what a key is to a door. It doesnt create the door. It unlocks it.
/r/seduction16/12/16 12:33 AM
3

Here's the thing... You're right. A lot of the people who post on here are pretty clueless on how to interact with the opposite sex, how to communicate, how to pick up on social ques... But that's exactly what this sub is for! It's for the lost, for the confused, for the uninitiated. People with mad game and experience don't come here asking questions/advice. We know what to do. We have the answers. This sub was specifically designed for people who dont know the rules of seduction. What else do …
/r/seduction09/12/16 04:24 AM
5

This is classic Anti-slut defense. I suggest two things: 1) Make her physical desire for you greater than her emotional neediness. 2) Explain it to her the way you explained it to us.
/r/seduction07/12/16 11:05 PM
1

It doesn't have to be hand gestures, but general body language. I'm sure you do it without even realising you do. Very few people sit motionless when talking.
/r/seduction24/11/16 04:47 AM
1

Well they say nearly 80% of all communication is non-verbal.
/r/seduction24/11/16 04:32 AM
4

I tend to look at winter as the "off-season"; most people are coupled up for the holdiays starting around mid-november until after Valentine's Day. While it is totally possible to meet and hook-up with a girl during this time, the number of single/available women decreses dramatically. Not to mention juggling multiple women/dates for things like thanksgiving and x-mas dinners or New Years parties is tricky, and I don't even want to think about getting a bunch of gifts. I personally use this time…
/r/seduction15/11/16 05:18 AM
1

Im old school and I live by the idea that a phone call almost always trumps a text. That said, the value if text is the ease and convenience when trying to maintain contact and communication. It can be thoughtful, it can be flirty, it can be romanticn it can be silly... but the value is it keeps the connection consistant, as we dont always have time to sit and talk on the phone. And lets face it, nowadays, texting is sometimes just easier. I can do it when Im working, or as a second hand thought…
/r/seduction13/11/16 11:57 PM
2

I always looked at the "out of 10" scale as idiotic and flawed. What the hell is this scale and where the hell did it come from? If a girl has an above average face but below average body, is she an 8 or 7? If she has an amazing body but an average face, is she a 9 or 6? Here's what I consider: is she physically attractive to me? Is she mentally stimulating? Is she emotionally alluring? Does she make me laugh? Does she turn me on? Sure, there are other factors, some superficial and some deep, bu…
/r/seduction13/11/16 04:39 AM
2

For me, it was understanding the difference between getting and giving. I was in my early twenties and I had a few women I was seeing. In about a weeks time, they all called and told me they missed me and wanted to spend time with me, specifically, sexually. One of the girls flat came out and asked "Can I please have some dick tonight?" And I thought about that. Long and hard. After spending years chasing pussy... here it was... begging for me. Ive never had a woman give me pussy... or anything …
/r/seduction13/11/16 04:31 AM
1

Depends entirely on the 1st date, specifically, how it ended. Now, first things first; its always a good idea to make plans for a second date DURING the 1st. The 1st date should be all about getting to know each other, building attraction, and establishing a level of comfort between the two of you. Now, it's usually practice to plan a second date DURING the first. This gives you the chance to really set definate plans face to face and decide on a activity of mutual interest. Failing that, I reco…
/r/seduction12/11/16 02:04 AM
1

What stage of the deal are you talking about? Getting her contact info? Kissing? Sex?
/r/seduction10/11/16 09:04 PM
1

"A mouse not chased becomes curious about the cat."
/r/seduction10/11/16 08:59 PM
4

The basics, the very foundation of PUA comes down to three things; 1) Approach. This is your main goal. Period. If you are going to have any kind of success with people, you have to be able to approach. Im not talking about golden openers or magic one liners; just go up and say "Hello." 2) Escalate. This is where a lot of people fail and fall into the friendzone. You have to be able to escalate things to an intimate level. Not just physically, but mentally and emotionally as well. 3) Close. The …
/r/seduction06/11/16 05:42 PM
1

This is not completely accurate. What your describing is confidence. Seduction and confidence, while they go hand in hand, are not the same. The art of seduction is getting someone to do what you desire, and making them believe it was their idea.
/r/seduction04/11/16 04:41 AM
4

Here's the thing about text game: it's fuel to a burning fire, not the match. If a girl is into you, literally anything you text will get a response. If she's not, there's not a whole lot you can send that's going to make her turn head over heels. My personal ideology is use it as a small part of the communication process; short and flirty msgs and pics to maintain interest. I also send voice clips (I have a great voice) from time to time. But nothing you text will ever trump a phone conversatio…
/r/seduction24/10/16 08:06 PM
1

1) Make almost everything a sexual innuendo. 2) Escalate physically. 3) ABC - Always Be Closing
/r/seduction11/10/16 07:37 PM
3

The two main things to consider are this: 1) What type of relationship/encounter/experience are YOU looking for? Do you just want sex, dating, a relationship? Decide what you want and proceed accordingly. 2) What kind of experience do you think SHE wants? I've had flings with married/LTR women, but I went in with open eyes and closed heart and low expectations. It was just sex in nearly every case. And I made a point to make sure that if her relationship with the other person ended, it wasn't be…
/r/seduction11/10/16 07:32 PM
1

Escalate
/r/seduction10/10/16 06:42 PM
2

How tall are you? What your weight? Where do you live?
/r/seduction10/10/16 05:00 AM
1

How do you dress?
/r/seduction10/10/16 04:56 AM
1

Not being nervous when doing anything relies on two things: 1) confidence in your ability and 2) No fear of the outcome. The first takes practice. The second takes time.
/r/seduction03/10/16 08:21 PM
5

Women are attracted to men with strong, distinct, personalities. The idea behind "women like bad boys" come from two places: 1) nice guys who let women walk all over them, and 2) women who want a strong man who is going to treat her like a princess. All these women you're talking about probably wouldn't tolerate a man calling her hoe and bitch in a disrespectful way very often. Sure, he can refer to EVERY other woman on the planet that way, and she wouldn't mind, but he has to treat her with a c…
/r/seduction03/10/16 07:41 PM
8

Memory?
/r/seduction01/10/16 03:50 AM
2

If you loved me, you'd be naked.
/r/seduction23/09/16 02:10 AM
10

If you loved me, you wouldnt make statements like that.
/r/seduction23/09/16 01:39 AM
3

Phone call maybe?
/r/seduction23/09/16 01:17 AM
1

Why do you say "Do not believe anyone out there that says he's a Pick Up Artist"?
/r/seduction22/09/16 11:06 PM
3

I know at least a dozen. And for the most part, when it comes to male/female interactions, they're a little full if themselves, which is why I say don't. If you feel like the best way to protect yourself from us male "predators" is to pretend you don't hear us, you're a cunt.
/r/seduction20/09/16 10:30 PM
5

Dont. You'd be surprised how many women walk around with earbuds in specifically so guys wont approach them.
/r/seduction20/09/16 09:46 PM
2

The two things that stand out to me are 1) You waited WAAAAAAAAY to long to ask her out. Most women lose interest if not pressed immediately; especially if they are interested in you and feel like that interest isn't reciprocated. 2) Asking a woman out over social media can work, but more often than not, is looked at as a very weak attempt. It shows no personal interest or effort. A FB msg that says "Wanna go bowling?" is like a phone call to a stranger that says "Wanna have sex?". Its impersona…
/r/seduction16/09/16 04:39 AM
2

I was in Manhattan for a day and got sixteen numbers. NY is full of beautiful, single women. Leave the house and go for a walk.
/r/seduction13/09/16 11:29 PM
1

It seems like you're not taking time to get them emotionally invested in seeing you again. Its relatively easy to approach and get a #-close, especially in college, but the simple fact is it's even easier for a girl to give you her number and ignore you later, rather than coming of as a bitch during the initial interaction. In your mind, the progression goes something like this: Approach > Keno > Escalate > #-Close > Contact > Meet-up/Date But the reality is, and the key to avoiding flakes is ad…
/r/seduction13/09/16 11:14 PM
2

1) Buy another drink 2) Hit the pool table/video game/trivia game in the corner 3) Excuse yourself to go for a smoke (even if you dont.) 4) Ask her where she wants to go drink and offer to meet there. 5) Buy her another shot.
/r/seduction11/09/16 04:34 AM
15

"I'm the Prize" means you don't chase after them, or try to pry your way into their life. Every morning, you wake uo with you, spend all day with you, and go to bed with you. Women come and go. You are a constant, so why de-value YOU? And girls will be uninterested... and for reasons that have nothing to do with you. Boyfriend. Husband. Lesbian. Heartbroken. Busy life. Different headspace. You're the then guy trying to get her number and she's been out the house an hour. The point is to never pu…
/r/seduction09/09/16 10:56 PM
2

Why not both?
/r/seduction08/09/16 10:56 PM
1

ABE. Always Be Escalating
/r/seduction08/09/16 10:17 PM
1

If your scoring first dates but not landing manumy seconds, you need to take a look at whats happening/or not happening during the first. If a woman is into you enough for a first, a second should be easy as pie if your doing things right.
/r/seduction08/09/16 10:05 PM
2

What do you mean "Lead"?
/r/seduction07/09/16 06:09 AM
1

Two possibilities: Shit test or friendzone.
/r/seduction07/09/16 03:20 AM
2

My needs/desires > Their level of interest/effort > Their availability
/r/seduction06/09/16 06:13 PM
3

Listen, it's IMPOSSIBLE to have a positive reoccurring experience with someone and not establish feelings for them. The trick is to learn how to guage and handle those feelings. Plus, moving away doesnt mean losing contact. I have a ton of girls I talk to on occasion and see every blue moon. Its good to be friends.
/r/seduction05/09/16 03:28 PM
1

How do you get yourself to the "no o Es out of my league" frame? By understanding the foundation of attraction and relationships. When it comes down to it, all anyone wants/needs is someone who elicits strong emotions. All the other shit is just fluff; standards we set for ourselves based on a lifestyle we imagine for ourselves. Sure money is great, but it isn't the end all be all, especially when dealing with basic attraction. At the end of the day, every adult relationship boils down to three …
/r/seduction04/09/16 08:24 PM
1

Okay, a few things: 1) You need to stop negatively judging yourself. Dont think "Im 28 and have a lousy job, no money, and a kid." Think "Im a work in progress. Im going to school, I have a plan, and Im trying to be thr best father I can to my son." Your perception of your situation will have an immense impact on how others see your situation. 2) It's not about the money or income for a lot of women. It's about how you make them feel. I strongly subscribe to the "no ones out of my league" frame …
/r/seduction04/09/16 06:36 PM
2

Everyone is a target. Male, female, hell, small animals. Then find a reason they're not.
/r/seduction04/09/16 04:52 PM
2

Never judge/guage a person off their words. Their actions will speak much more loadly and truthfully.
/r/seduction03/09/16 06:46 PM
2

Rush??? ITS BEEN TWO WEEKS!!! Listen... I'm an older guy and I've been with a lot of women, so please listen when I say I know what I'm talking about... You're afraud of screwing up your chances because you really like this girl and dont want to run her off. I get it. But here's the thing: inaction is sometimes worse than over action. She put the ball in your court two weeks ago. She flirted and did everything but spread her legs and whisper "Have a lick". She's into you. At least she was two we…
/r/seduction02/09/16 11:59 PM
0

Crap
/r/seduction02/09/16 11:15 PM
1

Did she give you a time/date? Listen: women like men with initiative. They also HATE feeling unwanted and placed on hold. She gave you CRYSTAL CLEAR signs of interest. Frankly, you kinda dropped the ball by not trying to set something up in the last couple weeks. Its not rocket science and you really are over thinking it: you like her. She likes you. Call her and ask her out.
/r/seduction02/09/16 11:06 PM
2

Believe so.
/r/seduction02/09/16 10:20 PM
2

Few hundred pages but a very quick read.
/r/seduction02/09/16 10:04 PM
2

How to control your emotions and reactions; how to process internally and react accordingly.
/r/seduction02/09/16 09:53 PM
1

What the actual fuck??? So... let me get this straight... 2 weeks ago you bumped into this girl, had a 2hour conversation, and then just feel back into a text-based relationship? WHY THE FUCK ARE YOU MOVING BACKWARDS?? What you should have done right away was call her and make plans to see each other again. Not wait two weeks to figure out your next move. Call her. Not text. Call! And ask her out. Now!! Before its too late!
/r/seduction02/09/16 09:51 PM
2

48 Laws of Power; a common misconception is that it teaches you how to manipulate people but the truth is it teaches self control, and through which, the control of others.
/r/seduction02/09/16 09:32 PM
1

"PECK" - light/gentle kiss in the cheek/lips. "PETTING" - aka Groping: sensual/sexual touches or caresses, typically over the clothing, with sexual intent or innuendo.
/r/seduction02/09/16 12:23 AM
5

Eye contact- maintain while facing and speaking. Dont be afraid to look away here and there. Its not a contest. How I dress depends on the activity, the time of day, and the weather. Don't put yourself in a box. Just follow the three style rules: Clean. Neat. Fit. First kiss- this is a tricky one as it may vary from person to person. I've meet girls and closed with a deep kiss. Ive #-closed and had such sensual and salacious conversations that the VERY FIRST THING I did when I next saw here was …
/r/seduction01/09/16 11:50 PM
1

Where do you live?
/r/seduction30/08/16 04:41 AM
3

Escalation. See > Approach > #-Close > Engage > Date > Physical Contact > Intimate Contact > Kiss > Hold/Cuddle > Deep/Passionate Kisses > Sexual Contact (ass, breast, vag) > Sex
/r/seduction30/08/16 01:45 AM
2

Ummm... thats not really how it works.
/r/seduction28/08/16 06:11 AM
0

One in the same; basically means dont approach, be approached.
/r/seduction25/08/16 08:51 PM
1

Its like riding a bike. Just get out there and make it happen.
/r/seduction21/08/16 11:24 PM
1

There are two types of people: Those who are into kinky shit and those who have yet to realize they are into kinky shit. That said, when dealing with a kink-novice, introduce them to things gradually. Start with some light BDSM. Buy them some lingerie. Introduce toys and games. Before long, its fairly easy to have the most reserved person on their knees begging for a hard cock down their throat and a harder slap the ass.
/r/seduction17/08/16 06:45 PM
1

Both
/r/seduction08/08/16 08:06 AM
1

My breakthrough was realizing that approach was the goal, not the close. If you approach 10 girls, you may get 1-3 #-closes. If you approach ZERO girls, you'll get an equal number of closes. Focus on the approach. The rest will work itself out.
/r/seduction08/08/16 08:03 AM
13

Yes. Dated a few amazons: 6ft plus. Its not that awkward. Its actually fun. Especially when they're wearing heels.
/r/seduction22/07/16 07:52 PM
2

Seducing over just text is tricky as the tone is open to interpretation. Subtle things like sarcasm and innuendos may not always come across as intended. That said, innuendos are your best friend. Try to give almost everything a sexual subtext. If "the unspoken rule" is you're going to hook-up, then you dont need to say much. Just plan a time to meet up and hang out ant the rest should take care of itself.
/r/seduction14/07/16 06:37 PM
1

1) Get her mentally/emotionally/physically invested. The number one cause of "flaking" is little to no interest in you and /or the activity. You meet a girl, text her, and ask her to meet you for coffee in a day or two. And she flakes. Of course she flakes, because there's almost nothing about the situation that compels her otherwise. Take time to establish a connection with her, or at the very least make the "date" something she feels strongly about: "Hey, when we met, I remember you saying som…
/r/seduction13/07/16 08:25 PM
1

Not sure how liberal you mom is and/or what the cabin situation is, but family vacations are tricky as you're typically with family for most of the trip. In addition, your age demographic on a cruise has similar constraints, so even if you meet a girl, finding time and a place to "connect" is going to be tricky. That said, young single girls on a cruise would enjoy getting laid on a boat in the middle of the ocean just as much as you. Just try to find someone to connect with and see where it goe…
/r/seduction13/07/16 08:07 PM
1

38yo male. Nearing 200... Lost my v-card at 15. Hit 20+ around 19. Perfected my game somewhere around 30. And when I say "perfected", I by no means mean I can get any women. No man can. Any one who says otherwise is full of shit. When I say I "perfected" my game, it means I know exactly what I want, exactly what I don't want, I'm 100% comfortable with who I am, and 100% comfortable approaching any woman. It also means I know how to approach, how to escalate, how to properly calibrate, and how to…
/r/seduction13/07/16 08:00 PM
1

Observation and practice. Not just with your targets, but everyone, everywhere. Start people watching. Look at the way a person walks. They why they talk. They way the tilt their head. How they position their arms, how they sit and/or stand, where their feet are pointed. And take note of their mood when they do these things. You'll start to notice certain trends and common threads. I'm by no means an expert, but I can look at a person and typically tell a lot about them after just watching them …
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:48 PM
1

bulk_king11 is absolutely right. This is not true in the least. I had similar experience with work and gaining a rep, and it was awesome! A new hire came up to me and said "You know all the girls around here warned me about you. But I have to admit, I'm kinda curious and want to see what all the fuss is about." And this happened more than once. It got to the point where I was sleeping with five different women and they all knew. It was like having spokesmodels for my sex life.
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:38 PM
1

I focus on the group as a single entity. Women in packs tend to be more defensive and protective of one another. Once the "pack" has accepted you, you can then focus on the individuals.
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:32 PM
2

"Not my type. I mean, I'm not gay, but $20 is $20..."
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:29 PM
2

You're not escalating fast enough or strong enough. Also, you're not getting them emotionally invested. First, text game is fine, but a phone call trumps text almost everytime. Second, Monday to Friday is WAY to long unless she/you have scheduling conflicts. Try to set something up sooner rather than later. It doesn't have to be long or extensive or time consuming. It can be a simple "Hey, I'm going to be in your neck of the woods Wed afternoon. There's a spot near you I'm going to try out. Want…
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:28 PM
1

This is a double edged sword and can be very detrimental if handled incorrectly. The most important thing to consider is "What does she want?" Believe it or not, women want/enjoy sex just as much as us menfolk (if not more), so shooting down a horny chick can blow up in your face. I once dated this super-hot girl during a period of celibacy. She told me point blank "If were not going to have sex, then there's not reason to date." On the flipside, I've been half naked with a woman and pulled away…
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:16 PM
1

It's never what you say/ask, its HOW you say it. "Wow, you have such a (insert adjective) personality. Does it play a part in your everyday life, like your job?" "Are you a (insert town/city/state) native?" "You seem very intelligent. Where you a bookworm in school or a social butterfly? Where'd you attend?" Same questions, different delivery.
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:11 PM
1

The 3date rule is for people who don't just want sex. It's forces you to focus more on the person and not the outcome of the interaction. Sex happens when it happens. I've had sex within half an hour of "Hello", and I've waited ten years. There is no concrete rule or guide. If all you want is sex, then that's what you'll get.
/r/seduction13/07/16 07:06 PM
2

First, stop asking questions like "Where to meet girls" and start asking "Where to meet new people." You have a mental block that makes you look at anything with a vag as a separate species. This is counterproductive. You're not hunting unicorns. Women are people. As for there WHERE, the answer is going to piss you off: EVERYWHERE! I can meet 10 women people everytime I leave the house. I don't care if I'm going to the grocery store or work or the gym or just walking down the street. Leave the h…
/r/seduction13/07/16 06:45 PM
1

Not sure if I qualify as a High Level expert, but... While you're not "wrong", you're not really correct either. First, subscribe to a belief that there is nothing wrong with letting girl know you're attracted to her. The problem is in the who and how. A HB10 KNOWS you're attracted to her. EVERYONE'S attracted to her. So saying things like "You're pretty." or "I think you're hot" is literally telling her something she's already heard a thousand times. But looking at her and smiling and maybe thr…
/r/seduction13/07/16 06:40 PM
1

"A buddy of mine and I are having a little get-together this weekend. nothing fancy, just a few friends hanging out. You seem like someone who would fit in nicely with the crowd so if your interested, I can give you the details."
/r/seduction13/07/16 06:23 PM
1

Don't try to convey "dominance", rather attempt to project confidence and independence.
/r/seduction13/07/16 06:21 PM
1

I never use the words "I'm sorry" unless I'm at a funeral. Say "I apologize."
/r/seduction13/07/16 06:18 PM
7

I work at a restaurant and I flirt with almost all my guests. If I want to escalate, and in an attempt to protect my job, I say something like "I'm not allowed to ask guest out, but if you just so happen to write your name and phone number on this slip of paper I just put on the table..."
/r/seduction13/07/16 06:17 PM
1

Here's how you handle this "She's out of my league" bullshit: I dont care if she's a billionaire supermodel who used to fuck Mandingo on a daily basis... a woman is NEVER out of your league. At the end of the day, the only thing a man and woman have to offer one another is time, attention, companionship and sex. And I can offer that to literally any woman. If there isnt a mutual attraction, so be it. If she has higher economic standards, that fine. If size is an issue, of well. But those are per…
/r/seduction09/07/16 10:22 PM
1

Whenever you approach a group, deal with the entire group as a single entity. Try not to focus on individuals until you learn what everyones situation is. In time, the unavailable ones will let it be known, as well as the ones who may be interested in you.
/r/seduction09/07/16 10:08 PM
2

Since you lack a strong chin/jawline, I'd suggest a full beard
/r/seduction09/07/16 10:02 PM
4

Not really hotel/restautant employees, but Ive had the opportunity to go out and meet a random young woman and invite her back to my room. A ONS isnt alwayd a turn off.
/r/seduction02/07/16 11:05 PM
1

Touche'.
/r/seduction13/06/16 07:27 PM
2

I wouldnt say that. There's a subtle difference in how she looks. It takes experience to tell the difference, but don't just approach a girl and say "I saw you look at me... so I came to talk to you."
/r/seduction12/06/16 10:11 PM
5

Lower the base. Slow the pace. As for tips on avoiding going blank: Every conversation I've had with a girl is the same conversation I've ever had with a girl. Just ask questions and offer your own opinion/experience. Rinse. Repeat.
/r/seduction12/06/16 09:34 PM
5

Women make the first move more often than you think, they just do it differently then men. Sometimes its overt: they'll say you're atteactive or write down their phone number. Sometimes its subtle; they give you the look or touch your arm. You just have to be conscious of the situation and signs.
/r/seduction12/06/16 09:12 PM
1

First, the moment you start to believe you are too u attractive to get laid is the moment the universe will agree with you. The opposite holds true as well. You have to change that defeatist mindset if anything positive is going to happen for you. Next, you can change the way you look. PM me a pic and I'll offer some style and body tips that may help. Third, if ALL you want is to get laid, sure, hire a prostitute. But if you want to learn how to approach a woman, engage her mentally and emotiona…
/r/seduction06/05/16 01:34 AM
3

What do you mean by "trust/commitmemt" concerns?
/r/seduction21/04/16 05:26 PM
1

Post a pic and legs go from there.
/r/seduction13/04/16 11:36 PM
2

How old are you now?
/r/seduction09/04/16 01:56 AM
2

it just doesn't sound too appealing to me to go anywhere after school and gym on weekdays. We make time for the things that matter. Have you ever heard of a "phone call"?
/r/seduction02/03/16 08:03 PM
2

The way I see it, there's two things working against you: 1) Your taking WAY to long to escalate to a f-close. Five dates is excessive. A woman has decided after five minutes if she's going to sleep with you or not. By waiting five dates, you're forcing her to look for white picket fences, so yeah, she's trying to see if how strong your non-physical connection is because that's the path you put her on. IME, three dates is the golden rule; Cerebral, physical, intimate. 2) You're trying to have se…
/r/seduction02/03/16 07:59 PM
3

This is 100% true! When a person is passionate about something, they become excited and expressive and want to share it with the world. Like-minded individuals will gravitate to that like a moth to a flame. Those cliches your talking about are when people don't share the same interest. So yeah, cat lady is passionate about cats, and that's cool, but I'm not a cat person. Her passion for cats isn't what makes her unattractive, its the fact i dont like cats. If i did, I'd be all over that.
/r/seduction27/02/16 02:41 AM
1

Tell her its no big deal and ask her when shes free to reschedule. Three strike rule.
/r/seduction26/02/16 12:14 AM
1

Or "let me see your phone so I can give you my number." This way 1) you can call your phone from here's to exchange. And 2) if your like me, take a selfie of the two of you and set it as your profile picture, so every time you call/text, she'll see an image of the two of you together. MAGIC!!!
/r/seduction15/02/16 08:16 PM
8

Look at you like what?
/r/seduction12/02/16 01:26 AM
0

For the last fucking time: APPROACHES ARE CONTEXTUAL!!! Ditch the fucking scripts!
/r/seduction10/02/16 03:50 AM
1

You're still alive and still have the opportunity to change your circumstances. The only thing stopping you is you.
/r/seduction08/02/16 01:25 AM
8

"i'm sorry... Did you say something?"
/r/seduction05/02/16 06:27 PM
2

Go do exciting things.
/r/seduction31/01/16 10:16 PM
1

If you meet a girl at a party and wind up having sex with her, chances are she's not expecting a ring when its all over. Girls like sex and are down for ONS just as much as guys. Don't over think it.
/r/seduction31/01/16 04:11 AM
5

"Im not looking for anything serious." Nothing more needs be said.
/r/seduction31/01/16 01:51 AM
6

You're not going to fuck up every approach because the truth of the matter is Approach is the goal.
/r/seduction30/01/16 06:55 PM
1

Personally, I tend to go for women who are a bit more on the aggressive side. That said, the sexiest thing a woman ever said to me came at the end of our first date while we were making out on her front porch like a bunch of teenagers: "I'm going to fuck the shit out of you... but not tonight." Coy, but aggressive.
/r/seduction30/01/16 06:11 AM
2

Honestly, I think there should be more discussions on dealing with rejection in a positive way. So many newbs have such a crippling fear of it and don't realize how invaluable rejection is.
/r/seduction29/01/16 07:19 PM
2

Make them work for it, even make them beg for it, but never, EVER, make them wait for it.
/r/seduction28/01/16 07:59 PM
3

The book or actual models?
/r/seduction28/01/16 05:13 AM
2

Needy is eagerly looking externally for any form of gratitude, pleasure, satisfaction, justification, or validation. It can be linked to dozens of things, childhood experiences being among them.
/r/seduction28/01/16 02:20 AM
1

Ages?
/r/seduction28/01/16 02:16 AM
3

Depends entirely on the girl.
/r/seduction28/01/16 12:48 AM
1

Every interaction has three basic steps: Approach, Escalate, Close. The "how" will change based on the interaction, but at its most basic, these are all the steps you really need.
/r/seduction20/01/16 04:41 PM
1

Practice. Very few people are naturally good public speakers. Practice pace and projection and experiment with various tones.
/r/seduction18/01/16 10:47 PM
1

"you should also tell your secret wife and kids that you stashed away that you're visiting" My response: "Who do you thinks dropping me off at your place. Id drive myself, but the little one has a dance recital."
/r/seduction18/01/16 07:25 AM
1

Its the same as traditional pua, without the (physical) escalation.
/r/seduction09/01/16 10:04 PM
0

Worst advice ever.
/r/seduction07/01/16 08:09 PM
1

Yup.
/r/seduction31/12/15 07:29 PM
1

Traditionally, when attempting to seduce a woman, you approach, engage, escalate the attraction (physically when in the moment, but with dates over time), all in the attempt to f-close. When looking for a LTR, its repeating the escalation and closing over and over. That's what a relationship is; two people sharing their lives and experiences. But what it takes to get him/her is what it takes to keep them.
/r/seduction31/12/15 07:29 PM
1

The "game" doesn't change, it extends. It doesnt matter if your looking for a ONS or a LTR, the steps to get there are the same. The only difference is with a LTR there's more "rinse, repeat".
/r/seduction31/12/15 07:07 PM
0

"Im still haven't mastered rape yet. Im taking things slow."
/r/seduction25/12/15 12:06 AM
3

Stop stressing out. Go and have fun. Just because you know about her doesn't mean you KNOW her. Just talk. Things will come up. I promise.
/r/seduction17/12/15 06:46 PM
1

Why wont you see her again until after christmas/new year? And who says "Don't text unless its to schedule a date"? That's stupid. Want to connect with her, then connect with her. Call her. Text her. Try to meet up for at least a cup of coffee within the next few days.
/r/seduction17/12/15 06:39 PM
1

Absolutely. Remember the point us to try to get to know one another. Why wait?
/r/seduction17/12/15 03:51 PM
1

Shake hand initially. Hug if numbers where exchanged.
/r/seduction17/12/15 03:57 AM
1

Her
/r/seduction16/12/15 06:12 PM
43

Best: Was at work in an airport restaurant. There was this beautiful big chested blonde sitting alone at one of the tables. She was eye-fucking the shit out of me as i passed. "Are you behaving yourself?" I asked. "Not at all." she answered. "Well, you need to behave, cuz we spank around here when you misbehave." I leave to drop some dishes in the kitchen. When I pass her again she say "How do i sign up for one of those spankings?" "How much time you got?" "My flight leaves in an hour." "You don…
/r/seduction16/12/15 07:39 AM
2

Getting out of the friendzone is tricky. The first thing you need to understand is what lands you IN the friendzone in the first place. People wind up in the firendzone for one of two reasons: 1) A failure to escalate the attraction, or 2) A lack of attraction. To get out, you need to rebuild the attraction and escalate it immediately. What I suggest is investing in a new interest. This makes you instantly more attractive to the "friend" (everyone wants who they cant have) and shows them how awe…
/r/seduction09/12/15 08:05 PM
1

Why not? Used it and it works. Remember, its never what you say, its how you say it.
/r/seduction04/12/15 08:51 PM
0

That. Was. SOOOOO. Stupid. You meet a girl, ask her out, go out and have a good time. And then dont contact her for 36hrs!!! Not even a text that says "Had a good time."!?! And you're wondering why she's not responding???
/r/seduction04/12/15 07:15 AM
15

What?
/r/seduction04/12/15 07:06 AM
1

Why did you wait a day and a half to text her?
/r/seduction04/12/15 06:57 AM
4

"Hi. I'm Sinslayer. I just wanted to let you know this bar has a very strict policy about attractive women drinking alone, so the manager asked me to come keep you company."
/r/seduction04/12/15 04:41 AM
3

Situational but mostly trashy.
/r/seduction04/12/15 04:22 AM
0

Always try to avoid asking a girl out via text. Its a weak attempt. Women typically dont agree to things they are uninterested in, and how interested will she be in seeing a guy who doesn't even have the balls to call her and ask her out?
/r/seduction03/12/15 12:14 AM
0

Fish
/r/seduction01/12/15 03:15 AM
7

Try having a love affair with yourself.
/r/seduction28/11/15 03:28 AM
8

With the impending release of the new Star Wars flick, I'll try to put this in Force terms: You crossed over to the darkside. It seems you focused on the "getting laid" aspect of PUA and that's only part of the equation. Let's dissect your list one aspect at time: I no longer trust women. I've gotten 5 girls to cheat on their boyfriends with me. First, you didn't "get them to cheat"; that implies they normally wouldn't have but found you so irresistable, they couldn't help themselves. Sorry, bud…
/r/seduction21/11/15 07:35 AM
1

Thanking you for going in?
/r/seduction17/11/15 01:28 AM
27

A mouse not chased becomes curious about the cat.
/r/seduction15/11/15 11:40 PM
1

She brought a guy friend on a date with you ?
/r/seduction13/11/15 12:27 AM
1

Here's what you need to understand about personalities: they aren't static. Their fluid. No one is alpha all the time. No one is beta all the time. Its situational. As long as you can recognize the situation, you'll be fine.
/r/seduction11/11/15 05:58 AM
7

Is it worth it to find a woman you're attracted too to have a long term relationship with?
/r/seduction11/11/15 05:39 AM
4

It depends on your definition of success. A hunter may go out and approach 100 targets, which could result in, lets say 70% #-closes. Those, in turn may produce a date 50% of the time. Out of those 35 dates, you may escalate to a kiss 90%, sex 60%, and a LTR maybe 5%. So, out of 100 women, you may kiss around 30, have sex with around 17, and end up dating maybe 2 seriously. As a "trapper"; someone who just deals with the women that come to him, you have an almost 100% rate when it comes to trans…
/r/seduction01/11/15 05:22 PM
2

Yes and no.
/r/seduction28/10/15 06:44 AM
1

Guaranteed to work!
/r/seduction24/10/15 09:54 PM
1

Indian accent. Sorry.
/r/seduction22/10/15 09:17 PM
3

Am I the only one who read this in a Hindu accent?
/r/seduction22/10/15 06:19 PM
2

Do you find that is the case with women in our age range (35-45)? Most of the women I deal with are talkers, not texters. I know texting is the preferred method of communication among 20-somethings, but IME, older women tend to be more old school, like myself.
/r/seduction20/10/15 01:15 AM
3

its the way it is now, not necessarily impersonal,. sigh... I'm getting too old for this shit...
/r/seduction19/10/15 10:48 PM
2

text is fine, calls can be awkward. when you text, they have the option of calling you? maybe suggest that , but don't push it. Respect their comfort level. You don't think texting a girl for a dare is impersonal? Would you end a relationship via text? If not, then why would you try to start one that way?
/r/seduction19/10/15 10:39 PM
3

Don't tell a girl you're interested in her; SHOW HER you're interested in her. And my one simple rule is the FIRST date invitation should always be at least a phone call (asking someone on a date in person isn't always practical). A text is lazy and impersonal. But, YMMV.
/r/seduction19/10/15 06:17 PM
1

Are you asking how one physically exudes confidence?
/r/seduction18/10/15 09:52 PM
1

Confidence is defined as a state of self security and awareness. Its being happy with the person you are and not allowing exterior factors influence your opinion of you.
/r/seduction18/10/15 04:11 PM
1

Ask her what her work schedule is. Ask her what she usually does after work on on her days off. Ask her when her new schedule is posted. Ask what days she has off next week.
/r/seduction17/10/15 06:06 PM
2

There is no one method for this as women are different and respond to different things. For some women, it'll be physical, for another, mental. While their are a few common threads (i.e. confidence, passion, various degrees of romance), what pushes a woman's button is going to depend specifically on the woman. The few tips I can offer are: Make her feel desired. Many women respond strongly when they feel desired by a man they are attracted to. It's a bit of a catch-22 s she has to first feel att…
/r/seduction16/10/15 05:17 PM
2

Why is everyone so sensitive on this sub today? IT WAS A JOKE!!! Edit: Just browsed your comment history... AND I'M THE TROLL???
/r/seduction15/10/15 08:39 PM
1

Not trolling but not 100% serious either. Text game isn't universal just like conversations aren't. Asking someone online to help with a IRL text convo with no reference as to the recipients personality, sense of humor, moral compass, is like asking "What should I say to this girl I just meet to get her to come back to my place?" IDK- "Hey, wanna see my bed made entirely out of hundred dollar bills?"
/r/seduction15/10/15 08:28 PM
1

"GET OFF MY LAWN!!!"
/r/seduction15/10/15 08:23 PM
1

1st, Micheal Jordan is STILL the king! 2nd, I never, EVER, said talk to the hand. 3rd, I'm not looking for help. AT ALL. I highly doubt there's a single person on this subreddit that can teach me much about PUA. 4th, Do you honestly think that at 24 you know more about PUA than someone with 15yrs more experience than you? And yes, you grew up in the 21st century. Congrats! A generation that is more socially connected than ever before, and simultaneously more disconnected than ever. Do you think …
/r/seduction15/10/15 08:11 PM
1

Wow, okay, Neo, let me explain the Matrix to you: I just turned 38. I've been in about ten serious relationships and I've slept with nearly 200 women. I've been on more dates and gotten more #-closes/k-closes than can remember. I love women, in all their form and splendor, and getting a woman hasn't been a problem for me since senior year in high school. Finding someone to fuck is easy. Yeah, you heard me... EASY. I can f-close a HB8 on most days that end in "Y". And age isn't an issue. If she's…
/r/seduction15/10/15 07:38 PM
1

Or... don't get involved with someone under 30.
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:59 PM
1

If you were currently actively dating women in their 20s, Yeah... no. No one under 27 need apply.
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:52 PM
2

Really didn't know. Sorry.
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:51 PM
1

Sigh... kids today.
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:50 PM
1

I honestly thought it meant "Come over and watch netflix just chill". Shit happens.
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:50 PM
0

Same. Listen, I'm not going to get into joust with you, but I'll make my peace and move on: OP got a text from a girl stating she wasn't looking for anything serious. Baring not knowing the urban definition of "netflix and chill", my advise was to explain to her that neither was he. And I stand by that. Additionally, I stand by being blunt and upfront about your intentions. I don't play text games. I don't use codes. I don't say netflix and chill if its a sexual invitation and I don't say checke…
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:19 PM
1

Profound.
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:12 PM
2

So... the only reason to invite a woman back to your place is for sex? Wow... I'm getting old.
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:12 PM
0

Just out of curiosity, how old are you?
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:06 PM
3

TIL Question: What do you say if you want to invite them over to watch tv and hang out?
/r/seduction15/10/15 06:01 PM
1

but you literally told him to tell her "That's cool, cuz I just want to fuck you." Let me clarify: I didn't realize that "Netflix and chill" was code for "lets fuck"! I thought it meant, you know, watching Netflix and hanging out. That notwithstanding, I stand by my advice. Just out of curiosity, what do you say if you really just want her to come over and watch Netflix?
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:56 PM
-5

Bit of a sad commentary on your generation, no?
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:48 PM
-2

Maybe. I don't play the text game much. But please, o wise sage, tell me how you would have handled this.
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:46 PM
-3

Change the tag to "Older man who prefers voice conversations to text game because shit gets lost in translation." And I stand by my advice. If a woman sends you a text explaining that she's not looking for anything serious, then send her one back letting her know neither are you.
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:44 PM
-3

Look, I'm in my 30's and don't play games. When I meet a girl, I don't invite her to "Netflix and chill". I invite her to join me on an outing to get to know her, or if I'm only interested in sex I'll invite her to my place. I don't date girls. I date grown women who don't send msgs like "I don't want to be mean or lead you on... blah...blah... blah..." As far as my success rate: I do very well meeting and seducing WOMEN. But like I said, I'm an adult and dealing with a different class of female…
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:42 PM
-1

Wow... guess I'm out the loop. I don't speak in code. If I want a woman to come over for sex, I invite her over for sex, not tea and crumpets and hopes she gets the meaning. Kids these days...
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:37 PM
-3

So, when a guy asks if you want to "Netflix and chill", you automatically assume he means "have sex", instead of, you know, watching Netflix and chilling?
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:28 PM
-1

Second, it was cynical and sexually obvious. Care to explain this? Cynical, perhaps, but sexually obvious?
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:16 PM
-8

"WHOA THERE SKIPPY!!! Not being a douche at all. 1stOA, it was a joke. 2nd, you just told me you're not interested in me. That's cool. Not making a deal out of at, and offering a sincere salutation. I'm not mad or butt hurt and I do wish you the best. And to be totally honest... I actually LOVE Orange is the new Black!!! Yeesh!" Edit: This, IMO, is the problem with texting. It's open to interpretation. I'm sure you and everyone else here on Reddit read the previous msg as lighthearted and sincer…
/r/seduction15/10/15 05:03 PM
-2

"So was I. I really don't even like Orange is the new black. Best of luck to you." And move on.
/r/seduction15/10/15 04:42 PM
11

"I invited you to Netflix and chill, not go ring shopping at Jareds. One, maybe too episodes of Orange is the new black is about as much commitment you're getting out of me at this point, so relax. Im not looking for anything more than someone to eat the other half of the pizza. So if you're not down to come chill, that's cool, but dont assume I'm hearing wedding bells... your cute and all... but damn. ;-) let me know." EDIT: TIL "Netflix and chill" translates to come over and have sex. OP, sorr…
/r/seduction15/10/15 04:06 PM
5

First, 95% off the time, a girl coming to your place to chill is a crystal clear indicator she's physically into you. Combine that with her laying intimately in your arms, and you have a 100% "GO FOR IT!" sign. Next time, just lean in and get the kiss.
/r/seduction14/10/15 02:14 AM
3

READ THIS
/r/seduction10/10/15 06:03 PM
2

You're not getting them emotionally invested. And maybe call instead of text.
/r/seduction10/10/15 05:45 PM
1

While it can work in your favor, it's a double edged sword that can sometimes backfire. I suggest waiting until optimal settings (someplace private, intimate, where you can really explore each other and make it a sexual event, instead of a quickie) and really dive into it. I'm talking passion, lust, and intimacy. Throw in a body massage, a glass of wine or two, and multiple sessions. Then go three dates without sex but maintain the physical intimacy and passion. She'll be begging for it.
/r/seduction09/10/15 11:31 PM
4

Here are a few: Keep your opinion to yourself unless specifically asked. Always stand to shake someone's hand. And make it firm! When dating, don't EVER ask someone out and then hit them with "IDK. What do you want to do?" If you invited them out, you pay. Period. Try to avoid correcting people unless necessary. More often than not, you come of like an arse.
/r/seduction09/10/15 08:04 PM
5

It's because once you climb to the top of the mountain, there's no place left to go but down.
/r/seduction09/10/15 04:55 PM
8

The same reason people climb down after reaching the top of Everest.
/r/seduction09/10/15 04:04 PM
5

If i initiate a conversation, then I control it, so deciding when a silence is appropriate is up to me. Typically, silence is good for A) Enjoying the moment, B) Building tension, or C) Show, don't tell. If I didnt initiate the conversation, i typically stick to a rule of thumb: Dont speak until spoken to.
/r/seduction08/10/15 04:27 PM
2

Bald guy here: I have absolutely no problem meeting women/getting laid.
/r/seduction05/10/15 03:12 PM
1

but I look a little exotic as opposed to the All American guys these women go crazy for. First mistake. Why assume they all want Bradley Cooper or Channing Tatum? Just like you have a type, they have a type they are attracted to you, and it may surprise you to know that a fair amount of women like men with an "exotic" look to them. Which brings me to my second point: They have a type they respond to as well. It may be blonde hair and blue eyes. It may be BBC and cornrows. It may be thick accents…
/r/seduction04/10/15 08:34 PM
1

Self exploration. Only you know what you're not good at.
/r/seduction04/10/15 07:37 PM
2

1) You can never go wrong with "Hi" and a smile. 2) Find out what she likes to read and ask her for some suggestions.
/r/seduction04/10/15 07:31 PM
2

The glorious devaluation of gender and looks. Once I stopped thinking in terms of "HB9" or beautiful woman, and just started treating everyone as a "person", everything clicked.
/r/seduction04/10/15 05:10 PM
1

Listen, I'm not going to spend too much time on this because I'm starting to feel like I'm being trolled: You want to meet girls and hook-up? Fine. All you have to do is approach a girl, find out what turns her on, and use it as a point of escalation. Yes, she has to be attracted to you, but if you think she won't be, SHE WON'T BE! If you think she will be, the odds will be in your favor. As for how to escalate; it's a simple matter of initiation contact in a (using your terms) non-creepy way, a…
/r/seduction03/10/15 09:02 PM
1

Whuh?
/r/seduction03/10/15 08:42 PM
1

I guess you need to find a girl who has lower self-esteem than you do.
/r/seduction03/10/15 08:38 PM
1

Read THIS
/r/seduction03/10/15 08:08 PM
1

Yeah, cuz no one over 200lbs ever gets laid. Listen, its not your weight or looks that keep you from meeting women, its your attitude.
/r/seduction03/10/15 07:02 PM
1

Not with that attitude
/r/seduction03/10/15 06:40 PM
2

The only way it works if she is attracted you Thats the only way it ever works! If you are attracted to her and is she us attracted to you.
/r/seduction03/10/15 06:20 PM
1

It's always a horrible idea to try to hit on a girl that directly and be forward. This is inaccurate on so many levels. Listen, the fact of the matter is this: It's always better to be direct. It cuts through all the bullshit! Why is it good to be forward with a girl about how you feel? Because it's you going after what YOU want. "I like you! I think you're attractive. I want to get to know you better." Why hide those feelings. What good will come from suppressing those emotions? Be honest and d…
/r/seduction03/10/15 06:01 PM
1

"So... this is where all the (cool/attractive/awesome/cute/insert adjective) girls hang out? How are you ladies doing today/tonight?"... and go from there.
/r/seduction03/10/15 12:36 AM
5

First, you coming to us instantly makes you hotter. Second, unlike women, most men dont get told how hot, sexy, or attractive we are on a daily bases. Compliment us. It doesn't have to be physical, just stroke the ego a bit. Third, be aggressive but don't be easy. Be the mouse that wags its tail at the cat. "Hey, you're kinda cute. Any other reasons i should go out with you?"
/r/seduction02/10/15 06:24 AM
1

Depends on the situation. Sometimes it's face. Sometimes its body. If I see a woman sitting at a table, I can't really see her body, so it's face. If I see a woman walking, it might be her body. Regardless, I approach trying to fill in the blanks, Physical < Mental < Emotional.
/r/seduction02/10/15 03:16 AM
2

If I approach an attractive women, I'm trying to see A) if the contents match the packaging (if she has an attractive personality), and B) If there's a connection between us.
/r/seduction02/10/15 02:12 AM
3

Hi. How are you today? What's your name?
/r/seduction01/10/15 03:05 AM
2

I feel like this is a hard one for me, because I'm a server and I work evenings, and my schedule changes from week to week. It's hard to invite someone to do something with you when what you can do and what they can do are totally different. This is a shit excuse. As someone who works in the restaurant industry, with a similar schedule, I can tell you from experience, planning a date is easy; it just takes planning and forethought. Which brings me to: I asked a girl out on Tinder, she said "Sure…
/r/seduction30/09/15 02:23 AM
2

But that implies waiting until the end of the date to go for the kiss. This is a common mistake I think men make. Why wait? If the chemistry is there and she's feeling you, why wait until you're about to leave to kiss her? I say the sooner the better, and gauging her level of interest/comfort is easily accomplished by going for the cheek. Like I said, in a romantic setting, a women wont let you kiss her cheek if she's not willing to let you kiss her lips. But, YMMV.
/r/seduction30/09/15 12:15 AM
1

It's a partial shit test: I'm assuming you've yet to meet this woman IRL, correct? If that's the case, then she's using this "Foreplay only rule" as a boundary; she want's to make sure she's physically attracted to you, that you have nice sized penis, and that you can turn her on, before committing to sex. Here's what I suggest: Go. Worst case scenario: you get to make out and fondle a hot woman you met online. Best case scenario: you push all her buttons and she ends up begging you for it. A co…
/r/seduction29/09/15 10:07 PM
4

I disagree. I think its in the context. There's a difference between "I'm having a blast and I know you would too! Wish you were here!" and "I'm having a blast BUT Wish you were here!" One suggests inclusion, the other, regret. And I think the pic would add a lot of context. If I send a girl a picture of me smiling on a beach with a Corona, surround by friends and people having a good time, clearly, the message is "you're missing out", but I don't want to rub it in her face, so I say "Wish you w…
/r/seduction29/09/15 09:10 PM
1

Why not? If I'm sitting with a girl, building attraction, kino'ing, and want to test the waters, this is EXACTLY what I do, and I've had a 99% success rate with it. If I kiss a girls cheek on the way to the john/bar/car, whatever, I know that when I go for the lips, it'll be smooth sailing. Typically, a woman wont let your lips touch her face if she's unwilling to let them touch her lips. IJS
/r/seduction29/09/15 09:04 PM
1

The consensus I've noticed seems to be that texting/calling should be primarily for the sake of logistics, and creating that physical and emotional connection is better done in person. This is with regards to a rapid F-close approach. What OP is talking about is building a more lasting, sustainable investment, as well as tips to negate flaking and first date jitters. IME, when I take a little time to connect with the girl via phone text, I notice she's less inclined to flake or cancel when makin…
/r/seduction29/09/15 09:00 PM
3

Why do you think horror movies exist?
/r/seduction28/09/15 09:09 PM
2

Escalate. Escalate. Escalate.
/r/seduction28/09/15 09:05 PM
1

There are two ways to go about this, but first you need to realize that not everyone is going to dig you're brand of product, so the most important thing is to find people who you gravitate to naturally; people who share common interest, goals, and values. These are the ones that will think of you when it comes time hang out or plan a get-together. one of the ways to increase your value to someone else to to become invested in them as a person through shared interest and experiences. Doing thing…
/r/seduction27/09/15 11:48 PM
2

Okay, there are a few suggestions I have for you to start moving in the direction of your goals: I want more friends Be careful with this one. More friends isn't always a good thing. Try aiming for a strong circle of close friends. While there's nothing wrong with increasing your social circle, FRIENDS are people you can count on in the most dire of situations. Like, 4am, "I need you to help me bury a body" people. In any event, networking is a good way to increase your social circle and standin…
/r/seduction27/09/15 11:36 PM
1

For the record, the friendzone is where you go when you maintain the relationship, but stop escalating romantically. A woman CAN'T friendzone you. You can only friendzone yourself. If you feel like there's no romantic connection to be had, but want to hold on to her for hopes she'll come 'round one day... that is the friendzone. If you feel there's no romantic connection, but want to maintain because she's cool and you're okay with a completely platonic relationship; thats NOT friendzone. That's…
/r/seduction27/09/15 08:14 PM
2

Sometimes I feel/worry that I come across as "Trying too hard". This may just be my mindset, but sometimes feel like I'm just faking it you know? "Do, or do not. There is no try!" But seriously, trying to hard IMO, is attempting to force your way through resistance. You're trying to force a woman to be interested in you, instead of just recognizing the lack of attraction and moving on. If you approach and she's unresponsive, tell her it was nice meeting you, and move on. Attraction has to be a m…
/r/seduction27/09/15 07:26 PM
8

When you stop escalating, but maintain the relationship for hope that one day she'll come 'round...
/r/seduction26/09/15 08:13 PM
5

First date: something low-key and inexpensive: drinks, coffee, walk in the park, picnic, bikes on the beach, hiking, rock climbing, gun range, comedy club, live music, game at a sports bar, etc. Second date: fine dining, play/show: something that gives her a reason to dress up. Third date: dinner at my place.
/r/seduction26/09/15 08:10 PM
1

When you say "increase your value as a person", are you talking about your value to yourself or to others?
/r/seduction26/09/15 07:47 PM
2

Listen, there is no one road to success with women. Women are different and will want/need different things to excite them and get them emotionally invested. One girl will eye-roll every time a guy tells her how beautiful she is. Another will be eating out of the palm of your hand if you tell her she looks nice. And telling a woman what your intentions are don't equate to giving up your power. As a matter of fact, what power are you even talking about?? Going into a relationship of any kind thin…
/r/seduction26/09/15 07:44 PM
4

The idea here is that "being an emotional tampon AKA the nice guy" is how you get friend zoned. This isn't completely accurate. You don't get banished to the friend zone because you are a nice guy. The friend zone is reserved for those who fail to escalate. You meet a girl, number close, text her, call here, talk to her, hang out with her, and that's it. No Kino, no going for a kiss, no intimacy. You stop escalating the attraction and get stuck in a platonic mode, aka the friend zone. To be trul…
/r/seduction26/09/15 07:21 PM
1

You need to have a love affair with the person in the mirror. Find out what they enjoy, what they are passionate about, what their goals and dreams are, and start working on those. Thats where confidence comes from. Once you fall in love with you and start building a life you're happy with, walking up to HB10 becomes a lot easier.
/r/seduction25/09/15 11:41 PM
14

37m, nearly 200 partners: I lost me V-card on my 15th birthday. Between 15 and 17 I had three partners. My sister came out as lesbian then and introduced me to a whole new world. From 17-25, I was a whore. The only qualification a woman needed for me to date her was a pulse and a vag. Not to say every woman I dated was a dog; I worked in night club promotion and was extremely fortunate to meet some really beautiful women: models and the like. But there was the occasional "How drunk was I last ni…
/r/seduction25/09/15 09:42 PM
4

Step one: the mirror love affair!
/r/seduction25/09/15 09:18 PM
1

"Hey there georgous."
/r/seduction25/09/15 06:16 PM
1

Are you kidding me?? I'm 37 and i could have that life tomorrow if i wanted. Point to fact, when i was 27, I had that life without the frats! It's all about finding what you're looking for and knowing where to look. First, make friends with liken minded men. Second, check out the local club/bar scene. Third, learn how to find the "easy" ones.
/r/seduction24/09/15 05:01 AM
1

How old are you?
/r/seduction24/09/15 04:36 AM
3

Yes, but getting laid and find a relationship aren't the same. I can go to a bar, meet a beautiful woman, ask her if she'd like to climb into my Lamborghini, drive to the airport, take my private jet and spend the weekend in my private villa in the bahamas, and she can bring all the lady friend she wants... but first i have to see if shes a good kisser. And yes... I'm getting laid. But that doesn't equal a quality relationship by any means.
/r/seduction24/09/15 04:29 AM
2

Whoever initiates the date.
/r/seduction24/09/15 04:08 AM
1

Who's gf does shit like this?
/r/seduction24/09/15 03:55 AM
4

Sit next to her. Try to initiate side convo/jokes/banter. Ask her if she'd like to share/swap food or drinks. Flirt. Kino. And overall just enjoy her company.
/r/seduction23/09/15 03:57 AM
3

Active listening does not equal Beta and negging doesn't equal alpha. Woman love a man who can listen, but more importantly, contribute, to the conversation, and it sounds like that's where you're hitting the wall. Ask questions that expand on their passion(s) and make statements that incorporate your own personal experience. If that experience is zero, than ask them to ELI5. Eventually, you'll reach a point where either you have something to add, or a point where the next question is "So is tha…
/r/seduction21/09/15 04:48 AM
7

There is a huge difference between being nice and being AFC. Remember, women are attracted to men with confidence who elicit strong emotions from them. Being nice isn't a detriment. I would go as far to say its a requirement. You can't be all neg and all attitude. Being a gentlemen, offering sincere compliments, pulling out chairs, opening doors; these are "nice" things to do that will raise the level of attraction with most women.
/r/seduction16/09/15 10:40 PM
1

Define "messed around without the f-close".
/r/seduction14/09/15 12:19 AM
3

Looks matter, but your style and confidence are a part of your looks. So if you're not 6'3" with a chisled jaw, crystal blue eyes, hair like a field of summer grain, and rock hard abs, you can make up for it by having a strong, confident persona and a stylish wardrobe. Girls like hot guys, true, but girls fall for the guys that elicit strong emotions from them. A girl will almost always choose the average guy that makes her stomach do backflips over the hoy guy that's boring but fun to look at. …
/r/seduction13/09/15 07:01 PM
2

If I have to trick a girl into going back to my place, I don't want her there.
/r/seduction13/09/15 12:07 AM
1

One thing that got me really good at interactions was mental role play; I'd have imaginary conversations with women in my head and come up with all kinds of questions and responses. So now, when i talk to someone, its like a scene from Terminator: a drop down of responses pops up in my head and I choose the best one.
/r/seduction12/09/15 10:17 PM
2

"Hi. My name is Sinslayer. Its very nice to meet you. You have lovely eyes." Read that aloud twice. The first time. Get it out as fast as possible. The second, make it take ten seconds. Which sounds better to you?
/r/seduction12/09/15 09:37 PM
1

Girls typically dont invite guys to do stuff. They invite their female friends and tell their guy friends about it.
/r/seduction12/09/15 07:28 AM
1

Two golden rules for a great kiss: 1) Lips > tongue 2) Squeeze her tightly and hold her in your arms while you kiss her. Release her when the kiss is done. This will leave her breathless and light headed and she will attribute it to the kiss.
/r/seduction12/09/15 07:26 AM
1

Call her.
/r/seduction09/09/15 12:30 AM
3

"Listen, I have to run, but this has been a blast. Let's exchage numbers so we can talk later."
/r/seduction09/09/15 12:23 AM
1

Okay, there are a few things going on here that need to be addressed: First and foremost, your growing resentment of women isn't healthy. AT ALL! It's like an athlete hating the team they can never beat. Instead of coming up with a winning strategy, they just adopt a defeatism mindset and go out and instead of trying to win, they just go through the motions with scorn and contempt, and someone usually ends up getting injured. Seriously, getting upset with women because of your lack of success wi…
/r/seduction08/09/15 09:01 PM
45

PUA is more about inviting people to share your world, not asking if yoy can be a part of theirs. If you try to bring a woman into your realm, you avoid over-investing in them because you're still living your life.
/r/seduction02/09/15 04:38 AM
1

In no particular order: R.Kelly - Imagine that, Bump and grind (remix), Slow wind, Feelin on your booty Maxwell - (anything off the Embrya album), Pretty Wings Prince- Call my name, Darling Nikki Janet Jackson- Anytime/Anyplace, 70 Love Groove Silk- Lets make love, There's a meeting in my bedroom Isley Brothers- Between the sheets 112- Now that we're done Sade- No ordinary love, Mermaids Kendra Morris - Shine on you crazy diamond Bruno Mars - Gorilla This should get you started...
/r/seduction29/08/15 09:17 PM
1

Shes not YOUR employee, so go for it.
/r/seduction26/08/15 06:11 AM
1

Just say something. "Hey. Hello. Whats up. Hi there." Or even the Joey: "How you doin'?" It doesn't have to be clever or whitty or smooth. Just say Hey.
/r/seduction22/08/15 03:07 AM
2

"Im not interested, but thank you."
/r/seduction08/08/15 05:01 AM
3

Define "girls out of his league". I hate this term. This is just a excuse for not having the balls to approach a woman. How do i know shes out of your league. Because shes hot? Because shes successful? Because shes tall? Because shes got big boobs? What makes a girl out of someone's league? Ive seen hundreds of average (and even below average) looking men with DROP DEAD GEORGOUS WOMEN on thier arm. Maybe he's rich. Maybe he has a dick like a 24oz can of red bull. Maybe his tongue hangs six inche…
/r/seduction04/08/15 01:03 AM
2

Inner game: confidence boosters Outer game: what you say/do with target
/r/seduction03/08/15 05:04 AM
2

Yeah... damn auto-correct
/r/seduction03/08/15 05:00 AM
23

Alright... I was working earlier and couldn't respond properly until now: Looks matter. Anyone who says otherwise is full of shit. BUT, they way you carry yourself and self confidence is a HUGE part of that. For men especially! Nine out of ten women will tell you confidence is a huge turn on. When you tell yourself you're not attractive enough for a woman, you're absolutely right. Because you lack confidence. But when you tell yourself that shes just a regular person, no matter how hot she is, a…
/r/seduction03/08/15 12:54 AM
47

Sounds like you've made your choice.
/r/seduction02/08/15 07:34 PM
88

The moment you believe you're not attractive enough to date a woman is the moment the world agrees with you. The opposite also holds true. The choice is yours.
/r/seduction02/08/15 07:30 PM
12

Its not what you say, its how you say it. I've said some on the most outlandish shit imaginable to women and they went for it because of the way it was delivered.
/r/seduction12/07/15 01:32 AM
2

Dont blame your baldness. Im bald and while i miss my hair, i look great bald. I make it the topic of conversation, invite women to rub it and see how smooth it is, etc. Being bald doesnt limit me in anyway. If people are more open to you when you're hiding your head, it may because you're more self conscious about it when you're not.
/r/seduction29/06/15 03:37 AM
1

sigh... Okay, while its not impossible to go from the zone to FWB, its unlikely as there needs to be some physical attraction there and if she was physically attracted to you, you wouldn't be in the friend zone. My advice; move on to greener pastures.
/r/seduction23/06/15 04:33 AM
3

Keep calm and discuss things rationally.
/r/seduction18/06/15 06:36 AM
1

Im assuming you exchange numbers. Call her and have a few conversations prior to meetup. The more intimate the conversations, the more likely a kiss will ensue during the actual date. The idea is to get her emotionally invested prior to the date. Shes already attracted to you (or at least your photos) physically. Get her mentally and emotionally attracted and the sky's the limit.
/r/seduction18/06/15 02:32 AM
0

Its not the date, its the conversations you have prior to the first date that close the deal more often than not.
/r/seduction18/06/15 12:27 AM
14

Experience is the source of all confidence. Everyone will be nervous the first time they do or try something new. If I've never shot a free throw, id shit myself if i went to the line for the game winner. But if I've shot a hundred or a thousand... it'd pretty easy going.
/r/seduction06/06/15 01:32 AM
4

Every one has inner game issues.
/r/seduction04/06/15 01:40 AM
2

Touch her all over.
/r/seduction04/06/15 01:14 AM
9

Create a bucket list. Start checking things off.
/r/seduction01/06/15 07:53 PM
1

What exactly is she apologizing for? No sex?
/r/seduction31/05/15 07:10 PM
6

1) The problem you're having is you are trying to kiss her rather than making her want to kiss you. 2) Do the "Excuse me" test first: excuse yourself to the bathroom and offer a kiss on the cheek as you leave. IME, very few women recoil or deny a peck on the cheek from a guy they are interested in. From here, a kiss on the lips is a natural progression. 3) Work up to the lips. Start with the hand. Hug her from begin and peck her neck. This is perfect for waiting in line somewhere. Then the cheek…
/r/seduction28/05/15 10:13 PM
3

Somewhere between the make out session at her place and the return later, you dropped the escalation ball. You should have continued the physical/sexual interaction during the clubbing and dancing. More than likely, she got hot and bothered... then nothing, which leads to annoyed. If you would have made an effort to maintain her level of arousal throughout the evening, she probably would have let you violate her in unspeakable ways.
/r/seduction06/05/15 08:57 PM
0

Do i see her in person? If not, id send her a msg, something like "hey, im sinslayer. Didnt we go to different schools together? ;-)"
/r/seduction06/05/15 08:04 PM
1

When in a group, does she stand close to/focus on you?
/r/seduction28/04/15 02:36 PM
1

Turn the volume up slowly.
/r/seduction28/04/15 05:10 AM
2

There are dozens of IOI's to look out for, but the simplest to see is this: If a woman consistently initiates AND maintains verbal and/or physical contact, she's interested.
/r/seduction28/04/15 05:08 AM
24

Make almost everything a sexual innuendo.
/r/seduction22/04/15 06:16 PM
1

Attempt to initiate contact/a date three times. If she passes or misses all three = THREE STRIKES! YOU'RE OUT!! Next batter!
/r/seduction17/04/15 05:30 AM
1

No. I ask girls all the time if they have bf's more out of conversation than personal interest.
/r/seduction17/04/15 03:55 AM
4

Three strike rule.
/r/seduction17/04/15 03:52 AM
2

I got nuthing...
/r/seduction14/04/15 02:45 AM
1

Where do you live?
/r/seduction14/04/15 02:40 AM
6

I was at work and one of my customers flat out said "Can I lick both of your heads?" It was awesome.
/r/seduction14/04/15 01:58 AM
1

My pleasure.
/r/seduction03/04/15 08:48 PM
1

Completely disagree. The very idea that you think there's a such thing as escalating too slow is why you deal with LMR in the first place. PUA isn't a race or a speed run. If I meet a girl at a club/bar, I don't need to get her in bed that night for it to be a successful hook-up. Hell, I'm not even going to try to get her in bed that night. And that's where so many guys have problems with the PUA methodology. It's not about ONS or bjs in the mens room stall. If I meet a hot girl and want to have…
/r/seduction03/04/15 08:46 PM
1

Well, if you look at LMR as a part of calibration techniques, then it does have a place. Like I said, PUA is about marketing yourself in a way that makes you highly desirable. So let's say you meet someone, want to develop something, etc. It's very rarely a fast-track from "meet to sheets". Typically there's a lot of back and forth and adjustments that need to be made in order to peak that particular persons interest. When it comes to LMR, I think the mistake people make is "I went in for a kiss…
/r/seduction03/04/15 08:33 PM
1

The trouble with the mindset surrounding LMR is that it basically says you are trying to get something from the target; or trying to get the target to consent to something. This, IMO, has always been that backwards approach and the complete opposite of the very definition of seduction. Seduction has NEVER been about trying to get a target to accept you mentally, emotionally, physically, or sexually. It's only every been about making a target desire you to such a high degree that they offer thems…
/r/seduction03/04/15 07:20 PM
15

Not I'm my experience...
/r/seduction03/03/15 08:41 PM
110

One of the things that work very well for me is what i refer to as a "YO-YO" approach. I approach, interact, flirt, maybe Kino, and then leave. Maybe go get a drink or flirt with a different target, or hell, take a piss... then I return; rinse, repeat. This shows I'm a bit of a social butterfly and if she wants me, she needs to offer something to make me stay. A couple of keys to this are: 1) Always exit on a high note. Do/say something that gets a strong positive emotional response and exit the…
/r/seduction03/03/15 07:20 PM
1

Three strikes rule.
/r/seduction25/02/15 02:12 AM
7

While voice tone is important, i find speed and pace to be even more so. Try to slow your speech patter. It makes people focus more on what your saying and anticipate your response. When you speak fast, it makes them mentally have to work to keeo up, which can be off putting.
/r/seduction17/02/15 01:38 AM
1

Personally would have gone for at least a k-close. LPT: if a girl agrees to go back to your hotel room, she at least open to the possibilities. You didnt screw up though. If she agrees to a second date, your good.
/r/seduction28/01/15 07:33 PM
37

What should I have done differently? Absolutely nothing. You tried. Thats LITERALLY the most important thing. Don't believe there is a magic line or phrase that will make a woman cheat on her man or suddenly find you the most attractive man alive. There isn't. You will meet women who have boyfriends, who dont find you attractive, who like girls, who have their heads up their ass... etc. And you WILL meet women who want to get to know you and spend time with you... but only if you keep trying... …
/r/seduction24/01/15 10:14 PM
2

"I'm currently accepting applications for that position. Would you like to schedule an interview?"
/r/seduction21/01/15 11:59 PM
3

1) Never do a movie for a first date/hang out. The purpose of the date is to get to know each other. Pretty hard to do in a dark theater were conversation is frowned upon. 2) If she lost interest its because you didnt take time to build interest. You went from "I sit next to you in class and barely know you." to "let me have your phone number" to "You wanna go to a movie with my friends (who you also dont know) and I?" Im a dude and I love movies and even if your paying, I would say no. Take som…
/r/seduction17/01/15 05:49 AM
10

You have far too many fucks to give...
/r/seduction09/01/15 09:13 PM
7

The first step (and the hardest) is to realize that no matter how many women you deal with, the only constant is YOU. So you need to have a love affair with yourself. If there's something about yourself you dont like or are unhappy with, start working to change it. But do it for you! Not for them! After that, its just a matter of maintaining the confidence that comes from being comfortable and loving yourself. Remember... there will always be one person you go to bed with and wake up with every …
/r/seduction05/01/15 05:04 AM
10

It sounds like you're on the winning side of things. Id go for the smart, professional GND type over the crazy party bimbo any day of the week.
/r/seduction03/01/15 06:28 PM
1

The Thomas Crown Affair (remake). Seduction at its absolute best!
/r/seduction29/12/14 08:37 PM
4

Love is when someone else's security, happiness, and well being is as important to you as your own.
/r/seduction26/12/14 10:35 PM
2

A fucked up way of saying its a good thing to be a scarce commodity when dealing with people. Being readily available decreases value (prior to forming an LTR bond), so only being available "sometime" adds value. This goes for both physical and communication presence. While I never suggest ignoring a call or text, lines like "I'm in the middle of something. Can I give you a call later?" can up your value immensely.
/r/seduction26/12/14 12:42 AM
5

You're looking at attraction the wrong way. You cant ignore a girl and have it generate attraction if she's not already attracted to you. Imagine a traditional scale (a Libra scale): on one side there's attraction and on the other is unattractive. When you meet a girl, typically there needs to be a marble of weight added to the attraction side for ANY seduction techniques to work. Now, what you're thinking is "okay, I met her and she neutral, so if I ignore her, I'll get some weight on the attra…
/r/seduction25/12/14 07:52 AM
1

Women are people, not mythical creatures, so learning how to talk to people is ALWAYS paramount over specific seduction skills and techniques. You can have all thr seduction techniques in the world, but if you dont know how to talk to PEOPLE, it won't help you.
/r/seduction25/12/14 07:35 AM
3

I could write a book on this subject. For the sake of time, I'll bullet point it for you: Find what her emotional triggers are. Good bad, positive and negative. And what I mean by triggers are the things that make her smile, laugh, sad, cry, turned on and off. The stronger the trigger, the better. Then, form a link between you and those triggers. This requires a deal of explanation, which I dont have a ton of time for, but its essentially forming sensory/memory links that include you. Example, t…
/r/seduction24/12/14 11:48 PM
3

You're saying that some women are turned off by fit men because they "assume" he is narcissistic and insecure? Thats like saying the same thing about women who wear tight, revealing clothing, isn't it? Any any event, the common thread in both our experience is judging a book by its cover. Some people love their bodies, love working out, and love being in great shape. To assume one or the other based solely on that is never a good idea.
/r/seduction20/12/14 09:13 PM
11

Let's look at this from a scientific aspect: genetically speaking, we are attracted to traits of strength and dominance. This equates to stronger features, powerful physique, and lean figures. Now, over time, and due to our individual experiences, we garner preferences that become more appealing than others; blondes v. brunettes, ass v. breasts, pecs v. arms, etc., but at our base, we still look at those things we genetically equate to strength and dominance, if for no other reason than to ensur…
/r/seduction20/12/14 06:49 PM
1

As someone who's been in the game for a very long time, I think it's a weak gimmick that is a double edge sword. Consider the kind of woman that is more attracted to a man because he's wearing a wedding band.
/r/seduction19/12/14 01:40 AM
5

Emotions and logic are typically mutually exclusive. You're nervous because you like her and dont want to screw it up and your logical brain knows that's a very real possibility. It's like applying for a job you're over qualified for and literally the only applicant. You'd still get nervous for the interview.
/r/seduction19/12/14 01:27 AM
7

Walk up to random stuff strangers (men and women) and say "Hi. How are you today?"
/r/seduction09/12/14 09:26 PM
2

That position is currently unfilled, but im taking applications. Would you like one?
/r/seduction25/11/14 09:30 PM
3

Play "have you met the naughtygarbageman" Have her chat you up to target.
/r/seduction25/11/14 09:29 PM
12

True confidence comes from three things: 1) Being the best version of YOU possible (or working hard everyday to get there). 2) Being aware of your skills and abilities and what you bring to the table. 3) Accepting that if 1 and 2 aren't good enough for some one, there's literally nothing you can do to keep them from looking for what they are missing elsewhere. Jealousy is a product of lacking any of the above.
/r/seduction23/11/14 11:50 PM
1

Not suggesting candles to set the mood. Candles to make the room smell nice. We men often go nose blind to the way our place smells.
/r/seduction21/11/14 01:51 AM
1

What are your intentions with this girl?
/r/seduction20/11/14 08:36 AM
2

I called it the "Spokesperson Effect"- and there are two ways I've gone about it: 1) I once started working at a company with a majority female workforce; 1:5 ratio. The first thing I did was find the plain girl. Not fugly, but plain Jane kinda girl. We became besties. We talked every day, went to lunch together. Phone calls at night. Hung out at work functions. The whole nine. But we never EVER had sex or did anything intimate. Know what she did? Tell every girl who would listen how awesome I w…
/r/seduction20/11/14 07:03 AM
1

Link didnt work.
/r/seduction20/11/14 06:29 AM
1

Dating =/= relationships, right? Cuz most of the time, in local culture, the two go hand in hand. This is incorrect. If I go on a date with a girl, we are not in a relationship. A MONOGAMOUS relationship doesn't occur until the two consenting parties agree to become such. As for telling a girl if I'm dating anyone else, I just tell her I have plans or I'm going out with a friend. Until we agree to be monogamous I can date how ever many people I want.
/r/seduction20/11/14 04:20 AM
27

Ambiance: Music: Pandora Maxwell, Sade, Kem, Prince, and Isley Brothers. It's soft and subtly suggestive Scent: light some scented candles an hour before she's scheduled to arrive. This will give the scents time to permeate. Use scents like vanilla, cocoa, lemon, or just plain fresh. You dont want anything too strong or something that's going to compete with the food aroma once you start cooking. Dinner: have everything prepared but uncooked until she arrives. Have her help you with certain stuf…
/r/seduction20/11/14 02:44 AM
15

I'm not very sexual in my tones and conversation... Thats your biggest obsticle right there. If you want to know if a girl is open to a little casual sex, you need to learn how to tease and throw out those sexual innuendos and see how she responds.
/r/seduction20/11/14 12:46 AM
2

Why do they walk away?
/r/seduction16/11/14 10:16 PM
6

Women dont appreciate romantic displays from men until AFTER they've fallen for the guy. Just saying...
/r/seduction14/11/14 02:31 AM
1

Listen, Padiwan; you're taking it way to literally. The bottom line is simple: "Ask het out!" She might say "yes". If you don't, she never will. And yeah, she might say "no" and crush your soul... whatever. Just go for it!
/r/seduction13/11/14 05:32 PM
5

I don't like this one because it doesn't take into account how bad the newbie feels when he actually gets rejected, compared to when he doesn't ask. Getting rejected is part of the game. There is literally no way around it. But newbies need to realize that being rejected doesn't mean they did some thing wrong or that they aren't good enough. Women will reject you for reason that have nothing to do with you. (I have a boyfriend. Im not looking for a relationship. You're literally the seventeenth …
/r/seduction13/11/14 04:50 PM
49

"No" will always be the answer to the question you dont ask.
/r/seduction13/11/14 09:24 AM
1

Phone calls
/r/seduction12/11/14 06:57 AM
1

Call her.
/r/seduction10/11/14 10:44 PM
3

Smile
/r/seduction10/11/14 10:25 PM
2

First and foremost, you have to understand that men almost never meet a girl and think "Wow. She's attractive! I bet she'd make a great friend!" Nearly 95% of time we men initiate contact or introduction, its almost always in the hope of an intimate relationship. We're not looking for a friend. We are looking for a mate. What happens more often than not is the woman isn't interested in the guy physically or romantically, but sometimes still likes him for his personality and offers to be "just fr…
/r/seduction10/11/14 10:24 PM
13

"oh, so you're smart?" Not really. When my guidance councillor asked me what I want to be, I said "James Bond". These were the classes he said I had to take... v
/r/seduction10/11/14 08:45 PM
5

Attempt to find something she's passionate about and make that the topic of discussion.
/r/seduction10/11/14 05:08 AM
1

This is really bad advice. Its stealing the number vs. having her give it to you. Ask her for the number. Dont just take it.
/r/seduction09/11/14 05:54 PM
1

Easy. Just offer them free admission and tell them their first round is on you.
/r/seduction08/11/14 04:48 AM
0

As a former club promoter: Step 1 - Budget. $500 min, $2K+ if your serious Step 2 - Venue. You need a local with at least 100 capacity and preferably an full bar and dance floor. Scout locations carefully and speak with owners/GM's about a weekly promotion run. They will either request a bar guarantee or nagotiate a flat rate. Step 3 - Entertainment. Hire a really good DJ or live band. Step 4 - Promotion. Get some flyers. 1000 flyers for every 50 head count capacity. Step 5 - Distribute the flye…
/r/seduction08/11/14 04:08 AM
2

I hug a girl when I get her number. I hug her again when we meet for first date. I hold her hand while we are walking to our destination. I will excuse myself to goto the bathroom and kiss her cheek. When we walk back to the car (en route to second half of date) I'll kiss her before opening her door. Never forget the ABE's of seduction: Always Be Escalating.
/r/seduction08/11/14 04:02 AM
3

Many PUAs say to text only to schedule a date. There's a reason for this. Its extremely difficult to get someone emotionally invested via text VS a voice phone call. A twenty minute voice conversation trumps 100 text msgs simply because of all the subtle nuances you can exploit vocally that cant be done as well with a text. If I want to ask a girl out, I call her. And thats after we have had a chance to get to know each other via a few phone conversations. If she's too busy to talk on the phone …
/r/seduction07/11/14 05:44 PM
2

Personally, as a 37yo, I feel like a pedophile whenever I talk to a girl under 25. Yes, they are legal, and yes, they are hot, but depending on your goals, you may need to look past the superficial. If all you want is to get laid, go for it. If you want something more substantial, find something worth more.
/r/seduction06/11/14 11:55 PM
2

Generated. Bottomline, there are always going to be people in the world that just dont "do it" for you. While their personality can be an attractive aspect of who they are, at the end of the day, they still wont turn you on physically
/r/seduction06/11/14 12:56 AM
1

First and foremost, there's a difference between asking a girl to go out and making a girl WANT to go out. Second, ask her what her schedule is like. Try to get a weeks worth. Third, pick two or three times when you know she'll be free and find something that makes her want to go out. Ask her to pick one.
/r/seduction05/11/14 12:08 AM
8

I once worked in an office with close to 400 employees, of which over 300 were female (im a guy). When I say I was a whore, I need you to understand I was sleeping with at least a girl on every floor and in every department. I would schedule my lunch breaks in a way where sex was on the menu five days a week. And the best part was most of the girls knew about each other and were totally cool about it. That said, the workplace is a tricky place for hooking up, dating, and relationships. In most c…
/r/seduction04/11/14 12:09 AM
4

I never think about it because as far as im concerned, those guys dont exist. See, IME, women dont traditionally have the same "spread your seed and multiply" urges. Lets take a serious LTR with a HB9: im sure she would get hit on every time she left the house. But if her man is taking care of business (physically, mentally, emotionally, financially), its very unlikely she's going to step out of her happy comfort zone for something else. In the case of a FWB, there is no commitments, so I really…
/r/seduction03/11/14 03:23 AM
2

Tequila Kiss Shot - buy a shot. Have a girl use her neck for the salt lick, and the lime between her lips. LICK. SHOT. KISS.
/r/seduction02/11/14 11:41 PM
1

Networking is easy when you realize you're trying to build BUSINESS relationships. I dont care if you like me as a person. I'm trying to make a business connection that will benefit both parties and extrapolate on that. Its a matter of simply learning if they are in a position to help you professionally, or know someone who can. If so, we make a connection. Of not. Nice to meet you. Have a nice day. You just have to be able to ask the questions "who are you? What do you do?" And internally "can …
/r/seduction02/11/14 11:38 PM
25

From a similar thread: When I realized that women are not Unicorns or mythical creatures. They are people. People with the same crap, insecurities, issues, drama, and bullshit filling their lives as the rest of us. They just have tits and a vag. That is literally the only difference. And guess what, they want someone to love just as much as we want to love someone. Once you realize how relatable we all are, saying "Hi. How are you today?" sincerely is a piece of cake, and that sincerity, more of…
/r/seduction02/11/14 05:20 AM
1

You go in 90%, and let her come 10%
/r/seduction01/11/14 11:13 PM
1

Its never what you say but how you say it.
/r/seduction01/11/14 11:12 PM
-3

Assuming "I like your hair. DERP!" didn't ruin things for you... I'd go with something that's a complete 180 from your last approach: "So lets see if I can do this again with out making a fool out of myself. Hello, my name is (Indigo Montoya). Last time we spoke, I told you I like your hair. What I meant to say was that you are a very attractive young woman and I would like the find out if you're as lovely on the inside as you are on the outside. What's your name?"
/r/seduction01/11/14 06:44 PM
8

If you're in a public place, I have nearly a 100% success rate with "I'm going to the bathroom. I'll be right back." Followed by a kiss on thr cheek. This is testing the waters. If I go in for a kiss on the cheek and she recoils then I know I maybe moving to fast for her. (NOTE: Girls RARELY recoil from a cheek kiss from a guy they are into. This will almost always work.) Once thr cheek kiss is established, lips are a logical next step and super easy to get to. Just go for it after that. If you'…
/r/seduction01/11/14 06:38 PM
1

Just talk. Ask questions about them. Escalate.
/r/seduction01/11/14 06:33 PM
9

Why go backwards?
/r/seduction30/10/14 08:09 PM
0

"Do you want to talk about my past relationship with her, or the future of my relationship with you?"
/r/seduction30/10/14 01:14 AM
2

Flirting with someone is like a tennis match. If the other person isn't hitting back the ball, its a pretty boring game. Act accordingly.
/r/seduction29/10/14 07:11 AM
2

Practice on yourself in the mirror.
/r/seduction29/10/14 07:04 AM
2

One of the things I came to realize about avoiding flakes is the difference between asking someone out and asking someone to join you when you go out. Meaning, I wont ask a girl if I can take her out on Friday night; I'll tell a girl im going out friday night and ask if she'd like to join me.
/r/seduction24/10/14 09:26 PM
1

"Hey... it's Clair, right? I'm Brad. I work in the finance department. Ive seen you around a few times and wanted to introduce myself, but never had the opportunity until now. If you're free later, I was hoping we could grab a drink later..."
/r/seduction23/10/14 10:11 PM
4

Smile and wink
/r/seduction23/10/14 04:39 AM
17

When I realized that women are not Unicorns or mythical creatures. They are people. People with the same crap, insecurities, issues, drama, and bullshit filling their lives as the rest of us. They just have tits and a vag. That is literally the only difference. And guess what, they want someone to love just as much as we want to love someone. Once you realize how relatable we all are, saying "Hi. How are you today?" sincerely is a piece of cake, and that sincerity, more often than not, is what i…
/r/seduction23/10/14 04:35 AM
1

37M, literally thousands of approaches, #-closes, k-closes, f-closes: IME, it's less about the opener and more about what comes after. Ive opened with things from classic James Bond smoothness to some of the most outlandish shit you can imagine (I once approached a girl with "All I need is three hours, some baby oil, and a straw, and I promise you'll fall in love with me!" and f-closed). Thr success lies not in how you open, but in how you transition and escalate. "HI" can end in f-close. "I wou…
/r/seduction17/10/14 07:39 PM
0

Never under estimate the power in the phrase "I'm a little busy right now. Can I call you back?"
/r/seduction16/10/14 06:34 PM
1

If you're a good dancer, dance. If not, two step. Girls love to dance and love dancing with hot guys even more.
/r/seduction10/10/14 02:57 AM
1

When someone cant understand a concept, they dismiss it.
/r/seduction09/10/14 06:48 AM
4

Try "Hello. How are you?" And introduce yourself.
/r/seduction09/10/14 01:57 AM
1

Dont try to kiss her. Make her want to kiss you.
/r/seduction07/10/14 12:18 AM
2

If you're on a date and she pulls out her phone and starts checking Twitter, you need to consider if she deserves a second date. If you're talking about first time/initial interaction, try using the phone to become more interesting. I'd say something like "Which app would you say you use the most? Really? I pegged you for a instagram kinda girl. Let me ask you this: Do you think the advancements in social media make it easier or harder for people to find out who you really are as a person? So, i…
/r/seduction04/10/14 06:22 AM
0

"I keep telling your mom to stop buying me these, but you know she's on a budget..."
/r/seduction24/09/14 10:44 PM
3

Yeah... cuz no one likes a sexy Latin man. You ever hear of Antonio Banderas?
/r/seduction24/09/14 06:21 AM
-1

I once got a girls number in my sleep... so it could happen. However, I'd suggest something along the lines of "I dont have time to do this properly, but I promise to make it up to you during dinner. "
/r/seduction22/09/14 07:40 AM
1

Call
/r/seduction22/09/14 03:19 AM
4

Do you only have one friend you hang out with? What about one sibling or family member? Ever have more than one job? Or school and a part-time job? Time management is easy. Dating multiple women is easy if you think about it. Say I meet three girls in a week. I can meet girl A for lunch on Saturday, girl B for dinner the same night, and spend all day with girl C on Sunday and still have time for XBOX.
/r/seduction19/09/14 03:38 AM
12

Let me tell you a story: I once started working for a company that had a ton of beautiful women walking around. I was like a kid in a candy store. You know what the first thing i did was? Find a fairly unattractive girl (not fugly, but just below average) and makr her ny bestie. Took her out, talked on the phone to her, sent her flowers on her bday. But never got physical. Know what she did? Told anyone who would listen what an awesome, amazing, caring, fun, thoughtful guy I was. You can guess w…
/r/seduction18/09/14 06:39 AM
1

Give me the bullet points of your last first date.
/r/seduction16/09/14 03:49 AM
5

By being interested in them.
/r/seduction16/09/14 01:35 AM
3

Its hard to offer specifics because every interaction is different and every girl is different. I usually just try to do or say something overt or obvious and she what she does. In general, just talking about sex is enough to get the ball rolling in the right direction. Try this: "So... I was reading this article in the Times and it had this rediculous survey: the asked a hundred women if they had to give up either masturbation, intercourse, or oral sex, which would they choose? Now be for I tel…
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:22 AM
2

Well... let's see... Personally, I'm a very sexual person. I am very physical, flirty, and constantly make sexual innuendos. When I'm sexually interested in a woman, I make sure she knows it. I let her know through my actions and words "I want to pull your panties off with my teeth!" Then I see how she reacts and go from there.
/r/seduction11/09/14 05:04 AM
1

Flip a coin
/r/seduction10/09/14 09:21 PM
3

If she's off the 91 you can meet at the Long Beach town center (off 605fwy and 91), the Lakewood Center off Artesia exit and 91 (lots of dining, mall, and movie theater). If she's off the 405 day you can meet in Long Beach proper (3rd street and Pine), lots of bars, good dining at the pier (Parker Lighthouse is amazing). If she's off the 5, there's not much between here and there once you past the 101 heading south. But you have the Block at Orange and Downtown Disney in Anaheim... Cant offer an…
/r/seduction04/09/14 07:23 AM
1

raises hand Ive been guilty of this most of my adult life. Its habit and a major part of my personality. Hell, I even flirt with guys (I'm straight). Its just something I do. IME, the girls that call you on it are the ones that wish you would only flirt with them.
/r/seduction04/09/14 06:21 AM
3

Ask her for her input on the matter. If she's willing to drive to you, great. If not, meet her halfway. Where is she? Im on SoCal and could probably make a few suggestions for meeting spots.
/r/seduction04/09/14 06:18 AM
3

I think that talking to girls about how to get girls got me over the hump. It was like getting the other teams playbook. Not to mention that women have just as many insecurities as we do when it comes to meeting women (and men for that matter.) This made me realize that a girl is still a girl, no matter how hot she is. She still has insecurities and issues and drama and baggage and hang-ups. When I realized I was dealing with people just like me and not unicorns or mythical creatures, it changed…
/r/seduction04/09/14 06:01 AM
6

The day after I lost my virginity, I went on a shopping spree and got a new wardrobe. Between then and seventeen, I was in two or three ltr. My sister came out as a lesbian around then and started taking me to a lot of parties and clubs where I met a ton of bisexual girls who really opened my eyes to women and how to approach, talk to, seduce, and please sexually over the next couple years. By the time I hit twenty I was a full on man-whore! Between 20 and 27, getting a girl into bed wasnt even …
/r/seduction04/09/14 03:59 AM
2

Why not?
/r/seduction03/09/14 08:50 AM
2

Whats a girl like you do when she's all alone?
/r/seduction03/09/14 07:50 AM
1

The adult thing to do is be upfront about it and let her make her own decisions. The only other work around I know of that works well is to just remain aloof about it as long as possible. When you're with another girl and she calls, say you "have company". If she sees you out with another girl, invite her to join the two of you (you're not exclusive to either so why run and hide?) If she starts acting bitch about it, tell her "Look, I really enjoy spending time with you and dont want to lose you…
/r/seduction30/08/14 07:00 PM
8

Typically, I let the pattern of behavior in our relationship speak volumes about what our relationship actually is; i.e., if I take you out on dates, we are dating. If all we do is meet up and fuck, we're fuck buddies.
/r/seduction28/08/14 01:51 PM
9

"He who hesitates masturbates!"
/r/seduction18/08/14 07:15 PM
2

Get off the shelf. Find another girl to hang out with.
/r/seduction18/08/14 07:12 PM
37

Unfortunately, yes. Some people have racial connotations that prevent them from acknowledging attraction. As an afro-american, I have hit a wall with some women for no other reason than being black. There really isn't a work around with these individuals. On the flip side, I have had the opposite work in my favor as well. Everyone has a preference.
/r/seduction17/08/14 04:35 PM
1

STOP TEXTING AND MAKE A PHONE CALL!
/r/seduction05/08/14 04:17 AM
2

It's all going to hinge on whether or not they are bisexual or at least bi-curious. If neither of them have those tendencies, the likelihood of it happening is unlikely.
/r/seduction04/08/14 10:41 PM
1

I disagree completely. What OP is trying to say is that, unlike learning to play golf, being PUA is less about the "tricks" used to pick up women and more about just living thr best life you can and realizing the benifit of that is meeting women. Using your analogy, everything a gold pro can teach me is only good for the golf course. PUA isn't just about clubs and bars and day game at the park. Its life! Its every day. Its everything that happens a from the moment you wake up to the moment you f…
/r/seduction08/07/14 03:33 AM
1

One of my co-workers gives me shit for always going up to random women and sparking conversations and then... nothing. "Why don't you ever ask them for their number?" Because I don't need to. Sometimes, I just like having a chat with an attractive woman. Sometimes I just want to flirt. The goal of the approach should be being comfortable with the approach, IMO.
/r/seduction05/07/14 06:15 PM
0

"I decided to keep the awesome all to myself today, but I may share with you if you ask nicely."
/r/seduction05/07/14 06:07 PM
1

FB msg her and ask for either her international number or skype info. Try to make the conversation a little more intimate.
/r/seduction05/07/14 05:16 PM
3

Try to constantly answer the question "what color are their eyes?"
/r/seduction05/07/14 04:54 PM
4

When did you have in mind?
/r/seduction04/07/14 11:52 PM
2

Style is VERY important. Im not saying you have to subscribe to GQ magazine, but you have to find a style you're comfortable with and OWN it! And follow the most important rule: neat and clean!
/r/seduction04/07/14 08:17 PM
1

I agree to an extent. There is truth to the statement "the right man at the right time..." however, some women do have an over inflated sense of self. They want the GQ cover man but they themselves are little more than the Jet beauty of the week. Someone think they are the princess the highest room in the tallest tower and want to sit around waiting for prince charming, all the while they fail to realize they are the ugly stepsister. And no amount of stepping up on my part will change that.
/r/seduction03/07/14 10:34 PM
1

It would take me a week to explain why that question doesn't make sense.
/r/seduction28/06/14 08:29 PM
0

Thats not an accurate portrayal of size. My gf is over 200lbs but she's nearly 6ft tall. She's a little overweight, sure, but not obese.
/r/seduction28/06/14 02:58 AM
0

Dont. Setup for failure
/r/seduction26/06/14 10:33 AM
2

The rule exists to keep men from pandering or trying to cater to a target. Very few men know how to purchase a drink for a lady and not have it come across as a weak approach. Especially when there are a half dozen other men in the bar willing to do the same thing. But I do believe there's a time and a place and a way to do it without the "Quid pro quo" approach. Personally, I dont like to buy drinks, bit when I do, its usually with the attitude of "I'm not drinking alone, so if you're going to …
/r/seduction25/06/14 08:42 PM
2

I hate arguing. Im all for a spirited debate and a rational exchange of ideas, but I'm not going to argue with you. When it comes to women, its my experience that you should understand their POV and if you disagree, dont devalue their feelings on the matter.
/r/seduction23/06/14 07:22 PM
1

Look, I get that texting is here to stay, and im not saying it doesn't have its place, but please believe me when I tell you phone call is so much more effective than sending a text, especially when it comes to initial connection, building attraction, and escalation. Maybe its generational, but there's so much more I can do with my voice than I can with a text. I honestly believe that if you want to really get someone emotionally or mentally invested, take the time to make a phone call. Its so m…
/r/seduction23/06/14 01:57 AM
2

"I met a girl on line and she gave me her phone number, but its weird if I call her." This is the dumbest thing I've heard in my life. Maybe its a generational thing but texting should never trump a phone call. If a woman gives you her phone number, she's giving you permission to CALL HER! So call, talk, ask her out. I guarantee your success rate will increase.
/r/seduction23/06/14 01:51 AM
2

OIC. Okay, go and just have fun. Flirt with both girls and see which is more receptive. But again, dont have high expectations. Just keep it light and try to build strong connections with both girls for future use.
/r/seduction22/06/14 07:59 PM
2

So, let me get this straight... you asked out the friend of the girl you have a crush on. She declined and invited you yo coffee where your actual crush will be attending, and you're hoping to be able to flirt with your crush while there an maybe escape the friend zone?
/r/seduction22/06/14 07:46 PM
2

Now, I am preeeeeeetty much sure that this girl has friend-zoned me, but there is still a small chance. Yeah... there almost no chance. I think you should go out with them, but I think you should just go and have a good time and not worry about hitting on your crush. I think that ship has sailed (again, if she felt the same way, she would have agreed to go out with just you.) Have fun and dont stress.
/r/seduction22/06/14 07:35 PM
3

Your problem is you're not calling. A woman doesn't give you her number so she can type on a screen. She wants to TALK to you. Consider this: you meey electronically. You get the means to reach out physically (I.e. verbally) yet you continue electronically. Whats the point of getting the number if you're going to dont the same thing you did on tinder? Call. Talk. Make plans to meet. Its called progression.
/r/seduction22/06/14 07:27 PM
2

Listen... I feel your pain. I really do. But you're trying to change how she feels about you in a environment that's not going to be conducive. If she shared the same feelings, you'd be going out alone with her. But she invited you to hang out with her and her friends. If I called her and asked her what she was doing, I can all but guarantee her answer would be "hanging out with friends." Not "hanging out with friends and this guy I like." She has already put you in the same basket as her girlfr…
/r/seduction22/06/14 07:12 PM
3

That changes things a bit as its not really "going out" anymore and the other girls may not be open to you hitting on them. In this case, I'd pass and move on to a new love interest. If she passed on hanging with you in lue of hanging with her friends and asked you to come along, you're already on the highway to the friend zone. She's not interested in you romantically it would seem, so dont waste time trying to turn the tide. On the other hand, there's nothing wrong with just hanging out with a…
/r/seduction22/06/14 06:58 PM
2

Beautiful women are everywhere and when you're dressed to impress your date, other women will notice. Not a coincidence.
/r/seduction22/06/14 06:49 PM
6

Go and flirt with her other friends. Dont try to hookup with any of them, but try to get them as into you as possible. This works on two fronts: 1) nothing makes a girl want you like knowing all her friends think your hot. And 2) even if girl A does try to friend zone you, you just picked up three new options. Have fun no matter what, and if all else fails, you have for potential wingwomen.
/r/seduction22/06/14 06:46 PM
-1

Look shocked and say "Wow. That's the best ventriloquist act I've ever seen. Her lips didn't move at all! "
/r/seduction21/06/14 03:17 AM
8

The attendance of others should never be a requirement for your enjoyment.
/r/seduction20/06/14 09:02 PM
2

Three strike rule.
/r/seduction20/06/14 09:10 AM
1

When she mentions being free, make something concrete right then. If she says "no plans. Just hanging out around the house." You should come back with "yeah that sounds a lot more fun than the live band I was going to check out. I was going to ask if you'd like to accompany me, but your thing sounds much batter."
/r/seduction20/06/14 02:34 AM
1

Wink and smile. Works wonders.
/r/seduction20/06/14 02:31 AM
3

Find common ground among your peers. Things that aren't work related. Im sure there's a handful of people there who enjoy similar interest. As for the age, I think you're looking at it backwards: You're the youngest person in the room working on the same level of things they are, and you think THEY are smarter. That's like being a 12yo in a collage classroom. You must be awesome at your job to have made it this far this fast. Chances are, they are intimidated by the genius who thinks he's to goo…
/r/seduction19/06/14 10:29 PM
0

You gain confidence by actively working on those other things.
/r/seduction19/06/14 09:09 AM
2

Holding a girls attention is usually a matter of finding something she's passionate about and discussing it. A few things to remember: People love talking about themselves. Ask her open-ended questions about herself/experiences. Ask her about an article of clothing or her hair or makeup: something she can takr pride in and discuss. Slow your pattern of speech. This forces people to pay closer attention. And remember the most important thing: the person asking the questions controls the conversat…
/r/seduction19/06/14 05:52 AM
2

Your problem is that your prequalifing these women (and in doing so disqualifying yourself) mentally. Instead of rating them on an antiquated 1-10 scale, try to simplify it to just "Do I find her attractive? Yes or No?" If the answer is yes, approach. Because the only difference between that 6 you CAN talk to and the 10 you CANT is in your head.
/r/seduction18/06/14 11:08 PM
3

As far as seduction goes; a bad boy is a guy who refuses to cater to her wants and desires and makes her rise up to the challenge he offers. Most men try to please her and put her on a pedestal. A bad boy is like "either love me or dont. Whatever. Im going to take a ride on my hog."
/r/seduction18/06/14 10:51 PM
1

I use it when the target does something silly or stupid, and I say things like "Wow. You are really pretty" (in a patronizing tone), or "See... that's why we cant go out anymore!". Negging or teasing on should be done playfully and sparsely, and as a why to show her that she shouldn't take the interaction too seriously; to have fun and lighten up.
/r/seduction11/06/14 10:49 PM
2

Just saying "I'm not looking for anything serious." Usually gets the job done.
/r/seduction26/05/14 06:28 PM
1

Are you looking to make a FWB situation or just trying to get it in? Either way, ask her out and escalate physically. She'll get the hint eventually. On a side note, I think you are using the term "F-close" wrong. Its always been my understanding that (anything)-close related to the initial interaction/meeting. You meet a girl and get her number = #-close; get a kiss = K- close; get some secks on the initial meeting = F-close. Someone please tell me of I'm wrong.
/r/seduction16/05/14 03:51 AM
2

No details of what to actually do. Is leaving the house going to make you meet women on its own? No. More specific instructions are needed. MEETING WOMEN IS NOT SCIENCE!!! It's super easy. First, stop thinking of it as MEETING WOMEN!!! and start thinking in terms of just meeting new people. And guess what?? The first step to meeting new people is leaving thr fucking house! You go somewhere. You see someone who looks interesting. You introduce yourself. Its that fucking simple. Your not hunting u…
/r/seduction09/05/14 05:22 AM
2

Listen, I see/meet attractive women every time I leave the house. Literally. If I'm in a new city, all I need to do to meet women is go out and explore the city. Women are literally everywhere! Its not rocket surgery. And btw, if your gonna insult everyone on this thread because what's common sense to us seems to elude you, why not offer your own advice. Otherwise... trolls gonna troll.
/r/seduction08/05/14 07:11 PM
0

Meeting women is really easy. You just have to leave the house first.
/r/seduction08/05/14 05:19 PM
13

Three strike rule. I'll try three times to initiate contact. After strike three, next batter.
/r/seduction20/04/14 06:34 PM
1

When does she leave exactly?
/r/seduction17/12/13 02:42 AM
2

Here's my personal road map to success: Hold hands > Kiss the back of her hand > arms around waist/shoulders > Kiss on cheek/forehead > Kiss on lips > Deep kissing > Full blown make-out > light teasing > heavy petting > Foreplay > Sexy times
/r/seduction12/12/13 08:56 PM
1

she was tired of being defined by me Wuh?
/r/seduction12/12/13 08:26 PM
35

IMO, nothing makes a girl dig you like showing her how amazing you are with another girl. Move on and really invest in someone else. Its a win/win because if girl A doesn't come around and start being into you, you still have a great gal right in front of you.
/r/seduction06/12/13 06:54 PM
7

I will initiate three attempts at contact. If I don't get a response; Three strikes! YOU'RE OUT! Next batter! If I make plans and you cancel, it's now on her to make plans with me, or at the very least offer "Hey, I'm sorry I cancelled on you Saturday, but I'm free tomorrow night if you still want to get together,"
/r/seduction14/11/13 06:21 PM
5

"Plant the seed. Fuck the plant!"
/r/seduction06/11/13 05:32 PM
5

Here's my story... First, I flirt with them and turn almost everything into a sexual innuendo. I let it build for awhile, and then one day I hit them with the question: "Seriously... you'd fuck the shit out of me, wouldn't you?" If she says "Yes" (as is often the case), then it's simply a matter of logistics from there. Arrange a time/date to go out for drinks and make it happen.
/r/seduction06/11/13 12:55 PM
0

personally I don't think social media should ever be a seduction tool. as far as your question about how to maintain interest while remaining mysterious, its the same rule as in writing a novel : "Show, don't tell." you're not mysterious when you hide stuff about yourself , you're mysterious and interesting when you let her tmdiscover positive things about you through experience . don't tell her you can cook, cook for her. don't tell her about the time you shook hands with the president, let her…
/r/seduction05/11/13 08:54 PM
1

CALL HER! Say "I really enjoyed talking to you the other night and I wanted to hear your voice again. I know we talked about meeting up at the tailgate, but in case we don't, I'm going to (make plans to do something) and thought you might enjoy it as well. What time should I pick you up?"
/r/seduction31/10/13 07:13 PM
4

It's a complete and total waste of time. 5-15 years waiting for one girl to realize who awesome you are means turning your back on possibly thousands who would have seen it right off the bat. That's like turning down your dream job while you wait to hit the lottery.
/r/seduction15/10/13 09:13 PM
1

Then sit back and let someone else run the show, or like I said, find a better class of friends.
/r/seduction13/10/13 05:59 AM
2

Again, you are focusing on the wrong part of the equation. If you feel like the people you hang out with are looking up to you and yearning your approval or whatever, you need a better class of friends. Its because they arent alpha. The dont have your confidence and selfassuredness. They ask what you want to do, and what do you think. Sometimes, thats a by-product of being alpha, but its not the goal. Being alpha is about taking control of your life, of your circumstances and situation, and not …
/r/seduction13/10/13 05:45 AM
2

You're doing it wrong. Being alpha isnt about trying to be better or more dominant than others. Its about being the best and most dominant version of yourself.
/r/seduction13/10/13 05:32 AM
2

For gyms, I like to take the long approach. When you see her initially, approach her, introduce yourself, ask her name, and offer a compliment or words of encouragement. Then tell her to have a great workout and then go do your thing. If you see her more before you/she leaves, smile, give a head nod, say "Hey again." or ask if she's stalking you, or something witty. The idea is to let her, and yourself focus on your workout. Now, the next time you see her it'll be less awkward and less intrusive…
/r/seduction01/10/13 05:07 PM
1

It's a matter of escalation. Kiss her, then relax and continue talking to and getting to know her. Then kiss her again. Then give her some space and let her some to you. Each kiss should be a little longer ad more intense than the last. Before long, you're making out.
/r/seduction30/09/13 12:07 AM
12

First, leaning in for a kiss and pulling away before a kiss with a sly smile... is STUPID AS HELL. If you lean in for a kiss, and she is willing to kiss you, KISS HER! Second, and I can't stress this enough, her willingness to have sex with you right away has less to do with what you do and more to do with what you don't do. If she's willing to have sex with you immediately, its because she's already resigned herself to the possibility, not because you did some secret trick or pressed some magic…
/r/seduction29/09/13 10:11 PM
2

I just wanted to see if this was "about a girl" or a blanket thing. There's a difference between "I like this girl..." and "I want to meet women..."
/r/seduction26/09/13 02:18 PM
1

Any prospects lined up?
/r/seduction26/09/13 05:01 AM
20

First and foremost, conversate is not a word! It's CONVERSE. (sorry... personal pet peeve) Anyway, as to your question: In my personal experience, this should be more of a joint venture than a solo act. I'm assuming you and your gf are looking for girls to hook-up with together, so why should she be the one doing the legwork alone. I had a roommate. He and his gf would bring girls home all the time, and 90% of the time, he was the one doing the PUA stuff. All she did was sit back and make sure t…
/r/seduction24/09/13 07:00 PM
1

"Whatever you did to get them is what you have to do to keep them!"
/r/seduction16/09/13 03:22 PM
1

Ask "what are you listening to?"
/r/seduction09/09/13 04:22 PM
1

Step 1: Ask her a ton of questions about herself. Step 2: Tell her something interesting about you. Step 3: When she asks you to elaborate on that something interesting, repeat Step 1.
/r/seduction27/08/13 06:21 PM
1

As someone who's also very opinionated, I have to constantly tell myself "My opinion only really matters to me!" and learn to STFU from time to time, especially when dealing with someone I just met. When someone shares an opinion or belief you feel strongly against, just smile, nod, and say "That's an interesting view." And if they ask you how you feel about the same subject, redirect with "First, tell me what you like about XYZ..." Oh, and learn some jokes.
/r/seduction27/08/13 06:17 PM
1

How do you suggest they verify?
/r/seduction27/08/13 06:12 PM
4

Confused
/r/seduction31/07/13 04:38 PM
1

Reinvent your workplace persona
/r/seduction16/05/13 07:04 PM
17

Depends on what she's doing while you hold it.
/r/seduction14/05/13 06:42 AM
12

"Your perception determines your reality."
/r/seduction14/05/13 04:48 AM
2

It's pretty simple really: Is she single? Is she receptive? What does she enjoy doing in her spare time? Etc. Just general things about her.
/r/seduction13/05/13 05:32 AM
2

Research. When you are going after one woman, than you need to find out what that one woman wants/needs/is attracted to. There's a checklist of things you need to go down, and then proceed accordingly.
/r/seduction13/05/13 05:19 AM
1

"If I win, I get to kiss you. If you win, you get to let me." :-)
/r/seduction11/04/13 04:25 AM
7

I am just wondering as an average girl, what are my chances going up against the hotties and how can I make myself more appealing than them. This is a poor mindset. Instead of trying to compete with "the hotties", try to focus on just marketing yourself in a manner your comfortable and happy with, and attracting a quality guy. You can try to doll yourself up and be something/someone your not, and get all the attention from every guy in the room, or just be you at your best and get attention from…
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:51 PM
7

Asking someone to help you decide how to present yourself without telling showing us what you look like is like asking someone what you should make for dinner without us knowing what you have in your fridge. That said, and as a man who is extremely visually stimulated: Clothing that accents your shape/curves is more appealing than clothing that shows a lot of skin. THIS is a very attractive look and doesn't show a lot of skin. THIS is doing too much. Just remember; what you advertise is what the…
/r/seduction18/02/13 06:26 PM
13

Really depends on the reason. If it's something like "I work Saturday night." then I offer an alternative. If it's "I'm seeing someone" or "I'm in a committed relationship" then I leave it be. I never try to convince a woman to screw around on her man. If she's just not into me, I could either waste time trying to convince her how awesome I am, or move on to someone who already sees it. Guess which one I'm going to go with. :-)
/r/seduction04/02/13 11:09 PM
3

what specific pieces of advice/strategy do you think you need the most help with? the most important thing to understand about Day Game is the fact that by nature, you'll be going against the grain. When someone is out at a night club, bar, social event, etc., it's typically after they have gone through lengths to look their best in the hopes of garnering attention and attraction. That attention is expected and appreciated, regardless of the results. With Day Game, that is not the case. 9/10 you…
/r/seduction19/01/13 06:12 PM
1

A sarcastic wit/tone is my key. Someone recently said that I have a sense of humor that you'd find offensive if you didn't have a sense of humor, but even still, you wouldn't say anything for fear of looking like you don't have a sense of humor. I tease, I joke, I neg, and I do it all with a nearly serious face, but then I smile. It's like creating an instant inside joke. And it almost always works. If a girl is overly sensitive and gets offended, I don't back pedal, I keep teasing her until she…
/r/seduction15/01/13 09:00 PM
1

It's not what you say, it's how you say it. I NEG women all the time, and they still come after me. It's all in the delivery.
/r/seduction15/01/13 07:16 PM
2

As a (fairly) attractive guy, seduction works very much the same, with a few exceptions: 1) Less Approach Anxiety - I'm hot, so I go in knowing my chances are better than average. If I get shot down, it's usually not a ego crushing case of "I don't find you attractive.", rather it's "I think you're very attractive, but I'm committed to someone else right now..." Knowing your not going to get your ego smashed makes the first steps a lot easier. 2) Being attractive is a +5 to all other attributes.…
/r/seduction15/01/13 06:56 PM
16

First and foremost: Avoid social media as a means of escalation and seduction. Look, I get that social media is here to stay, and that for the younger generation, it's a staple of social interaction, but really, it's more of a social crutch. How do you think people met and hook'd-up in the over 2000 years BEFORE social media came along. They actually met OUTSIDE the house, away from the office and computers, and spent time together; and know what?; shit worked or else none of us would be here ri…
/r/seduction08/01/13 05:43 PM
2

It's possible; using dating sites and emails to meet and connect, then just exist in a world with just the two of you after the connection is made.
/r/seduction08/01/13 02:52 PM
1

Words hurt. I get that, but the question is "Would you rather suffer the pain of failure, or the wonderment of "what if?"" I've been shot down more times that I can remember, but it's not the failed attempts I remember, it's the awesome encounters with the ones that said "yes".
/r/seduction02/01/13 07:05 PM
2

link?
/r/seduction02/01/13 06:33 PM
1

Why would someone call the cops on you for asking them out. What are you saying? "Hey. I think you're attractive and I like to get to know you better. Would you like to go out with me friday night?" OR "You go a purdy mouth!"
/r/seduction02/01/13 06:29 PM
1

Realize that the worst thing that can happen is she says "No." That's it. No explosion. No drink to the face. No slap. No girlfriends standing around pointing and laughing. Just "No." and even more likely: "No, thank you." The best thing that can happen? She says "YES"!
/r/seduction02/01/13 04:52 PM
3

OP: "I need help. What should I change/fix?" US: "What's wrong?" OP: "Everything!" US: ಠ_ಠ
/r/seduction17/12/12 10:13 PM
7

said in your most seductive tone: "Young lady, I must warn you; I am very susceptible to flattery."
/r/seduction17/12/12 07:48 PM
3

My brain.
/r/seduction14/12/12 12:02 PM
1

Either A) You're not very attractive/have bad hygiene, B) You can't dance, or C) You're trying to grind them with a chubby. Basically, whatever you are doing is turning them off and sending them running. And for the record, regardless of how hot you think you are, no woman wants to dance with a guy she just meet who keeps trying to grind his erect penis into her hips/ass/pelvis. Keep a little space between you and just dance. Then offer to buy her a drink and chat her up until her next favorite …
/r/seduction13/12/12 10:01 PM
4

"My mother left me on the steps of the local orphanage when I was only a week old. It was tough there; all the other kids would tease me and throw rocks. I can honestly say that if not for Sister Mary Margaret, and the kindness she showed me, I would not be the man I am today. I struck out on my own at fifteen. Young, I know, but there was a big world out there, and I wanted to see it. Running away with the circus is harder than it sounds, and to this day, I can't see an elephant without sheddin…
/r/seduction13/12/12 08:43 PM
3

I hear a lot about how pick-up is a "Numbers Game", and that you basically will end up hooking up with somewhere around 10-20% of the women you approach and #close with. Would you agree?
/r/seduction12/12/12 03:46 AM
3

As someone who has gone from "hair that makes girls jealous" to an extreme case of MPB, and all the insecurities that come with it; first embrace the fact there is absolutely nothing you can do about losing your hair. Once you come to grips with that, find a look that best works with what you have left. Personally, I was never a fan of the "half moon" look, so I said fuck it and shaved my head bald. Now, I actually use my head as part of my game. I tell girls to touch it to see how soft and smoo…
/r/seduction12/12/12 03:43 AM
2

You can't go wrong with meeting at a coffee house and having a nice conversation. On average, you wont spend more than $12, you can sit and talk for hours, and depending on her mindset/dress/and schedule, you can segway straight into the "Insta-second date"
/r/seduction29/11/12 11:28 PM
6

You're focusing on the wrong side of the story: Instead of trying to decode what they might be into, try to find ways to introduce them to things they'll enjoy. It doesn't matter if she'd been blindfolded and tied to a bed and forced to cum twenty times; she'll love it once you do it.
/r/seduction19/11/12 06:38 PM
3

Case Study #1: Before we met, my current SO new very little about gaming, Grey's Anatomy, and absolutely nothing about Reddit. Now, we browse Reddit together almost daily, Thursday nights are reserved for new episodes of Grey's, and she loves playing Resident Evil 6 with me (although watching her control the camera and character simultaneously is like watching a monkey fuck a football). For her part, she's very into her oldest daughters softball playing. I've never bee a huge fan, but now I enjo…
/r/seduction19/11/12 04:42 PM
3

Okay, lets look at this scientifically: You're looking for concrete numbers on a social dynamic with far too many variables to be accurately quantified. Science and logic have little place in matters of the heart and relationships. In addition, trying to find a mathematical or even theoretical equation to assist in mapping a social dynamic or generating a successful seduction algorithm where the parameters change from person to person is nearly impossible. I think if we could create a lab experi…
/r/seduction19/11/12 04:30 PM
3

YMMV, but the answers are pretty clear. The first thing you need to understand is that having a passionate hobby isn't about being more attractive, it's about finding something you love to do and doing it. Does it make you more attractive? Yes, but again, its subjective. Your intense burning love for minecraft art isn't going to be hot to everyone. But having something you love to do that may or may not include the other person is always a plus. Simply because it gives you depth. It says "I have…
/r/seduction19/11/12 04:10 PM
2

My question is if it improves your game significantly, not if it just improves your game at all. Depends entirely on what that passion is centered around and how it is exuded. If its for art/literature, and you have a silver tongue, and can recite Shakespeare in a manner that gets her panties wet, then its going to be dramatic. If it's for muscle cars and she doesn't know the difference between a piston and a disc brake, it's not going to help you much. Also, another factor is how closely your p…
/r/seduction19/11/12 04:01 PM
1

I'm asking specifically those guys who have boring jobs (accounting, sales, boring office jobs, etc.) but have turned the question "What do you do?" around by telling them about their passion in life versus what makes them money. This basically answers your own question: it gives you something to be passionate about in your life. People find this attractive: Anytime someone has something they can discuss, with passion and conviction, that's socially acceptable and/or agreeable, it's going to com…
/r/seduction19/11/12 03:34 PM
2

Girls do this shit all the time to me, always talking about other guys, either to show dis-interest or to DHV. I don't really know why they do it. And you think doing something you obviously don't like being done to you back to them is going to get you better results? Let me know how that works out for you.
/r/seduction19/11/12 03:30 PM
2

Do it until it doesn't cause you anxiety. That's truly the only way to get over AA.
/r/seduction19/11/12 06:37 AM
13

Tell me about your approach (locations, situations, style, verbiage), what kind of girls are you approaching? How old are you? and pic?
/r/seduction18/11/12 06:16 PM
5

Read ITSAMATTEROFATTITUDE's post "Some men smell like White picket fences, and some men smell like Sex and Sin.", as well as "Sex Now, Emotions Later."; it covers this topic extremely well and offers a lot of great insight.
/r/seduction17/11/12 10:51 PM
17

First: No one turns down a high five! EVER! Second: (when teasing) stoke her head and say "You are so pretty". I do this whenever a girl does something stupid or embarrassing. Third: Also when teasing - massage her shoulder or rub/pat her back. And shake your head in disapproval. You don't have to say anything. Finally (Master level): When I say something flirty, and she responds with something equally flirty or challenging, I reach over (if I'm close enough) and caress her cheek and say "Awww..…
/r/seduction17/11/12 10:47 PM
1

I'm naturally funny; not stand up comedian level, but I can pull of a few sarcastic quips or teases, or even observations. I do this constantly dealing with customers in the bar/restaurant industry, and women tend to respond well, but being physically attractive and/or attractive in other ways is crucial. A funny Ogre is still an ogre. You have to have something about you women find physically appealing.
/r/seduction17/11/12 05:02 PM
2

Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. That's about as boiled as it gets.
/r/seduction15/11/12 06:58 AM
1

I'm sorry. What is it exactly you want to know/say?
/r/seduction15/11/12 06:54 AM
0

"This bar near my place is having $3 draft night tomorrow night. First rounds on me if you wanna come by. I'm heading out of town this weekend, so I wont be able to romance the panties off you. No... don't cry. What's your schedule like next week?
/r/seduction15/11/12 05:03 AM
5

Eye contact: I either go from one eye to the other and back, or look at the spot between the eyes and lose focus, and listen to what they are saying, instead of focusing on what I'm seeing. Works wonders. Looking away first isn't really a big deal, but look back as soon as you can. This maintains the impression on interest, and allows your eyes to rest and refocus. Looking away doesn't mean your weak, it means your eyes are tired. Conversations: It's been my experience that no conversation is un…
/r/seduction12/11/12 10:35 PM
6

Okay, here comes some real advice: First, learn how to make and hold eye contact without speaking. Just being able to look someone in the eyes boost your confidence level about five notches. Second, take a second before you speak. This will help alleviate a lot of the stammering and stuttering. Most people stutter or stammer because they are so excited by the moment (good or bad) that their minds start racing a mile a minute and they can't figure out what they want to say. By taking a moment, yo…
/r/seduction12/11/12 08:48 PM
-1

Ever see "Shop Girl"?
/r/seduction12/11/12 06:26 AM
1

Remember this question: "Do you think maturity is a matter of age or experience?" This question helped me get into a bunch of relationships with older women.
/r/seduction10/11/12 06:45 AM
2

I'm 35, and tripled his numbers, and I don't have time to sit and figure out percentages like this fellow. Not knocking his accomplishments, but don't see the point in tallying points/percentages. It's not a game so why keep score.
/r/seduction07/11/12 03:40 PM
5

You have much free time.
/r/seduction07/11/12 03:29 PM
4

Baby-steps. I don't go from dancing in the club to trying to get her into bed at my place. There's a dozen different stages and checkpoints between point A and Point B. Touching, teasing, playing, enticing, and teasing some more. By the time I'm ready for the close, we both know whats about to go down and no ones backing away.
/r/seduction07/11/12 03:20 PM
5

They're more logical than men, particularly where relationships are concerned. Using logic on a dynamic that's based 100% on emotion proves that women, in fact, are NOT more logical than men.
/r/seduction05/11/12 03:45 PM
10

Then you're screwed.
/r/seduction05/11/12 04:11 AM
5

Find out which ones she wants to watch and watch them with the volume off and the lights on. This will allow you to catch all the STABS (scary parts) without the ZINGS (high-pitched sounds that accompany the stabs, which are what actually make you jump). Then, when you watch it with her, it wont be so bad.
/r/seduction05/11/12 04:05 AM
6

"What time do you get off?"
/r/seduction05/11/12 03:35 AM
5

make small talk "So... what did you do today?" How old was this girl??
/r/seduction17/10/12 05:27 AM
2

There was a tread on here recently about how you cannot seduce a woman via text and there was a pretty intense back and forth about how the younger generation (i.e. 25 and under) prefer talking with their thumbs rather than their voice, but as an avid old schooler, I maintain that the initial contact should be made with your voice and text should be relegated to brief exchanges and info sharing (like times and places for dates/rendezvous), I'm 35 though, and I rarely date women under 27. YMMV
/r/seduction15/10/12 03:32 PM
2

I can't remember the last tine I asked a woman for her number. I wait until they offer freely. It's like letting the fish swim up to the boat and saying "Okay... you can stick the hook in my mouth now."
/r/seduction11/10/12 02:59 AM
1

Did you read that post "Sex now. Emotions Later."? Sums it up pretty well.
/r/seduction11/10/12 02:28 AM
1

No, but I have contributed to r/seduction under this and other accounts, the majority of which have had great success. I would tell you the others, but in all honesty, I don't want people cross feeding and getting mis-information. This is my main account and for the most part, I use it for shits and giggles, but the others I try to give as sincere information and advice as possible. If it helps any, I'm the original poster of the "1st date cheat code for men" that received the second highest upv…
/r/seduction08/10/12 10:38 PM
1

Personally, I've all but mastered PUA and while the game is always evolving, I don't really feel there's anything more I need to see/learn. I look at myself in more of a mentor role now; the advice you offered is great for people just getting started, and I commend you for it, but it's all day one basics. I think the most important thing you can hammer into a newbs head is to get out there and try. You can't talk your self out of performance or approach anxiety, you have to do it. Yes, you will …
/r/seduction08/10/12 10:32 PM
2

"Getting to know her"?
/r/seduction08/10/12 10:25 PM
2

Nothing new there, buddy, but thinks for the reminder(s).
/r/seduction08/10/12 07:31 PM
1

That's 18yo's for you. Listen, I'm not saying you did anything wrong. Like I said, I don't know details; I would however suggest deleting this girls number and finding someone new to play with.
/r/seduction03/10/12 08:58 PM
1

Honestly, without knowing intimate details of your relationship and involvement with these girls, I can't say exactly what the problem is, but here are a few things to consider: No woman ever ran away from GREAT sex. If you're trying to please a woman and she's not reciprocating, she could just be a selfish lover, or she could just be trying to pacify you. Like I said before, making a woman want to have sex with you is different than making a woman agree to have sex with you. Women who WANT the …
/r/seduction03/10/12 08:44 PM
1

How old is she/you?
/r/seduction03/10/12 08:38 PM
2

The problem you seem to be having is you're tying to have sex with these girls instead of making them WANT to have sex with you. but I was wondering if I can logically help them change their minds. This is just plain bad. You can't LOGIC your way into a woman's panties! She has to feel it. She has to want it. She has to need and desire it! She's not going to think it! You're asking these women to give you some pussy. Instead, figure out a way to convince them that you're giving them some dick.
/r/seduction03/10/12 08:32 PM
3

Co-workers: This is a touchy one because it has so many potential pitfalls, many of which you mentioned (forced interaction with someone you're no longer friends with, but have intimate knowledge off, crazy stalkers, HR becoming a potential problem, etc.) That said, I once worked in a cube farm: two floors and over 300 employees, 85% of which were female. I was a kid in a candy story with my parents credit card! I dated so many women there, I got a reputation of being a ladies man. This was both…
/r/seduction01/10/12 08:48 PM
2

So much fail....
/r/seduction01/10/12 08:27 PM
3

First, it's not a K-close if it's an actual date. Second, why did it take you 3 dates to kiss her? Finally, if you want to communicate with her, do so. Just make sure you have something to communicate about before you do. Avoid the "miss you", "thinking about you", "WYD?" texts, and try for "If you could only wear one outfit in your closet for the rest of your life, what would it be?" or something that sparks an actual conversation.
/r/seduction30/09/12 07:01 AM
1

Asking him to your room is to suggestive, unless you're offering sex. I'd offer a cell (you can still text I assume), facebook, or IM info. And put the ball in his court. I'm sure there are local haunts you can meet up at (starbucks, the uni cafe, etc.) and sit an talk, and get to know each other. The bottomline is that the approach is the easy part. Just ask or offer a date and the rest is downhill.
/r/seduction30/09/12 06:42 AM
7

If you know he's single, just invite him out or offer him your number. If he's interested, he'll call. If not, life goes on.
/r/seduction30/09/12 06:32 AM
6

Start off with drinks and convo. That's where the escalation should take place. Touching on the dancefloor is one thing. Touching when sitting/standing at the bar is another. When you're dancing, and start to get tired/thirsty, grab her hand and lead her to the bar. Order something and grab her hips. Tell her something like "Who would have ever guessed that shy girl from high school had hips that could move like that." And if she doesn't pull away, that's your all clear to take it a step further…
/r/seduction21/09/12 06:06 PM
9

Articulate Can take a tease Likes/uses sarcasm Flirts back Understands obscure pop-culture reference. Good sense of humor
/r/seduction16/09/12 04:58 PM
1

i need clever ways or things to say that would naturally lead to the asking/giving of numbers and finding out if she's single. No. You don't. "So, the last time I came by here, I felt we had a pretty good report going and I want to take you out this weekend and get to know you better. Why don't you write down your contact info and I'll give you a call later."
/r/seduction12/09/12 09:00 PM
4

Don't dip your pen in company ink.
/r/seduction12/09/12 08:57 PM
26

If what you're doing is recognizable as a routine or technique, you're doing it wrong.
/r/seduction12/09/12 02:38 AM
8

It takes a few at bats, including a few strike outs, before you batting average goes up at all. Just get in there and let things happen. Bad sex is sometimes better than great masturbation.
/r/seduction11/09/12 11:53 PM
3

Okay, while its pretty impossible for me to say what someone else is thinking, I have a few theories as to what's going on. The first, when it comes to the men, is that they might not know how to approach you or talk to you. Specifially, and having working in the service/restaurant industry myself, if you're a new hire and I'm an old dog, and I come in one day and hear that Tina said, that Kim said, that Kelly said that you were a snobbish bitch who thinks she's all that, than it would make (les…
/r/seduction10/09/12 06:33 PM
2

Okay, just a few more questions: What do you do for a living. Are you in a position of authority? Are the men (and women) being negative to you above you, equals, or subordinates? Have you worked their long, specifically, when your were bigger. How did you lose the weight? Was it diet and exercise only, or was there surgery involved? Have you had any inter-office romances or affairs that people are aware of? What is your ethnicity? And finally, now that your smaller, what would you say is your m…
/r/seduction10/09/12 06:02 PM
1

Now you CALL her after your appointment and invite her out.
/r/seduction10/09/12 05:41 PM
2

How many times has this happened to you as an adult and since you've lost weight. Is it usually only 1 guy, or is it more than one person behaving this way towards you? What is your relationship like with the women you work with? How would you describe yourself as far as style and demeanor? Are you classy? Do you dress provocatively for the office? What does your voice sound like? High pitched, soft spoken, etc. How old are the men who are behaving this way towards you? Have you ever asked them …
/r/seduction10/09/12 05:38 PM
1

Prince - 5'5", Kat Williams, 5'5", Sly Stallone 5'9", JCVD 5'9",
/r/seduction10/09/12 02:38 AM
1

Did you just call me a dog?
/r/seduction07/09/12 04:08 AM
1

See... always literal... that was a test... and baby... you did not pass. :-p. But I still love you!
/r/seduction07/09/12 02:26 AM
1

How could you possible expect me to give literal advice on a completely ambiguous situation? If my bestfriend in the world asked me this question about a girl I've known for five years, I could tell him EXACTLY what to say and do to make things better, but a complete stranger asking me advice about a woman I don't know anything about, and you want me to be literal... I'm starting to understand that "easily and constantly freaked out" part... :-)
/r/seduction07/09/12 02:16 AM
1

Well I'm quite sure OP wasn't going to call her on the phone and read my initial response verbatim. The point was to just go back to being her friend and shifting the focus away from the sexual/physical stuff. May I ask: are you always this literal?
/r/seduction07/09/12 02:05 AM
1

It's not bad advice, just like your advice isn't bad either. Neither one of us knows OP and this girl IRL, so it's impossible to say what will and wont work for him/her/them. You are giving advice based on what works for you. I'm giving advice based on what works for me. I've been there and when she started acting weird about things, I just eased back and jumped right into friend mode, and put the sexystuff on the back burner. I didn't tip-toe around her or "wait until she came to me". I called …
/r/seduction07/09/12 02:00 AM
1

As someone who is easily and often freaked by guys coming on too strong, YMMV
/r/seduction07/09/12 01:45 AM
1

YMMV, but remember, they were friends first. OP needs to focus on salvaging the friendship, not try to get back into her pants. I'm willing to bet that your experiences with guys coming on too strong were with guys you were dating, not guys who were your friend for awhile and then something happened. OP needs to just cut through the tension, and go back to being friends, and if things happen again in the future, take it slow. EDIT: and just as a point of curiosity; how many times has a guy backi…
/r/seduction07/09/12 01:34 AM
1

Pretty much all the same stuff, but with more of a focus of growing into himself. I always said that if I knew then what I know now, but so much of what I learned came from experience. I try not to be too heavy handed with the advice for kids (18 and under), as they still have so much self-discovery to traverse. At 18, you think you're grown, but once you hit twenty two or so, you realize you didn't know shit when you were 18. When you're around OP's age, you start to really think about your lif…
/r/seduction06/09/12 11:26 PM
2

There is a ton of published literature on PUA and seduction techniques, and even more online, including r/seduction, but what they all boil down to is confidence, humor, and sincerity. Once you learn how to carry yourself with confidence, how to use humor to deflate awkward situations, and how to express yourself in a sincere manner, everything else is a walk in the park. I suggest starting with a bit of self exploration; asking yourself what you want to accomplish and what your goals are. That …
/r/seduction06/09/12 10:36 PM
1

First, and foremost, how old are you?
/r/seduction06/09/12 09:51 PM
2

Seddit is an excellent source for learning and honing social skills. In fact, most PUA would suggest learning how to approach women by starting with learning how to just walk up and talk to random people, including guys, and holding a conversation. It teaches you to be confident in yourself and how to hold your head up high.
/r/seduction06/09/12 09:26 PM
2

Call and say "Look, I get the sense you're freaking out over the other night. Don't. You're a hot girl, and I'm a sexy beast. I was in the moment, and if I went further or faster than you're ready for, then I apologize, but before I ever bit your nipples, I was your friend, and you dreaming about giving me a hand-job shouldn't change that. Now, I'm more than willing to forgive you sending me home with blueballs, but I won't tolerate you turning down my burger invitations! Suck it up, get dressed…
/r/seduction06/09/12 07:13 PM
1

So, you want to avoid creating a reputation of being less than alpha? Like "I tend to need to warm-up to get into my Alpha-zone. How do I avoid building a reputation of being less than when I'm not in the zone?"
/r/seduction06/09/12 06:37 PM
2

What type of reputation do you think you need to protect?
/r/seduction06/09/12 06:31 PM
9

"Do you miss me?" "Yes, but I'm working on my aim." "Are you thinking about me?" "Parts of you."
/r/seduction06/09/12 03:25 AM
4

1) You fucked up when you asked her specifically about Friday. You should have asked if she had plans this weekend. This way, she could have said which days she was busy and which were free, and you could have planned for the free day. 2) After confirming a date for this weekend, you should have asked her to write down her number/contact info. and left it at that. 3) Going back and asking about "next weekend" makes you look like a child begging for seconds. I understand she's introverted, but it…
/r/seduction30/08/12 07:26 PM
-7

Here's what I do (when chatting with a girl at a bar): ME: "What are you drinking?" HER: "(names drink)" ME: "I've never had one of those before. They any good?" HER: "Yeah. I love them." ME: "Alright. I'm going to try one." (orders drink. take a sip). "Oh my God. That's pretty good/horrible (it really doesn't matter), but I'm more of a beer guy. You want to finish this one?"
/r/seduction30/08/12 01:43 AM
18

Most good humor is observation based. Just make comments on things she does, says, wears, etc. Sarcasm is always a plus, don't be afraid to tease and poke fun. Just be yourself.
/r/seduction29/08/12 11:37 PM
1

She's just not ready for sex. There's nothing wrong with that. The good news is that you get everything but. So be patient and hold on to her. Show her that you respect her feelings, and that you really enjoy being with her, and have fun outside the bedroom. Once she's sure you won't fuck and run, she'll be more than willing to spread for you. Just don't be a dick and try to pressure or rush her. Pun intended.
/r/seduction29/08/12 11:26 PM
2

What advice are you talking about?
/r/seduction29/08/12 06:37 PM
0

To the mother: "Excuse me, ma'am. Hello, my name is Richard, and I wanted to know if I could have your permission to ask your daughter for her name and number. I don't want to interrupt mother/daughter bonding time, so I promise to be brief."
/r/seduction27/08/12 08:17 PM
2

1.) What's a good way to ask her out? Another group hangout? Call her and say "We're going out this weekend to blow of some steam before school gets rolling. What time should I pick you up?" Don't make it a group. If you're into her, be into HER. 2.) Should I wait until after I get accepted into medical school to try and communicate with her? LOL This isn't even a question 3.) If she has given me signals, should I still try to make her chase? Making a girl work for it is a double edge sword. Ins…
/r/seduction27/08/12 06:17 PM
4

Next time, try to keep it short and concise: "Hey. It's Cameron. We met at the bar last night. I was the hot guy you kept trying to kiss. Call me back. 555-1212." It's funny. Its confident. Its direct.
/r/seduction24/08/12 11:48 PM
19

(I think I get it now... kinda.) Interacting with anyone, male or female, is pretty much a simple back and forth. I ask you something about you, you answer. I ask you something else. You answer again. Maybe you ask something about me. I answer. It's not all "So... what do you like to do for fun?", it's "Hey, that's a cute shirt. New or did you find it at the bottom of your closet and just remember you had it? Is that your favorite color? It really brings out your eyes. It looks like something yo…
/r/seduction23/08/12 03:10 AM
15

That's a good while. Any favorite subreddits?
/r/seduction23/08/12 02:57 AM
14

Hey, Adrian. My name's Chris. It's nice to meet you. How long have you been browsing reddit?
/r/seduction23/08/12 02:49 AM
20

On the lines of having 0 social skills please explain as if I'm 5. lol And if this shouldn't be asked here I will delete it, just tell me. Okay... here we go: (please participate as it'll all make since in the end) What's your real first name?
/r/seduction23/08/12 01:41 AM
0

Same way I'd approach any woman; just walk up, introduce myself, and spark a conversation about her and what her interest are. Shy means she's not going to come to you, she's not going to be that outgoing, and you are going to have to do a little digging to get to know her and for her to feel comfortable around you. Just because she's shy doesn't mean she doesn't have needs/desires the same as every other woman on the planet, it just means you're going to have to work harder to find out what tho…
/r/seduction10/08/12 03:37 AM
-7

Every WOMAN can be seduced. Your question is invalid.
/r/seduction10/08/12 03:26 AM
2

I very rarely approach women and have great success with just sitting back and allowing them to "come to me"; I've found that the rules don't really change that much regardless of who does the approaching. I deal with every woman I interact with as if we've known each other for years. I tease, touch, test boundary's, say outlandish things, get them to laugh and smile, then switch gears and make them put in a little effort to keep things moving. When they offer me their number or ask for mine, I …
/r/seduction11/07/12 03:25 PM
16

Need more details: how many dates before they lose interest? How physical do you get in that time frame? Who initiates most of the contact/interaction, you or them? And most importantly: what do you look like?
/r/seduction10/07/12 03:38 AM
0

If you're are just trying to get over your anxiety, then any public, crowded place will do, so the mall is okay. But if you're really trying to meet/pick-up women, the mall stops being fun when you're about 17.
/r/seduction12/06/12 05:47 AM
27

You do realize that at some point, it stops being "game" and actually becomes a "Relationship".
/r/seduction05/06/12 06:56 AM
2

It would take me a month to explain why that question doesn't even make sense.
/r/seduction04/06/12 04:22 AM
2

Tip: Works EVERY time (only for when you are in boss mode)???
/r/seduction02/06/12 05:57 PM
4

This is perhaps one of the most poorly written blogs I've ever witnessed. And we'll just glance over how it makes women look like insecure, devious, conniving, lecherous cunts.
/r/seduction31/05/12 06:52 AM
3

Stop thinking of it as game, and start looking at it as a tweek in your personality. Do it everyday, especially when you're NOT trying to hit on a woman. Do it enough and it becomes natural.
/r/seduction25/05/12 07:42 AM
3

Right. Never make demands on someone, especially financial, but if you did things right in dates 1-3, she should definitely want to take you out, or hell, buy you a cup of coffee at the least. When its fourth date time, and she's calling and asking what I have planned tonight or this weekend, I usually say something like "Well, I wanted to go out, but moneys a little tight right now, so..." Most of the time, a woman who's into you will step up without hesitation "Don't worry. I got it." If not, …
/r/seduction23/05/12 06:05 PM
27

I pay for the first and second, and usually offer to cook for her on the third. She pays for the forth, or there wont be one.
/r/seduction22/05/12 09:20 PM
11

As a former PUA, this was the funniest shit I've read today.
/r/seduction22/05/12 09:18 PM
14

No. Alpha is about taking control. If you leave it up to her, things may not go as you intend. "I'll pick you up at 7:30" is alpha.
/r/seduction22/05/12 05:02 AM
19

"Hey. How are you? What's your name?"
/r/seduction17/05/12 05:12 AM
7

Where's the blow off? Where's this fire you speak of? What other thing you said did she respond too? And most importantly, why haven't you asked her out/to meet up yet?? Crazy schedule notwithstanding, when a woman gives you her number, she's not looking for a pen pal. Stop texting. Call and have a real conversation. Ask her out on a date. "I know you work a lot and have a crazy schedule, but I want to take you somewhere fun and get to know you better. When is good for you?" If she replies with …
/r/seduction14/05/12 06:11 AM
2

Anytime she says something REMOTELY sexual: "There you go again talking nasty. Is that all you think about?? You're such a freak!!"
/r/seduction13/05/12 04:12 AM
16

Sigh Look, escalation is about initial interaction. Once you are officially dating, then you should be pushing forward every chance you get. One the first date, you should have already kissed her like it was the end of a bad chick flick. By the second date, you should have shown her how easy it is to get her bra off with one hand. By the third date, her panties should be hanging from your lampshade. If a woman goes out with you more than once, she's into you. If you puss out and wait for her to …
/r/seduction11/05/12 06:42 AM
11

You already kissed her on the second date, no? Why would she resist? Look, women like men who take charge and set the tone. If she had as much fun and is as into you as she says, then take the plunge. I'd rather have a girl rebuff my advances then sit around waiting for things to "Escalate". Grab her. Take her. Kiss her on the lips!
/r/seduction11/05/12 06:32 AM
5

When I see her, I'm going to go for a hug. FAIL!!! When you see her, grab her, and kiss her with all the passion you can muster, leaving her breathless. Then look her in the eyes and repeat these words: "I've been wanting to do that for three weeks!"
/r/seduction11/05/12 06:24 AM
1

Questions
/r/seduction11/05/12 01:55 AM
2

You can thank me later
/r/seduction10/05/12 08:38 AM
1

First: I hate talking on the phone. I can sit and have a five day long conversation with someone face to face, but when it comes to the phone its "Hey. How was your day? That's good. You coming over? Okay. See you soon." We can talk more when she get's here. Now, that's not to say I don't know HOW to talk on the phone; quite the opposite. The thing you have to remember about a conversation is, generally speaking, it's not a tennis match; it's a batting cage. The person asking the questions contr…
/r/seduction10/05/12 08:09 AM
2

I'd reply with "Tell your friend 'I love her, too. And she was amazing last night. I never would have guessed she was that flexible.'" As for finding out if she's just being polite, keep this in mind: Texting is not for conversations; its for flirting, sending quick information and correspondence, and the like. If you want to "talk" to her, call her.
/r/seduction10/05/12 07:56 AM
8

Listen; I'm a bit of a PUA, and I have had amazing success with women, and I absolutely HATE trying to meet/approach women at clubs. The environment is not conducive to a proper interaction: It's too loud to hold a proper conversation (unless you go someplace quiet), women usually travel in packs, so you have to deal with the "friend" who may be a major cockblocker, and even if the girl is into you, you may run across the typical "I can't leave my friends" defense. And if, on those rare occasion…
/r/seduction07/05/12 08:19 AM
13

How old are you?
/r/seduction07/05/12 07:57 AM
4

You're doing it wrong. Stop going to clubs TRYING to meet women. Go and try to have fun. And let things happen naturally. And dancing alone works wonders if you know how. Next time you are on the floor and doing your thing, try to catch a woman's eye and entice her to join you. If she declines, tease her. "What? Can't keep up??" or something similar. If this doesn't work, switch targets. But focus on having a good time. People are attracted to "fun" people. Women are rarely attracted to men who …
/r/seduction07/05/12 07:54 AM
1

Short answer: Yes. But beware of "too much, too soon."
/r/seduction07/05/12 07:15 AM
1

Los Angeles, maybe Atlanta
/r/seduction06/05/12 01:33 AM
1

Yes, but less expensive... maybe...
/r/seduction06/05/12 01:16 AM
1

What if the fitness training was from a licensed professional. The service I'm thinking about offering are for a 90day period and the training and nutrition package would be from a professional.
/r/seduction06/05/12 01:07 AM
7

You would reply to the one that talked to you.
/r/seduction30/04/12 03:38 PM
-3

NOPE!
/r/seduction30/04/12 08:12 AM
5

I will answer your question this way: If you where locked in a room with ten beautiful women, which would you talk to first?
/r/seduction30/04/12 08:00 AM
1

Okay, 6'0" 215lb black guy, who also lives in the south here: the first thing you need to accept is that every woman you find attractive IS NOT going to find you attractive, even if you are above average in the looks department. That goes for EVERY race and nationality. Second, as someone who also has a hard time meeting african-american women to date, typically because many of them often tell me I "look like I only like white girls", you need to broaden you're playing field. I know it's difficu…
/r/seduction30/04/12 07:35 AM
8

"Yeah my boobs are actual c cups" "Are you sure? I thought they looked more like B plus's. Take your bra off and let's figure this out." "Yeah bra straps get really uncomfortable" "Underwear sucks. You should totally take them off and get comfortable." "Yeah I like to do X in bed/something sexual" "You are so full of shit! You don't even know what that is!! Oh yeah! Prove it!!" "I'm a bit of a masochist sometimes" "That reminds me; I need to get a new ball gag..."
/r/seduction29/04/12 06:55 AM
1

"Arobics, huh? you pretty bendy?" or something equally as lame. I turn every back into an opportunity to ask her more questions. A really good one to ask would have been "What days do you take this class?" or "Do you take any other classes?"; that way you learn her schedule a bit and avoid asking her out again on days she has plans. Finally, "How about tomorrow? You any good at pool?"
/r/seduction25/04/12 06:54 PM
1

First of, in reference to the following: "But she could tell other people about it or act weird the next time you see her. I guess my fear is the potential social repercussions." FUCK EM!!! Who gives a shit if she starts acting weird, or if she records your approach and broadcasts that shit on youtube?!? "Dude! Did you seriously ask Cindy "Double D" Colpepper to the movies!?! What were you thinking??" "I was thinking that it was pretty pathetic to sit alone in my room, fapping to that picture of…
/r/seduction05/03/12 04:33 AM
1

Personally, I would have turned around and walked back to the car...
/r/seduction03/03/12 01:23 AM
1

I agree with everything but the last bit. The main reason I'm vague when I approach is because even if a girl is attractive, I'm not 100% sure we're gonna click, so by notstating the obvious, I'm giving us the opportunity to feel each other out and just talk without focusing on attraction. Its a lot easier to go up to a girl with a ”you seem interesting. Let me see where your head is at” attitude, than a ”I think your hot and I'm trying to get your number/hook-up with you” vibe. Besides that. IM…
/r/seduction02/03/12 06:54 PM
1

First, being Alpha isn't about what you say, its how you say it. Second, I may speak to a girl because I think she's attractive, but that goes without saying. I don't need to tell a girl I'm approachimg she's cut, just like I don't need to tell a server I'm hungry. I'm here talking to you when I don't have to. Your attractive. You know it. I know it. Let's talk about something else. Now, the whole ”are you having a good time?” Seems to be getting the brunt of the downvotes, and again, the words …
/r/seduction02/03/12 04:30 PM
0

Going up to a girl, introducing yourself, and asking if she's having a good time sounds lame to you? I would LOVE to watch you meet women...
/r/seduction02/03/12 04:18 AM
-4

Personally, I hate opening with a compliment. The first words a woman hears out of my mouth shouldn't inflate her ego. Now, during the course if the conversation, I may and probably will compliment her on something uncommon (hair, clothing, shoes, jewelry; very rarely anything physical), but I typically start with a simple ”hey. How are you. I'm (my name). You are? Repeat her name. Its nice to meet you. Are you having a good time, (or some other generic question).”
/r/seduction02/03/12 12:29 AM
2

"OMG! The guy I've been out with three times, made out with, and really like, is turned on by me. I better pull back the charm so he can control himself around me." Yeah, don't see that being the thought process...
/r/seduction27/02/12 10:02 PM
0

Or, is she going to appreciate the fact she turns you on, and enjoy teasing you with it?
/r/seduction27/02/12 09:45 PM
2

"Haha boy I ain't that easy! :-)" "Then stop making me so damn hard! ;-p"
/r/seduction27/02/12 09:19 PM
1

I've only come across this once; I think it's all in the approach. I usually pull the guy to the side, tell him I don't mean any disrespect, but want to know if they are a couple or dating. If he says "no", I ask if its cool with him to introduce me to her. If he says "yes", I offer my apologies for stopping him, and a "Good job" on getting a woman that hot. Most men appreciate this and on the one occasion the guy turned into a rage-aholic, the GF had overheard our exchange, stepped in, apologiz…
/r/seduction27/02/12 12:08 AM
5

It was gradual. Believe me, when I was in school, I was awkward and just as nervous about talking to women as you are now, but eventually, I realized that the absolute worst thing that would happen when asking a girl out is she says ”no”. She's not going to hit me or throw a drink in my face. Shes not going to laugh or talk about how pathetic I am. the worlds not going to end and WWIII isn't going to commence. Just a ”no”. That's the worse case scenario. So why not talk to her?
/r/seduction26/02/12 06:32 PM
6

I deal with girls with a mindset of ”I know you. I've known you for years. We are friends.” I doesn't matter if we just met, I'm still going to act with that familiarity of old, close friends. Once you're in this head space, dealing with women gets a lot easier. Touching, teasing, joking; it all becomes a lot easier. Don't think ”oh, I really like this girl and want to impress her.”, think ”this girls pretty cool and I'm about to have fun.”
/r/seduction26/02/12 05:51 PM
4

OIC; well, IME, women who spend time with many guy friends have issues and can't be trusted. Now, this is a gross generalization, and again, based solely on my personal experience, but there it is. Women with mostly male friends crave attention, often say things like "I don't trust other women" or "Women are jealous of me" or "other girls cause too much drama", etc.; when they are the drama queens, the ones that can't be trusted with another woman's man, and are jealous of other women. Many time…
/r/seduction26/02/12 05:08 PM
1

Whenever I see a hot/sexy girl I want to get to know with a guy, I always step to the guy and pull him to the side and ask what his relationship with her is. Unless is really obvious there a couple (i.e. holding hands, kissing, etc.) I never assume she's "with" him. Most men/women appreciate this because it shows respect.
/r/seduction26/02/12 04:39 PM
3

I met her (at a mall or something) and got her number. When I talked to her on the phone, there was a lot of flirting and innuendos flying. The sexual tension was already pretty solid before we even got to our first date. I remember mentioning her full lips many times, as well as teasing her about them and the way she (probably) kissed. It worked because A) it was unexpected, B) it was something we talked abut at length, so I knew she wasn't opposed to kissing me, and C) it really broke the tens…
/r/seduction26/02/12 04:02 PM
3

Flirting can be anything from eye contact to overt sexual innuendos. It can be they way you say "hello" or just the way you look at someone. The trick is to find the flirt in you. Do what feels comfortable and natural. Don't try to embody James Bond. You're obviously not a ladies man, so don't try to be Mr. Smooth, just be yourself. Think about what you're interested in, what you know a lot about, and talk to a woman as if you're talking about that topic. Part of flirting is the "I know somethin…
/r/seduction26/02/12 06:01 AM
5

So,without knowing any details of your situation or life, I'm going to give you some pretty generic advice: Stop trying so hard! See, the biggest problem most "young" men have with dealing with women is they're trying so hard not to screw up, they screw up. Women are not unicorns or wood nymphs, their girls! They screw up just as much as men do, are just as insecure, if not more, and don't want to look like an ass anymore than you do. So guess what, when you look like an ass (not a major ass, mi…
/r/seduction26/02/12 05:30 AM
6

Women are subtle, men are overt.
/r/seduction22/02/12 11:53 PM
13

Sex is like everything else in the world: the more you do it, the better you'll get at it. Unfortunately, just because you're a great chef, doesn't mean everyone's going to love your food. When I was 17 and coming into my own sexually, my older sister came out as a lesbian and I was fortunate enough to hang out with her and meet many of her bi-sexual friends. I ended up dating a few of them and this is where I learned much of what I know about pleasing women.... from other women. It would take m…
/r/seduction17/12/11 04:27 PM
21

Im sorry to be the one to tell you this, buddy, but it sounds like you suck in the sack. If a girl likes the sex, then guess what, she'll come back for seconds. Even if theres little to no emotional connection; if the sex is awesome, she'll do it again. According to you, your dominant and agressive, but are you passionate and attentive. Do you try to make sure she's enjoying every aspect of it, or just trying to give her a good pounding? Immediately after (im talking in the first 5-10mins after …
/r/seduction17/12/11 08:06 AM
9

My first bit of advice would be something along the lines of not getting involved with a girl who was a BF, and if you do, don't make mountains out of molehills. There's something very important you're missing in this equation: SHE HAS A BF AND SHE'S MAKING OUT WITH YOU! Now, our male egos want us to believe that we are special and women desire us so much that a little thing like a relationship wont stop them from having a taste; but the truth is, if she's macking you while with him, what makes …
/r/seduction21/04/11 05:16 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter