Getting the first date from cold approach is difficult enough but once you start to get the first dates with consistency there are certain things you need to do in order to get second dates consistently. Here are a few steps that I use to do so and so you can.

Number One -Leading Her Throughout The Date Women are attracted to men who are leaders. They want and need men who are leaders. If you look at my post history I have a post titled “Planning Dates Lead To Sex” if you haven’t read it go do so.

As I said in that post you have to have a plan before you go on a date with a woman. Leading her from venue to venue will show her that will show her that you are decisive and that you aren’t looking for her to lead or seek her approval, that is very attractive to women.

Example of leading her would be you saying

“Let’s go to this cool place down the street, the drinks and decor is amazing.” Grab her by the hand or go arm and arm and lead her to the venue”

Number Two - Physical EscalationThis is key. Of course you want to CALIBRATE when physically escalating however you still must go for it. If a women is giving you resistance BACK OFF then TRY AGAIN LATER as she just may not be comfortable at that moment when you escalate. Physically escalation keeps you out of the friend zone and gets a woman use to your touch which is necessary when it comes to seducing her.

Example of physical escalation

I do this on every first date, I kiss the girl on the cheek, “Nice to see you again then kiss her on both cheeks.” Most women are fine with this and it conditions her to your touch.

Number Three - Building Comfort She is on the date with you so she obviously is has some interested. Building comfort allows you to get to know her and her to get to know you. She gets the opportunity know the random guy whom she gave her number to. Most women need comfort in order to sleep with a guy.

Attraction is important but it comes and goes as women meet other guys that she is attracted to all the time. A guy that can build comfort aka a connection with her is rare. REMEMBER THIS, women don’t value sex they value connection.

The reason being is that most women can get sex whenever they want but most women very rarely have a connection with a man. When you are building comfort it should be 80/20 or 90/10 which means 80 percent of the time you should be talking about her and 20 percent of the time you should talking about yourself or 90 percent of the time you should be talking about her and 10 percent of the time about her. People’s favorite subject is themselves so when you talk about them and their interest you become interested and by default they want to get to know about you.

Example of building comfort

You: I can see why you are a school teacher now (brining up what she told you the night you met her)

Her: Why do you say that?

You: You have a very patient and understanding way about yourself.

Her: Oh really, thank you.

You: You’re welcome, so did you want to be a teacher because it was your passion or something you settled on?

Her: It’s my passion blah blah blah

Number Four -Breaking Rapport Another mistake guys make when they are on the date with a woman they find attractive is AGREE WITH EVERYTHING SHE SAYS even if they don’t agree with her thinking that will get them laid. Having your own opinions about something is attractive to women and when you don’t agree with everything she says it shows her that you have a backbone. Now don’t be an idiot and disagree with everything she says just to do it as it will be seen as a technique.

If you generally don’t agree with what she says don’t. Also don’t make the mistake of arguing with her, say your peace and leave it at that. When you disagree with her it will naturally break rapport with her but also attract her.

Another way to break rapport with a woman is to tease her. When you tease a woman it takes her off her pedstal and it’s different because most men would never tease a woman they are attracted to in fear of upsetting her.

When you tease her it shows that you aren’t afraid of losing her and that you are confident. Remember, when you tease a woman it should come from a playful place not a place of putting her down, that is weak and comes from a place of insecurity.

Example of Breaking Rapport

Her: I love Rihanna, I think her music is amazing

You: I hate Rihanna, her music sucks. This date is over LOL (You would say the date is over playfully)

Her: Are you serious?

You: Yes, to me all of her music sounds the same and repetitive.

Number Five - Pass Shit Test Remember this, no matter where you are with a woman in your relationship women will ALWAYS and I mean ALWAYS test you. It could be a woman who has been your girlfriend for years, or a woman who will become your wife if you decided to get married a woman will always test you.

Women who you have relationships with won’t test you as hard and as frequent but they will test you rest assure. When I say test all that means is the woman is testing your boundaries to see if they guy she initially met is the real deal or was it all smoke and mirrors and to see if you are a push over.

When you are first dating a woman she is do this a lot, not because she is a terrible person but because she has other options and is looking for the most alpha guy so she is going to test to weed out the fakes from the real deal.

A lot of the time women don’t even know they are testing you, they do it on an unconscious level but some women know what they are doing and you better be prepared or she will lost interest QUICK!

Example Of Passing Shit Test

Her: So is this will you take all your girls?

You: Yep, it sure is. You are the 9,989 girl that I have taken here.

Her: LOL you are a dick.

You: The biggest but you like it. Admit it.

Number Six -Seeding Future Dates You should do this sporadically throughout the date. 99 percent of guys never do this and if they do the timing is wrong i.e. before the first 4 five steps mentioned above and they come off as needy.

You can do this naturally if she mentions something that she likes that you may be interested in also. Seeding is very powerful because it does two things, it gets her thinking about you two hanging out again and it’s easy to use as a callback on a follow up text to ask her out after the first date.

Example Of Seeding Future Dates

You: I can tell you are an artsy person.

Her: I love art so much. I actually went to art school and I paint from time to time.

You: Very cool. We should check out the ArtWalk sometime, it’s really cool. You will be in art heaven.

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Wishing you much success with women and dating.