Getting a second date??

rambopr · 2015-06-02T00:48:34+00:00

What kind of asshole did u ask that told you it was too late and to kill yourself? Dont bother talking to them again.

Just keep trying. I know its easier said than done, but dont be needy. If it's meant to be the girl will like you for who you are. Faking your way into a relationship is setting it up for failure.

If a girl doesnt like YOU then fuck it, find another one. Theres literally millions of women out there that are your age and single. Odds are you're not going to meet the right one right out of the gate.

4 dates in a month isnt even a bad number. Hopefully you're meeting atleast like 3 new girls every week. Half of them might not want a date, and half of those might already know there's no future and wont stick around for date #2.

Just keep putting yourself out there, and if you get any hateful remarks for just approaching a woman in a tasteful manner, then they are just foul people and you're better off having found that out immediately, rather than after having invested your time and money into them.

Thefocker · 2015-06-02T02:03:57+00:00

The ass that told you to off yourself is not much of a mentor, let alone worth looking up to or taking advice from. One of the first things you need to do is surround yourself with positive and successful people. Attitude is everything. It's never too late to get whatever you want in life, you just have to decide what that is. Are you out to cut notches, or find a relationship?

Where do you think the failing point of your dates is? How's the conversation? What kind of activities are you doing? Are your dates always coming from an online source, or are you approaching? The first date changes a bit depending on how you've gotten it, so this is important.

Authority8 · 2015-06-02T05:01:51+00:00

Never talk to those crazies that said to kill yourself ever again.

Harmonic_Minor_Shred · 2015-06-02T06:00:22+00:00

Lol how about you bang em on the first date. Then they'll wanna see you again

jayhovaasmywitness · 2015-06-02T07:15:17+00:00

Please don't kill urself because some lowlife loser said too. It's a shame they let people breed and make subhumans like that. It's never too late, and the best way to get a second date is just to ask again.

chiliehead · 2015-06-02T21:17:54+00:00

First of all, you´re not that bad of. You have experience with women, just a dry spell.

I never had girlfriend or relationship

You don´t need women to be happy. You´re happy and go out and share that happiness with some qualoty women. Don´t feel bad about being single just because society tells you to get into one.

What can I do to not come off as horny and desperate

Is horny really that bad? Expressing your sexuality shamelessly is a good thing. Like the triangle gaze. If you lokk at her lips it is absolutely clear that you´re into her. If you have escalated properly, then it´s a turn on for women.

Desperate, well, don´t be. Transform your despair into sexual energy. That´s why /r/nofap has these "superpowers". If you don´t masturbate for a couple of days you just don´t care if she sees that you look at her, you just have to. You commit 110% to getting women.

I feel good when I get response from online apps, however, i feel equally bad that i dont get much response and constant rejection.

First, online dating is a buyer´s market. The buyer´s are women. It shifts to a men´s market with 30+ people, as there are more great single men than women in this demographic. And 30 isn´t old. Take RSD Tyler for example, he´s older than you and is just doing fine.

Second, online dating is superficial. You are more or less only judged by your looks, tough look winning anyone over with charisma via pictures. Try get some good pics, avoid Tinder mistakes. There´s even a subreddit for this.

Third, online dating is an almost no feedback type of dating. You get rejected, because: She´s not attracted to you, you look good but are not her type, she thinks you´re out of her league, she is just doing it for fun and validation and so on. Don´t beat yourself up about it.

Finally, it´s a number´s game. Message (almost) any woman. Keep your texts short. Just one or to sentences which are not copy/paste, include one detail of her profile. The rest is purely number´s game.

Two people I thought would advise me better told me I am loser and I should kill myself. Such thought had never crossed my mind before but ever since they mentioned i am feeling incredibly bad about myself.

Dude, wtf? Like really, who are those guys? Did you meet them on r/foreveralone? You never thought bad about yourself, now those two idiots talk crap and you question yourself? No man, don´t. Improve your Inner Game, you´re fine.

One last suggestion. If you feel that the first date wasn´t going well (and hey, you get dates, that´s great!) just go high risk and caveman her. Go in for the kiss and more without any hesitation, you got nothing left to lose. Even a 1% chance of success is better than a 0% chance for a second date.

xxHazzardousxx · 2015-06-02T02:16:45+00:00

I'm not sure what your finances are like, or the legality of it in your area, but I've always found that for a couple bucks a nice lady lets me populate her vagina/pooper/mouth for an hour and then I leave and possibly never see her again. Having actually had sex in the recentish time helps get the stink of desperation off you.

Escorts of course, not prostitutes. It's not quite paying for sex, but morally it's pretty ambiguous.

Title	Getting a second date??
Author	yeyechi98
Upvotes	20
Comments	9
Date	June 2, 2015 12:36 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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