Getting a second date

yourturntopeg · 2019-07-09T16:18:06+00:00

I always had a "rule of three" when it came to these situations. After a total of three attempts (call, text, snap, etc) in any combination, if I haven't heard from her, I stop. Sometimes I deleted their number just to make sure I didn't keep bothering her. Granted, you can feel each situation out as you go but I wouldn't go much further in trying.

l-Orion-l · 2019-07-09T15:26:11+00:00

I'm no romeo folks, but I know what love is. It's an over the chinos rub and tug during your first AA meeting. And if I was in your shoes I would fly deep mountain mouth first just to get her back. Are we gonna let that foxy thing run willy nilly out of this boys life? Are we gonna help this youngster take that sweet ass to pound town?

cowvin26 · 2019-07-09T16:23:38+00:00

Never leave the ball in the other person's court. I would say that was the only thing you did wrong. Instead of telling her when you were free, you should have suggested a date and time. You texted only for logistics only, which is good. The snapchat was fine too. Go ahead and text her again along the lines of "I'm doing this thing X at such-and-such a time and place, would you like to come along?" If she declines, then forget her and go do that thing. Good hunting.

indian_booty · 2019-07-09T17:58:55+00:00

Hey OP, could you break down the date? How did you handle awkward pauses? How did you keep the convo flowing and interesting?

What did you guys talk about for 3 odd hours you were together?

alonzoftw · 2019-07-09T19:06:52+00:00

My comment is based on a relatively great date, mistakes may have been made but overall you guys had a great time. The one big problem I notice is you made yourself too available and she picked up on that. Next time just say ‘I had a great time, have a good night.’ That’s it. Nothing more. Go to sleep. If you can’t sleep turn your phone off. Don’t say you’d like to see her again. She knows you like her, she knows that more likely than not you want to do everything to her including.......... seeing her again! It comes off needy especially if she’s used to dating which most women are. The hard fact is a woman rarely drops a man because he has options because everyone wants what they can’t have or have easily - a man with no options signifies lack of game or experience in all dating/sexual areas. I would use a rule of 2. Wait 4-5 days to ask her out on another date. No response? Wait a whole week and try again. After that delete her number and most importantly learn from this. Oh and to overcome waiting for a response, you need to up your interactions with multiple women. A man of abundance doesn’t have to wait around for one woman. I have two words for you: Cold Approach. Apps are cool and all but try the real deal. It’s scary as fuck and you will get shot down.... a lot, however, that first girl you get makes it a bit easier and much more rewarding!

eggy0ked · 2019-07-09T20:55:59+00:00

If she was interested she would've gotten back to you. If she was interested she wouldn't have forgotten to get back to you. I say move on to the next one and don't expect anything from this girl.

sammyjeaux · 2019-07-10T01:27:32+00:00

Move on. This one was ruined when you texted the night of the first date to set up another date.

After a date you should have crap to do in your own life. Seriously, the best thing you have to do after getting off a date is text the girl you were just with? No, you just spent hours of your time socializing with a person you barely know.

You should be focusing on your own life or another woman for at least the next few days.

basicallythrowaway__ · 2019-07-11T02:42:50+00:00

Something could’ve came up in her life that’s taken her attention— I’d wait a few days and then maybe shoot her another text and if no reply from there it’s probably not going anywhere Also, as a woman, I love a little chase. She could be underwhelmed by how eager you are to see her again (with mentioning when you’re free in that text) and became a little ehhhh about it Best of luck though!!

Title	Getting a second date
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Date	July 9, 2019 3:12 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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