Quick background, ok looking guy, ive had sex before a couple of times with different women(usually within the same period of time). But for the last year i went throu a drought. No sexual and minimal romatic interactions due to me fully investing my focus in my studies/career. But then primal instincts kicked in a few week ago and i started engaging with girls again.
The first engagement was really hard, i messaged an old acquaintance on snapchat and felt an immense pressure not to fuck up with each exchange. I was also checking my phone way to often for her responses. And heres the weird thing after that first exchange i decided to start some more interactions. I started flirting with some co-workers wich was well received, i even had 2 successful cold approaches on one night. It all just kept getting easier as my confidence started growing. The main difference i noticed about myself from the first interaction to the lastest (which was a cold approach onw home from downtown, where she basically did all the work. I just introduced myself ) was my mentality. I went from a: “I must do everything right so she’ll like me” - mentality To a : “whatever happens, happens. I got back-ups” - mentality.

TDLR: Get the ball rolling, do the first approach! Most likely it will suck, but don’t stop. Approach more and i promise it gets way easier. Having multiple convos going at the same time might actually benefit you and yeild results.