Ghosted after fun 4th date

Esmond_Mutt2323 · 2021-10-27T21:18:52+00:00

I wouldn’t say you’re ghosted yet, but I’ve had first dates that went great, only for the woman to just disappear. It is extremely puzzling. 4th date, that’s strange for sure. All you can do is wait, don’t contact again.

oakdog57214 · 2021-10-28T13:42:03+00:00

"She texted me ...Thursday night, checked in with her on Sunday, and no response up to now." So, Friday, Saturday - you text nothing, then mo-th you text nothing. Hmmm, it kind of you ghosted her. She might think now same like you, that you've lost interest.

LlamaTony · 2021-10-27T22:18:36+00:00

Happened to me after a first date which seemed to go awesome. Talking for three hours, heavy flirting and touching. Then we were making out big time in the park. I was kissing her neck, she was moaning. I saw that look in her eyes that day and especially as we hooked up.

Exchanged a text the next day. Asked her out for a second date a day after. Then she just disappeared. I do know that her work schedule is awful; night shifts and only free Saturday’s and Sunday’s. But still…can’t even just say that over a text instead of ghosting?

Sucks. But trying to use it as motivation. I use to be scared of rejection and thus never asked anyone out. I’ve asked three out in the past couple of months and each eventually ended with rejection after good dates. You bet your ass I got upset and teary and moped in bed for a few hours to a day after. But I won’t show it to them or anyone else that Im bothered.

I guess with girls, what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger… and smarter.

oakdog57214 · 2021-10-27T23:54:20+00:00

She probably regretted hooking up and that’s what has sparked the uncertainty on her part. People under estimate what hormones are involved and it messes with your psyche.

rustoof · 2021-10-28T03:35:05+00:00

My opinion on ghosting after positive interactions is that generally there is another guy involved and they are ashamed to admit it, but can't say there's no chemistry.

Like, if she got back together with her abusive ex and their toxic dynamic has a hold on her greater than even a very good first couple dates. Or she's been on a couple dates with a guy who has way more money than you and she makes a business decision. I think this makes up most of these kind of surprise ghosting. From a guys point of view it makes little sense, but imagine if you had 5 or 6 people all wanting to buy you shit, show you a good time and give you head......how can you feel good about telling one of them that they're good, just not good enough?

Puzzleheaded_Tea_17 · 2021-10-28T01:04:30+00:00

Give her a little nudge again. Ask her if she got your earlier message.

Title	Ghosted after fun 4th date
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Upvotes	8
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Date	October 27, 2021 8:39 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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