I met a girl last fall on a trip and we exchanged messages off and on. I happened to move for work and ended up moving by her hometown. As we talked off and on, she mentioned I should go with her and her family to their vacation spot not too far from where she lived. I agreed but decided I was going to take some time to visit her before I went. As we talked, she consistently noted it was impossible to have a S/O with her job and how nobody ever came to see her. She was thrilled when I told her I was going to head down to see her. Before I left, I happened to hear she was in a relationship but it wasn’t good the day before I left to see her. I ended up taking her out while I was there. She told me in the middle of the night that she often struggled to let people go when she needed to and it is an issue she has had growing up. The day I left, she noted it was the most fun she had since she moved. She also told me she figured out it was a date and it was the best date she had been on. She seemed pretty emotional when I left.

I didn’t talk to her for about a month after I left since I wanted to give her space and let her process everything. I happened to run into her at another event with some friends a few weeks after. I decided to remain cordial when I first saw her but shortly after she came back over and we hung out for hours that night. The next evening, her and I sat really, really close and had deep eye contact and a deep conversation for about 45 minutes before some of our friends came over. She made a comment to my friend that she “felt like she was cheating on her boyfriend” while hanging out with me but then she proceeded to hangout with me the rest of that night as well.

I heard the comment was made the next morning and I pretty much left it at that before I left town and I decided I wasn’t going to reach out again until she figured it out. I let it ride for another two weeks until she called me twice one afternoon and I didn’t answer. I called her back that night and she wanted to talk for hours again.

I’ve talked to others and learned that since she has moved she has struggled with being away and her S/O refused to move since he was going to leave his friends. I feel like she is monkey branching her way into a new relationship but refuses to let go. I’m not sure how to go about it and I debated on talking to a therapist about it.