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[–]tksjfjfdk294 14 points15 points16 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Stop seeing her. "Listen, it sounds like you busy so why don't you figure out your schedule and let me know when you're free. " but only invite her to your place. I'd put zero effort into this chick and make her come to you.
[–]SpinPlates 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wouldn't even do that. OP just stop talking to her. She's not yours anymore. Sounds like she never was.
[–]throwingthrowaway12 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Do you recommend I just break up with her
[–]tksjfjfdk294 4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She ain't into you. You don't have to do anything. She's putting in zero effort. Just start dating other women. If you are in a relationship with her then definitely end it. You deserve someone who is as into you as you are into them.
[–]sorry_mommy 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just do what the other commenter said. You don't have to go through the whole drama of "breaking up" with her, just tell her, look, I'm not getting that vibe from your, if you're still into me I'll be here but I'm not gonna sit around waiting for you.
[–]VillageMed 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Let her go brush, she flaking and she's wasting your time. Ghost her too and don't say shit.
[–]Claw-D-Uh 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Don’t ghost her that’s cowardly. Just be honest. Tell her if she isn’t going to make an effort to put you into her life. Then she obviously doesn’t care and you deserve someone who will.
[–]VillageMed 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
That’s some beta move right there . From what I’ve read it’s clear OP has been the one putting in all the effort . Her actions already prove that she doesn’t care .
Females only do this when they think you care too much about them , giving them this farce confidence to treat you like shit .
Ghosting her will show her that she is indeed disposable , and you can move on with your life without her dumbass .
[–]Claw-D-Uh 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
That would hold true if maybe OP had been on a date or two with a girl she is flaking. There is nothing beta about being honest. It’s actually one of the key things Mark Manson mentions in his book models.
He’s in a relationship. If you’re not man enough to properly end a relationship or tell them what you honestly need or want. I don’t think you’re mature enough to be in one to begin with.
Also for context I am female. Females won’t play games and shit like that when you’re in a relationship unless they don’t actually care about you and are just using you. Not “you care too much about her”. That doesn’t hold true if it’s an actual relationship with mutual investment.
[–]VillageMed 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Now that you put it that way , it makes sense . But as you yourself have said ; females won’t act this way “unless they don’t actually care about you and are just using you. “
She clearly doesn’t care or respect OP . But I guess it’s not a bad thing for OP to be the adult and end things right .
[–]Claw-D-Uh 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bingo!
Sucks but you gotta be the adult sometimes. People respect that though. Would you want to be known as “the guy who just stopped taking to his girlfriend”? Girls talk and actions like that get spread around. Honestly is mostly always the best policy.
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