Going out alone.....

VDKay · 2018-02-24T16:35:57+00:00

I'd go out, not with the intend to meet girls, but to meet other people in general. Of course, going out to meet girls in particular is lucrative in itself, but my experience tells me that when I went out with the intent to flirt, most girls could tell I was a lone creep. A more healthy mindset is to go out and socialize in general. In fact, you essentially become more attractive the more social you are. So, I'd approach mixed groups with the intent to meet everyone, both men and women because, hey, honestly, going out alone sucks and you'd want to build at least some social group, so why not go out and "see what kind of people this town has"?. Girls will of course come either from these mixed groups, friends of friends, or when you eventually get a group of male friends and go out together.

My personal experience is that the mental block I had to surpass to go out for "game" when alone was far greater than going out to just socialize. I'd just do things that I am comfortable with. For example, if I usually hang around in bars, I'd avoid clubs for example, and if I was into dancing, I'd go to venues that'd play the music I like .

HugoWull · 2018-02-24T15:44:46+00:00

Do you have hobbies? Physical activities?

Look on Meetup or other places, go consistently for 2 or 3 weeks and you'll start to get to know people.

Do you bike, swim, lift, run, ski, something? Try and find a group that does that as well in your city or nearby.

Going out to bars alone usually doesn't paint a good picture.

el_gringosito · 2018-02-24T21:10:32+00:00

I’m in the same boat and i I had unintended success a few weeks back. Went to a local microbrew not a bar so the atmosphere is more friendly i think. All the tables were full but i sat at the bar and scooted my chair over to one side so that the easiest place to order a drink was next to me. It worked, i made small talk with people as they got drinks eventually one chick saw that i was alone but not a loser so she invited me to her friends table to play board games and we had a good time. Point is, when you do go out put yourself in a situation to be noticed/unavoidable but with subtlety. Meetups are good too I’ve started going to a run club that meets at a bar afterwards and the environment is friendly because everyone has the runners high. If you’re religious or have that background i would also recommend going to a large local churches single meetings, church people can be goofy but usually the larger churches have lots of singles that are looking for friends, and more religious people drink than you think so with a bit of honesty you can find a happy hour buddy plus lots of desperate single women.

mynameisfrankfurter · 2018-02-25T00:33:26+00:00

I travel a lot, so I am usually hitting up social spots such as clubs and bars alone. NO Big Deal! Dude, half the people are tipsy and having a good time. Look at it as if you came with a wing and split up - go do your thing. Talk to both guys and girls. Other guys are very receptive and usually very cool and interesting - So make friends during the night. Any one asks why you are alone, don't feel shy or shameful- Just tell them you came to meet new people. They want to see your CV or resume- fuck them.

RyansVibes · 2018-02-24T17:59:54+00:00

Me and my buddies hit up the clubs to get girls and most of the time we split up and do our own thing.

If you go to the club, don’t just stand there nodding your head and fist pumping here and there. Get a strong buzz, hit the dance floor, feel the beat, get your dance moves on, and don’t just look like you’re having a good time, but actually have a good time!

Either when I’m dancing alone or with my buddies, girls will come over every time. When they do, make eye contact, show some good body language, and talk to her. I usually drop lines like “damn, I like how you dance!” Or something else that’s engaging and approach her if she responds by smiling or showing some open body language. Time then takes course and we’re usually grinding and hooking up on the dancefloor after that.

A lot of guys will give you looks sometimes for just enjoying yourself dancing, but 100% of the time those are the same guys who are just standing there and not getting anywhere with anyone.

All in all, just have fun man! Confidence is the key to swooping the ladies in.

Note* this is for usually crowded clubs, not open ones.

TruthSFree · 2018-02-25T12:31:41+00:00

https://www.truthrelationshipmanagement.com/new-blog/2017/12/17/how-to-game-by-yourself-or-you-walk-alone-you-walk-alone?rq=alone I hope this helps.

volcanolairbadguy · 2018-02-26T06:21:56+00:00

TS< go out all the time be it to do errands, grocery, gym shopping, etc. and talk to people. Dudes = friends/wings/gym partner Babes = fwb/fuck buddy/date/pulls/gf/wife Its open ended. If I want to travel, you tell friends and fam but, you have the stones to go with or without people. Furthermore, be the sort of bloke that just is social, makes friends everywhere, pulls people into his life, gets laid, and repeats the process.

Title	Going out alone.....
Author	lasercond
Upvotes	16
Comments	7
Date	February 24, 2018 2:43 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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