First time posting on seddit and need some seduction tips to escalate.I'm an average guy i don't have AA i have no issues with rejection in the past 2months i've K Closed twice but haven't had sex in 4 months. Had a HB7 sleep over twice. first time i really just chalked that up to her not wanting to be a slut the second time she was on her period but anyways .....

So i meet this HB9 thru a mutual friend we been texting back and forth for the past two weeks. I'm not the best texter if i haven't had a face to face conversation but after I meet its like night and day the convo's pretty much flow very good. Convo's have been short & simple we've both been busy me in/out of town her with work but we eventually find a quick opening and met up for some dinner. Dinner goes well we are joking around she give's me some IOI i give her some but I couldn't really physically escalate cuz of the way we were seated. She has to work in the morning so we get the check i walk her to the car then a hug and she text me when she get's home. One thing i forget to mention is that HB9 has a BF and is in a long distance relationship.

I believe in a way this stopped me from escalating quicker then i normally would. Since she only really brought him up once since we started talking and it was just causally mentioning she was going to visit him this past week but other than that nothing about him. My rule is I don't feel the need to bring him up. My thoughts are that if she willing to not talk about him and go out with me i'm obviously offering her something he isn't. The mutual friends also told me that she's open to meeting new people.

Should i approach physical escalation any differently? Can she be trying to put me in the friend-zone or to have around when she's bored? How do i test this? I don't want to overthink this because thats were i tend to mess up but i just don't fathom that i can approach her as if she didn't have a BF but thats seems like the logical move. I think in this instance my focus should be on trying to find indicators on whats missing in their relationship and be the one that fills the gap. My favorite sayin fits in this situation perfectly "A shoulder to cry on is a dick to ride on"

Maybe i answered my own question maybe i didn't but i would like advice from anybody that's been in these types of situations and how i can physically escalate. We already have plans to meet again sometime this week and its definitely a place were escalation will be easier(strip club).